Yali

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  1. Jordan Peterson
    Jordan Peterson
    JP is serving a valuable function for young college-aged males.
    He is giving them a sense of stage Blue discipline and direction which their culture never gave them.
    Basically, at his best, what JP is proposes is having a sense of Life Purpose. Which is basically what my LP course is all about.
    The only thing I would stress about that is that it's very important to realize that Life Purpose is a conceptual construction. It is not objectively true in any way. It's something one creates for oneself to live a good life and have a sense of focus. And to develop mastery in some field.
    And that there is a higher level beyond life purpose, which is awakening.
    One of the excesses of stage Green relativism is that it can leave people feeling lost, directionless, nihilistic, unwilling to engage in building a passionate life. JP seized on this Green excess and is building a public identity around it.
    But reacting against excess tends to produce more excess of another kind.

  2. Is personal development just the next hamster wheel?
    Is personal development just the next hamster wheel?
    If you are building a family consciously, have at it. That's a valid path of development.
    Most people just fuck and have kids like animals.

  3. Daygame infield session
    Daygame infield session
    I went out today for a few hours to practice some day game infield & here is a summary of how my day went. Previously I did a post of me saying hi to 100 different strangers which caused some minor anxiety in me. Today I told myself I am going to approach girls & simply say to them "hey hows it going". Surprisingly the first girl I said that to was immediatly receptive to me & started asking questions about how my day was ect.. We were talking for a few minutes, there was a lot of anxiety in me at the time so it did not really feel that much of a fluent conversation but at the end I just decided to say "we should go get drinks sometime" & she just gave me her number so I will text her later. 
    Here is what what went well: I had a fluent 40 minute conversation with my hairdresser today, approached 2 random guys sitting on a bench at the beach and had around a 30 minute conversation with them, they were around my age. Approached 11 women. I said hi to 36 strangers, but saying hi does not really seem to provoke any anxiety in me anymore so I felt like it was a waste of my time to do that. Another great thing I have been practicing, is whenever I am out in public I maintain eye contact with everyone, forcing them to break it off with me. It seems to be improvining my confidence, instead of just looking at the ground, at my feet the whole time.  
     
    Here is what did not go so well: I found a majority of the women I approached just blanked me, they were just plugged in with their earphones & would walk past me. some of them did not even have earphones in but I would say hey hows it going & they would just walk past me looking disinterested, I did not know if I was trying hard enough. Maybe I should walk alongside them in the future. One crucial thing I learnt today though that I would bring up in the conversation is that I could tell the girls were so happy that I gave them a compliment of calling them cute, even if they rejected you by having a boyfriend ect... I would just say "I thought you looked really cute so I had to approach you" after they said they had a boyfriend & they seemed really happy by that.
    Probably the worst thing that happened I think is the 3 or 4 girls who seemed initially interested in me, I would blow it because after the hows it going, I could not think of anything to sau so I would resort to just saying what have you been up to ect.. You know when your mind gets totally blanked out.. I think my main hurdle will be knowing how to keep the convo going initially untill I reach hook point. I could tell some of the girls were attracted to me but my poor verbals just ruined it. I know they could sense the awkwardness & that is why they just said have a nice day and left. 
    Other than that I am happy with how my day went because I grew in some way, the girls negative reactions I found did not really affect my self worth as a man which I am happy about. I just wanted to know what should I do to try & overcome of saying the same things after the approach, almost like my mind has a robotic script in it. I can't seem to enjoy the interaction. I'm like wtf do I talk about to a complete stranger who is an attractive women?! Maintaining the convo is defo going to be the hardest for me I think since most girls expect you to lead the convo.
    Going to attempt to go out Fri & Sat night this week, hopefully it will go well 
     

  4. My day of saying hi to 100 strangers
    My day of saying hi to 100 strangers
    I decided to go out today to just say high to 100 strangers, working on eye contact, vocal tonality & confidence.
    I would just say 'hi, hope you have a good day' or something along those lines. Unfortunately my vocabulary feels very scripted. It feels that like that alot.Lacks spontaneity. Honestly I found this whole situation incredibly socially & emotionally draining. I did not get to much anxiety though. What is the next step from here? I really want to sort this area of my life out.
    I got a good reaction from most, I did not really feel that anxiety provoking as I am working on desensitising myself in social interactions. 
    I could feel myself sweating & heart pumping though, sometimes I would get into conversations with cute girls working at the store. 
    Eventually when I got up to number 85 I started experiencing a very bad panic attack, my legs got incredibly tense & stiff so I had to struggle my way home. I thought these panic attacks have stopped because I have not had them in months.... It felt like the energies were connected to my brain, somtimes when I would take a step with my stiff legs I could feel jolts of uncordinated energy throughout my whole body, I was sure I was gunna fall over & hurt myself.. I struggled with these exact panic attacks most of my life, it even lead me to dropping out of school to escape by playing computer games. 
    They would always occur.. I would often question if something is wrong with me. I don't know how to stop them. I am pretty sure they have traumatized me in some way. 
    I don;t like living in my social comfort zone all the time numbing myself to existence, I think I did good doing the first step today, just not sure what to do next & I don't know how to cope with this anxiety/panic attacks. 

