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I had 5 cold approaches done. Terrible.
I had 5 cold approaches done. Terrible.Done 2 in lunch time, and 3 in the afternoon. The last 2 was on the open street, and the first 1 was with her friends.
Girl #1, I did basic approach, greeted and asked how are you while giving her my hand. Felt nervous but flipped that to excitement, and did mostly what I mentally rehearsed in my mind. She says fine, and my subconscious picks up she's not, from her face and body. Small talked about stuff in context, did a bunch of observation statements, escalated one moment by leaning in, giving a quick look down to her chest while in convo. Didn't get the signal I wanted, and smoothly ended the small talk with no number. Not that the number counted, I had the feeling the girl isn't right for me.
Girl # 2, same as girl #1, except when I began with observation first and god hand, she gave me a nasty look when I gave her a compliment. I did observation statement from that, and flipped it around to her in a funny way, in a question back like "Oh, maybe you don't like being cute? Do you prefer being called minty instead? I think it suits you better...and I like the plant way more ". That eased her off a bit, and the convo started and it turned wierd when I storied about myself with humour. When she asked me what I do, I told her I did gardening and cooking, and loved plants, and she reminded me of the mint, she asked why, and I mentioned it really prefered the stir fry instead of the oven. Somehow she was responding pretty well with that, and I managed to get her number, but I decided to delete it and move on, don't like it.
Girl #3 and #4, they were together. Yes, I managed to get both their numbers, because at this time I decided to go crazy with the non verbals and verbals, observation statements and atory telling to the ninth degree. However, 80% of that were lies, but I was surprised that I was successful in getting a stronger reaction from girl #4.
Girl # 5 I decided to be a little bit creepy and depressed a bit, to play the doomer game. I actually managed to pull this off too. No number, but I got a lot of sympathy from the girl, because i was careful in how I told her a story, with lots of ups and downs emotionally.
That's that. Only questions I have are where do you think I could and could've improved on my approaches? They were technically day games but the last two were at night.
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I'm confused: is pickup high or low consciousness?
I'm confused: is pickup high or low consciousness?The thing with pickup is that a lot of the times it's viewed as this low-consciousness endeavour. In many ways it is: chasing women is quite an animalistic thing to do in general. In particular, here is a list of things I find to be "low consciousness" about pickup, though there are definitely more things than this:
The fact that there are "games" that we need to play in order to communicate sexual attraction to women. I don't know how true this is, but it is true to an extent: women prefer aggressive assholes to dudes that are purely nice (if they had to pick between those two extremes). The ego-boosting that often comes with getting a lay. You're using concepts to make yourself feel like you're the absolute shit. At the same time though, I would say there are many high-consciousness attributes of pickup in general and even the pickup community in general. What I say about the pickup community isn't really based on extensive familiarity with it though, moreso just a few pickup youtube channels I've seen:
Facing social anxiety Being able to fully express who you are Learning to instantly connect with strangers Improvement of self-esteem - interestingly, maybe improvement of self-esteem and the "ego-boost" quality are two sides of the same coin, but one side is considered "high-consciousness" and the other low! I'm just baffled that pickup, considered to be low-consciousness by many, actually has many high-consciousness attributes. It's funny that a lot of pickup people on YouTube that I've seen basically say that the best part of pickup is the part where you're in a state of total self-expression. I've also heard this warning a lot that getting laid won't suddenly fix all your problems etc.
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I'm confused: is pickup high or low consciousness?
I'm confused: is pickup high or low consciousness?Hahaha
If only people knew of the 20 min BJs my wings get in bathrooms from girls with bfs.
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Is Actualized.org bad for average people?
Is Actualized.org bad for average people?Leo's content is (for the most part) great.
This forum is where the crazies gather.
If you are 17, you should focus on building a life for yourself.
Forget the hardcore spiritual stuff for now and just start with a simple meditation practice.
Build a strong fundament, focus on practical stuff.
Learn how to do basic things like cooking and cleaning.
Do some sort of physical activity an a regular basis.
Find out what do you want to do with your life - pursue a goal and see where it takes you
Become good at something. Grasp the financial aspect of life.
Learn how to think. Acquire a strong work ethic. Face your fears.
Get your sexual life in order - gather experience in that field.
Most importantly: Have fun. Go out. Socialize!
Thats what you should do in your 20's and sometimes even early 30's.
Add more spiritual stuff after you have built some sort of fundament!
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Benthino Massaro
Benthino Massarothat's mental. what a waste of 20 grand. can buy a tab of lsd for like $10. none of these guys are above anyone. matt kahn has started offering online "healing sessions" for $400 a pop. No one is worth that much money to talk on zoom for 30 minutes.
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Adventures In Vegas
Adventures In VegasThere is no clear dosage. It's a vape pen. You puff until you hit the right state.
DMT dosage also strongly depends on how deeply you inhale and hold it. So there is no way to quantify that.
