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Its not about finding people you can trust, you simply stop trusting people and form realistic expectations of others. The need to trust is a paradigm/game that doesn't not need to be played, there is no need to trust or not trust someone, that is a unhealthy attachment you created. Instead you identify there qualities and understand them, that leads to then predicting there behavior. Saying that filtering out childish people is pretty easy you just talk to them for 5 minutes and understand how they think. How to do this is by being skeptical of the person they are presenting for that's always a mask. If you remain skeptical and don't naïvely trust everything they say you wont get screwed over again. This skepticism lasts indefinitely, it does not go away once you understand them, because your understanding is always partial and incomplete, many unforeseen factors are always at play, you don't know what people will do under stress. But if you get a good sense for there values you can predict behavior and so predict (not trust) they will do the right thing. That good feeling you get about someone is a lie. Its what blinds you from being skeptical and realistic. I see it alot with people who had parents with low integrity that makes them struggle to identify people with high integrity. They get tricked easily. I think it has to do with them not receiving enough foundational love from there parents that then makes them eager to receive love from anyone they meet making them quick at trusting them, they also tend to create fantasy story about them in there mind of how great that person is and get all exited about this new person when there is absolutely no evidence to support that fantasy or they where tricked by first impressions.

It would be meeting mature stable people to date who have a similar world view to me and can laugh at them selves.

@Princess Arabia There are different kinds of women, I think your reflecting on how you would feel in that situation. These women are part of the hook up culture and enjoy going home with the the right hot guy. There playing a different game. Going to a party as a woman and making out with a hot guy you just met is not "being carful". There's a confusion all women have, that they want to go home with the hot player as long as they have a good time, but then have inner conflict and judge themselves for doing so, so then they "protect" each other to not make that mistake again. They also want to be sure hes "not a player" but really if you want to be sure of that you dont make out with a guy at a party you just met. Foolish games they are playing.

She possibly got pissed off because she wanted to fuck you, you then choose her friend and made out with her where she could see. She then made up a bunch of negative shit about you to her friend so now they both wont talk to you. She could also of interpreted calling her hot as "hes a player" You had to make her friend feel good and like you, that your not just a player. The thing is you are a player, you mostly want sex and are a very independent person that doesn't bound or commit easily or at all with others. So try not to demonize others for being right lol. ?

Personally id never live in the US but this issue isn't even in the top 10.

Possibly, image this try positioning you body off the edge of the bed with the upper body on the bed and legs off, tell the gf to sit on your hips and do 3 sets of 10 heavy hip trusts. The testosterone gains alone from that... its also a good body weight exersize, try gf hanging off body squats.

Ill add one, wait for a day when you wake up feeling good and when it feels right to have the trip.

Eating in the middle of the trip, causing stomach pain as my digestion shuts down during the trip period.

Hip trusts for incredible blood flow.

Half of the problem is not going to be the woman its going to be you. With out a good deal of experience dating and learning from relationships youll end up self destructing a good relationships with a dream girl. The need to fall in love is something you grow out of, not by thinking about it "this is cheesy" but by becoming more conscious of what love is.

For the average person no matter what your situation is your better off never having access to credit with interest. What ever the situation you are in your better off taking the path that does not involve any dept. That means never having access to a credit cards and every opportunity that pops up in your life that requires a loan your better off not taking it because there's a equally good opportunity that does not require a loan that you will find if only you did not have the option of a loan clouding your field of vision. Its a trap. For the wise they can use these loans to get ahead but for 99.9% of people they will use it dig themselves into a hole when they could of avoided the entire situation if only they where forced to find other options. The main trap of credit is it limits your field of vision preventing you from finding alternate paths.

I always choose the hardest difficulty when starting a new game, I enjoy the challenge. --- On a personal story ive had a very loving family and fantastic start in life both genetics and nurturing life experiences but still managed to spiral down into decades of hell.

Where you depressed? It might be one of the reasons depression will make it easy to "give up" and just sleep. While if hes not depressed and his mind is brimming with new ideas at night its hard to shut down.

I like this approach the only criticism ill say about it from doing it for years is psychologically your in a OCD organisation state. So your going to obses over every detail and make sure your routine is perfect everyday, watching the clock that your eating at the perfect times, getting enough sun (timing sun exposure), drinking 2 litters a day... all very carefully, at exactly 6:30 you'll dim the lights and at 8:30 youll close the lights and go to bed like a robot even when your not tired, take your melatonin and every night pray you'll sleep as you lie down in fear of the next 10 Torturous hours of your life. The next day even if you sleep or not you'll wake at the same time and do it again. You'll have 24/7 anxiety that you made a mistake in the routine. Why this is an issue is it gets in the way of letting go and not caring so much about sleep and just living life. So if we give someone living in a mental prison a sleep hygiene routine or any rigid routine to follow it makes the situation worse. Its also very natural to recommend changes to sleep hygiene but with OCD anxiety minds its unclear that is going to help.

@puporing That's a good point, seems inline with loans importance in the business world. On the point of saving money, when declaring bankruptcy i thought they would come after all your personal assists to pay off the dept?

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belvita? Have you tired white rice?

@Michael569 Thats a great point, theres a beautiful spiritual calming anime called Mushishi that can be listened to audio (dub) only at night, it puts the mind into a altered state imagining and dreaming with the story. I would listen to it in bed when struggling.

@Thought Art If you work full time can you pay off a 10k loan pretty fast?

@Yimpa Cool she is trying to push for change?

Hey man sorry to hear that. I went through 10 years a severe sleep deprivation in my 20s that was then 100% resolved so maybe I can help. The major change that happened is to stop caring if you sleep or not and just accept wtv sleep quality your going to get. Now in the state your in that advice is not going to really help as your sleep confidence is very low with anxiety and dread just thinking about going to bed. But you want to shift the focus on living life and not care about sleep. Looking at the ingredients in belvita its high in things that could potential stimulate you so avoid foods that over stimulate. A good bed time routine is to eat your last meal 2-3 hours before bed and make that meal very large and filling, eat a huge meal. This will change your hormones and sedate you. If your desperate and its the middle of the night try eating a bowl of white rice as this can slow down brain function and knock you out. Look for foods that make you tired not stimulate, also avoid heavy foods like meat and eggs as it can stimulate because the body has to work hard to digest it and finally avoid fasting as it can be very hard to sleep while hungry for some. With a few good nights of sleep your sleep confidence will be restored and you can enter a period of no worries. At some point the insomnia could return, on and off, that's a typical pattern. So again you got to stop caring about sleep and you'll get the sleep your looking for. There are a lot of things that can help you that I didnt mention because personally when I was in the thick of it with a over active mind nothing really worked except eating a huge meal 2-3 hours before bed.

That may all be true, but the people who are putting laws in place do not have this world view. They simply view it as another dangerous drug with no medical or financial use.

@DrugsBunny Why are you behaving this way?

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Possibly you can make porn that is at the same time a teaching tool for all aspects of sex merged with some kind of self-development philosophy?