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Did you guys trying talking about the sex life and working to improve it?

Say no to his requests and when he spam calls you eventually answer the phone and say no to all his requests over and over until he stops asking you. there should be no downside to the friend group. you could also make an excuse and say you’re working full-time and you have no time for anything else.

Sounds like you don’t like bro culture

Because when you reach tier 2 you stop judging.

@Tyler Robinson yes but we could also just let it go and not hold people to standards that they were never able to uphold from the beginning. Everyone is flawed and perfect. What matters now is whether you can accept his flaws as good enough for you and if you both can grow independently and together. You’ve reaching the burnout phase and Growth in a relationship is the antithesis of burn out.

The trick is to think without words, don’t try to subvocalize in a linear way, instead use intuition to go straight to the answer. It’s a silent thought process jumping from one symbol/image to the next.

Do you know who he is? Don’t you love him the way he is? If not do you need him to be different? If so why? What would you change about him?

Why does it matters to you that he pulled this stunt? Isn’t it a game?

Is all of this happening because you don't like the perception he has of you? It seems like you almost want revenge, why? Didnt you just proved yourself to him with this test with such a high score it gave him shame?

IDENTIFYING HER ANIMUS COMPLEX What is a man to you? What do you expect from a man in relationship with you? Tell me ten things that make you feel loved, honored, and respected as a woman? What do you think about male-female equality? What differences do you see between men and women? Are there different roles for men and women in a relationship and our society and what are they? What role did your father play in your life and what is your relationship with him today? Who were the most significant males in your life, during what period, what role did they play, and howdid they influence you? What role did your mother play in your life and what is your relationship with her today? What roles did you and your partners play in previous relationships? What makes men attractive to you? What kinds of men are unattractive to you? She may be in stage 1 (men as alien outsider) if she has an ambivalent relationship with her father and other significant men in her early life. Additional indicators are reports of tumultuous love/hate relationships with former partners, longer periods in her life without a male partner, sexual relationships with women, and if she goes back and forth between a desperate clingy desire for your love and then fearful rejections when you get close. Pointers to a stage 2 animus (men as father, God, or king) are a critical or disapproving father figure whom she never felt to be good enough for. She may speak favorably of kind men who adore, support, and treat her well, and negatively of those who criticize, challenge, or dismiss her. Women in this stage may struggle with aging, can be emotionally needy, constantly ask for approval and reassurance about their lovability, and are afraid to do things wrong. Indicators of a stage 3 animus complex (men as her hero) are answers that favor loyal, supportive, generous, and loving men with an unwavering commitment to honor and support their wife and children. She likely had a stable childhood and a good relationship with her father and mother, or at least healed most of her earlier emotional wounds. In her eyes, men should know right from wrong, be hard-working, good fathers, family-oriented, heroic, protective (if need be, aggressive towards others), and benevolent towards her. Women in stage 4 (men as independent being) are particularly easy to identify, as they talk about the financial and emotional independence that they have attained through their own work or through successful divorces after one or more long-term marriages. They express a desire to explore who they are, independent of a committed partnership with a man, and want to live alone, often with a dog or cat that they are proud to love more than they would any man. If women in this stage consider to be in a partnership they often exclaim...“where are all the good men?”...and of course no man within their reach is ever good enough. Successful, up-beat, entertaining, self-assured, and happy men who display empathy, understanding, and support for them while pursuing their own purpose and interests without needing a female partner for sex, approval, support, or “to mother” them are valued by women in this stage, who sometimes maintain uncommitted sexual relationships with younger lovers. Most eco-, radical, and social feminists—who resent men and what they stand for—are found in this stage (or stage 1) as well. She has arrived in stage 5 of her animus development (men as equal partner) when she realizes the benefits of being in a committed love relationship with an integrally informed man whom she values as an opposite and equal. A woman in this stage sees the benefits of a healthy, live together committed marriage as the foundation for her ongoing personal growth, spiritual development, physical sexual well being, and socially, economically, and ecologically responsible livelihood. Her focus is on the inner qualities of a responsible man who lives his authentic life purpose and can love unconditionally in a committed partnership, instead of his worldly possessions and social status only. A single woman in this stage is a rare find, as she is clear in what she seeks in a life-partner, and actively pursues men who are her equal. She has no problem finding a suitable partner within a few weeks of her opening to relationship if she is attractive and sex-positive,451 as men are naturally conditioned by evolution to be chosen by a healthy woman who honors and values them.

He’s the same person you fell in love with, so why does this incident change anything? Are you able to love and accept him and his flaws as is? Or has what has been revealed about him a dealbreaker? Is there a way for you guys to grow in the relationship together and work on it? What are your fears?

@Tyler Robinson why has your perception of him changed? He’s exactly the same person he was when you met him.

@Tyler Robinson The relationship has a chance of progressing beyond the honeymoon phase if both partners have a growth mindset and not a fixed mindset. Fixed mindset believes in true love and destiny and if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be, they don’t believe in personal growth so for large enough incompatibilities they are very likely to end relationships instead of learning and growing togetter. Cultivate a growth mindset relationship for health and success. ?

I think the worry and fear he is experiencing after the fact is the most important part. I think hes scared of losing you because he’s attached and that’s why he’s apologizing so much. He also might be ashamed of his insecurities and doesn’t want you to see it. And that he is acting out his insecurities in a unhealthy way. Did you ask him why he did it? Quality non-judging communication is key here. This kind of stunt isn’t that bad the real test is about to come if his insecurities lead to more damaging behaviour like false accusations or jumping to conclusions or trying to control your life. All this leads to abuse. Hopefully it’s just one incident where his insecurities have been satisfied and he relaxes.

How do we avoid attachment in relationships and dependence? When a partner pulls away how do we avoid the negative feelings that compels us to "try to fix it"? How do we love ourselves completely? I tried an exercise where i visualized/Imagined my self (physical body + mind) and spoke to him and understood him as I would other people. I felt like it was a new perspective i never really considered and was able to empathize with that person and understand his journey. Trying to speak to him I cant think of anything to say to help him besides hugging him and telling him that I love him, crying with him. I suspect this is a mockery of the real thing focusing on love as an emotion. Im not sure this is really getting me anywhere or making progress, what method really gets results?

I tend to be gravitate to the people that have the most Interesting minds. Find out what their interests are and try to go deep into those topics. It seems to be the most interesting thing to do and all other forms of conversation I can barely finish a sentence because it’s so boring. is this reasonable to do? I found someone today who spoke 10 languages so I went deep into meta-language and all that juicy stuff. But they seem to strongly enjoy regular small talk type conversation. So is it intrusive to have the kind of conversations I actually want to have in these kind of environment? To put people outside their comfort zones?

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Masculine presenting straight woman Feminine presenting straight man So how can a straight woman be attracted to a feminine presenting man? Because her energy is masculine and he is feminine, role reversal attraction.

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AI will give us far better tooling for animation, lowering the barrier to entry for people with real story telling skills. Stories based on higher level concepts to teach a lesson in a experiential + memorable way that sticks. Rick and Morty has a few higher level concepts but there is so much more we can do.

Anime was my child hood and it definitely shaped my mind in many ways. Stories are powerful teachers.

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