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Need help for having successful dates
Need help for having successful datesMake a rule that when you get the urge to escalate but feel afraid she might rebuff you, just escalate anway.
Force yourself to do it as soon as the urge arises and despite any fear. If you feel fear, escalate! Force her to push you back.
And pay close attention to your urges. As a man you must be open and congruent about your desire. If you like her tits or ass, don't hide that. Own it. Wear your sexuality on your sleeve rather than trying to be proper. Accuse her of turning you on: "This is your fault."
If she rebuffs you, just dial it back a bit and retry in 5 mins.
Same mindset applies to leading. As soon as you get the urge to bounce, do it, even if you are afraid she will not comply. Handle non-compliance after it happens, not before.
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We all have unique genetics ....
We all have unique genetics ....Yeah, of course we did. Since you are unable to present any legit counter arguments to what I've written in my last 3 posts.
No, my preventative measure is to have a long term strategy for dealing with heavy metal exposure. I will try to design my life in such a way that will reasonably minimize the amount of heavy metals that I come in contact with.
So right now, I might not be able to go live in the mountains and install the most advanced water filtering system at my house. But I can stop eating salmon, I can start buying bottled water from the producer I trust the most, and I can rent an apartment a bit further away from the city centre or a highway.
I also plan to start doing regular heavy metal chelation periods at least once every few years once I am able to afford it.
All of that will definitely minimize my risks of getting my life randomly fucked up by heavy metal exposure while still not being too much of an inconvenience. The good thing about heavy metals is that they won't kill you over night so the only thing you really need to do is to not be lazy and myopic, and to take long-term preventative measures.
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Can a man-made computer become conscious?
Can a man-made computer become conscious?1) Truth is everywhere. You don't need to go in a cave.
2) I'm not basking in bliss 24/7. And I still have cravings. The level of consciousness necessary to be in constant bliss is very difficult to make constant. If you were able to reach that point then you probably would just live in a cave because no material pleasure could match it.
You will be lucky to glimpse Truth for a few minutes. Never mind making it your constant baseline state.
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Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching This
Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching ThisHehehe, sex of course.
Dates too. It's just rare to date in Vegas. Vegas is not a dating kinda town. In this town if you don't close same-night you ain't getting laid pretty much.
In a normal town most of your lays will come from numbers and dates. I actually prefer that to ONSs.
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I often give girls compliments on dress when I genuinely like their choice of dress. Girls wear cool stuff a lot in Vegas so this is easy.
BTW, I get 5-10 people stop me every night to compliment my dress. Dress well enough and girls will approach you. I've gotten makeouts simply from how I dress. And it's just a matter of time before it gets me a direct lay. Dress to kill.
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Why doesn't anyone I know care about consciousness and reality?
Why doesn't anyone I know care about consciousness and reality?Hahahahaha...
Yes!
Most people are like animals. Welcome to humanity.
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Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching This
Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching ThisMost girls in Vegas are in town for the weekend. Obviously most of them won't be becoming your girlfriend.
Oh, yeah? Do it then. Let's see how easy it is for you to pull a dime. You wouldn't even have the balls to approach her let alone fuck her.
You guys have endless excuses. Notice that. That's why you don't get laid.
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Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching This
Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching ThisDon't forget that guys are also going for the top 10% of girls.
Everyone is picky and trying to get the best mate they can land. Mating is competitive. Be willing to put in energy to compete, or get left with scraps.
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Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching This
Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching ThisYou become in the "top 10%" simply from leaving your fucking house and talking to girls. 90% of guys are too lazy to do that.
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Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching This
Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching ThisStop consuming disempowering shit when you are trying to succeed. It's like punching yourself in the nuts.
How come I am able to pull models from the club? I don't have a square jaw, hair, abs, and I am too cheap to buy women drinks, nevermind anything more than a drink.
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Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching This
Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching ThisThen again, if you got money you can also use it to get laid every night. Prostitutes in Vegas charge $500-$1000/hr.
But you won't get a quality girl that way.
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How is Warren Buffett still alive eating junk food daily?
How is Warren Buffett still alive eating junk food daily?Yeah I suspect there’s something to that.
I ate almost entirely garbage during the early years of my life. It did affect me but I still had no major health problems. Just minor things.
As I did more consciousness work though, it felt like certain foods and substances become unbearable to me.
It’s like low consciousness can only run on low consciousness fuel, and higher consciousness can only run on higher consciousness fuel.
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How is Warren Buffett still alive eating junk food daily?
How is Warren Buffett still alive eating junk food daily?Probably won't given my health.
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College and pickup as a life noob
College and pickup as a life noobI am a 20 years old college student in my junior year studying computer science.
The truth is that:
· I have no career skills (basic C++; console applications)
· I do not have social skills and am unable to have relationships of any kind so far (and have no friends)
· Have low self-esteem (though did sentence-stems work for 3 months from Six pillars of self-esteem)
· Sometimes I get quite depressed and get into a rot where I just watch YouTube (watch George Carlin) and eat cheese, berries, and honey (this happened then this semester started)
· Do not know how to talk (some times are better than others depending on my inner feelings).
