ModernSage

Action expresses priorities - Mohandas Gandhi. Make your own happiness a priority today. --- Also i thought that since your attention span is low you can use the pomodoro technique which really helps. Also watch these videos here on Motivation. Kudos to the amazing guys of Asapscience on youtube.

Invest in Altruism and see your Happiness levels grow and ego diminishing. For every dollar you spent on yourself, give the equal amount to a person on the street. Example, you are in St*rb*cks buying yourself a coffee, (which you probably shouldn't be doing anyway) buy the person behind you a coffee as well. You are buying yourself a new pair of shoes, spent the equal amount of money buy giving it to the next homeless person you see. You are buying yourself a meal, give one to a person in need through ShareTheMeal. Invest on making others happy and you'll see yourself becoming happy too. Alternatively you can donate money to charity, or invest on new ideas on the internet.

@MIA.RIVEL That is great advice Mia, I just wanted to add that even though we are individually beautiful and unique we are also fundamentally the same. And because of that , because we are all one species , the core things can be taught to anyone as long as they are willing. " i can also show you the door, but you have to be the one who walks through it"

This is a truly helpful quote from the Buddha.

That reminds me of : Surrender to what is. from the Power of Now. It has definitely helped me let go of a lot of things.

Dear @Ryan_047 You can meditate without anyone knowing you are doing it. You don't have to be seated in a stereotypical cross-legged position. # You may be seated in your desk chair, on a sofa, in the loo, taking a shower, laying in bed. It's not the posture that matters but your inner dialogue and intentions. Here are some things you can try: 1. Listen to ambiance sounds so that your mind can focus on a neutral acoustic environment. This way even if you don't have enough privacy you can at least feel by yourself because you are isolating other people's sounds. I personally love the sound of the rain and it definitely makes me feel good. http://www.rainymood.com/ 2. audiobooks really really help, try listening to the Alchemist. You can find a lot of them on youtube or on audible. There is a lot of read poetry that i love. 3. breathing. Watch this video, it's a very simple but powerful technique. 4. positive quotes on your walls. Basically positively brainwash your brain by putting sayings on the walls that you will see randomly each time you walk past them. For example, you can write with a marker, sharpie, pen, whatever you want to use on a A4 peace of paper, something like "Dream it, Believe it, Achieve it" or, "may I be joyful". You put it on the back of your door in your room. Every time you close the door your eyes will catch it and read it. Little by little becomes a lot and by enough exposure to positive messages it will become internalized. 5. go to goodreads and look for quotes from people like Buddha, Alan Watts, Einstein, Carl Sagan, any wise human really, and save the ones you like by "liking them" with the thumbs up button. Then choose the ones that resonate the most with you. Write 1 quote on 1 paper and then glutack it on your wall. Repeat with any other surface that you are constantly looking at like : the area of your ceiling under your bed, or the light switch for your room. Trust me, you will read it in times that you don't expect and it will make you feel better and even slowly change your perspective on things. Basically the idea is : Surround yourself with positivity. 6. Go to zenpencils and spent time there. Read whatever you fancy. I would start with this: http://zenpencils.com/comic/94-the-two-wolves/ 7. Watch your inner dialogue. Be present with the feeling of "no pleasure" or with the feeling of sadness. Become friends with it. Observe it. Don't become part of it. Great book that is guaranteed to help you is : The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Now-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808 8. mindfulness books are your friends. Start with these two. Peace is every step & Peace is Every Breath by Thich Nhat Hanh 9. Loving kindness meditation. Be kind to yourself. Repeat in your mind : "May i be peaceful, may i be happy, may i be free from suffering, may i be joyous, may i be safe, " http://www.mindful.org/18-science-based-reasons-to-try-loving-kindness-meditation/ 10. Putting things in perspective: Carl Sagan is simply the best person that can really help anyone see things from a grander perspective. Watch this: 11. Running, If you start running, it won't just add serotonin and endorphin to your blood, but it will take you out of the house and make you feel good. It's a really nice form of escaping your environment, and a great way to have "me time". You can spent time away from your parents and chores for 30' every day and see places around where you live in a different way! Even better if there is like a small forest of some greenery that you go and replenish your energies. 12. Guided Meditations. Breathe is a great app if you have an iPhone/iPad. Guided Meditations are an easy way to start meditating from where you are right now without the need for going to classes etc. 5 min meditations are really helpful and you can definitely squeeze them in your day. Always Remember: "You are a child of the Universe" "You as anybody else in the world deserve your love and attention" - Buddha. If you try some of these tips I am positive that you will be in a better place than where you started. And last but not least, remember, there people out there that are having much much worse experiences than you do. Feel gratitude for what you have. 13. Maybe even start a gratitude Journal. http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Gratitude-Journal 14. Realising how much time you have in the world: So : What are you going to try today?

