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That proves the point, you need practice to discover the technique for yourself as its personalized to you. No amount of theory will get you there with out practice. Most Doctors go there entire career destroying peoples lives with out recognizing there mistakes. Theory is dogma. Similarly men go there entire lives failing at relationships not recognize the inner work lacking in there technique. Blaming women for what really is a mans lack of awareness.

Im having issues with buying the right Scale to measure out substances less then 3 mg. Do you have any company recommendations? Something reliable + built well?

@mr_engineer Read a book on piano, then go play at a concert hall in front of thousands with no practice.

Ah of course! +1

Ascending vs Descending paths. The Feminine wants to take the Descending path to spirituality. People need to go down the path that first peaks there interests and is natural, after that path is exhausted they will naturally explore the other side of the coin. Leos video are all Agentic and Ascending Communication style, language and content. Growing up I couldnt get into spirituality because all the gurus where commutating in a Descending Communal way and the content was primarily focused with wisdom sound bytes and how to descend and feel deeply. When my nature and intuitive insights where showing me the other side. When finding leo, spirituality instantly made sense for the first time, he was saying everything i was discovering and was living and seeing around me. Ah so i dont need to be a lovy dovy intuitive fool to be spiritual and repeat a bunch of quantum crap like depak and hug everyone I see! Ah there is a massive theoretical foundation to learn and integrate that can be understood/discovered/explored with practice. For people whos nature is the other side of the coin leos video makes less sense to them and they NEED that loving guru vibe. 9:53:

If he had laughed instead the child would of laughed.

I think this is a ENFP discovering spiritualty

Story time last night a went to bed and the neighbor was having an outdoor pool party playing music full blast, the walls did very little to block out the noise. I felt frustration build up, I let it fester for 5 minutes until i realized i can just let it go, let go of what im feeling towards other people and judgements towards peoples inconsideration for others. I realized I could sleep regardless of the noise and the only thing holding me back was limiting beliefs that I cant and I fell asleep shortly after that with party music blasting into my bedroom. BOOM BOOM BOOM To get the control you always wanted, let go of control.

If you dont like stage theory you must be stage green ?(joke) I read some of it and she clearly has some interesting points, but her main point is to dismiss these models on the grounds that they limit people and put people into boxs, shes ranting over the limits of these models, but ya they have limits that does not make them useless, just keep there limits in mind and move on. If you intersect models with other models you get some interesting details that pop up, also obviously dont use them in a naive dogmatic way. Women also develop very asymmetrically and dont neatly move up these levels the way men are more likely to do. The structure of her experience is still observable. She is trying to denie that because of epistemological biases we cant accurately measure structures. Well then observe structures from many epistemological perspectives then derive general patterns from does perspectives!

If a woman calls you ugly she is obviously immature and you dont want to date her. What would of been better if this same girl gave you validation? What is her validation worth? Nothing. Validation comes from within and knowing your worth.

Wow your 100% on point with this, identifying as NOT an addict is vital for intrinsic long lasting change. There is "Im not an addict, just on more hit" self-deception. Then theres, "Im not an addict" Self-identity. If you ask a non-smoker if they want a smoke there is no possible temptation in there mind to smoke, "I am not a smoker", "im to intelligent for that", "i value my health" Ego identity boost that is immune to drug addiction.

@mr_engineer Real the book, Integral Relationships.

@Enlightement What i mean by simplicity is ones ability to narrow down and make sense of complexity. The more complexity your able to resolve in ones mind the simpler it all gets. A schizo struggles to narrow down the complexity and cant bring it all together, they get stuck building it up adding more complexity on top of what is already a model that is unorganized or unprocessed. Someone can have a mind that floods them with many connections or a mind that makes very few connections. In both cases what determines simplicity is how effective one is at simplifying the complexity by processing it and bringing it all together. A schizo has a mind that generates many connections with very poor capacity to process it into a coherent model or reality. While autism is really really good at narrowing down complexity into coherence. The average person is somewhere in the middle they are average at connection making and average at processing it. What you said earlier that when your calm things feel simple and when your stressed things feel chaotic is a good example of this, when calm complexity is processed efficiently while stressed ones ability to do so is compromised. Also the type of connections being made changes (baised). To see the simplicity of life the complexity needs to be processed wisely, that usually ends up involving deconstruction at the higher stages and what you get is an experience of profound simplicity all possible by infinite complexity. Simplicity is complexity in coherence. When you finally grasp some hard topic youve been working on for a while suddenly its so simple!

