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So its possible to have 5. TRANSCENDENT SEX with all these kinks and fantasies at play? I was under the impression they would naturally become less appealing. Everything is love and if someone's language of love is to be caned ? then that's beautiful the way it is. Anecdotally I'm seeing a lot of people replying with plenty of trauma pasts and plenty of kinks, while I have no trauma in childhood and no kinks. Meaning the love language that best communicates to them is colored by different life experiences.

Link Thought experiment: If we genetically modified humans to only give birth to woman and woman use Self-fertilization technology to reproduce. Would we be better off? Why do we need men? Edit: The answer is not as simple as "men built all these cool stuff and they do all the manly things woman cant do", the truth is with out men woman would of been given does opportunities and filled does roles, its not a good reason, this question goes far deeper then that.

Human Males are the most dangerous thing on this planet. Maybe if we removed men, we will see a new kind of non-physically destructive danger maybe a psychological/cultural war more damaging then what we already have. Or maybe it will be all peace and rainbows.

DEVELOPMENT OF SEXUALITY There are five general levels of sexual exchange between partners that are a direct reflection of their physical, psychological, and spiritual health.197 Similar to the unfolding of the spiritual realizations outlined above, these levels can be experienced as a temporary state or become permanently accessible state-stages through practice with a partner. 1. REPRESSED SEXUALITY In this lowest stage, the body and sex are viewed with suspicion as something negative and dirty. Usually driven by shame, guilt, and fear that originate from childhood trauma and abuse, adults at this level either avoid sexual activities altogether, perform out of duty in a dissociated way(with closed eyes, under the sheets, in the dark), or develop forms of obsessive-compulsive disorders around their sexuality that can lead to sexual addiction and other abusive behaviors. Oral sex or similarly playful sensual activities are usually out of the question for people at this stage, where modesty is confused with shame. 2. FUCKING In the fucking stage, sexuality is instinctual, self-serving, and limited to the physical, hedonistic pleasures of the body. Sex partners tend to objectify each other without seeking a deeper personal connection. They want to have fun, “get off,” and don’t care much about their partner’s emotional needs, feelings, or sexual desires. There is no shame or guilt, and “everything goes,” which can be confused with the higher, unrestrained forms of transcendent sexuality (see below), which is another form of the pre/trans fallacy (see above). In this stage, males often dominate and manipulate females into having intercourse and to engage in hurtful practices such as anal sex or deep-throating/gagging. In the fucking stage, everything is seen as OK, as long as the partner cooperates or at least does not call the police. Rarely is there a prior conversation about consent, sexual preferences, sexual history, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), no-no’s, expectations for a monogamous commitment, or possible consequences such as emotional/sexual dependence or pregnancy. Women at this stage often have an unspoken expectation of their partner to make an exclusive commitment after intercourse and feel used and abused if he moves on. They may also become intentionally pregnant without their partner’s consent to “hook him” and/or to collect child support and social security payments. Once the excitement of the newness vanishes, couples in this stage often lose interest in sex with each other and stop having sex or seek a new fuck buddy.198 3. HAVING SEX In this stage, mindfulness comes into play. Sex becomes a conscious choice between a couple that has a mutual understanding and agreement about the implications and consequences of being sexual. Having sex is seen as a beautiful and important activity which brings two people together and provides many physical and emotional health benefits.199 There is usually an agreement for monogamy or openness about multiple lovers, and partners try to find the time and energy to be sexual with each other. Sex partners in this stage go beyond the pure physical aspects (fucking), and