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How do I stop being creepy to women?
How do I stop being creepy to women?Go out and learn to socialize. Find some "natural" guys and emulate them.
It's okay to be creepy in the beginning. You will grow out of it with more experience.
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i'm a scientist and ...
i'm a scientist and ...Nice story, thanks for sharing. Don't worry, you're in a good place for only 25. You got plenty of time to make those needed adjustments to your career and lifestyle. Don't try to do everything at once. Spend a few years getting your career in order. Spend a few years doing pickup. Spend a few years on your health and fitness. And spend a few years on spirituality and awakening. Then 10 years from now it will all come together in a beautiful way for you.
Yes, developing financial independence is a huge foundational step that enables everything else. So give yourself a few years to work on that. Be patient. It will be worth the investment.
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The Julian and Owen solution to social conditioning is just screaming?
The Julian and Owen solution to social conditioning is just screaming?I solved all my social anxiety through inner game, going out for 3 years, and tons of awakenings.
If you develop proper inner game and spirituality then social anxiety just stops being a thing.
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Is it a coincidence that many geniuses are good at mathematics
Is it a coincidence that many geniuses are good at mathematicsScientific genius is usually quite narrow. Especially these days.
Newton was a genius. Tesla was a genius. Einstein was a genius. Freeman Dyson was a genius. For humans these guys were pretty good.
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Is it a coincidence that many geniuses are good at mathematics
Is it a coincidence that many geniuses are good at mathematicsI was never good at math.
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Question for MEN: Is being with a woman worth the sacrifice in freedom.
Question for MEN: Is being with a woman worth the sacrifice in freedom.I would not try to "max it out", I would just enjoy the relationship as normal folk do.
If you are looking for the deepest relationship possible, see my video: How To Practice Love. You would do what's in that video.
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My Girlfriend Doesn't Believe in Evolution
My Girlfriend Doesn't Believe in EvolutionYou probably shouldn't be dating stage Blue girls. You're not gonna fix that level of indoctrination.
The real solution is to screen out stage Blue girls before you even sleep with them.
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New Girlfriend With Severe Depression
New Girlfriend With Severe DepressionI've been in that exact situation before.
It's gonna be really hard to make that work.
Usually serious depression, anxiety, and low self esteem are a sign of some deeper trauma which she is avoiding/denying. Often it could be sexual abuse, rape, death of mother or father, etc. Serious stuff. This tends to go hand in hand with alcohol and substance abuse. So watch out.
Such women get very needy, very clingy, very emotional, and they are almost impossible to help because they perceive suggestions to get help as an attack on their identity. As in, "Why don't you love me for who I am?!!!" A needy person is so desperate for love they cannot handle truth. The slightest suggestions for self-improvement trigger them. This creates a self-fulfilling prophecy effect where their fear of being abandoned makes them so clingy that no healthy relationship is possible, thereby leading to abandonment, reinforcing the idea in their mind that they are unlovable. No serious communication is possible because such people cannot handle truthful communication. They want fantasy and sweet lies.
Such people need deep therapeutic help, enormous self-help work, and lots of spiritual development. Unfortunately they tend to refuse any such thing -- making their relationship impossible.
And finally when you try to end the relationship, there will be huge waterworks and the threat of suicide.
Try to see what you can do. Try introducing her to some basic self-help and self-esteem work. But also understand that this person has deep inner wounds which you probably cannot fix. Such wounds usually take 10-20 years to resolve, and that's IF the person is interested in working on herself.
Try to figure out what the root cause of her depression / anxiety is. Usually it's a traumatic childhood or teenage event. She is likely to hide such an event from you because she's scared that if you find out you will leave her. Such women often lie a lot to themselves and therefore will lie to you. It's part of her coping strategy to avoid deep truth or deep self-reflection.
In practice such women can only be in highly dysfunctional relationships until they do some serious self-help work.
If she has serious low self-esteem, chances are high she's got a history of abusive relationships. Try to dig into her history to get a sense of what you're dealing with. It could be some dark stuff.
Don't blame yourself. Some women are just like this and cannot be helped until they seek help for themselves.
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Leo, are you willing to Love and have a girlfriend with mental disorders?
Leo, are you willing to Love and have a girlfriend with mental disorders?I apologize for not being more sensitive to that.
I don't want people who follow me to get the idea that women only have sexual value.
My original reply was flippant. I'll be more careful in the future on such issues. I don't want to feed the MGTOW or Redpill attitudes about dating/women which are popular online nowadays.
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Leo, are you willing to Love and have a girlfriend with mental disorders?
