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Are pretty girls nicer ?
Are pretty girls nicer ?Way too broad of a generalization. Hot girls can be bitchy because they get hit on a lot. But they can also be sweet. You're not going to predict it. Girls' moods change every day. Stop over-analyzing and just approach the ones you like. Get some hard blowouts.
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The Manosphere Has A Gay Fixation
The Manosphere Has A Gay FixationAnother video on the topic from my previous post, regarding what women find attractive vs what men think women find attractive.
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People Don't Really Care About you
People Don't Really Care About youNo, it's not true. It's an exaggeration.
Ego can love. It's just limited. No news there.
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Do I Even Need Friends?!
Do I Even Need Friends?!@onacloudynight
On the one hand, yes on your journey you will have to face things alone. For example, at some point you will have to face your own demons without anyone's help(... Especially if you decide to do strong psychedelics.) Also, a big aspect of growing up is figuring out things without too much of other's advice.
That said, do not bullshit yourself into thinking you do not 'need' people and that you are too smart or too developed to have friends.
You do need people. You are not that smart. You are not that developed.
A lot of people on this thread seem to have completely disregarded who we are and where we've come from... 99.9999% of the time, if you are human, you need friends in some form or another.
Humans are social creatures. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2527715/
We got to where we are because of our ability to interact with others in a group. https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/guest-blog/jonathan-haidt-the-moral-matrix-breaking-out-of-our-righteous-minds/
Social-Isolation causes brain damage. http://solitarywatch.com/2016/05/11/isolation-devastates-the-brain-the-neuroscience-of-solitary-confinement/
Quality relationships are the number one predictor of health, wealth, happiness, and success:
Even the buddha recommended you get some friends: http://www.shift.is/2013/11/four-types-friends-according-buddha/
The life of the hermit is after you've finished the Hero's Journey and after you've reached enlightenment and after you've done legendary shit. Until then, sorry kid, you're going to need people to help you along the way - and those people are called friends and mentors.
If we take identical twins and make them both live their life, achieve the same things, learn the same wisdom, and help the world just as much as each other, but one has friends show up to his funeral but the other doesn't, do you really think the one without friends is the enlightened wiser one? Not at all.
But TJ... Almost every conversation I have with someone ends up being repetitive and superficial.
I get it that making friends is difficult. I also get it that a lot of people can be vapid or shallow... Hell, I live in Los Angeles, where some people almost couldn't be shallower! But the thought that 'I don't need friends' and that other's are 'too low consciousness for me to talk to' or that 'there's really no one to talk to' is just the ego babbling on.
For example, you could go to a meet up group or a book club or a meditation circle. And if those don't exist, than a real badass would just start those mini-communities and have friends come!
Pro-tip: If you find that your conversations are shallow, thats a reflection on you. Take fucking responsibility for it. Make it a point to ask deeper questions. Become a more active listener.
For example, I have made it a point to STOP asking the question "how are you" because it always leads to the same boring response. Instead, I ask people to tell me what three good things have happened to them in the past week. Or I'll ask them what their favorite thing in the world is. Or if I really want to get to know them, I ask them to summarize their whole life in under 3 minutes (this exercise actually leads to hours of conversation!)
I promise that if you are of higher consciousness then you'll find that you attract more friends than you reject. In fact, the more I learn about myself and the more I develop my consciousness, the easier it is for me to relate to others -- be it a homeless man, the grocery store-bagger, a dude at the gym, someone I'm attracted to, or one of the surgeons I work with.
I'll end my rant with a quote from Arnold Schwarzenegger, someone who any of us would be lucky to do even 1/4 of the things he did (look him up!):
"I am not a self-made man. Every time I give a speech at a business conference, or speak to college students, or do a Reddit AMA, someone says it... 'Governor/Governator/Arnold/Arnie/Schwarzie/Schnitzel (depending on where I am), as a self-made man, what’s your blueprint for success?' They’re always shocked when I thank them for the compliment but say, “I am not a self-made man. I got a lot of help."
