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A friend growing up was one of does standard alpha-male stereotypes. Big body, big muscle, dumb. He once told me, "I don't look at women because i don't want to give them the satisfaction, they don't deserve it". He embodied what women find attractive and it worked. Women would throw them selves at him. Of course he was an asehole.

Why not do this? What's stopping you? Are you "better" then this? lol

Dont explicitly teach SD, implicitly teach it. Really you want to expose them to green/yellow thinking, that might be the most beneficial. Give exercises that promote multi-perspectival thinking. They will unlock SD on their own. Teach/practice with them: - Give them the tool of Meta questions, go meta for many examples/subjects, pick subject they care about. - Ask a question and have them answer it from a specific stage/perspective, get them in the shoes of other people, give them a perspective and get them to answer questions from it. Show them that a question can be answered from many perspectives. - Systems thinking, show them the inter-connectiveness of everything and give them systems thinking questions they can use, always make it practical, always focus on giving them a tool they can add to there tool box. They have no idea that unrelated things are indirectly connected and effect each other. Then expand it to holistic thinking, explore parts and wholes. - Relativity, they have no idea what this is. - Creative exploration of ideas, they have no tools to do this. - Big picture Thinking, you want to teach them SD when they have no idea how to do basic big picture thinking. Whats the bigger picture here? lets zoom out... SD is automatically unlocked at high green/yellow, the pattern reveals itself.

Stop masterbating to porn or do NoFap. A state of independence comes when its cut out.

Men like this have high standards for the women they date. I wonder how many women naively think they qualify. They are then frustrated with the quality of the man they attract...

@CBN Thanks ill add that technique to the repertoire. Its a very natural thing to do, im guessing most guys figured this out on there own. Maybe we should start a sex techniques mega thread.

In leos sex education videos, he explains how to bring up the sexual intimacy. That part is simple enough but right after that quickly sais then make her cum over and over...??????? No details. The issue is with my current relationship after her first orgasm with oral and fingers she doesn't want me to touch her clit again and just wants penetration (She says the clit is to sensitive after she orgasm). The penetration is great, she enjoys it but how am i supposed to make her cum another 5 times like leo suggests if i cant touch her clit? How to go about vaginal only orgasms? Ive tried every angle and speed and duration. It doesn't seem to bring her any closer to a orgasm but she is very vocally enjoying it... and i know size is not he problem because im using sex toys. Is she not able to orgasm multiple times? What exactly is going to stimulate the next serious of orgasms? Shes getting very excited from the pentration, dirty talk and play, but its not pushing her over the edge.

Most pets never experience sex when its maybe an important part of there lives? When looking at my dog i wonder if it would be the morally right thing to do but culturally im suppressed into not doing it for them. Does my dog want to have sex with me? Dont get the wrong idea, i have 0 attraction to these animals, i want to know if it makes sense to give them these experiences? Should i hook them up with a compatible partner?

Should i give my baby an orgasm? Not to confuse this with having sex with a baby. To help the baby explore their body/sexuality young. It could contribute to spiritual development. There are much deeper relationships with our children that are likely possible. Why is it wrong for a child to want sex from their parents? We are confusing low consciousness acts of sex with children/animals with high consciousness. Rejection of this is likely all cultural programming.

@DIDego theirs a lot to unpack here. Karma is less about good and bad and more about cause and effect. Was saying maybe she can navigate the system better then most, She has many effective assets like no fear. Wouldn't say she is blocking her emotions, more she has a ego-centric set of values. Its like intellectualized red. So THATS what this pandemic was for, extinction of hughs. lol, maybe its a real consequence, a change in social norms.

@Megan Alecia At lower stages survival often depends on keeping demons hidden away, It will be used as another tool for judgement and discrimination. If yellow used technologies in this way, it would be more dynamic to suit the needs of every level and to coordinate synergy between them. Not sure what this technology would look like, seem promising to contemplate. How would a paradigm translator work? I sent a request to openAI to get access to there tech, had an idea to use GPT3 to make a multi perspectival search engine. Categories the internet by perspectives. Imagine googling a question and it returned every answer from every perspective? To see the landscape is very nice. Yellow search engine. If children where exposed to this from birth... thats a significant boost for the collective... We need a high quality way to organize points of view. On the right track.

lol that comment sent me to this thread. I wonder, maybe she is playing the system better then we can. Maybe her karmic foot print is smaller then we think.