see each other as conscious subjects. They focus on pleasing the other within the context of individual boundaries, rather than trying to openly express and meet their own sexual needs, desires, and fantasies. This leads to sexuality at the lowest common denominator that often leaves both partners unfulfilled over time. Relationship difficulties such as power struggles or emotional withdrawal tend to be carried into the bedroom, but don’t get resolved there. Instead of working on deeper issues to improve their sexual relationship, couples in this stage sometimes try new positions or locations, engage in role playing, apply sex-toys, watch porn movies, or join swinger clubs to keep their sex life interesting. Unless they evolve to the next higher stage of sexual development, merely having sex will eventually turn stale, die completely, or become so difficult that their partnership ends when one of them falls in love/lust with a new sex partner.200 4. LOVE MAKING In the love making stage, a couple’s sexuality becomes the expression of their genuine love, mutual acceptance, deep emotional intimacy, and the joy of being together. Body, mind, and heart are integrated in their lovemaking which is no longer just “a thing that couples do,” but an expression of who they are as sexual human beings. No special effort to find the time or energy to be sexual needs to be made by them. Their lovemaking is a life-giving and rejuvenating affirmation of their bond and the depth of their connection. They are open to talking about their desires and exploring all forms of healthy sexual play that bring pleasure and deepen their union. They naturally stay in verbal and non-verbal communication(eye contact) with each other during their love making. Sex at this level is not used to cover up conflicts, to keep score, or to manipulate each other. Instead, sexual and emotional blocks that may arise are worked out between them, and therapeutic help is sought if they can’t resolve the problems that they face.201 5. TRANSCENDENT SEX This stage represents all advanced sacred or tantric practices that lead to spiritual state experiences through sexual union (such as Kundalini),202 that transcend the lovers’ sense of separation from each other and the universe. This kind of sexuality emerges as a stage between partners that share a deep soul connection, enjoy a high level of physical, emotional, and relationship health, and have reached an advanced stage of spiritual development (see above) with the ability for intense presence and full surrender. Spiritual practices such as meditation, partner-yoga, and ecstatic dance are often interwoven in this form of lovemaking. Partners who consciously engage in transcendent sexuality allocate ample quality time for their lovemaking (instead of waiting until they are in the mood); create sacred space in their home or away (think of a tastefully decorated warm room, soft sheets, various sized/shaped pillows, dimmed lights, scented candles, burning incense, veils around the bed, oils and lotions, and soft sacred music); and co-create a wide range of experiences through rituals such as sharing sensual food (think strawberries, chocolate, ice-cream, etc.), eye gazing, erotic dance, synchronized conscious breathing into the seven chakras, reciting of mantras, reading poems,203 alternate giving and receiving of arousing touch and massage, playfulness with objects (think feathers, boas, silk, flower petals, ice cubes), gentle intercourse, or unrestrained ravaging (that may be falsely interpreted as a form of rape).204 A common position for deep tantric connection is for the man to sit cross-legged (or on a chair) and the woman on top of him, allowing them to meet each other face to-face as opposites and equals.205 The goal of transcendental sexuality is not solely to pleasure and to reach orgasms, but to move (Kundalini) energy up the spine or through the seven chakras, and to deepen the soul connection between the lovers that leads them to consciously experience the divine, instead of unconsciously exclaiming “oh my God” during a short orgasmic release.206 This requires the ability for men to delay or avoid orgasm, and/or to have orgasms without ejaculating by squeezing their PC muscle.207 Often, deeply rooted emotional blocks that are embedded in the body and inhibit a further spiritual awakening get revealed and can be released through transcendental sex. From the book: Integral Relationships by Martin Ucik