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Confidence seems unattainable
Confidence seems unattainableConfidence simply comes from massive experience.
You can develop confidence in all those areas by gaining a lot of experience working on them.
Move to a big city, talk to 5000 girls, and you will have confidence in dating.
Go to the gym every day for 5 years and you will have confidence in the gym.
Etc.
You can consistently work on these areas to develop mastery. Daily, consistent practice is the key.
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I used Leo's advice and now I'm heartbroken
I used Leo's advice and now I'm heartbrokenImportant: By "Leo's advice", I'm referring to the 'How To Get Laid' series.
Greetings.
So recently, a week ago, I came back from a trip abroad. I first was in Serbia, then in Montenegro, then I flew home.
When I was in Serbia, I cold approached two women sitting on a bench outside. It was late into the night and the nightlife was amazing, but I approached them and it was really fun. We went on our merry ways but it was a good experience.
After that, I went to a bar/club alone. It was a strip club and I paid for a lap dance. Good lord...
That was quite the experience. Serbian strippers are definitely wild.
But after that I flew to Montenegro. I was in an AirBNB with my family, and another family. We knew this family quite closely, they were from Russia. The reason why we chose to bring them with us to Serbia and Montenegro was because those were the only places they could travel to due to the current sanctions. We actually linked up with them first in Serbia, where we shared a hotel room. But this time, we shared an AirBNB.
But anyways, one faithful night, I committed myself to cold approach. I was walking along the beach and I found a woman setting up a chess board. I walked up to her and asked her if I could play. She said yes and we played chess together. Afterwards, she played chess with another guy, while I spectated and continued to talk with her. The conversation went so well that she asked my for my Instagram. I didn't have Instagram, so I gave her my Telegram.
I messaged her the next day, and we chatted about philosophy. I told her that I was super into the works of Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, and she actually knew about him. Then I messaged if we could meet up tonight for drinks, for which she agreed.
We met at a beach side restaurant, and she brought her friend. It was a beautiful café, restaurant, and ice cream parlor that was right on the beach, all of the tables were on the sand. She sat next to her friend, for whom she brought. Afterwords we walked around the boardwalk, then walked into the "old city", where they met up with their friend. So it became four of us, me and three women.
It was an amazing night, for which we concluded by sitting on the beach at 11PM, almost 12, drinking cheap bear, and smoking European Marlboro cigarettes.
We liked it so much, that from the day I met them, to the day I had to fly home, we were meeting every night. One of the nights, we went to a nightclub. This was my second time in a club, but first time attending a proper nightclub with music, dancing, and all that. The first time I went to a club/bar all on my own was the strip club in Serbia.
I didn't "get laid", because I was sharing an AirBNB with two families, including my own. And the two women were both roommates, and lived with their parents. But I have a job and am incrementally working up for the money to return to Montenegro this winter, and maybe next summer. But I did kiss one of them.
The reason why I was heartbroken, was because I had grown so attached to the group that I had met, that when I had to leave I was basically in tears. I'm fine now, but my new friends are all the way in Eastern Europe and I live in America. We video call on Discord at least once a week.
Damn you Leo, bastard, your advice left me heartbroken.
I'm of course joking. I actually want to thank Leo for his videos on cold approach, this would not have been possible without him.
Dear Leo, if you're reading this...
THANK YOU
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If influencer corruption is inevitable, what exactly should Dems & the Left do, Leo?
If influencer corruption is inevitable, what exactly should Dems & the Left do, Leo?Because the point of being conservative is to defend corruption. But the point of being left-wing is to cure corruption.
When a conservative is corrupt he is be authentic. When a leftist is corrupt he is a hypocrite.
Trump is a pig, he acts like one, and pigs love him for it. A Dem cannot do the same because the Dems aspire to more than being pigs. At least true progressives do. The sad reality is that many Dems are also pigs.
