DanTheLurker

+ 1 to what Leo said. Your intentions are good though. I did exactly what you're doing right now, but I found that level of strictness would only benefit a bodybuilder getting stage ready. You will get 90% percent of the same results (I speak from experience and yearly bloodwork) by just focusing on hitting your protein intake and calories everyday while eating 80% healthy food and leaving 20% for whatever else you want. While the current approach may get you results, it will also get you stressed out, unable to enjoy social activities, or give in to the occasional craving. If you follow the 80/20 approach and watch out for your protein and calorie intake, the rest will take care of itself.

I was just curious if you are still sticking to the 1hr per day meditation practice that I've heard you speak about years ago, and if not, how it changed over the years since then. Hoping you'll see this question. I think others might be interested as well. Thank you, - Dan

I'm a philosophy major. Can confirm that he's grossly overrated (like all more modern philosophers). It's seriously a waste of life if you study him seriously. I had brilliant university professors (in terms of intelligence and apptitude) that made it their whole career to dissect and analyze Kant's work. Such wasted potential and intelligence in my opinion. Ancient philosophers were better (again in my opinion) because they lived what they preached and had no epistemic foundations for reality. We take that as a given (and truth) today. They were living in a groundless universe with no one to ask what's actually going on. They deserve much more credit than Kant.

In my opinion, there is no reason why small businesses wouldn't be on TikTok / YT Shorts / Instagram Reels if they are already putting out long-form content. If Leo for example got someone to cut up sections of his videos and make short-form content from them for TikTok/ YT Shorts / Instagram, he would inject some high-quality stuff onto those platforms, attract the ones that are watching personal development content, and maybe also save a few poor souls (by at least having some high-quality content to watch if they are already there). Back in the early days of youtube, your subscribers would see your every new upload in their feed. Now YT has limited the reach of long-form content so much that even if you are a subscriber YOU CAN ALMOST NEVER SEE THE NEW UPLOADS in your feed. These are just the rules of the game right now. I don't like this short-form content one bit. But I can hate the rules and still play the game and win. That's what more and more small and big businesses, coaches, consultants, and other professionals are seeing right now. This is where the market is headed. I don't know if we can do something about it.

That's what I did in the past as well until I learned that water flossing after brushing your teeth washes away the fluoride from the toothpaste that you just applied. So it's actually best to brush after using the water flosser, not before. Also, what applies to the water pic also applies to mouthwash.

Based on Leo's latest blog post I am compiling a list of good teachers to learn from for basic self-development concepts, unlike the very advanced concepts that Leo covers. Basically, this should answer the question: "For advanced stuff, I go to Leo, but for more basic stuff what are the good teachers to learn from?". Please feel free to add to the list I compiled so far: Jim Rohn Tony Robbins Brian Tracy Jack Canfield Stephen Covey Dale Carnegie Napoleon Hill ?Wallace D. Wattles? Bob Proctor Tim Ferriss Cal Newport Dr. Wayne Dyer John C. Maxwell Gary Keller I am going to update the list with your additions. Thanks,

I would appreciate your input on the following problem, because I currently feel very stuck. I work from afternoon until midnight Monday to Friday at my job and also work one weekend day IN my business, as well as all extra time I have during the week ON my business. My girlfriend also works a lot since she occupies two different important job roles at her workplace. She sometimes has weeks where she works dusk till midnight from Monday to Sunday, some weeks where there is not much to do (but these are very rare) and weeks where it's somewhere in between, but she always works weekends and never knows if she is gonna be home by midnight. She knows she works much more than the average person but she loves what she does even thogh it's taking time from other things. I want to prevent our relationship to becoming platonic or "buddy" like due to us not being able to go on dates. I already feel it kinda is becoming like that and this I think is the main factor contributing to that, that we have conflicting schedules. Neither of us is at a point where we can let go of one or the other. We know it's just a phase, a chapter that is going to balance out, but I don't want our relationship to become a sexless one or one where we don't spend time as a couple even in the short term because that's not really a couple and I don't think I could mentally cope with that. So... what would you do if you were in my place? We tried going on lunch dates but that's not nearly as intimate and feels more like a business meeting since people usually have lunch break around that time or have business meetings. When we get home after the lunch date the sun is shining brightly outside and you don't really feel like opening a bottle of wine and pretend it's as sexy of a mood as having dimly lit lights and just you and your spouse. So because it doesn't feel right we just resume our normal day to day activities after that. We do have spontaneous sex but it's more so as if we do it because we haven't in a few days or weeks and we don't know when we might be in the mood or have the time for it again since we both work so much and both are so tired. TL;DR I work a lot. GF works a lot. No weeknights or weekend nights available for dates. How can we go on dates and keep the passion alive and keep a healthy sex life with this kind of schedule until this chapter of constant work ends? I am looking forward to your answers. Thank you!

We are living together and have been for almost two years. We have been together for 3+ years.

I am willing to adjust my business work schedule to fit it, but that is not really the problem. If the business time was in the evening I could easily play around with it so that we could go on dates. It's my job work shift which starts at 3:30pm and ends at midnight M-F and it's fixed, it never changes, and it can't change unless I quit my job or change jobs (but it's very hard to find one like the one I have now). So I can't just randomly not show up for work to go on dates with my GF, same way she can't. I can make any weekday morning/afternoon available and I can do the same for weekend nights, but my GF's only day off is on Monday (and sometimes not even that because some work related stuff comes up). And don't get me wrong, we are in a very loving relationship. That's exactly why I am working to find ways for it to continue to work even in dire circumstances. I thought about it a lot and I couldn't find a solution on my own so that's why I am asking you guys how you would go about it, maybe there is something I am missing. Does this clarify it?

