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@Thetruthseeker why? 1. He is an Antisemitist. 2. He Supoorts BDS. 3. He supports the terror organizations Hamas and Hizbollah.

@Thetruthseeker Jeremy Corbin is Red-Blue mainly. Boris johnsson is clearly better choice than him.

Those three helped me enormousely with my ocd.

@TylerJ thanks ? Maybe Im wrong but I am always feel when i do yoga that active breathing is not effective in progress me to higher consiousness as letting the natural breathing lead my body motions that this is the really effective way.

Just to say i dont want to argue with anybody. Maybe i am sensitive and take answers i get too much into myself. but thats the only reason my answers sometimes may seem like this. Thanks guys for the answers!! I will explore the topic more by myself and by as many resources as possible.

I read something different every time haha I understand that the Self has free will. But what about the self in our everyday language, all our actions and all our decisions during the day - these are under our control? Or that the only one who can really choose freely is the sub-sub-conscious mind (or god mind) and only he can choose? But we are (as human beings) CANT choose anything and not have free will at all? Or we still have?

@7thLetter Apps are surface level solution. You need to really SEE that computer and smartphone dont give much value for you and therefore you will want to use it in low doses. Watch videos about the importance of intuition, of having a times without distractions. Do meditation, mindfulness, yoga, self love exercises (Leo's and Teal Swan's videos about self love).

@Existence Dont hack. Dont manipulate. You answered yourself in the beginning of your message - the desire is not authentic, but created by your parents. Thats the core of the problem. Just DROP the mission to impress your parents and they will have to accept you exactly as you want to be accepted.

@Bill W I do inner work (mindfulness/yoga/self-love/learning from books/vids) every day! My questions here are not instead, but in addition to that. I will try to have my questions more coherent with my internal work. Ok. But there is a way to respond. I have nothing against Leo and i think i understand the position he come from so i dont get hurted from it. The thing is that from MY experience + Leo's video + messages from people here i came to conclusion that the free will is not exist in our every day conscious decisions (but exists in the sub-sub sonscious mind - higher self) Still i got confused therefore i wanted to ask it first time by myself most clearly i could. I didn't know the topic was discussed few days ago. I feel the answer may influence and help because it can relate to my experience as not controlling at all at my thoghts and strengten it. But as i can see now, the answer is not clear at all. I know anyway that i just CAN'T control my thoughts and feeling. That what i feel when i have bad months/weeks. If i could control - the bad periods would obviousely be ×100 times shorter...

Just to say that i didnt know the issue was discussed only few days ago. I though the last time was couple of months ago.

Not that i have a choice now. I think people dont really have an answer to this question.

@Leo Gura its weird because people asked about this issue in the forum in the past. What is silly about the question if we have free will or not? You yourself started talk about it in a video of 1 hour+ Its not that i am not listening to your answer and think about them. I do think seriously on the answers i get from people. Including the answer you gave me now. In the other hand, i dont think my questions are "silly". Why do you have the forum if not for questions that are all dualities too? So close the forum. You also said that questions are important in the process. I am conscious enough today to not take it personally. God knows why you chose to answer me like this. You are just a little contradict yourself.

@Identity just from curiosity (not judgment at all. If you both like it its all good) - why are you attracted to the "strong" position that dominant her "weak" position? Why is it attractive to you?

How to see the messages behind the emotions and root causes.

@Elham reset is impossible in my opinion. You can try to find the psychology common ground underneath those fantacies. There is something psychologically deeper that its the root of those fantacies. Find it, and than you will be able to communicate it to your partner and maybe you will see that there is a much broader spectrum of acts that will "do it" for you.

What were the thoughts accompanied to your depression? What was the story?

I try to do during the day things that someone who love himself would do. Ask "What someone that love himself would do right now?" And do it. And do that at least couple of times every single day. That will develop self love in you in a practical way.

A scientific minded person can say: "But the reason that self-love is the core answer to one's problems, that all converge to it, it just because this is the number 1 need for us to survive (if we are alone we might be eaten) and we are programmed to it. The reason that love is what you see after you awakened, it just that you are experienced our brain default status. Therefore, there is nothing "awakening-ly" here, because this is just how our brain is programmed during evolution. Therefore if we give love to the system, people can evolve much faster to higher consciousness stages because we fullfiled it most basic need". I dont like this reductionist attitude, but it can be the whole answer even if we dont like it. What do you think?

Great answer love it. Really helps what you said ??

So lock the whole forum.

Seems weird to me that reason is above acceptance am forgiveness. Reason is much less developed.

Agree. I will try. Agree too.

It less magical because if science see the whole picture of self love than it is sad to us because it harms our spiritual view. At least about love. I personally want Leo to be right, and precisely because of that i try to challenge what he says from scientific pov to see that science's pov is limited but cant see it yet. How can we know that all what you guys think (including Leo) about love is not just the brain tricks us? We cant know.

Evolutuon gave us both because this is more efficient for survive as a species than just one kind of emotions.

But what if the transcendent self love appears in our experience just because we feel now safe enough and the following mission of our brain is to love more and more because this is what helpes our species to survive? If you love more - you will want to defend other people from predators. Again, i dont like this scientific simplification but we have to be careful not to dismiss it even if it contradicts our spiritual beliefs that love is "more" than this.