Experiencing simplicity is a super power and with out it a healthy mind cant form. Im seeing this pattern somewhere, autism type have a lot easier time then schizophrenics at seeing the simplicity of life. If we put autism and schizophrenics on a oppose end spectrum, we get a sort of Simple vs Chaos spectrum. Spirituality is in large part your ability to experience simplicity and then experience chaos and see the play between them. Sit there look at the environment around you. NOTHING IS HAPPENING. No one is after you, there are no ghosts around the corner, your finances dont exist, there is no person experiencing, who gives a shit about who gives a shit. Sit there at piece, this is spiritualty 101 sitting in simplicity. Theres no need for years of meditation to understand this, look in any random direction and dont think or interpret it, thats about it, hold that position(mind) and relax into it, its silent.

@Husseinisdoingfine Competitiveness with your self is where growth happened and success, consistent daily goal to become better then you where yesterday.

Totally, I invited a girl once to a kids trampoline jumble gym, she ghosted me lmfao. We need jumble gyms for adults!

A ghost is valuable, TO valuable, never reveal yourself again unless you desire be harvested for human greed. A ghost assumed it was the danger. A ghost was wrong. Dead wrong.

The strategy I use is to have 5-6 good pictures, put them on all the major dating apps that use large profile descriptions and answering personality questions, ill filter religion by spirituality so i only see women of interest all the others are not compatible with me she needs to be minimum green, then i start swiping ONLY looking at profile description NOT pictures. The description tells me all I need to know, ill exhaust all swipes on all the dating apps. The women that swipe back I comment something funny about one of there pictures and schedule a date that week at a restaurant. Done. Extraction complete.

That makes sense, simplicity can also be to be comfortable with the chaos is a sense. I sort of view it as Simplicity = deep rest to build up/conserve energy and Chaos = exploding out with intuition, connections, insights. To be stuck in only chaos causes burn out or slow spiraling down into mental unhealth, got to take a break. Let the energy settle into clarity then jump back into the ocean. Elite athletes operate this way to rest deeply and release all that pent up energy at once for peak performance, then fluctuate back.

Intuition is only as good as the training it received. Open a chess game and play only with intuition, youll loss non-stop for years because there is no foundation behind it. While a pro can use nothing but intuition (no deep thinking) and perform well. Spirituality or any domain is similar, it still takes time to refine ones intuition.

There is one thing about all studies, research and evidence about health no one tells you. That solid high quality sleep, daily consistent high intensity exercise and a great diet is 10x more effective then any medication. There not in the same league. ive seen alot of people on the site over the years with alot of mental health problems of various types, even simple negative thinking and across the board non of them do anything right biologically, so what do people expect?

@trenton I have no idea how to transition out of the 3rd stage (love and belong) as ive never experienced not belonging. So it was given to me for free by family and environment. Most people here will not know how to grow from this stage as they never consciously needed to. Got to read some books on the topic, im not finding good information online.

The view point is unbalance, your conditioned your self to only see the negative in everything, its not all negative. Come back to the impartial center. Also how you feel is far more then some idea in your mind, if your not exercising, if your not taking care of your body and have no body mind connection on how to manage neurochemistry, then the mind will create negative output more then positive. If you where high on lsd or mushrooms you would see only bliss, Thats because how you feel shapes your reality and how you feel is shaped by everything. Take responsibility for all the things that come together to create your feelings. Be practical, exercise! The INFPs kryptonite.

@SQAAD Do you exercise when feeling bad?

@trenton How does Maslow's hierarchy of needs relate to your life, how would you view your situation from that framing?