Why not

Are you on anything right now? Like hormones?

@Megan Alecia I would rather it tell me how people are feeling and ways i can help. Little suggestions, big suggestions taken from insights into their lives. Would make it easier to understand each other, our needs and maybe it could become a social norm to help each other more organically. Mass team work incentive system. lol this could backfire pretty badly... maintaining the illusion/masks serves a purpose.

@flowboy I still love her and want to see her succeed, but this is not a attachment love, its a love that comes from understanding her suffering and how that made her do what she did. Its her survival. No because i was given alot of love. I had a blessed childhood. So from this perspective there is no blame, but that doesn't mean it didn't effect me, i agree with that and i see how im caring this over in my current relationship. Maybe she was trying to tell me i was bad in bed and she had no tools to communicate it. She was an ENFJ, and i think she was very aware of how it would make me feel to tell me my dick was not big enough. At the same time... hmmm yes i can see how she was manipulating me to compete with other men. Really didnt think of this, feels like a primal instinct, its trilling, i can see why she would indulge in this and i agree its unhealthy. Maybe the sex was not good enough and she was going to leave me... sounds like a legitimate issue for someone? lol ok i get where your coming from, but at some level there are maybe legitimate issues here. Like i accept reality 100%, my dick was not big enough for her, its ok. How was she supposed to tell me something like that? She went about it in a unhealthy way. but... she got what she wanted, it worked. But I can see both your perspective and my perspective. What the exact truth is doesn't change what i understand about her life conditions. That's definitely true. So the trauma is here and i forgive her it seems. Don't know if soaking in some anger is the right move. Will it solve the trauma? Not sure. The trauma feeling always inadequate and uncertain that im satisfying a partner even when im giving them great sex. Its clear to me that this is happening. hmm i cant remember not thinking this way. Its always been this way, just the last gf pushed me to take extra steps and she set the bar high to the pinnacle of orange sex basically. Overall i feel more confident then i ever have about sex.

@flowboy Thanks man, she definitely made some mistakes but my impression was she was suppressing her desires and she couldn't tell me directly because she didn't want to hurt my feelings so she communicated it indirectly by sprinkling it around alittle bit everywhere over time. "hints". Then she slowly got carried away and let bigger hints slip. Unless im being naive. Im accepting of her level of development, shes the way she is and she didn't have a chance to be any other way. I think the self actualization question i need to ask is, what would i have done if i didn't have access to sex toys to rekindle my confidence. I found a solution but at the cost of avoiding growth. Zooming out and taking a holistic perspective surely helps, but clearly my ego can be kicked around and is dependent of many things to remain stable, first tier. Cant tell how to Transend. Maybe just accept the ego as it is and what its for.

Ok this and the videos on the other topic really clicked for me. Ive been doing this, but i can see it can be taken to a deeper level. I wasn't conscious of trust. Now that i see the variable, the system is a lot clearer. I trust everyone with out much thought or that im realistic about it, so trust issues is not something i was looking for in others.

Seems to be the case. Ye 5meo is on the to do list.

Any idea how this works? Watch or skip to the half way mark, where shes flying...

Are bonobos competitive like human males?

What made the difference between a bunch and none? Are we talking about sex with the same partner? So the issue is ive seen the "truth" lol. Ive been with a partner that made it clear to me she had mind blowing sex with this "one guy", who was basically a porn star. That one guy would text/(hit her up) for sex while we where dating, he would text "ill abide my time", meaning hes going to wait for her relationship with me to end, no rush. He wins/gets her in the end situation. So this was a good wake up call for me in a way that it set the bar high and made it clear to me what i was shooting for, but in another way my survival agenda became, "i need to figure out how to fuck her brains out". From there i used sex toys and fantasies/other things to give her the multiple earth shaking full body orgasms the other guy did (yes she told me that's what the other guy gave her). Cant tell if this comes from trauma or survival or playing the game realistically. I adapted. but now it seems i need to adapt again lol. The bar is still set high. I've seen what's possible so its hard to accept a lower standard. I get there is different kinds of sex, everyone is different, this is just one kind and not all woman are capable of it. But I'm still going to shoot for it in some way. Yes makes a good deal of sense, everyone has made this clear to me. thanks

@Eternity haha i know, got carried away with trolling. He should probably just ask her out and if she sais "sorry i dont see us that way". Move on.