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That can very well be true but I know that none of these guys put the work in to reach their full potential. They're a long way from maxing out. Most of the time when people hit a plateau it's because they're just repeating the same bad habits and patterns over and over again without making effective corrections to their own thinking process. It's like playing the same song over and over again on the piano because it's easy and fun, but you never improve that way. They have to progressively challenge themselves. (I know you know this I'm just repeating) I stop playing chess 15 years ago but my Peak rating was 2350, and the reason I stopped improving was was because I could not put the time and energy to focus on the boring stuff. Which was endgames and openings. I found openings to be a complete waste of my time to memorize, and against the love I had for chess, and end games are also relatively boring and require a lot of memorization. I don't think I maxed out my memorization, visualization, calculation ability, because there was always an area of weakness that I could have focused on especially when most of my games were losses in the opening. So there was plenty of room to improve. It's very unclear, Magnus says he doesn't do heavy calculation, he only does it to double check but most of the time his intuition is right. Hikaru is heavily calculation based thinking process while Magnus is more of intuitive based.

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@Daniel Balan what is your rating and how do you know he's a good teacher if you didn't reach the top levels yet? The problem with every single teacher including Hikaru is that they're telling you what calculations they're doing. When that's the easiest part. The reason no one's progressing is because you think it's all about calculation when it's not. It's all about effective training strategies. How are you going to train in a very specific way to improve? Especially when you're stuck at the same rating for years. That being said Daniel is pretty good 😁

The chest 960 rating pool is not the same as the 3 minute or 5 minute competitive pool. 1600 chess 960 pool = 1200-1300 chess 3 min pool. Also slow games have inflated ratings not because there's more skill level involved but because the rating pool automatically gives people an extra 400 points, based on the economy of it ( there is less competition). On chess.com a rating of 1200 Blitz is the equivalent of a 1600 15+ min standard. --- If Leo dedicated all this time and energy to do this for a year he could easily reach 2,000 and up. The rest of you guys are stuck in not knowing how to learn effectively. You have not mastered the art of learning and so you're not making any progress in chess when most of the progress you need to make to escape the 1400 rating is extremely easy. But because you don't know how to improve you're stuck at that plateau.

@Buck Edwards the reason you are confused is the same reason men get confused when they listen to women's advice. That guy does not understand how his own attraction works and so he's labeling certain things about your behavior as unattractive but really that has nothing to do with how his own attraction system works. In the same way when women tell men how attraction works they're giving bad advice in general because they themselves don't understand their own attraction system. Now I am not talking about the women on this forum who have spent 10 years studying consciousness lol I'm talking about that average guy who appeared in your life who is randomly attracted to things and has no idea what he's saying when he critiques your behavior. Can you imagine how disastrous it would be if you took his advice. lol Also when I'm breaking up with a woman basically or telling her that things aren't working out well I'm being very very selective in what I'm saying and I'm lying to her and I'm putting her down easy. I'm not telling her the raw hard blunt truth. I'm not trying to destroy people's lives or make them enlightened, I'm trying to get out of a situation here. Men are going to lie in many situations not to make you feel bad.

Because women that are good in bed are highly emotional, and express very strong emotions during sex and the man perceive that as great sex. Sexual attraction is completely different from other forms of attraction. Immature men are seeking highly sexually stimulating women. If you're super unstable and emotionally and all over the place you are perceived as way better in bed. This is why men are attracted to women that are not good for them. The most insane sex from the male's perspective is when the woman is extremely emotional. Obviously! This is the whole point of why we are attracted to women. Of course, it doesn't mean you're actually good in bed; you could be terrible in bed, but before a man sleeps with you, he doesn't know that, and so he's sexually stimulated and becoming super attracted to super emotionally unstable women. Of course, in reality, you never want to go anywhere near women that are just unstable, but from the outside, you want to have sex with them; that's how men think. Women are attracted to bad boys who are not good for them, and men are attracted to unstable, emotional women who are not good for them. That's the other side of the coin. This is why business woman are perceived as super unattractive. Of course a guy is not turned on by a successful woman, she behaves calmly, intelligently and all of this is not sexually stimulating in bed.

