Yali

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  1. How do I come off as non-needy?
    How do I come off as non-needy?
    Of course normal dating will yield more relationships. But also normal dating is very low volume. You get a date once in a blue moon.
    If you want to do normie dating, go ahead. But you will be in such scarcity, so needy, and the quality of girls you get will be meh, and when your girl breaks up with you, you will want to kill yourself because you know you will not get a new one for years.
    It also depends on how social you are. If you're highly social without doing pickup, then you will naturally have decent dating opportunities. But most guys are not that social so they are screwed.
    You have to decide how much abundance you want in your life. Most guys sleep with less than 10 girls in their entire life and the quality is meh. You also have to decide how high of quality of girl you want. If your standards are very low then you can be much more lazy about this whole thing.
    It's also a question of how good do you want to be with girls? How much do you want to grow yourself as a man? Normal dating doesn't really grow you because it's too infrequent and random.
    Your neediness for a girl's love will turn off most girls and make them run away from you towards a guy who doesn't give a shit. So even those few girls you manage to date once in a blue moon, they will likely lose attraction for you and break your heart because you're going to be the biggest classic "nice guy".

  2. First girl I pulled making me consider relationship
    First girl I pulled making me consider relationship
    That's the devil of pickup.
    There is a tradeoff between growing with relationships vs growing your game.
    If you seriously want to build your game you have to say no to relationships for at least a few years. But then again, if you find an awesome girl, it may be worth it to do a relationship.
    I am not telling you what to do. The choice is yours. But the combo of a really well-matched and pretty girl is rare, so don't throw that away when you stumble upon it.

  3. Does Leo believe in re-incarnation?
    Does Leo believe in re-incarnation?
    At the highest level of consciousness even reincarnation is imaginary because you are imagining the past and the future.
    At the highest level of consciousness death simply never occurs, so reincarnation becomes moot.

  4. Is It Worth Reading Philosophy?
    Is It Worth Reading Philosophy?
    I find it of little value reading philosophers original works. Read a summary of their key ideas. Most of their ideas are quite bad and deeply misguided. You could spend a decade or more sifting through that dung pile and not come out of it any more developed than when you started.

  5. Casual Sex and Pregnancy
    Casual Sex and Pregnancy
    If you are starting pickup you will be banging so rarely it's not an issue.
    If you get to expert level, then get a vesectomy.

  6. Leo featured in suicide cult article
    Leo featured in suicide cult article
    @Leo Gura 

    Hi Leo, just out of curiosity which of your "teachings" is it you think I don't like?

    I have been ultra-specific about the things you have said I take issue with, in all cases I have provided quotes straight from the horses mouth of you actually saying them, and none of them was related to any particular teaching. In reality what these criticisms were leveled at was your delusional utterances around abilities you gained from taking 5 MEO DMT, and those criticisms have held up AMAZINGLY well.
    Since you bring up the topic of mental gymnastics then I would invite you to look in the mirror. Rather than labeling those you disagree with as trolls, and fantasizing backstories about how they hate the teachings, wouldn't it just be easier and more courageous to simply acknowledge that on occasion you have said some things you shouldn't? That maybe there actually has been some really toxic shitty behaviour on these forums, and that when people bring these issues up then maybe they have a point? Doesn't that sound like a more mature approach than just having a tantrum and calling people trolls?

    Sure, I get that its easier to invent some grandiose narrative about someone who "HATES THE TEACHINGS!!!", but I think we both know that's complete bollocks don't we. Its really simple - you said some shit, you got called out on it, and you don't like that. No overarching story line of hate required. 
    So yeah - mental gymnastics and personal attacks, that's you in a nutshell mate ?. 

    I can, and have, backed up EVERY SINGLE criticism I make, whereas you just pull labels like "troll" and "hate" out of your arse because (when it comes to these criticisms) you do not have a logical or rational leg to stand on. I get that its an easier way of dealing with things, but its really fucking lazy, and certainly not what I would expect from such a well integrated, radically open minded, truth-seeker like you ?

  7. Leo featured in suicide cult article
    Leo featured in suicide cult article
    They seem delusional to you because you fundamentally don't understand how spirituality works. So you lack a larger context for some of the radical things I have said. That which your mind cannot fathom, that which is beyond your direct experience, you call "delusional" because that's the only way your mind knows how to make sense of reality.
    You also are not taking into account the raw nature of my awakening reports. Things are reported as they occurred for me without polishing them up for critics and the spiritually clueless. There is a difference between a formal teaching vs a report of profound awakenings happening as I go through the process and describe the process as it feels and occurs for me while in the midst of it. It's the difference between talking about WW2 as a historian in a university vs being in the front lines of WW2 with bombs falling on your head. You have taken some of my most radical awakenings and experiments in consciousness -- which you have no intellectual understanding of -- and made a mockery of them.
    I have watched your criticisms of my work, and it is based on some basic misunderstandings of how spirituality works.
    Anyways, the sum total body of my work speaks for itself. I feel no need to justify or defend it.
    Not really. The behavior on this forum is not out of line for how online forums work, or for how the internet as a whole works.
    We do a lot of moderation to stop toxic behavior here.
    You have to learn to make your own decisions in life. I am not the CEO of your life, you are. And until you start taking responsibility for being the CEO of your life you will continue to suffer not just at my hands but the hands of many other humans who you give your authority away to.
    The thing is, you don't want to take this responsibility. You want someone like me to tell you what to do in life. So you can just paint by numbers. Well... that's not how a good life is created.
    I would tell you to go walk off a cliff -- just so you stop following my words blindly -- but I'm afraid you might take me seriously.