Can you please elaborate, Leo? Why would he not be able to occupy it long-term? For now, I am seeing NATO vs Russia as being pretty equal mostly due to the perceived lack of strong leadership in the west. Up until now, Russia has only been sanctioned with some economic losses that are going to take weeks for Russia to feel. That seems weak to me coming from the west and if I were Putin that would just make me more confident in going against NATO after I take on Ukraine. I am from Romania (southern neighbor of Ukraine) and honestly, I am pretty worried that Putin might try to go after us after Ukraine even though Putin would be starting an all-out war with NATO. I feel like Putin might go wild.

Hello, I'm gonna tell you how I feel right know and after that I'm gonna give some specifics. I'm in a very emotionally taxing life stage right now. I finished college, got my first (well paying job), moved across the country, got into a committed relationship, starting my business next month and overall changing my life for the better. But... I feel like nobody understands what I'm going through right know and how hard it is to make everyone happy. I feel like people don't understand that I'm trying my best not to let anything to fall off my plate. Every person I know got mad in some way at me for not doing something that I was "supposed" to do, yet no one is asking if I need help, no one is asking me if I'm in a tough time and if that's why I didn't do that something that I was supposed to do. What I get is a "just fix it" attitude. Everybody thinks I'm just being selfish for not meeting their expectations. I work night shifts. My sleep schedule is fucked up until my body adapts. My girlfriend's schedule is the exact opposite to mine. We have to make great efforts and be flexible to see each other. I need to practice my craft, yet 10 hours are already gone with my job. By still making arrangements from the move to another city, having a night shift schedule, starting a new business, trying to take care of my health, practicing my craft and doing chores, I have limited time with my friends. The following usually happens for example: Girlfriend is happy. Practicing my craft. Meal prepping. Gym. Starting biz..... Friends become mad I don't call. Family the same. If I try to do all of the above + meeting family and friends expectations, my health suffers. No time for gym and sacrificing sleep, which decreases my job performance and increases my irritability. I try to get my sleep back on track. I leave the dishes pilling up without me wanting to. My roommate gets mad. Says I shouldn't be that busy that I don't have time for this. Again, I get frustrated that nobody gives me a break and nobody asks if I'm ok. I may get triggered by that from already being irritable due to lack of sleep and then I have to apologize for talking meanly, knowing that he was right about the dishes. I then try to fix that while also keeping my family and friends happy, my gym routine and sleep schedule going, my girlfriend will get mad that she doesn't get enough attention from me. I'm really tired of needing to apologize every day to different people. Every time I get one plate back and spinning, another one falls off. I don't know what to do and how to make people understand how hard this is for me and how I'm not doing it intentionally. Every time this happens and I explain they tell me that what I say are just excuses that are not valid or that I'm either too self centered or not self centered enough. They tell me: No sleep? Say no more often. Saying no more often? You're being self centered. Meeting gf and friends... Why haven't you practiced your craft and going to the gym? Take more time for yourself. This is becoming really frustrating. I try not to vent to anyone because everybody has their problems and I try to bring value into every relationship, not leech energy from people. Although, not having anybody understand you makes you salty and that again is not good either. What do you guys think about this? What can I do in this situation? Also, what the hell am I doing wrong? I think I'm doing my best. Thank you in advance.

Well, at this point, having dates a few times a week should be enough. Also, you can pursue whatever you want to pursue while also keeping the relationship. But you have to prioritize. You can't be in massive expansion mode into all areas of your life at once. Pick a year for each one. Focus. Building a business, doing massive inner work, changing your entire health habits, developing your relationship skills or growing into a relationship are too many on your plate. You can juggle one of them with a relationship, but not all at once. Which is why you have a 80-100 years long life. Expand massively on one, then put it in maintenance mode and then go into expansion mode on another area. Rinse and repeat. You should be able to do this while still being attentive to your girlfriend. Just keep in mind that you will sacrifice speed (of growth). There's no way around it. Either be ok with it or drop the relationship. It really boils down to what you want and how bad you want it.

@Meditationdude You are being very vague. How much time do you spend with her on a weekly basis? How long have you been seeing each other? Does she know your goals? Have you told her how much time you need for your purpose? Have you talked it out with her? If you want help, help us help you first.

@Jakethehoff Northern European countries in general (Sweden, Finland, Norwegia, etc.). The Netherlands as well (preferably Amsterdam). As for Yellow countries, there aren't any yet. You can find Yellow segments within it, but I don't think we will see a yellow country as a whole any time soon. Your best bet until then I think are the ones stated above. You may have to make a sacrifice though if you don't like cold weather for example.

I accepted a job at Starbucks in order to help a friend (store manager) that works without time off and can't seem to find a full-time employee to cover important morning shifts. I want to help him for a few months and after the situation stabilizes, apply again to the higher paying job. I felt that if I back down after already accepting the job and go after my own self-interest while knowing this guy will burn himself out, it will translate into bad karma for me in the future. Am I just being stupid for not pursuing my self-interest or did I do the right thing? I can't quite figure it out. Tell me what you think.

@Moreira Bro, you're overthinking it. Get that instrument and let your creative juices flow.