melinda123

Update again: OK so my ex texted me tonight. It has been 2 weeks since we broke up and tonight he texted me this: ”Hi, how are you? I’m sorry if I made you upset when I blocked you on snapchat, it was for my own best. No harm meant☺️” I haven’t answer him yet and I don’t know if I should? I mean, he didn’t say in the text that he wants me back and that’s what I want. I feel like when he just asks me how I’m doing he just wants to see if I’m still there waiting for him. I want to show him that I am not a toy and that I actually am strong. Should I answer him or wait and see if he text me again?

Thank you for a good answer! I still want him back abviously so that block was frustrating.. I have never done any harm on him except being the absolute best part of myself and that was hard on him because he used to say that I’m so much better than him and deserve so much more. Guess that’s true.

Okey, UPDATE; HE BLOCKED ME ON SNAPCHAT!?!?! Why?? Haven’t contacted him even once since we broke up one week ago and he blockes me? Explain to me please..

So how do you do if you really want to be with a guy that’s not ready for a relationship? Are you just fine with being together and not focusing on other persons and just on each other or how does it work??

Both me and my ex have a high social status and many people around us, both women and men. No difficulty for any of us to attract other people to be honest. We have never had problems with jealousy in our relationship, not from any of our sides. A little jealousy has been there but not that we have had any problems with it.

Well Yes, he's afraid.. But is the depression because of the relationship? Or is the relationship damaged because of his depression? He has been depressed before, years ago and he has been very afraid to become depressed again, and now that is exactly what happened to him. My curator told me that depression makes people find reasons for the depression so they can feel some relief that they have find what they think their problem is, so they can ''get rid'' of that problem, but then it appears that the reason they thought was for the depression wasn't actually the big problem. It appeared for me recently that he's been using drugs now and then, but only when he is with certain friends. I was absolutely not OK with that and when he told me I got very upset. He said that he couldn't promise that it wouldn't happen again, because then I'll just get hurt. He is not mature yet, I know. But is there anything I could have done to change it? Didn't put so much energy into having a relationship for example, and just accepting that it was us and not making a big deal with it? Thank you for your answers.

I'm 20 years old and I live in Sweden. Me and my ''boyfriend'' (he is 23 yeas old) broke last sunday, for the second time, and I have so much thoughts going on.. Me and this guy started dating for about a year ago now, in May 2018. We started out with meeting and having sex because he told me that he didn't want a relationship because he always fucks it up. He is (or was) a real party-guy and was seen everywhere at the club. I told him that I agreed with him but honestly my goal was to get him as my boyfriend, wish I succeed with in a few moths. In August we said that we were a couple. We did many things together and I got really close with his family. He had just got an apartment that we moved in to together. We talked about the future and he said that I was the first person who made him think about having kids, and he said many times that he wanted to be with me in the future. Everything has been really good between us until November/December when he started to get feelings that made him doubt on us, which he didn't talk about with me. On New Years Eve we celebrated together and I noticed that he wasn't himself, he seemed sad and down. I tried to make him happy but the more I tried the worse he got and after we had dinner he just got up from the table and left. He said ''I'm sorry, I can't do this'' and just left. I didn't understand and I got so sad. Left on New Years Eve with no explanation at all. I went home to my moms house and was all alone the rest off the night, so sad and heartbroken. We had contact for about 3-4 days after that and tried to meet once but it ended up with a break-up. He said it was because he had a bad feeling inside that told him that it wasn't right and he felt pressure on showing feelings and live up to expectations and also that I deserve better. I was sooo sad and cried every day for a month. The first days after the break-up I texted him (I know that was stupid and meaningless) and told him him much I wanted to be with him and so on. But after about one week I realized that it was useless and I stopped texting him and we had no contact at all for about 3 weeks. Then one day we met at each other outside the grocery store. I was driving thought in my car so I waved to him and smiled and just drove by. After two minutes he texted me and wrote ''Are you going somewhere?''. I answered and after some texts he wrote that he wanted to meet, and talk. So we did! He wanted to try again because he missed me so much and couldn't stop thinking of me, he said. So we started to meet again because that was exactly what I wanted. But we had to take it slowly he said, because he wasn't stabil in his mind and he had been very depressed and he had even met a psychologist once during our break-up. Everything was great at the beginning, and for the first time after we got together he told me that he loved me, which he had never told me before. I was so happy and it felt so good. But then after a while the same thing started to happen, but this time he was more open and talked with me about it. We tried to make it work and find ways to fix it but after some weeks he just collapsed. He got deep in to a depression and blamed on the relationship. He think the relationship is the problem because of all the exceptions that he couldn't live up to and that he didn't feel like himself anymore. I did everything I could to help him, I called many numbers to get him a pscycologist but everyone I called was busy and had no time. But about a week ago he met a doctor who gave him antidepressants and he has now been eating those pills for about a week and during this week we have barely talked, he sent me a few text message where we asked me if I was OK and he updated me on what he was doing. Nothing special at all and the conversation died really quick. Yesterday he called me and we decided to break up, again. The reason for the brake up is because he felt that he can't get healthy again and at the same time having a relationship that he can't take care of. That decision we took was not what I wanted but I feel that maybe that was what had to happen right now. Our relationship wasn't healthy in the end because of him. He said in out last call that I'm a wonderful person and he hates that it had to end up like this. He also told me to get my stuff from his apartment and then leave the key in the mailbox. I asked him if he didn't want to say goodbye in person but he said that he didn't see it as a goodbye and that we probably will meet again some day (at the club or something). I told him that I could never meet him and just be friends, and he agreed and said ''Maybe we can sleep together some day and make no big deal of it? If that would feel OK for you?''. I didn't know what to answer that to be honest. Anyway, the same night I went over to his apartment and took all of my stuff and leaved the key to his sister. Now I sit here and wish that in some way it will be us again. I believe in us and I still see him in my future. What should I do? I'll ignore him because I know writing and calling him won't make any difference. What do you think when you read about the whole situation? What can I do and what is he really thinking/what is his problem? I really, really want to be with him and I don't feel like it's the end yet..