It has one of the highest concentration of plant defence anti-nutrients and one of the highest pesticide dense foods. It makes your hair week and fall out. Pull on your hair notice how strong it is and how it doesn’t just rip out then eat peanut butter and try again to pull on your hair and notice how it easily comes out.

Peanut butter is just poison

Thats great man, just wondering doe why was she single in the first place?

To push all ones energy into one outlet (sex) is to have a unmounted mind. Thoughts push energy in a direction, a thought is deeply interconnected with the entire organism. Transmutation of ones energy means directing energy using thoughts or intention into a outlet. Sexual energy is one transmutation out of infinite possibilities.

Affection not tantra. Tantra is the renunciation of pleasure to only experience love. There are degrees to love like there are degrees to ones relationships with sex. Ive burned through the karma of pleasure and lust, im ready for the next thing now. Healing/developing with sex looks different at different stages of development.

I know ive been doing that my entire life, what im saying is there is a higher level. Notice how no one understands the point im making because they think the sex they are having is the highest level lol.

Every kink and fantasy is like eating chocolate and watching movies so it would make sense you went back to it? Its peek pleasure, tantric is not about dopamine peaks, its another reward system that is activated. The contentment system.

Tantric is not vanilla sex. ?

@Tyler Robinson @Loba I wrote the bellow points a bit blunt as it was the easiest to get it out of my head, but I say it will all do love. This form of sex is therapy for one side, many people (with feminine nature) are using sex as a experience for inner healing and equating it with a partners bonding or trust but have you asked yourself what your partners experience is or was? It seems your overly focused on the experience your getting from it. This might be a reason woman fall in love when having sex and men dont, because the man is not engaged in love sex, they are simply fucking. To make the man fall in love with you ask your self how to satisfy there deep needs not just your own. I am secure and am not surrendering or healing with a partner when engaging this way, so these role plays are to satisfy there needs not mine. Your fantasies are being met, a process of facing your fears with a partner and there can be bonding for both sides happening but there is so much more to it then this. Its like sex with training wheels! That's the sex you need in your developmental journey and not the sex i need. Once healing is done, these levels of sex are repetitive, boring and unfulfilling. Chocking my partner while they say they love me is bonding and can be emotionally deep, I feel connected and its wonderful, but that's not how i communicate love to someone naturally (chocking is unnatural to me), we are not getting to the root of what love is and the emotional bond, all these roles play are a distraction from the real underling intimacy. There is a clear gap between the level of sex happing with tantric and these other types. Is chocking really the same as gently but firmly holding your head in my hands and kissing your forehead? When i express love i project outwards the intention of loving that person and that projection does not insight any violence inside of me = chocking/slapping. The emotion that a man experiences with chocking/slapping or anything of this nature is lust. Would I love a dog that way? No because it is not the love language a dog can understand. Violence as a form of love is a distraction from the real thing. These fantasies are a primitive component. Non of them can be used outside of the bedroom because its just violence with out sexual arousal. Tantric removes these components and goes to the root of it all, pure love, often sex isn't involved at all. The reason is sex isn't nessisariy for love making. When love making and sex can be stimulated LOVINGLY at the same time it is a spiritual experience. Try taking the sexual arousal out of the equation with these fantasies and there is nothing loving about it.

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Queen Elizabeth is on Canadian currency 20$ bill. I've seen her face my entire life. Why would the queen of england have anything to do with Canada? Good question! because she (and her ancestors) colonized Canada. This isn’t the only non-British country on which she stamped her face.

LMFAO actually i never met anyone who wants love sex and i think because that takes real intimacy that is way outside peoples comfort zones.

I think because they seek self gratification and pleasure and not unity.

I don't, I think there great fun, i enjoy role playing these fantasies but to me they are not deeply fulfilling and do not express how i want to love someone. I want to love a partner so deeply we unify at every level.

Great point . Listening to the body and learning its language takes years of practice/luck to get a sense of and in the end your still left not knowing if your doing it right lol. It would be nice to have some tech monitors to track inflammation, gene adaptations and every stress marker in real time... life would be so much easier. ? What are we to monitor? Here are some things i track from the top of my head. Rules What is consumed must add to the system not take away from it. Example Coffee will give a temporary sprint of mental energy but will cause a crash that will drop the body in a lower state the next day as it recovers. Coffee forces the system to consume resources. Temporary drops in energy is expected when digesting heavy foods this isn't nessisariy a bad sign. Acquiring the nutrients from does foods is the purpose. Investing energy now for later benefits. Don't confuse the euphoria of eating something that tastes good with a foods nurturing properties. Monitor Athletic performance/endurance. If i eat 12 bananas for example and do a sport right after the a result is 0 mental and physical energy. Id say this is a indication that bananas don't work for this body, but i could eat a extra large box of Mc-Fries and feel great! Same with eggs and meat it kills performance during digestion. This can be a sign a food is unhealthy or could be a sign the food is not to be used for physical performance but for other tasks or it could be the food is triggering a sensitivity/reaction in the body or ... The duration of muscle pump that comes from heavy lifting. The longer a pump last the healthier the system is at managing stress. Mental performance. Often this comes after eating a easy to digest meal, waiting for digestion to finish and exercising for a few hours. If what has been eaten prevents this then its over stressing the body. Sexual Energy. When not digesting erection strength should dethrone the gods. Ejaculatory volume and distance should reach over 2 meters . Foods that are easy to digest and replenish lost semen quickly are a strong indication of health. Rate of skin healing from injury. More a indication of many factors, not easy to use to identify healthy foods. Terrible smelling gas or inconsistent stools. Sleep quality. Eating fruits as the last meal of the day for this body causes waking up multiple times in the middle of the night. Body awareness should remain high at all times and if the food eaten increase mind chatter that's a sign of excessive inflammation and cortisol production. Excessive earwax or ear popping noises is a bad sign. Sexual energy goes to 0 during digestion is a bad sign. Sneezing seconds or minutes after eating something is the body telling you something. Healing rate of knees and joints after exercise. Basically every indication of a healthy 20 year old body is something that can be tracked to evaluate a foods health within that body. With some rules to follow to avoid traps?

The only indication of whether something is healthy or not is how you feel after you eat it. Forget everything you ever Heard about food.

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What most people need is a saddle mountain to their back for someone else to hop on and take control. Who’s riding the saddle right now? ?‍?