Sleyker

Day 7 25 minutes of grounding practice: I could feel light in my feet and the back of my legs, felt connected to the Earth, could maintain some of that feeling minutes after finishing the session. Keeping my shoulders back feels unnatural to me, I just have to get used to it. 20 minutes of releasing meditation: I felt dense in my throat, chest and stomach, tingles in my pelvis and at some point my gentals activated a lot, not caused by an erotic thought or anything, nice grounding too. I notice that the thought of hiring an escort is always caused by a heavy feeling in my body, as soon as I start feeling lighter the thought of having sex with a prostitute doesn't even cross my mind. Went on a date with a girl from Tinder, nice vibes, nice girl but she's not really my type and she doesn't turn me on as much. I probably won't see her again or just keep her as a friend. I had strong emotions of rage, resentment when I saw a girl's whatsapp story showing she was out drinking while she turned down an invitation from me saying that she doesn't drink 2 days ago. I sat in that resentment for a few minutes, It was located in my chest, it's still there when I think about it. I also felt resistance to do my singing practice and read today. I will resume those habits tomorrow.

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Day 6 Went to singing class (3 hours) Practiced guitar (30 mins) 25 minutes of grounding practice: Kinda okay session, didn't feel like I went too deep, but it's still better than not doing it. 20 minutes of releasing meditation: Felt ligther in my throat than most days, my heart was light, vulnerable for the most part, my stomach a bit more dense and my turn on a bit numb but started feeling tingles as I kept watching it, my grounding was good as well. Nice session overall. Read a chapter from No More Mr. Nice Guy book Nice achievement: Last night I went to bed early, not feeling sleepy at all and I was actually able to lay in my bed and evoke the feeling of sleepiness in my body. I fell asleep pretty quickly compared to other days where I just lay in bed for hours without being able to fall asleep. Noticed: I am able to remain more grounded than before while going about my life, today from the time I left my house, on my way to school and for some time during my singing class I was more willing to remain open and grounded. I was feeling pretty confident and light, then as the class progressed and the teacher started correcting my posture and singing my confidence started dropping and I found myself too serious and tense. At the end of the class I kinda felt demoralized by my performance. I know I'm just learning but still sucks, I like to be good at what I do. It's humbling, I just need to keep practicing. Also, I'll start incorporating some conscious masturbation practice to help with my sexual urges. Masturbating without the goal of reaching orgasm, no fantasizing, no porn, just the sensation. The idea is to learn what feels right to me, deepen my sexual sensitivity, and having a healthy way of masturbating and channel my sexual urges. I'll keep getting after it tomorrow. Good night.

I feel you brother, been there and it's embarrassing to go through that experience. Connect more with your pelvis area, while you're on the date with her, look at the woman in the eyes and feel your turn on, for me it's tingles or heat in my pelvis area, cock and balls. Let her turn you on. Of course easier said than done when you're in your head, but that's just the key right there. You can do visualizations at home, imagine she's in front of you, find something about her that turns you on and watch that feeling in your dick, imagine what you'll do to her, what she'll do to you, let yourself be turned on, you don't have to get it up during the exercise, just get used to feeling that area. At first you might feel numb, if that's the case, keep observing that part of your body, it'll eventually start to wake up. I don't know if that's too abstract but I hope it helps!

Day 5 Practiced my singing for about 45 minutes Practiced guitar for about 45 minutes 20 minutes of grounding practice: Hard to stay focused today, the session made me relax a bit though, I've been wanting and needing sex / attention from girls for the last hours. Also having a lot of thoughts about the approaches from yesterday. 20 minutes of releasing meditation: My chest and gut were fairly light, kinda numb in my pelvis and good grounding in my legs and taint in general. It popped into my head the idea that where I'm seeking a certain emotion I'm tensing somwhere in my body, I felt for a second I was tensing my throat whenever I'm unconsciously not accepting the feeling and looking for something in particular. Read a chapter from No More Mr. Nice Guy book Noticed: Felt very needy today, ashamed that I stayed up late last night and jerked off while DM'ing girls on insta. My mood improved a lot when I was texting with Cindy, one girl I met yesterday on the street, but now that she's kinda ghosting me it's down again. This is an opportunity to look inwards, feel it and accept I'm still depending on girl's validation to feel good. Tomorrow is gonna be a hell of a day!

