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Definitely I think we just have to take these things not as some biblical truth. I think analyzing everything makes a lot of sense, not to assume all this Theory applies in every situation or even at all in most situations. It's all partial truths. A high value guy is nice, a self-absorbed man is not nice. You could be low value and nice and you can be high value and self-absorbed. It's a different line of development. You don't need to bend over backwards to be nice to someone (low value), you don't need to be fake or inauthentic to be nice to someone, you could be yourself and be comfortable and secure and are naturally nice to people. And it shows up completely differently than fake nice. Whether you are high value or low value, you can be nice to people or you can be completely self-absorbed. A guru is nice to everyone and high value and secure. And if they're not nice they are doing it out of love and if they're not doing out of love they're not having a good day. Sometimes people have emotions, shocking.

* Society highly values physical beauty in women, which creates a unique set of challenges despite appearances. * Beautiful women are often sought for the esteem they provide others, not for genuine connection, leading to relationship difficulties. * Many relationships with beautiful women are based on a hidden "esteem transaction," causing conflict when she acts outside of it. * Beautiful women often experience rejection because people are in love with an idea of them, not who they are. * People often act inauthentically in dating, and this is amplified for beautiful women who are pursued for a false image. * Beautiful women experience isolation due to insecurities of others, leading to a lack of genuine friendships. * Jilted lovers of beautiful women often become enemies, making relationships emotionally unsafe. * A beautiful woman's existence triggers egos in others, leading to zero-sum games and distrust. * Society sends mixed messages about beauty, simultaneously valuing and vilifying beautiful women. * Beautiful women are often presumed stupid and their pain is dismissed due to their perceived "blessed" state. * Beautiful women live under constant scrutiny, facing pressure from others' attention and judgment. * Beautiful women are often approached by people with dangerous psychologies, as well as rescuers who need them to remain dysfunctional. * People tend to move away from beautiful women in everyday interactions, leading to social isolation. * Beautiful women are stripped of their merit, with success often attributed to their looks, not their abilities. * Beautiful women may struggle to develop their true selves, as their identity is often tied to their appearance. * Beautiful women are often blamed for infidelity and sexual harassment, rather than the perpetrators. * Medical professionals may minimize the health issues of beautiful women, due to a bias linking looks with health. * Beautiful women endure relentless sexual harassment, from unwanted touching to sexual commentary. * Beautiful women are taught their value is in their looks, causing deep fear of aging and loss of beauty. * The more beautiful a woman is perceived, the more intense and negative these patterns and downsides become. --- I think both perspectives are true and it just depends on the type of person and their temperament and their upbringing on how their development unfolds. Also both perspectives are focusing on a completely different problem exactly like how Leo and emerald are talking past each other. We're all talking past each other.

Do not sleep in the same bed with anyone it interferes with sleep quality, this is a nonsense cultural intervention. that being said your girlfriend must be 1/4th the size of the bed. This is standard. 😅 get the measuring tape out.