Leo, are you willing to Love and have a girlfriend with mental disorders?That's not what was implied.
Don't confuse who one would have a baby with vs being around females.
Love does not mean that you will have a baby with any random person. Sexual preferences are a highly personal thing. That's all my message was pointing out. It's okay if your sexual preferences are very specific.
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Wrong Insight: 'Nothing exists outside of MY mind' - Leo's Greatest Pitfall
Wrong Insight: 'Nothing exists outside of MY mind' - Leo's Greatest PitfallI never made this assumption. Just like all humans I started my spiritual work with the exact opposite assumption.
It took me 100s of profound and painful awakenings to finally rid myself of the assumption that stuff exists outside my mind.
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You are absolutely wrong.
GOD IS ABSOLUTE SOLIPSISM.
You are not AWAKE and you don't understand what AWAKENING really entails.
There cannot be anything outside your own MIND. Because your MIND IS INFINITE.
If anything existed outside your own MIND then GOD would not be omnipotent nor omniscient. As you soon as you imagine any sense of "other" you lose your omnipotence and omniscience. This is the very mechanism by which GOD becomes not-GOD.
It is absolutely true that all humans are a dream. You don't like to accept that because you will feel lonely and very depressed. Therefore you refuse to surrender the imagining of other people and you blame and project onto me as misunderstanding spirituality, when of course the one who doesn't understand spirituality is you.
You are a perfect case-study of how Buddhism and nonduality leads to self-deception and false spirituality. You have been trying too hard to be a good little Buddhist boy, but none of that will ever be enough to AWAKEN. You must destroy all of Buddhism and nonduality if you actually want to AWAKEN. Pretty obvious stuff.
What you consider my greatest pitfall is just projection. It's your greatest pitfall.
But you are making one even deeper projection. You are literally projecting my existence. In fact I do not exist outside your mind, and as soon as you stop imagining me I will cease to exist.
I hope some day you open your mind deep enough to comprehend me.
Much love.
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Affirmative action: US Supreme Court overturns race-based college admissions
Affirmative action: US Supreme Court overturns race-based college admissionsSo? Why would that matter?
Doing science is not the function of life. It's a tangent.
Humans could create a Harvard-like institution where everyone badly wants to go. Where everyone would clammor to pay $100k to sit around and jerk off in a circle for 4 years. At the end of those 4 years you would get a gold certificate and a well-paying job for the rest of your life in the circle jerk industry.
And all of thar would be irrelevant to living a good life.
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Rant: You need friends
Rant: You need friendsI see a lot of people on this forum who seem to believe that the need for friends is transcended once you achieve a certain level of consciousness. Those same people complain of meaninglessness and varying degrees of depression, anxiety, loneliness, and other maladies. Many here are less happy than the average person believing that they are somehow becoming more and more conscious. How does that make any sense? The idea that you will transcend the need for friends is a common misconception in spiritual circles. And I think it's time that someone shed light on the bullshit.
Beware of the man who has no friends. Beware of the man who says you don't need any.
Look, if you don't have friends, you have a problem. It's pretty common for people on the spiritual path to check out and give up social interactions all together thinking they are pursuing a path of personal growth. All you are doing is being reckless. For fuck's sake, take care of your lives. We have needs, and one of them happens to be relationship. Furthermore, the most growth you will encounter will be in some form of relationship. Just ask yourself, what are your biggest fears? I am willing to bet, it has something to do with another. Rejection, abandonment, criticism, vulnerability, conflict, etc. Stop avoiding the areas in which you need to grow.
Friends are good for many reasons. They serve as playmates, friends, lovers, sources of new information and opportunity, and. In other words, the improve the quality of life, and some may even say they make life worth living. I happen to agree. If you want to be unhappy or struggle with mental health issues, not having friends is a great way to accomplish that: DANGER and DEMENTIA.
I hear this all the time, "I have lost interest in other people because they don't care about self-actualization and non-duality". Guess what, part of self-actualizing is learning to be content with what you got. That's part of maturing. Accept and adapt bitches. It is possible to be spiritually mature and connect with less conscious people... within reason. In fact, if you were really mature, you'd be proficient interacting with the plebs.
Now, there are three categories of friends: Non-salvageable, salvageable, and ideal.
Non-salvageable friends are those that mistreat you, belittle you, violate your trust, and make you feel shitty about yourself most of the time. Get rid of them as quick as possible.
Salvable friends are those you don't necessarily jive with but that aren't bad to have around. You may have known them since high school or for a long period of time but seem to be drifting apart for various reasons. Perhaps they're into religion, money, sex, validation, fame, or have other low-consciousness interests. They're not bad people, but they aren't helping us get to where we are headed. If you do not have an ideal set of friends yet then it's a good idea to keep these ones around until you do. Don't burn bridges simply because you think you are evolved.