  8. How headphones ruined my life
    How headphones ruined my life
    That really sucks man. Seems a bit similar to people who get tinnitus.
    Yeah, listening to 10hrs of music per day is way too much. My mind would get numb from that much music. I wear ear plugs a lot just to get deep silence even there is no significant noise around me.
    You shouldn't listen to more than a few hours of music per day. And even then, you need to take days off from music or it loses itself specialness.

  9. How can one trust the insights received from man made chemicals?
    How can one trust the insights received from man made chemicals?
    Nothing will awaken you like synthetic 5-MeO-DMT.
    Watch out for that naturalistic fallacy.

  10. Night Game - What are good openers?
    Night Game - What are good openers?
    Well, I have struggled with chronic fatigue a lot. Yeah, it definitely will hold back your game, but not just your game, your whole life.
    If I didn't have chronic fatigue I would get laid WAY more. I would also earn millions more. Tough shit. Life requires energy.

  11. Night Game - What are good openers?
    Night Game - What are good openers?
    The answer to that question is the heart of game. The answer cannot be told to you, you must learn it by doing it.
    There isn't any algorithmic way to follow up. You must be so in the zone that you say whatever comes to your mind and amuses you, and whatever matches your sexual intent towards the girl you are speaking to. In other words, your follow-up cannot be some canned lines, it must be genuine and improvisational.
    Usually the best follow-up is not interview style questions but just fun shit-talking.
    Here's an example:
    A girl is walking out of the restroom at the club. I tap her on the shoulder, smile, and say, "I love you." She gives me a face like she is turned off. I calibrate to that and say, "Hey, come here a second. Did you just take a giant shit in there? That turns me on. You should go back in there and take a video of yourself taking a giant shit and send it to me." I say this in way where it's obvious I'm teasing her. Her face changes, now she's interested in talking to me. So I pull her in physically and talk with her about other random stupid shit. This is not a routine I run. This is a spontaneous response generated on-the-fly to a particular situation.
    Basically, your conversations have to be fun and random. Nothing serious. Nothing logical. Mostly it's flirting and shit-talk.
    Your follow up has to be congruent with how you feel in the moment and your intent towards her. For example, if I see a girl I really like, I might just walk up to her, take her by the hand, and say, "OMG, you are fucking adorable. Come here..." and give her a genuine hug. Then stare in her eyes and hold her by the waist.  This is not done as some "routine" or planned line. It's a fully authentic expression of my attraction towards her, specifically her, in that moment. It's calibrated to her and to my own internal state. I am also reading her face and body to gauge how open she is to me. If she recoils, I will back off. If she is open then I will escalate further. The verbals comes spontaneously, not pre-meditated.
    Your follow ups have to be improvisational. This is the hardest and most important part of game to learn. You learn it by lots of trail and error.
    A good way to practice this is to open with a very simple opener and then force yourself not to ask her any questions and instead make statements about her. Talk to her without needing her to give you material. Also, you need to come from a fun, positive, emotional state, not a logical state. So put yourself into the proper state first before talking.
    When you are in the right state, verbals become effortless and fun. When you are in the wrong state, your verbals are logical and awful.

  12. Night Game - What are good openers?
    Night Game - What are good openers?
    me neither but i'm too tired way too often.
    for example yesterday i went out and it was fun, talked to a lot of women, made out etc.
    went out tonight again but was too tired and not feeling it at all, also wasn't fun tonight really. it was ok-ish

  13. Night Game - What are good openers?
    Night Game - What are good openers?
    I have a long time ago ocassionally, but not recently.
    Mondafinil doesn't really solve chronic fatigue. It's a temporary boost.
    To game well I have to be well-rested. I can't game when I am too tired or sleepy. My state is just too off.

  14. Leo, should I pursue enlightenment first or dating first?
    Leo, should I pursue enlightenment first or dating first?
    Handle your basic human needs first. Unless you want to be a monk.

  15. Night Game - What are good openers?
    Night Game - What are good openers?
    1) Approaching and getting blown out
    2) Shit talking with wings
    3) Dancing & listening to good music
    4) DMT
    5) Going out consistently, building up momentum
    6) Getting present and enjoying the environment, getting very calm in my body
    7) Not thinking. Stop planning your approaches, stop thinking about "What am I going to say?"
    8) Using funny, obnoxious, and absurd lines like: "Hi, I'm a douche bag. You should meet me." And in general just inventing new funny things to say to girls.