* The ability to disappoint women is a vital skill for men to have successful relationships, as women tend to have a consumptive form of love. * Men often struggle to disappoint women due to a scarcity mentality, fearing it will jeopardize the relationship. * A woman's love is consumptive, meaning she wants all of your time and attention, and paradoxically, giving her everything she wants leads to her losing attraction. * Maintaining a relationship requires maintaining a high level of attraction, which means continuing to be the person she fell in love with. * Women can want to get what they want, but also on another level, they don't want to get what they want from you too often because it makes her feel unsafe. * Disappointing women communicates that you are centered in your masculine purpose, and can tolerate her distress, which allows her to relax into the relationship. * Women test men to see if they can turn them down, which demonstrates that they are maintaining frame. * Disappointing women sooner rather than later helps determine if she is mature enough to handle disappointment in a healthy way. * Rejection and disappointment can increase attraction, making the relationship more spicy and interesting. * Saying "no" to women can increase her attraction, much like when women reject men, it often has the same effect. * Beautiful women often appear "nuts" because they are rarely told the truth, creating a distorted perception of reality. * From a young age, attractive women experience differential treatment from men, who seek to please them rather than being honest. * Men often lie to beautiful women because honesty is not rewarded unless it aligns with what the woman wants to hear, and they learn that they get punished for speaking the truth. * Men who prioritize integrity or are on the autistic spectrum are more likely to be honest, but most men choose to lie to achieve their goals. * The presenter uses an analogy of a difficult manager to illustrate that men are not likely to risk telling the truth when there's a high probability of negative consequences. * Women often react negatively to the truth, getting offended or terminating the relationship, thus reinforcing men's tendency to lie. * Men learn to cater to women's models of reality, especially those of attractive women, which are often based on lies they have been told. * Less attractive women do not experience this as frequently because men are more likely to be honest when they don't have a vested interest in pleasing them. * The only exception where beautiful women might hear the truth is if they had strong male figures in their families who were not trying to sleep with them. * Ultimately, men lie to beautiful women because telling them the truth does not get them laid, and they find it's more effective to cater to what women want to hear. --- I did not post this because I agree or disagree. --- It's interesting that one of my relationships ended exactly this way. Where I gave her everything and cater to her model of reality and then she strongly pushed away when I started to tell her the truth. lol

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I have never heard a single YouTuber you say the word "patience". That's how bankrupt you know everything is. The problem is they know all of these psychological tricks but they don't think about psychology or think that that's the main focus. A chess teacher has to teach psychology and Meta thinking and thinking about thinking non-stop that's the whole game. Everything else is easy. Logical calculation is the easy part. It's avoiding all of your own self-imposed bullshit that's hard.

70 video full chess course by josh waitzkin This is a solid and mesmerizing chess course from the past. Its a classic and if you finish the course it will give you a solid chess foundation to build from. Don't be fooled by watching videos from Hikaru or Gotham chess. That stuff is pure entertainment, and far from what you actually need to make progress and improve. You're never going to learn the foundational principles of Psychology of chess by watching Hikaru or Gotham. Even the most basic concepts like patience cannot be found on YouTube that's how lost all of that material is. Chess is about developing a deep patient contemplative ability that you slowly refine over time.

I can't overstate how ineffective watching YouTube content is for learning chess in today's age. Even the most basic concepts like how to maintain tension or what tension is isn't communicated. Nothing at all is communicated. --- Some ideas are so effective that if you just keep that idea in mind consciously throughout the entire game You'll play completely different style of chess, instead of defaulting on your basic patterns. For example you can be aware of how uncomfortable something is for your opponent. When you pin a piece that causes psychological stress on your opponent. When you continue to apply and maintain these stressors your opponent's position eventually falls apart. But most people are so unaware of what creating stress and tension is on the position that they just play blindly. They will find themselves applying stress on their opponent and then in the next move they'll just alleviate that stress for no reason at all. They're making this mistake because they're unaware of what they're doing. This is why bringing your queen out early is a mistake in general because it's not effective in the early game at creating stress and applying pressure. It's just going to get kicked around. They're unaware because these concepts are not told ever on YouTube. Magnus Carlsen is a terrible teacher. Hikaru is a terrible teacher. Gotham is a terrible teacher. They're all exceptionally entertaining though.

I used the Chrome extension I built to get the content and automatically paste it to Claude. But I had to go to each page so there's eight total pages. Say -> Claude Page This command will send the page content to Claude. If you do this for all eight pages you get all the content. It also works for videos on YouTube. You can also just click the microphone and talk directly to the page or the video. In the future I'm planning on making it an AI agent that will automatically get all the pages or research needed for particular topic and automatically paste it to an AI or give a real-time response. I have a update pending that is actually going to fix the real time function to make it much more usable. It just needs a couple days before you could get access to it. The real-time voice assistant on my Chrome extension is Free if anyone's interested.

