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When living with someone people go through every state and mood. So the whole spectrum of who they are as a person is revealed. Their worst possible selves and their best possible selves are all going to be something that the partner has to experience every day. The closer that both partners Lifestyles align with each other the less friction there's going to be when all these different moods and States collide. Having high standards to select a good partner is super important and 99% of the point of doing that is to figure out if you can live together with them.

It's hard to know if you're compatible with someone if you don't live with them

I read in the previous comment that people were interpreting what we were saying as that he should stay in the relationship. When what we're talking about is he doesn't have any gratitude or appreciation or understanding what life is about. and @LordFall will frame gratitude as weakness, settling, scarcity mindset, laziness and so on. and that's only true when they didn't do any self development work, when they didn't pursue all of that stuff and now they're actually coping. This is his first relationship and he found something to be unhappy about, And that's fine that's how we are all built and now he has to go and date 600 more women to find that they're all basically the same. Everyone you're going to date is going to have strengths and weaknesses. @LordFall the MBTI point was good, compatibility is important, but what matters more above mbti is what is their mature level, how have applied themselves in self development, do they have healthy physiology and don't have neurological conditions.

Why is that such a crazy thing to say?

From your perspective what i said is toxic abuse? and what i said is he needs life experience to know what hes looking for.

Dude your acting like hes in a toxic abussive relationship and im telling him to accept it.

For anyone with life experience.

"met an incredibly loving, loyal, beautiful woman. We are highly compatible in lifestyle: both introverted, home-oriented, physically attracted to each other, and comfortable living together. She takes care of the home, I provide financially, and the relationship is peaceful and easy." this is the ideal relationship. I would of accepted "peaceful" as the only requirement.

I didn't say he had to settle. I said if he has a problem he needs more life experience and that means he has to leave the relationship and get that experience But don't expect some rainbow unicorn woman at the other side

@Elliott Realistically what you could hope for is a woman who's going to hug you when you come home from work and tell you that she loves you.

MIMINUM? He said the only problem with his wife is that she's intellectually not his equal. That means she qualifies at every level except for one. Anyways the problem has nothing to do with the girl it has to do with him not having experience, and not knowing what life is about and prioritizing small details that and he thinks fixing these small details are going to bring him happiness

You're at the beginning of the journey not the end. That perfect woman doesn't exist, you're going to find someone marginally of better compatibility. Don't confuse one realization for understanding the whole journey here. Who ever you date will have strengths and weaknesses.

Let's assume someone does not have a scarcity mindset, they do have options and yet they're in a great relationship with a great woman who has one imperfection. Now your whole post looks like someone has to chase perfection or else there settling, so the framing is everything is settling and that's weakness and therefore it's wrong. Do you "deserve a Lamborghini?" the answer: The question is a shallow value projection. Needing Perfection is the pathology. Because these are children's games. If you're in a great relationship and still not happy it's because you have to grow up. And there's nothing wrong with needing to grow up and if that growing up means you have to leave the relationship to experience life then that's what you got to do.

Watch on youtube so it loops. Loop: https://youtube.com/shorts/ogPVcIeE8a0?si=UHXN0A2q9ir5Y80X

I know it's almost childish but I have a fear of revealing my best business ideas or dream business that I'm currently actively working on, in fear of it being stolen lol. I have the fear of not releasing it until it's perfect or that I've built a substantial way of promoting it so that I'm first to Market. I don't know if this is rational There's a lot of wisdom going around that you shouldn't reinvent the wheel with unique Products, just take products that already exist that have been battle tested and copy them. But this bores me out of my mind and most of it isn't aligned with my highest vision.

@Leo Gura this page has no usable text or metadata for the quote. https://www.actualized.org/insights/profound-quotes-111 This makes it impossible to search quotes as they are in image format.

Your mother has to transfer all of the funds to a different bank account to secure everything and not give him access.

@Natasha Tori Maru the only alternative to the "yes" answer: you never observe a necessary connection between two events, you just see one thing, then another (ball moves, window breaks), and your mind supplies the "cause." So causation is just a habit of associating things. but thats just one metaphysics out of any number you can imagine. so the question is how to know what metaphysics is true? Will any experiment tell me what is true? Can observation and intuition tell me what is true or is that a self-deception? Can i know what is true by rational thought and logic, is it reliable? ... epistemology 🌈

To test the hypothesis, go and find that intellectual woman that you think you're going to find. She's not going to be on Tinder, she won't be on any dating app. Do the work and find that woman.

@Husseinisdoingfine loool basicly the ESTP, and they're very successful at business. Action over planning.

phenomenology of conformity is 99% of the confusion in this thread.

What he found funny was something his group thinks as obviously true = conformity. Example: a christian connects the dots for the first time and realizes that athiest: "have no basis for morality without God", connecting dots are often events that are funny "OMG! haha", but what that insight is can be group think. you were not wrong. just didnt point to what the truth is anchored to. his truth is anchored to a unexamined internalized structure = group think.

I think this question flattens the felt experience with conforming. The wine connoisseur, is it that he knows that it's a prestigious expensive, rare bottle and that's the only reason he enjoys it? or does he enjoy it without any ideology? Will a Christian stop enjoying prayer if their beliefs are removed? A Christian can feel Nostalgia every time they pray as it reminds them of a past memory. <- feeling anchored to his own history (not conformity). A Christian can feel fearful when they're praying because they don't want to be punished for wrong thoughts. <- feeling anchored to an internalized structure (absorbed rule/story). (conformity) A Christian can feel good that they're praying because it makes them respectable in the eyes of others. <- feeling anchored to the social group. (conformity) A Christian can feel peaceful when praying because they enjoy having a connection with God. <- feeling anchored to the felt experience of contact with god. (not conformity) Their feelings are sometimes conformist sometimes not. Praying is a conformist act when the desire to do it comes for the inwards absorbed system, but during prayer the experience can be authentic, like having nostalgia because the feeling is anchored to his own history. The feeling of contact to god is real (authentic, anchored to present experience). The interpretation -> "this is specifically the God my church describes" is conformist. The hippie feels vinyl is best because the feeling is anchored to fitting into vintage culture. (conformity). in practice he has 5-6 feelings about vinyl simultaneously all anchored differently.

😂 yes it's literally pigs blood jellofied. With a little bit of onions and seasoning it's honestly addictive. But nowadays I just buy a liter of pig's blood, boil it for 10 minutes, and drink 🧛 technically that's still vegan in the vampire culture