Day 4 Practiced my singing for about 1 hour Practiced guitar for about 30 minutes 25 minutes of grounding practice: I felt grounded, didn't feel as much into the ground today though. Sleepiness came up again. Tension in one's body thrives until one becomes aware of it, I love it every time I become aware of tension in my body. 32 minutes of releasing meditation: In today's session I visualized Natalia and Johana (one girl I like and my ex), welcomed heavy feelings in my chest while looking at them and saying hi, also welcomed a lot of turn on in my pelvis. I'm happy I sat in that heavy feeling in my chest, stepped into it, there is some resentment there especially towards Johana. I let Natalia go, saw her walking away, felt some heaviness in my chest as she did. Read a chapter from No More Mr. Nice Guy book Approached many girls today, here's some highlights: First approach: Approached a cute blonde, she was with her uncle. I felt the anxiety in my rib cage before approaching, walked up to her anyways, greeted her uncle and said: "I was gonna pass by but you're too cute" She's charmed and giggles, turned out she's waiting for the bus and it's coming already, I said goodbye and left, didn't have the courage to close, but we all three shared nice vibes. Second approach: Very cute petite girl, we made eye contact, I go up to her and say something along the lines of: "I like your eyes" She smiles and looks at me like a puppy, very feminine, goddman this girl turns me on. "I'm Sleyker, who are you?" "I'm Gres" "You and I would make love all day long" She laughs and likes it. We kept chatting, the sexual energy was still there, I got kinda needy though, didn't feel in flow and didn't know what to say, the interaction was kinda okay overall and I asked for her instagram to see if we go for something to drink someday. This is the kind of girl I would do anything to bang, goddam was she cute and feminine. At home I noticed I was beating myself up 'cause I didn't remain grounded and got a bit needy and kinda blew it with that energy. Third approach: Another girl, not super cute but also blonde. "Hey you're cute, what's your name?" "Maria" "Sleyker, nice meeting you. Do you have a boyfriend?" "I do have a boyfriend" giggles "So what are you waiting for to break up with him and run off with me? Giggles and likes it, she's into it but I didn't bother to chat for longer, didn't really like her that much. In this approach I felt the most grounded and playful, very light, confident. Fourth approach: Two girls, white girl and brunnette. "So I'm looking for a girlfriend, who wants to be my gf? They both laugh White girl: "What do you want a girlfriend for?" Me: "To fuck?" They laugh and white girls starts kinda walking off Me: "You, give me your number, you're cute" I said to the brunnette. She gave me her instagram. Good vibes in this one, I love it when I step into a 'not giving a fuck' energy and say the most obnoxious and outlandish things. I ran into another girl whom I had approached two weeks ago and kinda ghosted me, I could feel my resentment towards her for not texting back. Came back home, sat for 30 minutes, let myself have thoughts about the approaches, I want to let my body and mind process it. I want to be more aware of my emotions while talking to people, feel myself grounded, catch myself on the spot when I'm going into neediness, this is how real growth happens. I'm not playing games guys, this is how you approach ladies and grow from it, I still have a lot to learn and grow I'm so excited to keep crushing it, doing what nobody is willing to do... What a journey... Love you and I hope you are challenging yourselves as well!

Hey man @assx95, how do you feel when you approach them? Do you feel light, playful, happy, loose? Do you feel like a sexy bastard while talking to them? Or do you feel heavy, not funny, you see it as a job, as something you have to do? Nothing wrong if it's the latter, just notice that, ultimately ALL that matter is how YOU feel when you talk to them. If you're happy and having fun, they'll probably get attracted. If it's the case that you're feeling heavy while approaching, then approach strangers and ask them for the time, directions and so forth, or just go around saying hi to people and MOST IMPORTANTLY: Open yourself up while you say hi, look them in the eyes, find something in the person that you appreciate and say hi from there, see how you can affect people with your mood. Once you get good at that and you start noticing how people respond to you when you feel heavy vs when you feel light, then start approaching girls and doing the whole thing. I'm telling you brother this is the key, it's a slow process, fall in love with it, it's a hell of a journey.

