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There's no need to tiptoe around people's emotions when they're serious about truth. You're Assuming he has contempt and that he's shaming people. My girlfriend has told me multiple times that she's just a child and she wants me to take care of her and she can't handle life. If you want I will get her to text me that right now, she has enough self-awareness to know who she is and I didn't implant any ideas in her head.

So leo was not victim blaming? I'm glad we agree? lol I guess we have something in common?

He said "boiling frog", it implies an abusive man will put a mask to Swindle you into a relationship, so its starts off good.

He's talking about taking 100% responsibility for your life. Which is a core self development concept. Regardless of how you got yourself into the mess of an abusive relationship which was likely not your fault it is now your responsibility to get yourself out of it. If you are ignorant and don't understand your own mechanisms that are keeping you in that relationship or if you don't even recognize that you're in abusive relationship these are all aspects of your own lack of self-awareness and development. None of this is "your fault", none of this is "blame", it's just what it is. your lack of development hit reality in a way where you got hurt. Like you said you learn from your mistakes which is responsibility and you didn't make that mistake again.

If a frog is placed in boiling water, it will jump out immediately, but if the water is heated gradually, the frog won’t notice the danger and will be boiled alive. It illustrates how people may fail to notice gradual, harmful changes until it's too late.

The goal post is not moving... There are very clear biological differences in how our minds work, we have different needs, and when you treat a woman the way a man wants his needs met, it goes wrong. A man will treat a woman the way HE wants to be treated. -> AND ITS WRONG. What I'm talking to my guy friends we're throwing philosophy shit at each other or laughing like crazy at each other, poking fun at each other, there is no limitations what we can say, we take nothing personally. A woman takes everything personally, the words she says represent her identity. And when you have a logical conversation with a feminine mind you are attacking her identity and she's unable to separate it, so it's a huge mistake. Her beliefs are part of her identity and she can't separate it. A woman is speaking with her Identity On the Line, which is why her whole domain is an emotional language. Which is why women speak to each other indirectly. Men men will just say the facts right to their face and that's what they want to hear, a woman will literally avoid the truth as if her life depended on it in the middle of a social scenario, because she rather die than experienced the emotional burden of conflict. YOU do not do this. You are able to have a debate => enjoy that debate => and take nothing personally. This is masculine energy not maturity. There is no emotional burden for you... Besides the challenge which you enjoy! which is pure masculinity! A feminine woman who is mature could have a debate but she certainly would not enjoy it and at the end of the conversation she might even have to take a nap and get away from society, because there was an emotional burden there for her. Debates are exhausting for the feminine mind. Cuz it's an emotional burden she has to bear. It's not about maturity. It's a completely different language and how the mind works.

It's about positive ownership not negative ownership. In the same way you love your child... The phrasing instills empathy within the man that allows him to view the woman in such a way that diffuses all conflict. It is very effective. We should all treat each other like children, the world would be a better place.

You're pushing for gender equality... you think the Sexes are nearly the same and we're exaggerating the differences between them. You are in the middle on the Spectrum. (masculine- feminine) Other women are not in the middle on the Spectrum. THEY ARE NOT LIKE YOU.

The feminine being bad at certain parts of survival is just what it means to be feminine. The masculine is also bad at certain parts of survival and that's just what it means to be masculine. A fish is a fish, a shark is a shark. If a fish wants to go out and start killing other fish, then that fish behaves like a shark. The feminine becomes masculine. There's nothing misogynistic about this. Our minds and bodies do not work the same way genetically from birth. This is equality, his statement is equality... How do you know it's a unsustainable Foundation? How do you know it doesn't work? Your solution is to go find a healthier woman to date? Well that's not a solution as we just discussed because highly feminine women can be healthy. You're assuming it's not going to work because the man is "looking down" on the woman. When he's not. When in reality hes just recognizes her needs. And the most loving thing to do is to frame her as a child and not put all the burden of truth and survival of the real world on her shoulders. The whole conversation was emotions and I'm supposed to burden her with truth? Why? I'm not looking down at my dog, I recognize what their needs are and then give it to them. It's the most loving thing to do. But I feel like you're blinded by this need for equality of the sexes.

@Emerald Highly feminine healthy women are NOT irresponsible. They just cannot take responsibility for hard parts of survival because that's not what they're designed for, that's not what their biology equipped them with. A fish is not irresponsible because they can't fly.

You’re a developed integrated GigaChad woman 😅 who likes debating, you have not experienced a man dating a normal woman. Highly feminine women hate debates. I have directly experienced dating women over and over again. I’m not suppressing them by any means by helping them get through their emotions every day… it only benefits them. Biology creates hard separations. It is not true that a person is only healthy when balanced in masculine and feminine. Healthy and unhealthy are separate things from masculine and feminine. You can be healthy at any place in the spectrum between masculine and feminine energy. It is not exclusive to those who have balanced and integrated both sides. Some women are naturally highly feminine and also healthy. And it will only put stress on them to hold a masculine frame for a long period of time. They will never feel fully comfortable as anything other than a very feminine state. This is natural for them and for most women. A Fuck boy is an unhealthy masculine. A man child is unhealthy. Andrew Tate is unhealthy masculinity not that he lacks feminine integration. He lacks healthy integration of any kind. A woman who’s naturally highly feminine and healthy wants and thrives within masculine containment. So you’re projecting that only healthy people are these kind of integrated hermaphrodites. A healthy masculine man integrates the feminine while still looking masculine. It’s what healthy masculinity is. A healthy person can have any type of energy anywhere on the spectrum.