  16. What's is the fastest shortcut to not reincarnate as human again?
    What's is the fastest shortcut to not reincarnate as human again?
    An important part of many Theravada teachings that remain today highlight the idea that no longer incarnating at all is superior to heavenly or supremely pleasurable incarnations. Sure, the story goes that these higher incarnations are in ways better than being human, but they all involve suffering to some degree whereas parinibbana is essentially the ceasing of incarnation altogether which leaves no room for pleasure or suffering. To some, this can sound bleak, but I will say that going through cessation shows why many highly developed spiritual people have viewed no further incarnation as better than even the most heavenly and transcendent of incarnations. 
     
    IMO, no one has a clue about what is going to come even in the next instant. The idea that one does know is a tricky illusion. Creating hollow beliefs of what comes after death seems like a waste of time to me. Enjoy this as much as you can. What comes next is a mystery. Hell, even this is infinitely mysterious. 

  17. How do you accept the unfairness of life?
    How do you accept the unfairness of life?
    Well it 'sucks' while you're going through the process, but you kind of just have to accept it and move on and make the most of what you do have. Accept that somehow you ended up on a hard mode. You could think of it as extra fire for the purification process so to speak. 
    "If you have suffered, your life has been forged in fire. If you are still suffering, it is because you do not fully see what the fire has forged, only what it has taken from you." - Teal Swan

  18. 54% of Americans read below a sixth grade level. 21% are functionally illiterate
    54% of Americans read below a sixth grade level. 21% are functionally illiterate
    46% of Americans read above a 6th grade level, and 79% are literate. I think those are great numbers. Compared to where we were just a few decades ago. Perspective is a game changer. 


  19. Unable to Love, but I’d Love to
    Unable to Love, but I’d Love to
    I don't particularly feel a deep love for people. People are pretty huge pains in the ass.
    Some people are people people and others are not.  Your love might be more universal and should be expressed in ways that are not one to one.
    Then again, don't turn this into a crutch. Explore deep intimacy with a few select people and use that to open yourself up to loving people more. Or psychedelics can do that for you.
    Overly flowery love for people is usually paper thin and doesn't hold under survival pressures. As soon as you do the wrong thing those flowery lovey-dovey people get all pissy.

  20. Leo featured in suicide cult article
    Leo featured in suicide cult article
    He was banned years ago.
    He is unsufferabley dense and egotistical.

  21. Building Muscle = Ego?
    Building Muscle = Ego?
    Currently nothing because I have a serious stomach disorder that makes it very painful for me to eat anything. So I conserve calories as much as possible.
    Once that's healed I will be doing jogging, weightlifting, and maybe I'll buy a bike.

  22. Building Muscle = Ego?
    Building Muscle = Ego?
    Dudez, I've done bodybuilding. Don't bullshit me about why you're doing it. I know exactly why you're doing it. It's vanity.
    But if you enjoy it, knock yourselves out.

  23. NN DMT vs 5MeO DMT
    NN DMT vs 5MeO DMT
    God is an Infinite Mind. This Mind imagines reality. There is no distance, boundary, or seperation between God and whatever it imagines.
    God is you imagining a universe.
    You are Infinity. Infinity is dreaming.

  24. Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    Yup. And apparently there’s something like a two year waitlist, so you better start applying now.
    For all the poor peasants who can’t afford that, you can join his “inner circle” platinum group for around 100k a year. Includes I believe a couple vacations and a stay at Tony’s hotel in Fiji.
    For those who think I’m bullshitting:
    https://www.inc.com/magazine/201610/most-confident-man-tony-robbins.html

    So now here’s the relevant question to this thread: Does that mean Tony Robbins is a grifty cult leader?
    I’d say it depends on how we’re going to make the distinction of what a “cult” is or isn’t.
    I mean clearly he’s not running a suicide cult. I went to UPW and I think I could argue it helped me make some changes I wanted to make.
    But then again, there’s clearly an inner circle that pays to be close to the guru. And they all believe pretty much the same things and have a group narrative that keeps them in paradigm lock.
    But then again, all groups have that. And Tony has a tremendous record of apparently being ethical. In his 40+ years of working with thousands of people, only a few allegations have been levied against him, and even those have been largely dismissed. He seems to genuinely love his family and want to do good in the world.
    But then again again, isn’t he just exploiting emotionally vulnerable people who will pay to hear an uplifting message? He says he wants the money to be President, but does he really need a hotel in Fiji to be President?
    I hope anyone reading this is appreciating how difficult these questions are. It’s just not a simple as EVIL CULT LEADER or HEROIC GOOD GUY. Nope. In fact, sometimes they might even be the same person.

  25. Girlfriend is Very Attracted to Rock Star. Concert this Month
    Girlfriend is Very Attracted to Rock Star. Concert this Month
    Just fuck her real good and don't worry about it.
    Focus your mind on that which you can control.
    When you are fucking her, make her say, "My pussy belongs to you. Nobody will ever fuck my pussy like you."
    Pull out of her and don't fuck her until she says it. Then fuck her brains out after she says it.
    Keep doing that. She will fall in love with you real hard.