You are looking at it too seriously.
Go to a club and have fun. See what happens. Have no expectations.
Hot girls have lots of sex on a whim. It's not all about finding some ideal partner. Sometimes people are just horny and looking for an adventure.

Exactly.
Because you have too little experience with the sexual escapades of hot girls.
Girls conceal and lie about how much sex they have and how easily and quickly they have it. She doesn't want you to know she sucked some random dude's cock in the parking lot after talking to him for 30 minutes. Yet this happens all the time. Your innocent girl isn't as innocent as you imagine. Your blood would boil if you knew how much sex these girls are having without you and the kind of scumbags they do it with. I am mean total scumbags.

Move to a better city.

Your real issue is subcommunication. Your body language, how you carry yourself, the intent behind your actions, etc. Sexual intent must be subcommunicated. This is the core of solid game.
Watch RSD to learn the principles of proper man-woman subcommunication.

I try for 1st date but if she isn't ready then I just slow down and ease up until whenever she's ready.
Sometimes there are just logistical obstacles and sex cannot be had.
It's all about being adaptable to the circumstance. It's not hard to read her readiness level once you got a lot of experience.
And is that a kind of girl you want?
Screen, screen, screen early.

It's too low consciousness for me to want to read.
The most conscious people are the most selfless and therefore least interested in fighting or manipulating.
In a sense, consciousness makes you disinterested in struggling for survival. So the most conscious people are often the first to die. The most egotistical people are often the last to die because their entire existence revolves around avoiding death. Which is the whole function of the ego.
The power of high consciousness is not in that it gives you extra powers to avoid death, but rather the ultimate power: not being worried about death because you know it's an illusion.
If you are going to evaluate higher consciousness from the standpoint of survival, you are missing the point. Higher consciousness is an escape hatch from the game of survival.
In the domain of politics the most ruthless and power-hungry end up winning, because they are willing to crack any number of skulls to get what their ego desires. But in the end, all these people end up down-falling. Just look at Trump as a prime example. His massive ego allowed him to win, and also caused him to lose. That's precisely the trade-off with selfishness and deception. It works, but it only works in the short-term.
Precisely because women sleep with men who need sex the least.
Pickup guys, since they get so much sex, end up needing it the least. At least they need no girl in particular. And this ironically makes them the most attractive to girls.
Pickup guys are often addicted to sex, but the key difference is that they are not attached to sex with any one particular girl. Which makes them appear highly attractive from any one girl's POV. It works this way in sales too. The more options you have the more sales you will make and higher the price you can charge for your product.

Of course there is more getting girls. Those were just a few basic elements, oversimplified, not a comprehensive map.
Pickup boils down to: going out & being social frequently + playfulness + confidence + seduction + leading + handling logistics really well.
Sounds like you're seriously lacking in:
Communicating with sexual intent, man-to-woman communication Leading Handling logistics Not having those things in place will kill 95% of your results.
Leading and logistic are CRUCIAL for results. You can increase your results by 10x to 100x by mastering those two things. They are not easy to master.

Depends on how you define those terms. But generally yes as it tends to correlate to other things important for a woman's survival.

@Yali
Thats some excellent victim mentality. Value is so dependent on behaivor and charisma, from a girls perspective. Think of how women feel attracted to funny guys. Men devalue that too easily. And even when it comes to the looks, you can certainly do more than you believe. Posture, muscle growth, good skin (healthy, nutrient dense food) are all just examples how you can increase you "chad-ness". 
The ultimate attractor is when you feel unconditionally good about yourself and naturally radiate this feeling into the world. 

Women care more about your wardrobe than your dick.
It is necessary? No. But you'd be a fool not to grab such low-hanging fruit.
Lol
In other words, you got nothing to offer and even that which you could easily offer you are too lazy to do. Well, good luck fishing with an empty hook.

Low value guys are made, not born.

Strawman much?
If you truly were all these things you would not have problems getting girls.

1) Develop passion, via LP
2) Develop a Love for life, via spirirual awakening to Love
3) Develop charisma
4) Expose yourself to massive experience in socialization
5) Set the intention to become charismatic, passionate, and humorous no matter what, even if you don't know how.
Humor is an attitude more than a technique. Same with passion.

Learn attraction theory.
High value is relative to whatever women are naturally attracted to because it enhances their survival.
The opposite of a creepy, needy, scrub.

