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  1. IDENTIFYING HER ANIMUS COMPLEX What is a man to you? What do you expect from a man in relationship with you? Tell me ten things that make you feel loved, honored, and respected as a woman? What do you think about male-female equality? What differences do you see between men and women? Are there different roles for men and women in a relationship and our society and what are they? What role did your father play in your life and what is your relationship with him today? Who were the most significant males in your life, during what period, what role did they play, and howdid they influence you? What role did your mother play in your life and what is your relationship with her today? What roles did you and your partners play in previous relationships? What makes men attractive to you? What kinds of men are unattractive to you? She may be in stage 1 (men as alien outsider) if she has an ambivalent relationship with her father and other significant men in her early life. Additional indicators are reports of tumultuous love/hate relationships with former partners, longer periods in her life without a male partner, sexual relationships with women, and if she goes back and forth between a desperate clingy desire for your love and then fearful rejections when you get close. Pointers to a stage 2 animus (men as father, God, or king) are a critical or disapproving father figure whom she never felt to be good enough for. She may speak favorably of kind men who adore, support, and treat her well, and negatively of those who criticize, challenge, or dismiss her. Women in this stage may struggle with aging, can be emotionally needy, constantly ask for approval and reassurance about their lovability, and are afraid to do things wrong. Indicators of a stage 3 animus complex (men as her hero) are answers that favor loyal, supportive, generous, and loving men with an unwavering commitment to honor and support their wife and children. She likely had a stable childhood and a good relationship with her father and mother, or at least healed most of her earlier emotional wounds. In her eyes, men should know right from wrong, be hard-working, good fathers, family-oriented, heroic, protective (if need be, aggressive towards others), and benevolent towards her. Women in stage 4 (men as independent being) are particularly easy to identify, as they talk about the financial and emotional independence that they have attained through their own work or through successful divorces after one or more long-term marriages. They express a desire to explore who they are, independent of a committed partnership with a man, and want to live alone, often with a dog or cat that they are proud to love more than they would any man. If women in this stage consider to be in a partnership they often exclaim...“where are all the good men?”...and of course no man within their reach is ever good enough. Successful, up-beat, entertaining, self-assured, and happy men who display empathy, understanding, and support for them while pursuing their own purpose and interests without needing a female partner for sex, approval, support, or “to mother” them are valued by women in this stage, who sometimes maintain uncommitted sexual relationships with younger lovers. Most eco-, radical, and social feminists—who resent men and what they stand for—are found in this stage (or stage 1) as well. She has arrived in stage 5 of her animus development (men as equal partner) when she realizes the benefits of being in a committed love relationship with an integrally informed man whom she values as an opposite and equal. A woman in this stage sees the benefits of a healthy, live together committed marriage as the foundation for her ongoing personal growth, spiritual development, physical sexual well being, and socially, economically, and ecologically responsible livelihood. Her focus is on the inner qualities of a responsible man who lives his authentic life purpose and can love unconditionally in a committed partnership, instead of his worldly possessions and social status only. A single woman in this stage is a rare find, as she is clear in what she seeks in a life-partner, and actively pursues men who are her equal. She has no problem finding a suitable partner within a few weeks of her opening to relationship if she is attractive and sex-positive,451 as men are naturally conditioned by evolution to be chosen by a healthy woman who honors and values them.
  2. He’s the same person you fell in love with, so why does this incident change anything? Are you able to love and accept him and his flaws as is? Or has what has been revealed about him a dealbreaker? Is there a way for you guys to grow in the relationship together and work on it? What are your fears?
  3. @Tyler Robinson why has your perception of him changed? He’s exactly the same person he was when you met him.
  4. @Tyler Robinson The relationship has a chance of progressing beyond the honeymoon phase if both partners have a growth mindset and not a fixed mindset. Fixed mindset believes in true love and destiny and if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be, they don’t believe in personal growth so for large enough incompatibilities they are very likely to end relationships instead of learning and growing togetter. Cultivate a growth mindset relationship for health and success. ?
  5. I think the worry and fear he is experiencing after the fact is the most important part. I think hes scared of losing you because he’s attached and that’s why he’s apologizing so much. He also might be ashamed of his insecurities and doesn’t want you to see it. And that he is acting out his insecurities in a unhealthy way. Did you ask him why he did it? Quality non-judging communication is key here. This kind of stunt isn’t that bad the real test is about to come if his insecurities lead to more damaging behaviour like false accusations or jumping to conclusions or trying to control your life. All this leads to abuse. Hopefully it’s just one incident where his insecurities have been satisfied and he relaxes.