Day 3 Practiced my singing for about 45 minutes (recorded myself at the end and I actually liked most of what I heard, practice is paying off) Played guitar for about 20 minutes 25 minutes of grounding practice: I felt grounded, although some sleepiness came up. I notice myself at times in wanting, trying to get more grounded, chasing the feeling and trying to get it right, I let that go a bit today 20 minutes of releasing meditation: I felt dense in my throat, fairly light in most of my chest and stomach, numb pelvis and tingles at times, grounded in my feet and I could feel into the ground. At a point I felt my heart expanding, nothing special just more feeling in my chest. Read a chapter from No More Mr. Nice Guy book Listened to a Pink Floyd album Noticed: Had urges for having sex and needing the attention from a girl, my go-to coping mechanism is to go to Instagram and check out girls, thus increasing this feeling of wanting, will pay attention to that. Tomorrow I'll probably go out and approach some people, I'm excited to see what comes up so I can work on it, might even take a journal with me and write down my emotions as I'm out on the street and after each approach. This is the way I want to do it.

Day 2 Practiced my singing for 1 hour Practiced guitar for around 1 hour 25 minutes of grounding practice: I felt my feet and into the ground, good session. I also played with the contrast of being tense and relaxed while standing on the rooftop of my house. At some point I wanted to hide when somebody from outside saw me just standing there, I felt some shame for doing this type of work, valuable lesson 'cause now I know that's something I will work on. 20 minutes of releasing meditation: Felt relaxed and in the moment. My throat was tense and felt some pain on the right side of my neck, my chest was light as well as my stomach, tingles in my pelvis and cock & balls, watched it for a second and it grew, then it turned a bit numb, I felt my legs, spine and feet, all connected into the ground. Read a chapter from No More Mr. Nice Guy book Went for a walk, trying to stay grounded in my feet, felt good, talked to a clerk at a grocery store, nice chat although hard to remember to stay in my feet while talking to him. Listened to a Pink Floyd album I'm not playing games here guys, I'm gonna crush it and change so much by the end of the year, the grounding and releasing sessions will bear so much fruit overtime. Can't wait for tomorrow. Blessings for whoever is reading this.

I support what @JonasVE12 has haid. You can go further by getting into conversations but, it sounds like the 'hellos' are a perfect challenge for you right now in your life. Please, KEEP DOING THEM. What you want is to get more and more comfortable in your body each time you do it. Feeling light, playful, looking people in the eye, happy, calm. Please, keep doing the 'hellos', I know it's hard man but you're fucking awesome just for trying. I also encourage you to watch the channel posted above, The Fearless Man, it's great.

I see what you mean. Ideally, you'll come to a point where you're out, maybe doing some shopping and you see a cute girl and it's like something is pulling you towards her, and when you realize it you're already talking to her. That's acting on your instincts. You go and don't even hesitate, you don't prepare shit in your mind before, you just show up because look: there's a hot woman and I want her. Then words just come out of your mouth. That's it. But hey, some days you will feel this way, some days you won't. Sometimes you have to push yourself, sometimes it's easy. That's the whole journey, enjoy it bro. Realize the abundance in which you bask when there's no boundaries between a stranger and you. It's a blessing you have.

I was a clerk at a coffee shop and this guy came in to buy a bottle of water with a 20 dollar bill. I took the bill, and was looking in the register to give him his change. Then he said he had some extra coins so that it was easier for me to give him the change. He gave me the coins and I don't remember how but, as he was talking he took the 20 dollar bill back (or I gave it back to him), and I didn't realize it, it was very quick. In the end he walked away with the bottle of water, the 20 dollar bill and like 18 dollars extra. During the interaction I suspected he was tricking me but I was too much of a nice guy and didn't want to cause any problems with the customers. Lesson learned: Stand up to people no matter what the social situation is.

