It’s a long and complicated story but short story is: we got married and tried to blend two families with disastrous results. I take my responsibility so it as I failed to cope with his very overbearing and histrionic daughter with little to no support from him. We were never a solid force and as a result it crumbled badly. We were also codependent especially him as he needed me so much and I had been so independent that I didn’t need him as much.
BUT he is a great person and I enjoy him so even though I’ve left and bought my own house we have tried again and again to get back together. Each time it’s passionate in the beginning then his neediness together with my unresolved issues from the past - rejection and abandonment issues (that fueled my leaving) get in the way and bang it’s over. Each time he is devastated and goes through tremendous depression.
i bring my own codependent issues as I fear being alone and he is great company and we do have fun. SO I had been working on myself with all Leo’s help and so much came to the surface. I realise that it’s all me and I take 100% responsibility for the marriage failing and the consequencial getting together and breaking up again (possibly 5 times now). However I had a semi episode where my emotions took over and I thought he had moved on. I contacted him again asking for one more chance to fix it. We met, he looked broken but we agreeed that this is it - the last chance.
I think I’ve fucked up. I don’t believe I should have suggested it and I think I am holding him to ransom. My question is do you think a relationship like this can be fixed? Or is it doomed and we should let it go? I just know if it goes wrong it will break him as he does no inner work on himself at all.
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