  6. How do we avoid attachment in relationships and dependence? When a partner pulls away how do we avoid the negative feelings that compels us to "try to fix it"? How do we love ourselves completely? I tried an exercise where i visualized/Imagined my self (physical body + mind) and spoke to him and understood him as I would other people. I felt like it was a new perspective i never really considered and was able to empathize with that person and understand his journey. Trying to speak to him I cant think of anything to say to help him besides hugging him and telling him that I love him, crying with him. I suspect this is a mockery of the real thing focusing on love as an emotion. Im not sure this is really getting me anywhere or making progress, what method really gets results?
  7. I tend to be gravitate to the people that have the most Interesting minds. Find out what their interests are and try to go deep into those topics. It seems to be the most interesting thing to do and all other forms of conversation I can barely finish a sentence because it’s so boring. is this reasonable to do? I found someone today who spoke 10 languages so I went deep into meta-language and all that juicy stuff. But they seem to strongly enjoy regular small talk type conversation. So is it intrusive to have the kind of conversations I actually want to have in these kind of environment? To put people outside their comfort zones?
  8. Myostatin Deficiency in children
  9. Yoda species, they are born enlightened
  10. Book integral relationships
  11. Masculine presenting straight woman Feminine presenting straight man So how can a straight woman be attracted to a feminine presenting man? Because her energy is masculine and he is feminine, role reversal attraction.
  12. 3 cone receptors = 1 Million colors 4 cone receptors = 100 Million colors
  13. AI will give us far better tooling for animation, lowering the barrier to entry for people with real story telling skills. Stories based on higher level concepts to teach a lesson in a experiential + memorable way that sticks. Rick and Morty has a few higher level concepts but there is so much more we can do.
  14. Anime was my child hood and it definitely shaped my mind in many ways. Stories are powerful teachers.
  15. What its like having an extra cone receptor in the eye. tetrachromacy
  16. DEVELOPMENT OF SEXUALITY There are five general levels of sexual exchange between partners that are a direct reflection of their physical, psychological, and spiritual health.197 Similar to the unfolding of the spiritual realizations outlined above, these levels can be experienced as a temporary state or become permanently accessible state-stages through practice with a partner. 1. REPRESSED SEXUALITY In this lowest stage, the body and sex are viewed with suspicion as something negative and dirty. Usually driven by shame, guilt, and fear that originate from childhood trauma and abuse, adults at this level either avoid sexual activities altogether, perform out of duty in a dissociated way(with closed eyes, under the sheets, in the dark), or develop forms of obsessive-compulsive disorders around their sexuality that can lead to sexual addiction and other abusive behaviors. Oral sex or similarly playful sensual activities are usually out of the question for people at this stage, where modesty is confused with shame. 2. FUCKING In the fucking stage, sexuality is instinctual, self-serving, and limited to the physical, hedonistic pleasures of the body. Sex partners tend to objectify each other without seeking a deeper personal connection. They want to have fun, “get off,” and don’t care much about their partner’s emotional needs, feelings, or sexual desires. There is no shame or guilt, and “everything goes,” which can be confused with the higher, unrestrained forms of transcendent sexuality (see below), which is another form of the pre/trans fallacy (see above). In this stage, males often dominate and manipulate females into having intercourse and to engage in hurtful practices such as anal sex or deep-throating/gagging. In the fucking stage, everything is seen as OK, as long as the partner cooperates or at least does not call the police. Rarely is there a prior conversation about consent, sexual preferences, sexual history, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), no-no’s, expectations for a monogamous commitment, or possible consequences such as emotional/sexual dependence or pregnancy. Women at this stage often have an unspoken expectation of their partner to make an exclusive commitment after intercourse and feel used and abused if he moves on. They may also become intentionally pregnant without their partner’s consent to “hook him” and/or to collect child support and social security payments. Once the excitement of the newness vanishes, couples in this stage often lose interest in sex with each other and stop having sex or seek a new fuck buddy.198 3. HAVING SEX In this stage, mindfulness comes into play. Sex becomes a conscious choice between a couple that has a mutual understanding and agreement about the implications and consequences of being sexual. Having sex is seen as a beautiful and important activity which brings two people together and