integral

I think a Daily Challenge section would be nice, with a new challenge to be completed everyday and discussed about. The challenge can be a question to contemplate and everyone has to give there answers.

Alot of the time a girl will give you there number because they are Agreeable and want to get it over with so they can move on with there lives. Its easier to give a number then disagree and create conflict. Woman have fear of conflict.

ChatGPT Polarity map for freedom vs. security? Key points to consider: Balancing Act: The tension between freedom and security is a classic example of a polarity. Society often seeks a balance between individual freedoms and the need for collective security. Interdependence: The map illustrates how both values are interconnected and influence each other. An extreme focus on security might lead to a reduction in individual freedoms, while excessive freedom could compromise overall security. Dynamic Movement: The arrow indicates that societies and individuals often navigate between these values, striving to find an optimal balance that meets both personal and collective needs. Integral Perspective: Integral theory encourages recognizing and embracing the inherent value of both poles. It suggests that a truly balanced approach involves integrating and honoring both freedom and security rather than favoring one at the expense of the other. Developmental Context: Depending on an individual's stage of development and cultural context, the emphasis on freedom and security can vary. Integral theory acknowledges the importance of understanding these variations.

@Sidra khan How I relate to Razard is that we both have the same INTJ personality type so I feel the inner drive of passion and enthusiasm coming from his communication style.

If your not feeling loved in the relationship then there might be a love language miss match (the 5 love languages). Is the issue your love language is physical touch and his isn't? So your not receiving daily gestures of hugs, kissis and understanding you crave? At higher levels of development people find balance between the masculine and feminine within themselves until the polarity is transcended. As in they embody the healthy traits of both or can transition from one polarity to another easily depending on the situation as needed. Men make the mistake of not switching to a caring/empathetic/understanding role when there partner is in need of it (Feminine energy) because they are stuck in a problem solving mode trying to find solutions and woman make the mistake of not switching to a self-improvement/intellectual/self-reflection discussion mode when the man is in need of it (as women can feel like personal discussions are a form of critisms and are emotional stuck defending instead of discussing the ideas in a healthy way) (Masculine energy). Again got to learn to play both instruments as part of your repertoire! Men or the masculine drive is attracted to the path of spirituality that is a ascending agentic path while women or the feminine drive is attracted to the path of spirituality that is a descending communal path. So he is going to be more mind/creation focused and your going to be more feeling/intuitive/body/soul focused. Here is a more detailed overview taken from the book: Integral Relationships by Martin Ucik. Another book you might also enjoy that will help push your boundares is: Integral Spirituality by Ken Wilber.

What is it supposed to look like?

When your mature enough you handle everything in the relationship from such a high vantage point that it becomes alot easier. It completely depends on the level of development you and your partner are at. Usually the more developed person in the relationship needs to compensate more and needs to guide things to there destination, but because there more developed they have a large capacity to do so with out burning out. The second point is natural compatibility goes along way. If you date someone very similar to you, that thinks like you and has similar life style its 100x easier to live together. I suggest reading books like Integral Relationships to get a better idea of how to co-exist and then co-create with a partner.

Yes there hard because it forces you to grow up. It is true doe that if you date someone more developed and that your more naturally compatible with its significantly easier. The way your describing it is 2 people clashing a lot over there masculine and feminine differences and not accepting each other they way they are. Its the most common issue in all heterosexual relationships.

If we banned all hate speech you would of been banned from this forum already. You don't think your speech is hate speech. But others do. In all of these scenarios your not aware how what you want will come back around to hurt you.

So you seem to think consent shouldnt matter if it gets in the way of getting what you want. Then I should also be allowed to have sex with you when ever I want when im horny regardless if you want anal sex from a man or not (like you stated you believed in other thread) Does all this sound good for you? You Consent to that? No obviously you do not agree. So your statements at this point are like a child throwing a temper tantrum when they dont get what they want. Completely lost in egocentrism.

Anyways at this point I need to warn you that this behavior cannot exist on the forum for very long. Most mods just insta ban in this situation because its a toxic idiology towards woman. In general your showing some willingness to learn in other discussion so lets continue that trend.

But there are no distictions, distictions are a convient interpretation of reality. Choose a interpretation of reality not dependent on making distictions.

Are you trying to say that even if a girl refuses you should be alowed to have sex with her against her will because sex is a vital need?

Thats true, what i ment was to be there lover and there friend. The friend part is you actually like there company, like talking ot them, care about them...

@integral Im saying this now to protect you, the best thing you can do in this situation is learn to become friends with woman and care about them, the main reason you want to change to this mindset is it will avoid rape and you wont get yourself into trouble. Jail sucks. Its also more enjoyable because you will actually like women.

You have the mindset of a rapist, are you aware of this?

I said that to explain how when she says no, it means no, but the guy will rationalize is as "she is playing hard to get" because hes blinded by lust.

@The Redeemer Rape happends exactly the way you are discribing this situation. Rapist are not people who go out trying to rape women that is rare situation, nearly all rape happends with the guy not having any idea he just raped a girl, he thought she consented. Because hes in a "I want to fuck her" mindset and rationalizes anything she sais and does as consent. No = she is playing hard to get. "She is saying no but she will enjoy it when it starts" <-- the most common. Its a LUST rationalization trap

Women dont owe you sex.

Got to relax bit, I get its a false accusation but the only men this happends to are men like you, overly masculine with aspects of toxic masculinity and issues with impulse control causing a out of balance in your behavior with women. The interaction was you only saw her as a sexual object to satify your needs in that moment. You where very close to actual rape and most rapes happen exactly the way your discribing it right now, the guy doesnt even know she didnt consent because there in a lust state making them "hope" she is concenting. "She was into it then she wasnt", playing guessing games with yourself trying to convince yourself she wants you. Its the most common rape mistake.

Yes 100% she also didnt know how to say no. Women are conditioned by sociaty to avoid conflict at all cost, be people pleasers and keep social harmy, when things like this happen they freeze up and dont know what to do, so they bottle up there emotions hoping it will stop, then they start crying, all before ever saying the word No. Especially if she has childhood trauma or past rape trauma, she likely has alot of psycological problems. Its called the assault freeze response.

On another note, your behavior was very uncalibrated and you got to learn to take no for an answer. It was way to agressive, seduce woman properly next time and have there needs as a priority in your engagement.

Yes a rape conviction takes more then an accusation, she at least needs semen evidence or other types of evidence like physical harm, video or eye witness. Or else anyone would go to jail just by accusation.

@The Redeemer Basicly the only time your getting into trouble is if she can prove rape and thats by going to the police and getting a rape kit done on her to take a semen sample. If she does not have semen she cant get a conviction. So only you know if your in danger of this happening.