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@Tyler Robinson @Loba I wrote the bellow points a bit blunt as it was the easiest to get it out of my head, but I say it will all do love. This form of sex is therapy for one side, many people (with feminine nature) are using sex as a experience for inner healing and equating it with a partners bonding or trust but have you asked yourself what your partners experience is or was? It seems your overly focused on the experience your getting from it. This might be a reason woman fall in love when having sex and men dont, because the man is not engaged in love sex, they are simply fucking. To make the man fall in love with you ask your self how to satisfy there deep needs not just your own. I am secure and am not surrendering or healing with a partner when engaging this way, so these role plays are to satisfy there needs not mine. Your fantasies are being met, a process of facing your fears with a partner and there can be bonding for both sides happening but there is so much more to it then this. Its like sex with training wheels! That's the sex you need in your developmental journey and not the sex i need. Once healing is done, these levels of sex are repetitive, boring and unfulfilling. Chocking my partner while they say they love me is bonding and can be emotionally deep, I feel connected and its wonderful, but that's not how i communicate love to someone naturally (chocking is unnatural to me), we are not getting to the root of what love is and the emotional bond, all these roles play are a distraction from the real underling intimacy. There is a clear gap between the level of sex happing with tantric and these other types. Is chocking really the same as gently but firmly holding your head in my hands and kissing your forehead? When i express love i project outwards the intention of loving that person and that projection does not insight any violence inside of me = chocking/slapping. The emotion that a man experiences with chocking/slapping or anything of this nature is lust. Would I love a dog that way? No because it is not the love language a dog can understand. Violence as a form of love is a distraction from the real thing. These fantasies are a primitive component. Non of them can be used outside of the bedroom because its just violence with out sexual arousal. Tantric removes these components and goes to the root of it all, pure love, often sex isn't involved at all. The reason is sex isn't nessisariy for love making. When love making and sex can be stimulated LOVINGLY at the same time it is a spiritual experience. Try taking the sexual arousal out of the equation with these fantasies and there is nothing loving about it.

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Queen Elizabeth is on Canadian currency 20$ bill. I've seen her face my entire life. Why would the queen of england have anything to do with Canada? Good question! because she (and her ancestors) colonized Canada. This isn’t the only non-British country on which she stamped her face.

LMFAO actually i never met anyone who wants love sex and i think because that takes real intimacy that is way outside peoples comfort zones.

I think because they seek self gratification and pleasure and not unity.

I don't, I think there great fun, i enjoy role playing these fantasies but to me they are not deeply fulfilling and do not express how i want to love someone. I want to love a partner so deeply we unify at every level.

Great point . Listening to the body and learning its language takes years of practice/luck to get a sense of and in the end your still left not knowing if your doing it right lol. It would be nice to have some tech monitors to track inflammation, gene adaptations and every stress marker in real time... life would be so much easier. ? What are we to monitor? Here are some things i track from the top of my head. Rules What is consumed must add to the system not take away from it. Example Coffee will give a temporary sprint of mental energy but will cause a crash that will drop the body in a lower state the next day as it recovers. Coffee forces the system to consume resources. Temporary drops in energy is expected when digesting heavy foods this isn't nessisariy a bad sign. Acquiring the nutrients from does foods is the purpose. Investing energy now for later benefits. Don't confuse the euphoria of eating something that tastes good with a foods nurturing properties. Monitor Athletic performance/endurance. If i eat 12 bananas for example and do a sport right after the a result is 0 mental and physical energy. Id say this is a indication that bananas don't work for this body, but i could eat a extra large box of Mc-Fries and feel great! Same with eggs and meat it kills performance during digestion. This can be a sign a food is unhealthy or could be a sign the food is not to be used for physical performance but for other tasks or it could be the food is triggering a sensitivity/reaction in the body or ... The duration of muscle pump that comes from heavy lifting. The longer a pump last the healthier the system is at managing stress. Mental performance. Often this comes after eating a easy to digest meal, waiting for digestion to finish and exercising for a few hours. If what has been eaten prevents this then its over stressing the body. Sexual Energy. When not digesting erection strength should dethrone the gods. Ejaculatory volume and distance should reach over 2 meters . Foods that are easy to digest and replenish lost semen quickly are a strong indication of health. Rate of skin healing from injury. More a indication of many factors, not easy to use to identify healthy foods. Terrible smelling gas or inconsistent stools. Sleep quality. Eating fruits as the last meal of the day for this body causes waking up multiple times in the middle of the night. Body awareness should remain high at all times and if the food eaten increase mind chatter that's a sign of excessive inflammation and cortisol production. Excessive earwax or ear popping noises is a bad sign. Sexual energy goes to 0 during digestion is a bad sign. Sneezing seconds or minutes after eating something is the body telling you something. Healing rate of knees and joints after exercise. Basically every indication of a healthy 20 year old body is something that can be tracked to evaluate a foods health within that body. With some rules to follow to avoid traps?

The only indication of whether something is healthy or not is how you feel after you eat it. Forget everything you ever Heard about food.

Get a new girlfriend

What most people need is a saddle mountain to their back for someone else to hop on and take control. Who’s riding the saddle right now? ?‍?

We can put guidelines for effective communication in the comment box. This way when it’s time to comment there is a reminder waiting for you that sets the mood for a high quality interaction.

It’s never been done before go out to do it and tell us the results. ?

This approach is logic and reason and the last thing you want to do. No one can be reasoned into feeling differently about you. Instead create an experience with them that changes how they feel about you and changes there motivation to talk to you. The biggest issue in trying to make them see reason is that you’re emotionally putting pressure on them making the situation worse. Putting emotional pressure on someone pushes them away further, absolutely avoid doing this. Use tactics to pull people towards you, that needs to be the mindset. The other part of this is you need another way to deal with your emotional frustration that is not “getting people to change there behaviour”. When you are frustrated your ability to change someone’s behaviour goes to zero.

@Tyler Robinson to give up judgement you need to experience ego death, there's no other way to go about it.

The issue could be heavy metal toxicity that is keeping the body under constant stress and tension.

There are infinite thoughts and ideas that you're in-capable of having right now do to limitations.

We will charge electric cars with fossil fuel powered generators. ?

Notice how your negative emotions warped reality and made the situation all about you when her state of mind had nothing to do with you. She was in a bad state of mind before you approach her. Notice how you judged her entire life by that one thing she did. "a cu**" because she threatened your survival. So for your ego to survive you had to make her lesser then you.

Manipulating people using fear is low consciousness and doesn't work, use high consciousness tactics instead. Manipulate using love, it's more effective, creates bonding and nurtures then.

Leonardo DiCaprio breaks up with woman the moment they turn 25. He does this consistently. From 1999 to now he has never dated anyone older then 25 statistics show.

I don't have good experiences doing that. ?

Beginner mistake. All that matters is how she feels, the truth is irrelevant. Female energy vs masculine energy conflict. Your job during conversation is making her feel good (feminine) NOT WHAT YOU THINK IS TRUE (masculine). The more developed person in the relationship tends to take on the responsibility of keeping the relationships together. --- If you want her to truly grow, then she needs to catch the self-development bug (intrinsic motivation).

@Atb210201 This is the trick, the only thing that matters is having good positive experiences with her. Not the truth, not fixing things, not changing things. Give all that up. This is the plan, have 10 good experience with her this week. Focus on that. Plan it, craft it, do it.