@Khron Your problem isn't sex, it's the inability to relate to people in an intimate and loving way where you don't use them as objects to satisfy your survival.
You see, no one has taught you how to consciously relate to people. You think of people like pawns to satisfy your needs. Fundamentally you fear true loving relationship. The ego-mind cannot truly love or relate because it is too needy and fearful of losing itself in the process.
Focus on working on Self-Love.
A psychedelic can be very helpful here to gain clarity and heal yourself. Then you will be able to relate better to others.
Stop thinking of intimacy as some box you must check off Maslow's list in order to be happy. Rather see it as an expression of your ability to Love, which is the whole point of life: to learn how to Love more deeply and selflessly.
Love is not about getting love from others. Love is about raising your consciousness to the point where you are radiating love out to the world and the world reflects it back at you.
You can start to heal by loving the fact that you enjoy sex, porn, masturbation, and intimacy. There is nothing wrong with these things. Stop shaming and guilting yourself for being a highly sexual creature. Sex is an amazing aspect of God! It is a beautiful thing! You'd have to be a zombie not to like it.
The whole no-fap shaming movement is toxic and counter-productive. You can't shame and guilt yourself into abstainence. Give yourself the love you need, but do it consciously.
There are healthy ways to masturbate and you can still pursue sex and relationships. These are not mutually exclusive things. Don't blame your virginity on masturbation. The problem there is lack of responsibility and inaction in socializing/dating.

@Alii Enlightenment = Truth = existence itself. Anything that exists is part of what's true. Enlightenment is not a point of view. It's the fabric of reality itself. Instead of thinking that reality is made out of atoms, think of it as made out of enlightenment.
In spirituality, we're not dealing with human perspectives. We're dealing with the fabric of reality itself: consciousness. And consciousness constitutes all there is. So if Hitler exists, there he is... consciousness. When he exists in your mind, there he is... consciousness. What he's doing is irrelevant when it comes to the question of his substance. You don't say Hitler isn't made of atoms just because he killed a bunch of people. He's still made of atoms even if he's the most horrible person in the world. The atoms don't care. There are no "good" atoms and "bad" atoms. Hitler's not made out of "bad" atoms. They are exactly the same atoms. A quantum physicist doesn't care what Hitler did. Neither does a nondualist. At least not on the metaphysical level. On the practical level, the social level, the political level, of course we say it's "bad" and "don't be like Hitler".

@Alii How many times do we have to say that you can be an enlightened rapist?
Enlightenment changes nothing. You can think of it this way: everyone is already enlightened, including Hitler.
EVERYTHING is GOOD. There are no restrictions upon reality. It can do whatever the hell it wants. To be at peace with that, is to be enlightened. To not be at peace with that, is also to be enlightened.
If you imagine yourself becoming the most morally perfect human being of all time, more moral than Jesus, you will be not one ounce better than Hitler. That is nonduality. So all your ideas about how enlightened people "ought" to be behave are just that -- your ideas, not the Truth. People are free to behave in all the ways the human body/mind is able to behave. How do you know it's Good? Because it's happening.
Don't be questioning God's creation with that little mind of yours You will always be wrong. Which of course, is just how it's supposed to be.
Not only did he eat a cheeseburger, we went to the best strip club in town and I bought him a lap dance so this stripper with perfect, melon-sized boobs smeared him across his face. And he enjoyed it. Fun was had by all.
That's life. So throw all your moralizing in the trash. It has nothing to do with enlightenment.
If you're thinking enlightenment will make you a good person, think again. If you were an asshole before enlightenment, you'll likely be an asshole long after enlightenment. God creates assholes, after all. Assholes are an integral part of creation. Just look at Trump

A new tattoo would be nice.
Would want to find a real artist to do it though.
Any good ideas?
Obviously tattoos can be corny/pretentious/silly but who cares

When women get turned on by male stripper shows, it's not just the body. It's the emotional state the entire show puts her in. When girls go to male strip shows it's usually a pack of girls and they all drink and dance and get have fun together. This pumps up their state and then they get horny from that and want dick.
Pumping up her emotional state is the magic key. No woman will ever fuck you logically. If you cannot get her out of logic-mode, she will say No.

Nothing wrong with sex, but it is one of the lower joys of life.
Most people's lives involve: sleep, eat, shit, work, fuck.
There are higher ways to live.
An awakening beats an orgasm every time.
If you're pre-occupied with sex, you're stuck on living from chakra 2. Which is pretty low. At some point you'd be wise to outgrow that. Doesn't mean you have to stop having sex, but it just becomes less of a priority in your life.
Of course lots of people judge sexual openness because they suppress their own sexuality.
Also, peoples' sex drives differ. Some low, some high.

Please don’t take this post too seriously.
Yesterday I partied drunk for the first time and had the time of my life. I finally get what people mean when they say they are more social when drunk. I understand that for pick-up relying on being drunk is not a good strategy, but I feel like this experience showed me how social I can truly be if I gave 0 f*cks. I talked and danced with so many girls and even guys. I made like 3 guy-friends at that club alone. I have been struggling a lot with socializing and loneliness and this experience has given me hope that I don’t need to be scared and alone forever. 
 