@Yimpa I was to mean 😪 I’ve had nine relationships. It is always an emotional language that you need to be aware of how to communicate the entire time. And I spent my time carefully guiding them to be the best version of themselves and to apply themselves and to help them through all aspects of their life. But at no point is it no longer my job to constantly help them with their emotions whether they’re conscious of it or not.

Go date a woman. Stop assuming you understand this subject without experiencing it.

It’s the exact opposite, by giving her a safe space -> she thrives. Everything you’re saying is completely off, every woman I’ve dated needs to be spoken to through an emotional language. Very carefully. “”And if I were female, I'd feel like my agency was being stolen and that I wouldn't be able to fully bloom and have my partner appreciating my blooming.“” I don’t know why you would think this the woman has no idea what’s happening? She has no idea if she’s been contained. She’s unconscious. If you challenge her, it puts massive stress on her, and if she doesn’t have a self-development mindset, she will not grow. The relationship quickly breaks down when you don’t support her emotionally.

@enchanted no matter how good you are socializing people are not interested in these topics and you’re always gonna run into a wall and if you try to push the wall, it makes them uncomfortable because they don’t wanna talk about these topics. They wanna talk about mindless things that happened to them yesterday. It genuinely tires people when they have to use higher brain function to think about any topic. They don’t enjoy it. at some point, they will always think “I don’t know” and this is often one of the worst pathways you can go down in a conversation. You don’t want them to ever have to think that or say that. It makes him feel bad. Me and you will have fun in the world of “I don’t know” and exploring possibilities, while for them it makes them unhappy.

It's hard because I don't want to hear what they have to say, I don't like any of the topics that we're going to talk about and it bores me out of my mind.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/look-a-horse-in-the-mouth If an atheist were to read this they would only see a criticism without the solution. What is the correct epistemology?

The idealist paradigm is also partial. The gender question is "What is my identity"? <<< this is the core The next paradigm is the construct-aware perspective: it recognizes there are effectively no genders, specifically because you’re no longer playing an identity game. When you stop playing the identity game, you’re not searching for a gender that defines you. You recognize yourself as a fluid construction of masculine, feminine, or any other traits. This can appear similar to the idealist perspective (which sees gender as fluid), but there’s one key difference: the construct-aware paradigm no longer plays the identity game at all. For a materialist or an idealist, they remain vividly conscious that they are female, male or non-binary at all times, also known as identifying with ego. But when you stop playing these identity games, it never occurs to you what your ‘gender’ is. You don’t need to anchor your self-worth or identity in a gender label. When you look in the mirror, you might see an alien, or God, or whatever you want—because at the construct-aware level it’s fluid. In everyday life, you still have a personality that might be more masculine or feminine or whatever, but your self-worth and identity aren’t tied to it. At some point you should recognize that any one gender label is grotesquely over generalized and can't possibly encapsulate anything meaningful. A gender role says so little. And to be even fairer it's dead wrong because you are God! Materialist/Idealist: More likely to wrestle with, “What is my gender identity?” Gender is still relevant to defining oneself (even if it’s fluid at the Idealist stage). Construct-Aware/Unitary: That question loses its grip; “identity” itself is seen as a construct.

@Adrian colby fantastic and refreshing! Thank you for sharing this, it's insightful reading the lived experience of someone that went through the whole journey. When you started taking HRT how did your perception of yourself change? Because you're suggesting that it's a issue with the neurotransmitter being blocked so after that is treated did you suddenly feel comfortable in your body again? (not including Awakenings were you accepted yourself (transcended gender) and stopped conforming to society expectations of you)

Fair enough, Well it's like talking about astrology or personality types, women love it, If you introduce the topic the right way they'll eat it up

They’re all deeply uncomfortable in their own skin, resulting in gender confusion. Postmodernists meet low self-esteem = non-binary There are NO GENDERS It’s all identity games When you grow up, you lose your gender You're a bundle of traits along a masculine and feminine Spectrum

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If you care or spend one second of your day unhappy about your identity you’re lost in low self-esteem problems. it’s like men that are insecure that they’re short so they do surgery. Short people identifying as tall people, identity crisis

It’s all body dysmorphia + identity crisis + low self-esteem. When I look in the mirror I don’t even know what I’m looking at, I couldn’t care less. Who is that in the mirror? Looks like an alien. I couldn’t care less what’s in between my legs. If I switched bodies with a woman Permanently I would just own it 💯 This is how healthy people function they’re not fighting what they see in the mirror.

I'm on your side I think most developed countries are going to do Universal based income but the balance of power will be permanently in favor of a handful of people. 2.5 pro one in the most intelligent models to help Above is a interesting list of AI government structures