Emotional regulation is crucial for chess improvement. When you can't control your emotions, your judgment is clouded, leading to disastrous moves. If you want to improve, you must manage your feelings. This is due to the downward spiral principle. A bad move triggers an emotional response, causing you to make an even worse, impulsive move. This further worsens your position, leading to more bad moves and ultimately, a complete collapse. Beginners commonly fall into this downward spiral, and learning to overcome it is essential. Book The Art of Learning: Downward Spiral By Josh Waitzkin, Good Audio Recording of his voice at the link.

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How Claude has answered this question if anyone's curious.

I used Claude to help understand the Dynamics here I think it it was interesting enough to show. I think this was the main feeling I have when reading this thread is people talking past each other.

Well done. If you follow Brian Johnson's routine he has a very solid morning exercise routine that's fairly high intensity. This would give you way more benefits than caffeine ever did in the morning and it will replace your caffeine routine.

If every man you came into contact with rejected you and gave you no dating opportunities you would go on youtube and seek advice on how to attract men. Can you see the false comparison being made?

You have the resources to do that?

@Princess Arabia @Emerald okay guys what advice would give to a men who is struggling to get a gf, maybe he's a virgin maybe lets say he's 22. What strategy should he use to be more attractive or find himself with a gf?

Why is it that women consistently find themselves in relationships with men who have bad character? Specifically when they're young and inexperienced or in some cases indefinitely.

https://x.com/DisrespectedThe/status/1874090648028275171 Woman reveal everything they did as kids. The comment section is PURE judgement. Now its your turn. From 1/10 to what level of judgement and discussed did you feel when watching this.

naaa I get it, i just trying to make you look good in front of the truth seeking ladies. I misspoke I was trying to make it clear that you're not pushing for unhealthy teachings. My writing is not perfect. There has to be some way to bridge the gap so women can understand the teaching while going around to their agenda. lol

I know whatever you said on camera. On camera you're teaching people to have healthy relationships and to treat women correctly. I understand that you're a normal person that made 101 mistakes like everyone else, are you withholding critical information that you're actually a tyrant? lol No I don't think I know you. lol Am I allowed to think highly of you or is this against the Forum rules . Oh I understand it's because the only interest is in pure truth. My assumption is that you're overly focused on truth in relationships which is a super masculine thing and that tends to cause conflict. I did that a lot for a long time and then relaxed at some point with it all. Or your health problems cause emotional problems which cause conflict which cause issues like that. Or maybe i completely misinterpreted your very recent videos where you talked about these subjects.

Lmaoo I think the way to answer this question is experimenting and seeing if you feel good, you feel better and everything in life improves, and now you have a permanent erection representing the strength of an immortal body. 🦄

🤣 didn't Leo make a three-part series of Commandments men should follow whenever in the presence of woman? Honestly I know it's not a popular opinion but I do think because Leo has so much experience with this that he's mostly right. If you really want experience, dress up as a man and then go and approach a bunch of women and try to connect with these women yourself. A lot of women don't realize just how challenging that is. Especially when you have no idea how to socialize. Leo is very thoughtful in his relationships and a loving person overall, and he advocates for all this. It's just tricky teaching men that have no clue at all how to get results and then from there being in a healthy responsible relationship. Attraction is very primitive thing and when you talk about it out loud it sounds like misogyny and emotional manipulation in a unhealthy way. But really Leo is talking about healthy emotional manipulation ( if your girlfriend asks you if she looks fat, you always respond with no lol). He is always talking about the healthy representation of all of these topics, and how to have healthy relationships from beginning to end.

When a guy has Zero Charisma he looks autistic and socially unadded, is this someone you're attracted to? This is the general pattern of people who are uncalibrated because women are so sensitive to other people's emotions when you're un calibrated you're giving off the wrong emotions and now she is burdened with those emotions, making her feel uncomfortable. So Charisma is the opposite of that you're creating an environment of safety security and connection. When a guy is nervous a woman very easily can pick that up and it makes them feel uncomfortable. They might not know he's nervous but they can pick up on all the subtleties of tension that he's giving off. A uncalibrated person is creating a lot of tension with all the people around him.