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@integral I see your point and I do agree totally with what you saying. Everyone's been accumulating the free wisdom available. It is available for all, not just me. Just I wouldn't like the job of telling someone if he hasn't accumulated enough. Not my job. This scenario is just for my friends/family. Try to give unsolicited advice to your family or friends and then sit there and see why you shouldn't have done that. It's ugly. (sorry for this unorganized reply, I couldn't delete the other paragraph.)

This. is. it. I couldn't agree more. A very good metaphorical answer. Thanks.

Leo / actualized.org or any other spiritual teacher/book get something in return. Me, nothing. I think I reached closer to my answer. Advice never who never asked for it.

Make sense. Thanks for getting.

Just don't comment. Don't beat me with the statement. This was a very immature reply. You just can't tell people this. Thanks for your patience, anyway.

This actually kinda made sense. AHHHHH, I think I only have this problem with friends who are closed to me. Lets say.... If you are my casual friend, I wouldn't mind helping you and giving you advise, because I don't see you everyday. You go your own way. I go my own. But close friends, no.

I don't want. This is it. I don't want every single one of my friend watching, reading and doing the same stuff I do. To be honest, I wouldn't like seeing my friends here in this forum. I just don't know why. Not everyone is like that. Imagine, hypothetically speaking all your local friends are here with you. Would you like it. Would you be more open? Would you talk about women/sex/pick up? Maybe no. I wouldn't even entertain this thought.

Actualized.org is just an example. Me sharing my insights with people is me letting them closer to me, and that's what I don't like. Let them discover things for themselves. I just thought about this while replying you.

I think you didn't get what I am actually saying. I don't want to charge people. In a nutshell, Never give advice when it's not asked. And keep your hard earned insights don't be charitable about it when you are not making business out of it.

If you are my friend, and I tell you, "Hey buddy, there is a YouTube channel called Actualized.org. Go check it. You will love it." And from now on, all you talk about is Actualized.org and you telling this and that about it. I will be like shit, I shouldn't have told you about this. I know it's all about my ego. But if something is dear to me, I would not like sharing with even my brother. Sad! I just want them to figure things out for themselves.

With this logic, our lives are full of advices and experiences. I just couldn't control giving unsolicited advices. I think nobody wants that as well. All I am saying is that, I couldn't control giving people advices which at the same time, I was feeling like I shouldn't be giving advices. Because it's non of my business.

I am planning to do that when it's my business and earning something valuables in return. I heard someone saying, "Only give advice to someone if you are getting something in return." Leo is a good example, He wouldn't be giving us free advices if he was not earning something in return. Simple, he gives advices and get Benjamins in return. Very healthy!

And guys, I also hate it when I recommend something to my friends let's say Actualized.org and tell them it's a good channel. Then... if I hear them saying, that the it is the best channel and talk to me about it. I am like who told you to recommend this him/her. I feel like, I hate giving/recommend people something that is dear to me. Do you guys here also feel like that?

I still can't swallow this bitter pill that I have ego. Online people doesn't count. You guys are not a part of my life. We wouldn't even meet for the rest of my life.

This is precisely what I will do in the future.

I don't even like seeing them succeed. I never receive advice from anyone. Then why should I give unsolicited advice to people.

Yeah unfortunately I do think like that of myself. I just don't know, I kinda am problem fixer. When I see a problem when someone has, I just give the best solution. This is what I want to stop. I start giving them advise like they are my kids. I wont anymore.

Like the guy above said, I from now wouldn't like sharing my hard earned insights with everyone I meet. I just want to stop giving any advice. Why should I convince them. I don't care, non of my business. They are not my kids.

How much time does it take to heal from Trauma?

Pick up almost ruined my life tbh. I am lucky enough to immediately avoid all it's non-sense creepy/sociopathic and uncompassionate behavior. God... pick up (unconscious pick up) can damage peoples' lives. Guys careful!

This "Let's fuck it" culture is so widespread in young adults. This is certainly not the way. It's sweeping the problem under the rug. Very good point. Hope you get well with your back brother.

@Mu_ Yeah your answer focuses more on the knowledge part, rather than the work. I guess awareness is more curative than any other practical work when it comes to healing trauma. Telling you from my experience. Bravery in all domains of life. Exclusion of confusion, low self-esteem, fear, neuroticism and relationship problems from ones skin. That's how a healed mind and body would look like.

Go through this beautiful thread at least once. So many insights here. From Leo and us all. And wait for Leo. He is brewing some related content for us in the future soon. Probably his next video.

Dude here are some tips: 1. Try not to approach when there are two girls. Stop that. 2. Dont ask for her number right of the bat. That's too direct. It's like telling her, "put your number down and will hook up tonight". 3. Don't complement her like that. Start that later in the conversation. Let her not feeling you are picking her up the first few minutes. You should have added: ME: Why do you think I am not cute enough? (Make it humorous). Don't beat yourself yo death. You are going to learn it through rejections. JUST BE CHILL AND HUMOROUS