I want to introduce you to the Zeigarnik Effect. The Zeigarnik Effect is the tendency to experience intrusive thoughts about an objective that was once pursued and left incomplete. The automatic system signals the conscious mind, which may be focused on new goals, that a previous activity was left incomplete. It seems to be human nature to finish what we start and, if it is not finished, we experience dissonance. you can read more about it here. http://www.psychwiki.com/wiki/Zeigarnik_Effect --- Currently what I am doing is i am making a list of things that I have left unfinished since i can remember, especially from childhood. As we all know, things get in the way of what want to pursue, especially when you are a child and you have homework and chores and maybe your parent's pressure to succeed and do well in school and extracurricular activities. So, I am right now trying to nurture my inner child by giving me the time to play some old video games that I started but for one reason or another was never able to finnish. Also, watching cartoons from my childhood that I left unfinished. And coin operated arcade games that I was never able go past a certain level because of lack of extra coins / time. I am including a list of these just you can see! Video Games: Donkey Kong Country, Super Mario, Final Fantasy 7. Cartoons: Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Captain Planet, Dragonball, the Racoons, Ducktales, Arcade Games: Snow Bros, Spinmasters, Cadillacs and Dinosaurs, The Simpsons arcade. --- I have finally completed Snow Bros, Spinmasters, Cadillacs and Dinosaurs, and I have to say that it feels so satisfying that knowing that a part of my childhood is now complete and redeemed. It makes a huge difference to me and it feels like I am able to feel so much better about everything just by giving my inner child room to breathe and enjoy things that for one reason or another wasn't able to at that time. --- I am doing this as a therapeutic exercise. I am aware that this could be seen as just entertainment, or mind titillation as Leo would say, but I think it's the intention behind it that makes a huge difference. It's not just mindlessly play video games and watching tv, but doing it with a purpose and the intention to honor the child within. A sort of right of passage. Hope you find this helpful. --- "there is a tendency or “need” to complete a task once it has been initiated and the lack of closure that stems from an unfinished task promotes some continued task related cognitive effort. The cognitive effort that comes with these intrusive thoughts of the unfinished task is terminated only once the person returns to complete the task."

Thank you @Kelley White I really appreciate your comment. The more creativity you use in dealing with your past the more likely the positive outcome. Art is therapeutic and if we look at some of the greatest artists , painters, singers , they've transmuted the pain from the past and made it into songs, art, movies, plays, books.

Another thing you can do is you can sit down in a quiet space by yourself and revisited all those memories by writing stream of consciousness about those events. it might take a while, but dedicate some time for this healing process. Then you take those pieces of paper that you wrote on and put your intention to let go of the past and forgive your father for example. You go to a safe place and you burn those pieces of paper. This way you are making the intangible tangible and then intangible again and you mind can simply let go of the past. I have tried it and it works for me Good luck!

You can definitely do something about your childhood. It's good that you are able to trace the root of the problem from the things you mentioned about your dad. One very useful book that you can read is called Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child by Thich Nhat Hanh.