Definitely I think we just have to take these things not as some biblical truth. I think analyzing everything makes a lot of sense, not to assume all this Theory applies in every situation or even at all in most situations. It's all partial truths. A high value guy is nice, a self-absorbed man is not nice. You could be low value and nice and you can be high value and self-absorbed. It's a different line of development. You don't need to bend over backwards to be nice to someone (low value), you don't need to be fake or inauthentic to be nice to someone, you could be yourself and be comfortable and secure and are naturally nice to people. And it shows up completely differently than fake nice. Whether you are high value or low value, you can be nice to people or you can be completely self-absorbed. A guru is nice to everyone and high value and secure. And if they're not nice they are doing it out of love and if they're not doing out of love they're not having a good day. Sometimes people have emotions, shocking.

* Society highly values physical beauty in women, which creates a unique set of challenges despite appearances. * Beautiful women are often sought for the esteem they provide others, not for genuine connection, leading to relationship difficulties. * Many relationships with beautiful women are based on a hidden "esteem transaction," causing conflict when she acts outside of it. * Beautiful women often experience rejection because people are in love with an idea of them, not who they are. * People often act inauthentically in dating, and this is amplified for beautiful women who are pursued for a false image. * Beautiful women experience isolation due to insecurities of others, leading to a lack of genuine friendships. * Jilted lovers of beautiful women often become enemies, making relationships emotionally unsafe. * A beautiful woman's existence triggers egos in others, leading to zero-sum games and distrust. * Society sends mixed messages about beauty, simultaneously valuing and vilifying beautiful women. * Beautiful women are often presumed stupid and their pain is dismissed due to their perceived "blessed" state. * Beautiful women live under constant scrutiny, facing pressure from others' attention and judgment. * Beautiful women are often approached by people with dangerous psychologies, as well as rescuers who need them to remain dysfunctional. * People tend to move away from beautiful women in everyday interactions, leading to social isolation. * Beautiful women are stripped of their merit, with success often attributed to their looks, not their abilities. * Beautiful women may struggle to develop their true selves, as their identity is often tied to their appearance. * Beautiful women are often blamed for infidelity and sexual harassment, rather than the perpetrators. * Medical professionals may minimize the health issues of beautiful women, due to a bias linking looks with health. * Beautiful women endure relentless sexual harassment, from unwanted touching to sexual commentary. * Beautiful women are taught their value is in their looks, causing deep fear of aging and loss of beauty. * The more beautiful a woman is perceived, the more intense and negative these patterns and downsides become. --- I think both perspectives are true and it just depends on the type of person and their temperament and their upbringing on how their development unfolds. Also both perspectives are focusing on a completely different problem exactly like how Leo and emerald are talking past each other. We're all talking past each other.

Do not sleep in the same bed with anyone it interferes with sleep quality, this is a nonsense cultural intervention. that being said your girlfriend must be 1/4th the size of the bed. This is standard. 😅 get the measuring tape out.

* The ability to disappoint women is a vital skill for men to have successful relationships, as women tend to have a consumptive form of love. * Men often struggle to disappoint women due to a scarcity mentality, fearing it will jeopardize the relationship. * A woman's love is consumptive, meaning she wants all of your time and attention, and paradoxically, giving her everything she wants leads to her losing attraction. * Maintaining a relationship requires maintaining a high level of attraction, which means continuing to be the person she fell in love with. * Women can want to get what they want, but also on another level, they don't want to get what they want from you too often because it makes her feel unsafe. * Disappointing women communicates that you are centered in your masculine purpose, and can tolerate her distress, which allows her to relax into the relationship. * Women test men to see if they can turn them down, which demonstrates that they are maintaining frame. * Disappointing women sooner rather than later helps determine if she is mature enough to handle disappointment in a healthy way. * Rejection and disappointment can increase attraction, making the relationship more spicy and interesting. * Saying "no" to women can increase her attraction, much like when women reject men, it often has the same effect. * Beautiful women often appear "nuts" because they are rarely told the truth, creating a distorted perception of reality. * From a young age, attractive women experience differential treatment from men, who seek to please them rather than being honest. * Men often lie to beautiful women because honesty is not rewarded unless it aligns with what the woman wants to hear, and they learn that they get punished for speaking the truth. * Men who prioritize integrity or are on the autistic spectrum are more likely to be honest, but most men choose to lie to achieve their goals. * The presenter uses an analogy of a difficult manager to illustrate that men are not likely to risk telling the truth when there's a high probability of negative consequences. * Women often react negatively to the truth, getting offended or terminating the relationship, thus reinforcing men's tendency to lie. * Men learn to cater to women's models of reality, especially those of attractive women, which are often based on lies they have been told. * Less attractive women do not experience this as frequently because men are more likely to be honest when they don't have a vested interest in pleasing them. * The only exception where beautiful women might hear the truth is if they had strong male figures in their families who were not trying to sleep with them. * Ultimately, men lie to beautiful women because telling them the truth does not get them laid, and they find it's more effective to cater to what women want to hear. --- I did not post this because I agree or disagree. --- It's interesting that one of my relationships ended exactly this way. Where I gave her everything and cater to her model of reality and then she strongly pushed away when I started to tell her the truth. lol

