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What most people need is a saddle mountain to their back for someone else to hop on and take control. Who’s riding the saddle right now? ?‍?

We can put guidelines for effective communication in the comment box. This way when it’s time to comment there is a reminder waiting for you that sets the mood for a high quality interaction.

It’s never been done before go out to do it and tell us the results. ?

This approach is logic and reason and the last thing you want to do. No one can be reasoned into feeling differently about you. Instead create an experience with them that changes how they feel about you and changes there motivation to talk to you. The biggest issue in trying to make them see reason is that you’re emotionally putting pressure on them making the situation worse. Putting emotional pressure on someone pushes them away further, absolutely avoid doing this. Use tactics to pull people towards you, that needs to be the mindset. The other part of this is you need another way to deal with your emotional frustration that is not “getting people to change there behaviour”. When you are frustrated your ability to change someone’s behaviour goes to zero.

@Tyler Robinson to give up judgement you need to experience ego death, there's no other way to go about it.

The issue could be heavy metal toxicity that is keeping the body under constant stress and tension.

There are infinite thoughts and ideas that you're in-capable of having right now do to limitations.

We will charge electric cars with fossil fuel powered generators. ?

Notice how your negative emotions warped reality and made the situation all about you when her state of mind had nothing to do with you. She was in a bad state of mind before you approach her. Notice how you judged her entire life by that one thing she did. "a cu**" because she threatened your survival. So for your ego to survive you had to make her lesser then you.

Manipulating people using fear is low consciousness and doesn't work, use high consciousness tactics instead. Manipulate using love, it's more effective, creates bonding and nurtures then.

Leonardo DiCaprio breaks up with woman the moment they turn 25. He does this consistently. From 1999 to now he has never dated anyone older then 25 statistics show.

I don't have good experiences doing that. ?

Beginner mistake. All that matters is how she feels, the truth is irrelevant. Female energy vs masculine energy conflict. Your job during conversation is making her feel good (feminine) NOT WHAT YOU THINK IS TRUE (masculine). The more developed person in the relationship tends to take on the responsibility of keeping the relationships together. --- If you want her to truly grow, then she needs to catch the self-development bug (intrinsic motivation).

@Atb210201 This is the trick, the only thing that matters is having good positive experiences with her. Not the truth, not fixing things, not changing things. Give all that up. This is the plan, have 10 good experience with her this week. Focus on that. Plan it, craft it, do it.

The issue is your mind set is idealistic and therefore non-adaptive to circumstance. Prudency is one tool out of many to be used when a situation requires it. To be realistic is to understand the game your playing exactly as it is and to find the best move in that situation (strategy). Before sending a text ask your self, how are they going to experience this? if its going to come off as a control-freak and you will be completely misunderstood, then don't do it. Speaking to be understood is to craft your words for the others experience. Craft the experience you want them to have and not leave it to chance that they will understand you. --- I forgot to answer the question, they don't want to deal with conflict. Its easier emotionally to ignore, ghost and block then to have to have a back and forward discussion about it. They emotionally do not want to deal with you anymore and that creates a lack of integrity, hypocrisy and double standards. To go the opposite path of what your emotions dictate is a leap in development and why few have integrity.

Example of Police Double Standards They didnt like being filmed so they came up with an excuse to arrest him.

The video on integrity compliments the latest one. Usually Double Standards & Hypocrisy come from a lack of integrity or a lack of awareness. Id love to see examples of double standards yet still Integris.

I guess it depends on the kind of emotion best resonates with you? Music is composed with an emotional story then there is the subjective experience of the listener.

I took it a few times separately, the effects where agitation. Never tried every day for weeks.

I'm getting the impression that before the age of 30 woman and men lack the experience to appreciate or value what they have in a partner. There playing a different game, priorities are different, they are trying to fulfill self esteem needs or sex. How do I differentiate what the person is actually in the relationship for? What value do i have to bring to a partners life to keep them around for the long term? It doesn't matter how valuable you are, in many cases a woman will simply change how they feel about you over time and leave. Why? Why don't people appreciate what they have long term and instead choose to focus on a fleeting fickle feeling?

This is what your looking for.