@Hello from Russia Well, she has to be open to it. Many girls are too sexually closed. You have to open her up emotionally.
The other problem is that it can simply be too physically taxing on you as the guy. So realistically you don't need so many orgasms.

I've never had that problem.
The hotter the girl the faster you will cum. Only natural.
Girls cum a lot more with high value guys too. If you develop your value really high, she'll be cumming for you like crazy.

They are different because your body does not have a natural craving for weed. But it does for sex.
You can ignore weed pretty easily. You cannot ignore sexual craving without massive development of your consciousness.
There is no clear line. Exquisite balance required.

Organic chemistry would probably be the most solid foundation, and then you could branch out from there.
Don't worry too much about exactly nailing down your end point. Just move in the general direction of what you love. The target will evolve as you gain experience.
Pscyhopharmacology sounds closest to what you want.
But remember, the most serious understanding is gained through independent study and experimentation, not any formal school or field.
Study whatever you care about now! Don't wait around for some program to one day teach it to you. Do it yourself! Go buy the textbooks and read them. You can buy any textbook.
And if you want to understand psychedelics, direct experience is king. It will put all the textbooks in the world to shame. Psychedelics are a taboo field in academia.

@Chris_Esoteric Follow your love.
Love is what leads you out of all the darkness and inaction.
Clarify what you love about reality and throw yourself into that. Things will start to auto-correct.
Life is about Love. The rest is horseshit.
There actually isn't anything else. Just the depth of your love.
Forget about Joker. It's horseshit.

@kras You are obviously coming off way too serious, and so she withholds sex because you made it too serious.
If you were playful and fun and unserious, she would have sex with you within 2 dates.
Don't set the boyfriend frame. Set the playful jerk frame.
Also, stop trying to logically get girls to have sex with you. You must seduce her.
When she gets in your car, you tell her something like, "I just wanna tear your cloths off", and you smile and switch topic to something else. Use your natural attraction to her to make her horny. But you are too afraid to do that. So she is cold to you. Women need to be warned up for sex. And not with logic or begging.

It's even worse when you realize he earned over $100 million in sales from his dating courses.
Unfortunately the self-help industry is infected with this attitude that you should charge people as much as humanly possible, and that you are not only entitled to do so but that if you don't do it, you're are hurting your clients by undervaluing your own work. This is some classic Tony Robbins stage Orange mindset which still runs through Eben, although the dude is otherwise very developed and conscious.
Unfortunately the ideology of capitalism is not so easy to uproot.
Anyone associated with the Tony Robbins crew or mainstream self-help will have this attitude: Upsell, upsell, upsell at all costs. It's just how they do business.

Cause everyone is horny like a dog. Surprise!
You really thought it was just you?? Lol
The day you are able to never have another sexual craving again, is the day you will understand why sexual abuse is so widespread.

Don't bullshit me. Being bald is certainly a disadvantage in dating hot women. Don't use this as an excuse. You can still date hot women while bald. But it's harder. You will have to have better game.
1) Although I am very introverted I really enjoy deep intimate relationships. It's a bit of a paradox, but not really. Introverts like few relationships but they are deeper. We trade off breadth for depth.
So while you may think that I don't go deep with intimacy, the opposite is the case. When I'm with a girl, I give her my full attention because I don't scatter my social energy around in 50 different ways. And I'm not with a girl often so it feels much more special.
2) As an introvert you need to make plenty of space for alone time. Don't constantly be together for long periods of time.
3) Dating an introvert is helpful because she too will appreciate her space and alone time and she won't be interested in highly social activities like clubbing or partying. Two deep introverts can make for a great combo. And there are plenty of introverted girls.

You're not quite seeing how radical Self-Love is.
ANYTHING you do, is Self-Love.
If you murder your family, that is Self-Love.
Love is unlimited and you cannot ever fail it. Develop the courage to stop judging yourself, others, and reality. That's true Self-Love. Anything less would be ego. Which is also Self-Love.
How would you act if you knew you were loved under all choices and circumstances? THAT is liberation. Anything less is slavery.

Trust me, once you earn $1 million, you will no longer be satisfied with living on $40k year.
$1 mil is not as much money as you think.
What are you gonna do on those years when the market crashes? You gonna be selling your stock as half value just to get your $40k?
To me financial independence means that your income doesn't come from a boss who controls how much you can make, and if you earn enough to pay all your bills and have some left over for cushion.