  5. Is it bad to pursue low consciousness Life purpose while doing spirituality
    Is it bad to pursue low consciousness Life purpose while doing spirituality
    @universe
    Yeah, I want to get nice muscle mass & become good at dancing at raves because I view that as an artform & beauty. Especially the edm/techno music. With dating, I want to eventually find a a compatible partner that I can go really intimate with & do spiritual practices together, have amazing sex ect. The dating is a stepping stone for that. 

  6. Daygame infield session
    Daygame infield session
    You did good.
    Yes, keeping a convo going, and keeping it emotional vs logical is the core of game skills. It's not easy to learn that. Takes massive practice.
    Also, when you approach a walking girl, you have to approach very assertively, forcing her to stop and commanding her attention. No meek, half-assed, gay approaches. Stop her like you are the police. And be clear about your intent.

  7. Is personal development just the next hamster wheel?
    Is personal development just the next hamster wheel?
    Varies greatly depending on how busy I am with survival and business.

  8. I love Leo in Vegas
    I love Leo in Vegas
    Most people at a club are not going there every week. They are there for a special social occasion. Girls are social creatures and go out in groups. This is normal and healthy. You can meet almost any kind of girl in the club. I have met doctors, lawyers, engineers, professors, spiritual girls, etc.

  9. Why do some sexual jokes work on women and other sexual jokes don't?
    Why do some sexual jokes work on women and other sexual jokes don't?
    I'm always looking for relationship. Whether it happens or not is not really up to me. Often the girl doesn't want it. But also many girls are not relationship material and it takes some time to figure that out.
    I don't make a distinction between a fling and something serious. Everything serious starts out unserious. Just talk to girls without expectations and see where things lead. Sometimes it will lead somewhere serious, often times not. Both are okay.

  10. My day of saying hi to 100 strangers
    My day of saying hi to 100 strangers
    Good work. Keep going out and socializing. And remember, quality over quantity.
    Next time do 5 deeper converasations with strangers. This will grow your skills more than 100 hellos. Gradually you will get better and better at conversation and they will become easier, more natural, and more enjoyable.
    The key is to start enjoying it. Otherwise you won't be able to sustain it. If you enjoy it there won't be any anxiety either.

  11. I love Leo in Vegas
    I love Leo in Vegas
    Aoki engages the crowd more, which is a nice touch. Most DJs don't acknowledge the crowd much. I felt more love from Aoki. His passion is contagious and impressive.
    I never drink.
    Never enjoyed clubbing. If it was up to me I would be at home chilling.
    I'm not above anything, since I am everything.
    Not inside the club.
    No vax pass.
    If you don't like the risk, stay out of the club. The rest of Vegas is under mask mandate.

  12. Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escort
    Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escort
    Of course do it!  Get yourself a 3-week vacation to Thailand.  Pattaya or Phuket.  You can find yourself a pretty girlfriend that you can have with you for the entire vacation.  You'll have the complete girl-friend experience.  It didn't fuck me up at all & I never regretted doing it.  No STDs. Nothing.  Just fond memories.  You can then come home and try again.  If it doesn't work out that year, go back to where your success is 100%.  Try again next year.
    If I didn't have a gf, I'd be going to Thailand twice a year and probably wouldn't bother with a local gf unless she was an absolute knock-out. 

  13. Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escort
    Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escort
    @flhugoboss I be fucking hoes in Pattaya every 2nd weekend and haven't had sex where I haven't payed. Anything wrong with me. Not that I can see. Everything okay. Game is for people who don't have money to pay for hoes. They need to always try to get it for free.

  14. Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escort
    Losing Virginity To A Hooker/escort
    Actually, I kind of support this idea.  As long as you can do it safely and the girl is cool and nice as to be positive to your self-esteem.  It will show you that sex isn't that big of a deal and you will stop thinking about it as much as you currently do.  You will not stop thinking about it though lol.  But, ironically sex will come much easier after you don't care as much about it.  Just don't get addicted to hookers, dawg. 
    Don't listen to all these goody two shoe, flacid weenars in here.  Just do it, trust me, mang.  I never give bad advice. 

  15. Being a virgin is fine
    Being a virgin is fine
    "Lost" my virginity to an escort during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic and I thought I was gonna die. It was the grossest, messiest, smelliest experience I had ever had and I did not nut one time, and it opened the Pandora's box for me paying escorts for sex. It feels great but the intimacy of being inside or on top or or under another person is the best part, not the sensation of your dick inside someone's pussy. But it always left me feeling empty and corrupt.
    It's not worth it, being a virgin is fine. Just don't tell anyone about it just like how you wouldn't share info about your 11th pinkie toe.