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M29 – Gave up on dating, focused on finances, but conflicted about the future
M29 – Gave up on dating, focused on finances, but conflicted about the futureThis is not a good position. You need dating and relationship experience before you get married and have kids.
Dating is responsible. But if you want to delay it for a few years, that's fine. 29 is still very young. You can still date at 35 and older. But I recommend you don't delay too long because the more you delay that harder it gets. Dating is really a young man's game.
If you're going to delay a few years to make some serious money, that is okay. But then make sure you actually do that, rather than making this some never-ending excuse. It's easy to keep inventing excuses for not dating because dating is scary and challenging. Use your time efficiently and wisely -- that's the point.
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Is the left partly responsible for the radicalization of the right?
Is the left partly responsible for the radicalization of the right?It's a bad take.
This is where developmental psychology is so useful.
The Blue & Orange stages of development are not the result of stage Green's existence. This is backwards. Stage Green exists as a response to the limitations of Blue & Orange.
Reactionaries are too busy reacting to bother to do some deeper research into the developmental causes of all this woke vs anti-woke culture wars nonsense.
Green's talk about toxic masculinity because it's a real issue. Andrew Tate is the poster boy of toxic masculinity. It's just that people in stage Blue & Orange are not mature enough to see it.
The right-wing wants to portray criticism of itself as being groundless. But it isn't. There is legit grounds to criticize people like Tate, Trump, Musk, etc.
Saying that Green demonizes men is, ironically, a demonization of Green. Green doesn't demonize masculinity, it simply criticizes the toxic parts of masculinity, but those who embody toxic masculinity take that as a personal attack. Toxic masculinity should be demonized. Right-wingers deliberately conflate toxic masculinity as all masculinity, which is a flagrant strawman of Green's position.
Remember, equality is offensive to those who benefit from inequality. Telling men to treat women better is literally offensive to some immature men. Equality itself is a frontal assault on the likes of a selfish ego-maniac like Cobra Tate.
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I asked Chat GPT who is the most famous Spiritual Teacher
I asked Chat GPT who is the most famous Spiritual TeacherHe's not a monk, he's a fraud marketer.
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Good Looking but Still Invisible to Women — What Am I Missing?
Good Looking but Still Invisible to Women — What Am I Missing?Depends entirely on your goals and standards.
If you want to master dating attractive women, yes.
How good do you want to be with women? How many women do you want? How hot do you want them to be?
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Good Looking but Still Invisible to Women — What Am I Missing?
Good Looking but Still Invisible to Women — What Am I Missing?@czar24 Just hatch a plan to live and work in a big city with great nightlife. That really is the foundation to dating success. It is a numbers game.
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How do you guys accept the reality of torture?
How do you guys accept the reality of torture?God is unlimited imagination.
Torture is just one of the things that can be imagined. It is not possible that torture cannot be imagined -- since you can imagine it.
In order to be able to imagine an entire universe, torture must also be imaginable.
Torture exists simply because EVERYTHING is imaginable.
What you are really wrestling with is the fact that imagination is unlimited. And yes, that's a hell of a powerful notion. It's the power of God. Is the power of God terrifying to a mortal? Of course! God's power is unlimited and you would rather it be limited. But if it was limited in any way then the universe could not be imagined from nothing.
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Good Looking but Still Invisible to Women — What Am I Missing?
Good Looking but Still Invisible to Women — What Am I Missing?Oh, this is simple.
The only way to get good with women is to socialize with 1000s of women. Everything else is irrelevant.
If you want to solve this problem you must undertake the pickup journey. That means you start going out consistently every week and talking to hundreds and thousands of women.
I have outlined the entire process in my videos: How To Get Laid - Part 1, 2, and 3.
Re-watch that video series. It really is the answer. It is so comprehensive that there's little else to say.
Don't worry about confidence. Confidence will come naturally as you gain socialization experience. You don't need to do any special tricks or techniques to be confident. Experience IS confidence.
The only way to be visible to women is to socialize with them.