This is really sad. But you know... part of me doesn't buy it. He died on May 3rd and they didn't say anything until now. And the same day, just when OP decides to announce his death on the forum, his sister logs in on his account to find out what he was up to, weeks later? Idk, everything's weird.

Bro, too much theory. This is what you need to know about attraction for now: You are a man, she is a woman. BOOM! there's attraction. You are already designed to attract each other. The best way to learn and improve is by talking to girls. Learn from every approach you do and move on. BUT REALLY GO OUT AND DO IT. Otherwise you won't learn, I'm serious.

@longusername12345 You can but just don't make a big deal out of it.

@longusername12345 Next time you see her, I think it's better you pretend that never happened and slowly gain her trust again. Kind of off topic but... Hey @Leo Gura whatever happened with the Q&A special video for the 1 million subs?

Hey, @soos_mite_ah I'm glad you're trying to open your mind to understand pick up, that speaks volumes of you as a person and I will gladly and humbly tell you my pov around the topic. Pick up depends a lot on the guy who is doing it. The way I see the big picture of pick up is a just a man becoming aware of his terrible mindsets and neurotic behaviors around women and then letting those go overtime. A man is designed to attract a woman, so why can't he just do it naturally? Because he carries low self-esteem, judgments, resentment, limiting beliefs and has behaviors that repels women (like being too much of a nice guy). Pick up done well slowly strips the guy of many of these and at the end of the journey what is left is just his sacred, unconditional love and desire for the femenine, his ability to own his masculinity and naturally attract women as a byproduct of that. That's how I've viewed my journey in pick-up. Me learning to love women, to love talking to them, to love flirting with them, to love listening to them, to love making love to them. Which I was unable to do because of all the neurosis. (I still have a ton to learn). And so, for this to happen it is necessary to go out and talk to a lot of girls, fail miserably and then cry out of feelings of unworthiness, push boundaries and be seen as a threat to girls, it is all part of the learning experience.

@How to be wise Hey man, where have your learned those stories and shitty assumptions you're now giving as advice? If it's from personal experience, I'm telling you, you ain't got enough of it.

@How to be wise I see what you're saying. I think seduction is so nuanced we can't say for sure that one method works better than the other one. Both can perfectly work in my opinion. I personally prefer to let her feel my intent by either telling her directly or just through eye contact. However I disagree with you on the supermarket not being a good place to approach. If you're good at sensing the girl's mood, and have some social awareness you can approach anywhere and create a beautiful connection. BTW @Striving for more, props to you for having the balls to do this, don't be afraid of rejection, that's what builds the man in you, keep it up.

Not good advice at all. Any place IS a great place, we are social animals, you just have to acknowledge the weirdness of it. "Hey I know this is random but you're cute as hell... my name is James". "Hey I see you're busy but I have to say hello cause' you're so pretty".

Why would you feel bad after pleasing yourself? I tried that nofap nonsense and gave it up, I now masturbate and watch porn regularly and don't feel bad about it, no changes of mood, motivation or anything like that, I just release that desire and move on with my day. Nofap dogma made me believe masturbating was something bad therefore I always felt like shit afterwards. Find what suits you. That's just my experience and my opinion.

Start coaching in person regardless, it's very easy for people to procrastinate using fitness apps. You can be a real-life training motivator that they can relate to. You'll come up with the idea eventually. I would say, start coaching and see what happens. Maybe you find that you don't really like it and now you know you should look for something different. Or you find that people love you and want you to coach them despite the cheaper apps and programs available in the marketplace.

Practice. You can only learn so much about sex through theory, at the end of the day though, you have to practice a lot, that means having lots of sex. Do the theory thing, that's great. But practice is king.

Nice thread Michael Some of the things I want to focus on next year are: Finish the LP Course and start working towards it. Go on at least 2 meditation retreats. Start making money to save up and move out in the future. Keep mastering daygame and seduction. Start once and for all my Salsa Dancing Academy.