Ideal friends are those you deem healthy, interesting, admirable, nurturing, or some combination thereof. I want to make it clear that you will rarely find folks who's lives revolve around self-development or non-duality. You are going to have to lower the bar a little. What you are looking for is friends who take interest in: psychology, philosophy, yoga, art, traveling, exploring, meditation, social justice, health, politics, nature, reading, documentaries, podcasts. These are the friends who will nurture you, help you grow, and lead to fulfillment. If your social circle does not look like this, then you need to get out there and make some new friends. Trust me, it's worth it.
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Can women and men be friends?
Can women and men be friends?From a male perspective ¿Would it be beneficial to be friends with a woman to train your social skills with girls? Or it get's too tricky, especially if it's a hot girl?
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Be Careful With Owen Cook
Be Careful With Owen CookPaying $10k for a bootcamp is absurd.
Get decent wings and you will have a free bootcamp every week.
Watch out, the whole pickup coaching industry is full of grifters doing lazy, half-assed, overpriced bootcamps and other add-on products. It's shameless grifting. They cheat you like they cheat on girls. These are low-integrity humans you are dealing with.
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Leo, why do you socialize?
Leo, why do you socialize?That's the best description of socializing that I've ever heard.
Exactly! Now go enjoy some ping-pong
Stop being so serious. Be deep on your own time, and be goofy when out in public. Be a wise goofball.
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Difficulty Socializing & Making Friends
Difficulty Socializing & Making FriendsSounds to me like you just need much more experience socializing.
Socialization is just like tennis. To get good at it you must have many opportunities to practice.
So very practically you need to change your life around so that you have more socialization opportunities on a regular basis. The rest will mostly auto-correct.
You can't get good at socializing if you're alone most of the time.
There is no specific way that you must be when you socialize. You can basically be totally natural unless you're some kind of psycho, in which case you'll have to reign that in. Be chill, friendly, pleasant, playful, honest, expressive, and relaxed. That usually works best.
You'll be amazed at how often people just accept you exactly for how you are. Perhaps the biggest mistake of learning to socialize is to try to act a certain way to please people or meet their expectations. Just be you. Not everyone will jive with you, but that doesn't matter.
Be comfortable in your own skin. Act with strangers the same way you'd act with close family. Assume everyone already knows each other. Don't try to act cool or impressive.
As simple as all these things are, it can take years to learn. Especially if you've developed bad habits.
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Beware of Dropping All "Low Conscious" Friends
Beware of Dropping All "Low Conscious" FriendsYou should definitely be willing to just kick back and watch a football game and drink a few beers.
When an enlightened bud comes to town, we go to the strip club. Enlightenment isn't about being ultra spiritual. Ultra spiritual is how you should be on your hardcore meditation retreats. But in everyday life you want to kick back.
There's really no reason to talk about spirituality with your friends.
As long as the person is positive and gives off a good vibe, you should be friends with them. Definitely don't judge people based on how high they score on your consciousness scale. LOL.
"Sorry bro, your consciousness is at level 495, and I only hang out with 500+"
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Did I misunderstood Wittgenstein or he is actually super-overrated, useless to study?
Did I misunderstood Wittgenstein or he is actually super-overrated, useless to study?Not only are they not superior to you but if you learned even 30% of what I taught you, you understand reality way deeper than them. So don't sell yourself short.
What I taught you guys will make you better philosophers than anyone alive today at MIT. Just learn and apply what I taught you. I gave you the best philosophy education on this planet. Don't squander it. It's all there. Mine it deep.
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Did I misunderstood Wittgenstein or he is actually super-overrated, useless to study?
Did I misunderstood Wittgenstein or he is actually super-overrated, useless to study?None of these Western academics is within a 1000 miles of understanding reality. None of them! NONE! NOT A SINGLE ONE!
All their profound questions are horseshit! Their priorities are utterly deluded and corrupt.
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Affirmative action: US Supreme Court overturns race-based college admissions
Affirmative action: US Supreme Court overturns race-based college admissionsMost of those "geniuses" are overrated. And any genius they had did not come from those universities but despite them.
Many intellectuals have no choice but to work through the university system because they have no financial independence.
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Affirmative action: US Supreme Court overturns race-based college admissions
Affirmative action: US Supreme Court overturns race-based college admissionsIt's a status pyramid game full of insane group-think. It is not concerned about truth-seeking or consciousness.