P.S. Sorry about your scooter accident. I fell off my scooter too. Not as bad as you but it still hurt. Scooters are the Devil's vehicle.
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Playlist For Understanding Israel Deception
Playlist For Understanding Israel DeceptionActually that is free speech. Nazis are protected by free speech.
Free speech is disgusting. Which is why it is banned in most parts of the world.
The issue is that people disagree about what genocide is.
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Truth vs kindness in relationships
Truth vs kindness in relationshipsI tend to find that kinder people are usually more honest than unkind people.
Unkind people have to engage in all manner of self-deceptions to explain away their unkind behaviors to themselves.
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Truth vs kindness in relationships
Truth vs kindness in relationshipsTruth doesn't mean being mean. Meanness is not truthful.
Truth can hurt a lot, but it isn't mean. So make that distinction.
Relationships require an intelligent mix of truth and kindness, and zero meanness.
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Playlist For Understanding Israel Deception
Playlist For Understanding Israel DeceptionYou underestimate the degree to which people have wacky and biased views no matter how empathetic or spiritual they are. Especially when it comes to political views. There's really no limit to the insane things humans can believe. You will be surprised when your closest friends and family or gurus reveal their weird views.
I don't know anyone on this forum deeply enough to predict all their views.
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The most absurd idea ever invented: “Annihilation of the Self”
The most absurd idea ever invented: “Annihilation of the Self”Notice you are horrified at the idea of undoing the ego-self. That's exactly why I framed it that way. Because who is horrified and why is it so horrifying? Because the ego-self is attached to survival. So, serious spirituality is about unraveling this survival tendency of the self. The reason I frame it so starkly is because otherwise the ego will corrupt spirituality by turning it into spiritual-flavored survival.
I framed it starkly to avoid the issue of ego corrupting spirituality, as it always does.
If the ego is affraid, that good. That means real spirituality is happening. If the ego is comfortable and happy, that means fake spirituality is happening.
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The most absurd idea ever invented: “Annihilation of the Self”
The most absurd idea ever invented: “Annihilation of the Self”God created this dream. And the point of spirituality is that you are sick of dreams and games and wish to wake up.
Yes, it goes against life, so to speak.
The self is an illusory identity. The reason it is being annihilated is to trade the finite self for Infinity.
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Is meditation actually detrimental to regular people?
Is meditation actually detrimental to regular people?@Wiz Look at this way: Meditation is designed to kill you. If you like that idea, that's the reason to meditate. Otherwise carry on with your monkey games.
Meditation is for those who are sick of playing games.
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Is Dating Really Harder for Men Today — Or Just in Certain Environments?
Is Dating Really Harder for Men Today — Or Just in Certain Environments?Logically, if marriages last less then dating opportunities are higher.
About half the women I dated were divorced. Which means that if their marriages were the life-long kind of the good ol days, then I would not have been able to date them.
Men who complain that dating is harder don't realize that dating is actually easier today than it used to be thanks to the deterioration of life-long marriages. Less marriage means more dating.
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Is Dating Really Harder for Men Today — Or Just in Certain Environments?
Is Dating Really Harder for Men Today — Or Just in Certain Environments?@Hardkill That relates to marriage.
People are still as horny as ever and looking for sex and companionship.
As far as life-long commitment goes, of course that has dropped due to having more wealth and more freedom.
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Biggest Fumble of My Life (DO NOT REPEAT)
Biggest Fumble of My Life (DO NOT REPEAT)This is very different from craving it and not being able to get it.
If you don't want it then there is no problem. But don't kid yourself about not wanting it.
Also, as you get older you might want companshionship more, not less. Depends. It's hard to predict.
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Is Dating Really Harder for Men Today — Or Just in Certain Environments?
Is Dating Really Harder for Men Today — Or Just in Certain Environments?It is harder in that too many people live online and don't know how to socialize. That is a real obstacle.
But if you are out socializing it is not harder. The things that attract women have not changed and will not change.