provides many physical and emotional health benefits.199 There is usually an agreement for monogamy or openness about multiple lovers, and partners try to find the time and energy to be sexual with each other. Sex partners in this stage go beyond the pure physical aspects (fucking), and see each other as conscious subjects. They focus on pleasing the other within the context of individual boundaries, rather than trying to openly express and meet their own sexual needs, desires, and fantasies. This leads to sexuality at the lowest common denominator that often leaves both partners unfulfilled over time. Relationship difficulties such as power struggles or emotional withdrawal tend to be carried into the bedroom, but don’t get resolved there. Instead of working on deeper issues to improve their sexual relationship, couples in this stage sometimes try new positions or locations, engage in role playing, apply sex-toys, watch porn movies, or join swinger clubs to keep their sex life interesting. Unless they evolve to the next higher stage of sexual development, merely having sex will eventually turn stale, die completely, or become so difficult that their partnership ends when one of them falls in love/lust with a new sex partner.200 4. LOVE MAKING In the lovemaking stage, a couple’s sexuality becomes the expression of their genuine love, mutual acceptance, deep emotional intimacy, and the joy of being together. Body, mind, and heart are integrated in their lovemaking which is no longer just “a thing that couples do,” but an expression of who they are as sexual human beings. No special effort to find the time or energy to be sexual needs to be made by them. Their lovemaking is a life-giving and rejuvenating affirmation of their bond and the depth of their connection. They are open to talking about their desires and exploring all forms of healthy sexual play that bring pleasure and deepen their union. They naturally stay in verbal and non-verbal communication(eye contact) with each other during their love making. Sex at this level is not used to cover up conflicts, to keep score, or to manipulate each other. Instead, sexual and emotional blocks that may arise are worked out between them, and therapeutic help is sought if they can’t resolve the problems that they face.201 5. TRANSCENDENT SEX This stage represents all advanced sacred or tantric practices that lead to spiritual state experiences through sexual union (such as Kundalini),202 that transcend the lovers’ sense of separation from each other and the universe. This kind of sexuality emerges as a stage between partners that share a deep soul connection, enjoy a high level of physical, emotional, and relationship health, and have reached an advanced stage of spiritual development (see above) with the ability for intense presence and full surrender. Spiritual practices such as meditation, partner-yoga, and ecstatic dance are often interwoven in this form of lovemaking. Partners who consciously engage in transcendent sexuality allocate ample quality time for their lovemaking (instead of waiting until they are in the mood); create sacred space in their home or away (think of a tastefully decorated warm room, soft sheets, various sized/shaped pillows, dimmed lights, scented candles, burning incense, veils around the bed, oils and lotions, and soft sacred music); and co-create a wide range of experiences through rituals such as sharing sensual food (think strawberries, chocolate, ice-cream, etc.), eye gazing, erotic dance, synchronized conscious breathing into the seven chakras, reciting of mantras, reading poems,203 alternate giving and receiving of arousing touch and massage, playfulness with objects (think feathers, boas, silk, flower petals, ice cubes), gentle intercourse, or unrestrained ravaging (that may be falsely interpreted as a form of rape).204 A common position for deep tantric connection is for the man to sit cross-legged (or on a chair) and the woman on top of him, allowing them to meet each other face to-face as opposites and equals.205 The goal of transcendental sexuality is not solely to pleasure and to reach orgasms, but to move (Kundalini) energy up the spine or through the seven chakras, and to deepen the soul connection between the lovers that leads them to consciously experience the divine, instead of unconsciously exclaiming “oh my God” during a short orgasmic release.206 This requires the ability for men to delay or avoid orgasm, and/or to have orgasms without ejaculating by squeezing their PC muscle.207 Often, deeply rooted emotional blocks that are embedded in the body and inhibit a further spiritual awakening get revealed and can be released through transcendental sex.
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  18. Make YouTube videos that go viral and are informative. Use the pen not the sword
  19. What profession are you looking to get into? Everything you need is on the internet now for free, become self-thought and learn skills independently.
  20. It could be because you think what a relationships is = responsibilities, loyalty, commitments and limitations. It doesnt need to be that way. Imagine having a friend that you have sex with and go deep into connection with. That's all it has to be.