With that out of the way, the “small dick” joke did make some girls burst out in laughter. Though there were also plenty who were simply like “you know that is not a good pick up line right?” which confused me at the time. I wasn’t even trying to hit on them at that point, I just had way too much fun calling my own dick small. Are there any other counter intuitive things to say like this? I feel like they are a lot of fun. 
 
Going out at clubs is a bit difficult though I won’t lie. Girls decide in 2 seconds whether they will dance with you or not. Regardless, I complimented a lot of men and women and they all seemed to enjoy that. Made me feel great too. If anyone has a bit more experience with clubs please feel free to share some advice. I will go out tonight again and I will call my dick small again!

in his video about traps leo said that sleeping with prostitutes is a trap, why is that ? he didn't elaborate on it. i'm a virgin, tried pick up, did thousands of approach, didn't work, i'm planning on sleeping with a prostitute, cuz it's getting tough being a virgin at 20 years old.

This work is not about believing you are spiritual. It is about becoming more conscious of your mind and Reality. If you are doing that, you are doing spiritual work.
You don't need to be perfect at it. That is a silly expectation. You are merely being asked to become more self-aware. You will fail at it many, many times. But you will also make lots of progress, if you try.

Because he is purposefully making extreme content to stir up drama and go viral.
Half the stuff he does is just a marketing ploy.
These day to succeed in social media you have to deliberately create stupid drama. It's rage bait.
It's hard to know how much of this stuff he actually believes, or if he even makes such a distinction.

It goes deeper than that though. Men with below average looks really struggle to be attractive to women. Women don't want to sleep with them. This makes them hate women.

I can't take that guy seriously.
If you lock him alone in a room, he will want to kill himself.
He's the epitome of a mouse running faster and faster in a wheel, thinking he's getting somewhere, vlogging his journey.

I understand that you feel left out. Studies show that most young people believe that they are less experienced than their peers when in fact they are not. The pressure to lose your virginity might be huge, as it is a question of status. Your attitude towards sex changes after you start having it, and when you fall in love and start a relationship. 
There's nothing wrong with experience, but I myself was pressured into losing my virginity to "get it over with", and to this day I get sad thinking about it. It wasn't a nice experience.
Wait till you meet somebody special and fall in love. It's unlikely that she will have a lot of experience if she's the same age as you. A kind woman will not judge but appreciate your virginity.
I know it's scary. It's easy to lose your virginity to an escort, because you are paying her, and therefore she will not criticize or say no. (By the way, an escort will probably have a lot of experience.) But believe me when I say that when you are losing your virginity (or having sex in general), you want to do it with somebody who genuinely cares about you.

Truly, the highest reason you do pickup is not for the sex but for your own development.
I can’t even begin to list all the ways pickup did for my development as a man. I would be a total chimp without it.

The entire point of jerking off is so that sex does not derail your life.
No serious person has time to wait around for sex to happen or play these self-denial mind-games with himself. That is for chumps who got nothing better to do.

pretty deep conversation for a massage, I wouldn't class erotic massages as prostitution its just a massage thats extra sensual, its not like your having sex with her.

Everything and anything is being imagined.
To be human is to imagine what it feels like to be human.
Nothing is sectioned off. Your visual field is God.

@Socrates You have not understood my original quote. You twisted what I said to fit your worldview.
If you want to grow, trying reading my quotes with more charity.
How else could it be?

Physics is just the psychology of atoms.

Pickup is very, very unnatural for me. I can do it, but only if I force myself, and I can never be great at it. Because I am deeply introverted and I don't like empty talk.

A psychic stepping into Trump's mind is like jumping into an ocean of pig shit.
Hahaha

No. Selfishness is hardwired into the organism.
If you were not selfish you would be dead.
Selfishness is the precondition for your biological existence.

@abc123 99% of your life is imagined for you by God. And you ain't changing that.
You work with the 1%.

There's no disagreement. They impact the mind greatly. In positive and negative ways both. The negatives are short-term, the postives are long-term.
Psychedelics make the mind unstable. But that instability resolves long-term.
My mind is more stable today than ever.
Explained above.
Instability is a classic problem is spiritual work. It is not specific to psychedelics. Meditation creates it too. Therapy can create it too. Intense self-inquiry.
I'm just clear that I don't have trauma. But I have no way of proving it to you. You'll just have to believe me. I have not had a traumatic life.
What you think is trauma is just ego.

The point is OF makes whoring too easy and too convenient.
I am not saying it is more toxic than porn. It is less toxic and that's the trap.
It is like weed is more of a trap than heroin. Most people are too afraid of heroin but ruin themselves with weed thinking it's not so bad.
I disagree. There are doctors who quit for OF because it pays better.
Girls are paid millions to be remain airheads. This is bad for them.
Hot girls have no other incentives than to be sex objects.
I dislike the toxic incentive structure OF creates for women. Raising a decent daughter has become harder.
Porn is heroin. OF is weed.