  16. 38 year old virgin. Suicidal. Depressed incel
    38 year old virgin. Suicidal. Depressed incel
    Seriously, look for an escort or something, you don't need to have sex with her. Pay one just to kiss her or something. This will boost your confidence and experience with women. I lost my virginity with a super cute 19 years old escort. Best experience ever.

  17. Should I Bother Myself With Pickup?
    Should I Bother Myself With Pickup?
    I love pickup. It completely turned my dating life around but fuck man it is a grind. Night after night of failure and rejection. That's what you're commiting to.
    But here's the catch: you're also committing to some of the most amazing adventures you'll ever have. You're committing to improving yourself in ways you would have never considered. You're committing to living in a state of mind that's more free than the average person. And of course you're commiting to hooking up with girls you would have never thought possible.
     
    Your choice.

  18. Is Pick Up Worth It?
    Is Pick Up Worth It?
    Then hire a prostitute/escort. They'll give you exactly what you need without all that "work". No shame in that, that's why they exist.

    If you don't have the money for it then you're gonna have to swallow your own bullshit, get off your ass and apply what I wrote before. Otherwise you become that loser who wants things to change but refuses to change himself.

    So what's it gonna be friend?

  19. The dark world of new age gurus
    The dark world of new age gurus
    @Peter Miklis Leo is one of the most immature spiritual leaders. His work seems to be helpful on the surface but eventually it will get people more lost and tricked. 
    Forget about all the beautiful realizations, insights, etc. If the source you get the truth from is not awake, you are simply shooting yourself in the foot. Why? When the source is unawake, even if he make good points, he is prone to make guiding mistakes that will backfire any progress do. He doesnt have the total divine vision to do such work yet. Its coming from his mind, Its only partial. 
    Contemplate this. You are asking how to live an awaken life from an unawake person. How much can you trust someone afraid of embodying what he teaches? 
    His ego is getting bigger and bigger each day, which means he is asleep as fuck. And it doesnt even matter how much 5 meo he does. He is trapped in his own net. 
    I am not hating on leo, but on his immaturity. He may have good intentions on helping out, but truth leadership doesnt work like that. And everyone here need to be ware of this, specially newbies. 
    Truth is not for smart or intellectual people. It is for courageous ones. It is a matter of courage vs fear. Leo doesnt have the courage yet. Life will eventually teach him to get some. 

  20. Billionaires & Jeff Bezos Wealth
    Billionaires & Jeff Bezos Wealth
    Look, bro, that is 0.00001% of people.
    Your average poor person is a racist, homophobe, bigot, ignoramus.
    When we talk about politics, we have to consider averages and lowest common denominators. Citing a few exceptional counter-examples is not smart here.

  21. Billionaires & Jeff Bezos Wealth
    Billionaires & Jeff Bezos Wealth
    Not as much as you'd think. Most poor people are stage Blue. They are easily fooled and misled by demagogues like Trump. Their fears are easily stoked. Their prejudices, closedmindedness, and ethnocentrism is easily exploited by charlatans and narcissists.

  22. Billionaires & Jeff Bezos Wealth
    Billionaires & Jeff Bezos Wealth
    Rich hold most of the power because they are smarter.
    Poor and middleclass folks tend to be ignorant, ideological, conservative, out of touch with politics, and not ambitious enough to do anything about it.

  23. Leo is losing and we are all fucked.
    Leo is losing and we are all fucked.
    Materialism is not an enemy of consciousness. Turquoise transcends and INCLUDES Orange.
    Amazon means you can get nonduality books in 2 days, which is awesome!
    Leo cannot lose because Leo is Jeff Bezos and everything else.

  24. Awakening possible while on SSRI ?
    Awakening possible while on SSRI ?
    So what this tells me is you got A LOT of work to do before anything like enlightenment will dawn. Probably years of work.
    That's okay, but what I mean is, you don't have to worry too much about enlightenment right now. Focus building up your meditation skills, psychoanalysis, yoga, etc. All of that will build up your foundation. At some point you should begin to slowly ween yourself off the medication and pursue the Truth full-bore.
    Enlightenment is about facing your own death. So you need to build yourself up to the point where you're not having panic attacks and you a ready to face ego dissolution. You are not going to be able to avoid facing death. That is the whole aim of enlightenment work. Enlightenment is all about facing your deepest fears and seeing through them with extraordinary levels of consciousness and concentration.
    Weening yourself off SSRI's will also allow you to play around with psychedelics -- which are one of the most effective tools for facing death and fear.

  25. How Much Work Is Too Much Work?
    How Much Work Is Too Much Work?
    Shoot for 40-50 hours per week.
    And take a 10 minutes break every 90 minutes at least.