I quit meditation after a year of practice when I was 17 or so (was too painful -pushed too far, but it works, definitely), and just now after 3 months (I did not technically quit but missed a few days)
I live in a dorm in a city of 539,000 citizens and every weekend go back home to the village where my parents live (20 citizens).
I notice myself being happier on those days when I talk to people more.
My motivation for studying has declined close to zero, but in the previous semester, I managed to get a scholarship of 125 EUR (for comparison my dorm costs 55 EUR a month). Moreover, I am studying for free and don’t work anywhere= have a lot of free time (I consider starting doing some unqualified work because I better go earn some money than watch YouTube and eat.)
I am unable to not pay attention to cute girls on the streets, I feel cravings for some sort of connection. Today a beautiful girl sat next to me said hey and asked me about what the lecturer was saying (and our body language was the same) – It triggered a feeling. (But I also noticed myself feeling that I am not enough and somehow unworthy of this girl- At this point, I thought that my mind is full of shit).
I assume that this is a reason why I am passionate about the topic of how the mind works and how to change it.
My question: Should I learn to socialize/ pickup during college or do something else like career skills? Maybe I can do both of these at the same time?
Honestly, I feel fake writing this because I feel close to zero motivation to do anything right now and it makes me sad. I need to change my mind, that’s for sure. And Vision.
Leo, do you still visualize the future to keep you motivated or do you motivate yourself in some other way? (This question is for everyone, I just wanted to get Leos attention )
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Is it really fair to call the Olympics a cult?
Is it really fair to call the Olympics a cult?It's especially bad with pro sports because to have a serious chance at competing you must start training as young as possible, well before the age of any reasonable consent.
With other professions, STEM, etc you don't need to start so young and you don't need to be so groomed into it. Those other professions are also not as competitive, they are more collaborative and creative. In sports you literally need to beat everyone else to succeed and all you get is a stupid medal and sponsorship money.
Kids are groomed into classical music this way too by parents.
It's the same reason why having sex with children is bad. Because the child doesn't have enough intelligence to say NO. The child isn't freely choosing it, he/she is being manipulated and pressured into it.
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Leo, about your retreats.
Leo, about your retreats.Def not.
When I would go to Shinzen Young's retreats I would just meditate by myself outside away from everyone else.
Then I realized, why the fuck am I not just doing my own solo retreats? And thus the solo retreat was born.
But you may be different. You may benefit from the structure and camaraderie of a group retreat.
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Can't Talk To Hot Girls
Can't Talk To Hot GirlsThe more you feel and think internally "this girl is a hot one" or "this one is different" the more it will f*ck you up. Thats what every normal dude does. They treat hot girls like they are angels from another dimenson.
It's best to see it the opposite way: the hotter the girl, the more normal the human you have to treat her.
Hot girls are used to needy guys putting off the energy and vibe towards them that "oh my god this girl is a 10 I would do anything to be with her".
So the less you give off that vibe, the more attractive you will be. The more you will stand out.
Leo said it great:
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HasanAbi - Hypocrite?
HasanAbi - Hypocrite?This tweet sums it up pretty well.
The reason Hasan doesn't have any cognitive dissonance is I don't think he really gives a fuck about the issues that much. He's just a fratbro who wanted to be famous and get money/women (which is understandable tbh) and found his lane by adopting leftism through his uncle Cenk
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Video games, social media, depression, girls?
Video games, social media, depression, girls?@Uncover Our culture these days is very toxic, materialistic, and dysfunctional. Video games contribute a lot to that. They ruin your ability to be do consciousness work quite badly. When your mind is addicted to mental stimulation, like video games, how can you sit and contemplate life? How can you meditate? How can you do yoga? How can you self-reflect? It will be too boring. Your mind will be craving easy entertainment like crack.
I would suggest you apply mindfulness to your video game habit and notice how ultimately unfulfilling it is. The pleasure is hollow. There's no real satisfaction to be had there. Even the very best video game gets boring and lame after a week or two. And then what are you left with? Boredom and suffering.
Start to notice this larger meta-pattern. That will help you to ween yourself off games. You are 22 years old. It's time to grow up. You should be focused 100% on building your life, your career, your skillset, your relationships, and developing your consciousness. The time for games is over.
Life IS the ultimate game! Master IT. The joys of mastering life are beyond anything any video game can offer you. But it's a mature kind of joy. Not the sugary joy of video games.
Try starting a daily meditation practice. Notice how difficult it will be for you.
As far as girls go, you need to expose yourself to massive experience with girls to fix that problem. Look into pickup, but be careful not to buy too much into the dogma. The key for you is to be going out every weekend and talking to lots of girls. That will auto-correct many issues as far as dating goes. Stop looking for 1 girl and start learning how to attract all girls in general.