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I have never heard a single YouTuber you say the word "patience". That's how bankrupt you know everything is. The problem is they know all of these psychological tricks but they don't think about psychology or think that that's the main focus. A chess teacher has to teach psychology and Meta thinking and thinking about thinking non-stop that's the whole game. Everything else is easy. Logical calculation is the easy part. It's avoiding all of your own self-imposed bullshit that's hard.

70 video full chess course by josh waitzkin This is a solid and mesmerizing chess course from the past. Its a classic and if you finish the course it will give you a solid chess foundation to build from. Don't be fooled by watching videos from Hikaru or Gotham chess. That stuff is pure entertainment, and far from what you actually need to make progress and improve. You're never going to learn the foundational principles of Psychology of chess by watching Hikaru or Gotham. Even the most basic concepts like patience cannot be found on YouTube that's how lost all of that material is. Chess is about developing a deep patient contemplative ability that you slowly refine over time.

I can't overstate how ineffective watching YouTube content is for learning chess in today's age. Even the most basic concepts like how to maintain tension or what tension is isn't communicated. Nothing at all is communicated. --- Some ideas are so effective that if you just keep that idea in mind consciously throughout the entire game You'll play completely different style of chess, instead of defaulting on your basic patterns. For example you can be aware of how uncomfortable something is for your opponent. When you pin a piece that causes psychological stress on your opponent. When you continue to apply and maintain these stressors your opponent's position eventually falls apart. But most people are so unaware of what creating stress and tension is on the position that they just play blindly. They will find themselves applying stress on their opponent and then in the next move they'll just alleviate that stress for no reason at all. They're making this mistake because they're unaware of what they're doing. This is why bringing your queen out early is a mistake in general because it's not effective in the early game at creating stress and applying pressure. It's just going to get kicked around. They're unaware because these concepts are not told ever on YouTube. Magnus Carlsen is a terrible teacher. Hikaru is a terrible teacher. Gotham is a terrible teacher. They're all exceptionally entertaining though.

I used the Chrome extension I built to get the content and automatically paste it to Claude. But I had to go to each page so there's eight total pages. Say -> Claude Page This command will send the page content to Claude. If you do this for all eight pages you get all the content. It also works for videos on YouTube. You can also just click the microphone and talk directly to the page or the video. In the future I'm planning on making it an AI agent that will automatically get all the pages or research needed for particular topic and automatically paste it to an AI or give a real-time response. I have a update pending that is actually going to fix the real time function to make it much more usable. It just needs a couple days before you could get access to it. The real-time voice assistant on my Chrome extension is Free if anyone's interested.

Emotional regulation is crucial for chess improvement. When you can't control your emotions, your judgment is clouded, leading to disastrous moves. If you want to improve, you must manage your feelings. This is due to the downward spiral principle. A bad move triggers an emotional response, causing you to make an even worse, impulsive move. This further worsens your position, leading to more bad moves and ultimately, a complete collapse. Beginners commonly fall into this downward spiral, and learning to overcome it is essential. Book The Art of Learning: Downward Spiral By Josh Waitzkin, Good Audio Recording of his voice at the link.

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How Claude has answered this question if anyone's curious.

I used Claude to help understand the Dynamics here I think it it was interesting enough to show. I think this was the main feeling I have when reading this thread is people talking past each other.

Well done. If you follow Brian Johnson's routine he has a very solid morning exercise routine that's fairly high intensity. This would give you way more benefits than caffeine ever did in the morning and it will replace your caffeine routine.

If every man you came into contact with rejected you and gave you no dating opportunities you would go on youtube and seek advice on how to attract men. Can you see the false comparison being made?

You have the resources to do that?

@Princess Arabia @Emerald okay guys what advice would give to a men who is struggling to get a gf, maybe he's a virgin maybe lets say he's 22. What strategy should he use to be more attractive or find himself with a gf?

Why is it that women consistently find themselves in relationships with men who have bad character? Specifically when they're young and inexperienced or in some cases indefinitely.