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Well i need my custom computer set up to survive, 3 monitors, ergodox... No other room unfortunately. Update: So she only needed a few days to process this, at first she had a mood swing and threatened to move out but then came back to reality when she calmed down and realized her life improved drastically right after meeting me and her life is better with me. I don't feel distracted the last few days, we got things under control.

Fed it leos blog https://www.actualized.org/insights/pbd-vs-neil-degrasse-tyson "The person who wrote the text appears to be an INTJ (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging) personality type. They seem to have a strong sense of logic and reason and are critical of others' ideas, particularly those of Neil deGrasse Tyson and PBD. They also express a belief in the importance of science and vaccinations and have a strong sense of responsibility towards society. They also seem to have a distaste for anti-mainstreamism and groupthink, which are not in line with INTJ type." But if we pick a text that involves more moral notes it will predict INFP and INFJ

I agree.

Be the wolf.

Her coping mechanism is cheating, she will do the same to you when the time comes.

People don't understand that some things need concentration and how hard concentration is because they have never really done it. People don't understand the need for flow to go deep. People don't understand the need for passion and joy in ones work. People don't understand the need for alone time or the need of spending time with other people or things that is not them. People don't realize that the things you do that is not about them is vital for the health the relationship. Its all connected, our relationship does not exist in isolation from the rest of our lives, the quality of all aspects of our lives is integral to the relationship. ... more Not understanding = taking it personally.

@Tyler Robinson Well she doesn't understand the boundary, the human need behind it and as a result takes it personally. So its like saying "firmly offend her" lol. I think its better to take the learning experience for her slower.

Im reading everything but cant respond do to time restrictions. So yesterday i put on earmuffs and learned im significantly more productive with them on, but she was offended that i was ignoring her and "not really working", she felt this way because i was working on a passion side project so it was not "real" work, so i explained what a life purpose was but her monk told her there is no purpose to life ?, but we talked about it more and came to a understanding, she also realized she has to spend time doing her own thing during work hours. We will see how it goes today. Yeee working at night is not an option, i go to bed a 9pm, sleep is essential.

"Someone with an anxious attachment style may worry that their partner is pulling away from them and will often take small things personally. They may also seek constant reassurance to ease their sense of uncertainty about their bond. They can also become overly attentive to their partner" Agree with this, but she is older and studied Buddhism for 10 years, so she handles things more mature emotionally.

The reason for the move in is that is saves me time to drive around seeing her, we go to the gym 5 days a week together and she pays half the rent. I thought it would save time, im also happier with someone around. The solution I'm going with now is a curtain around my desk to block things out, because we are working 1 meter away from each other and its a problem. Awakening is another issue, we are both taking psychedelics every 2 weeks for spiritual reasons and doing a gallbladder cleanse together. Maybe for now this is a path that might work, im not going to get into it but yes there are a lot of issues that living alone would fix. Thanks for the book suggestion and testimony?. We will learn how to co-exist in the same space, that's the plan for now. @Devin Will check out that book as well. ?

@Michael569 My only concern is if the capsules effect the gallbladder differently. In my experience drinking things hits the liver right away while capsules can delay this. So is it the same thing?

She works part time at home but yes she needs things to do. Well she is not good at doing things on her own as in well its "hard work" to do basic things. While for me its just instantly done with no effort, so i told her that ill do all tasks at the appropriate time of the day after work. --- But i just explained to her that i need more focusing during work time and she said she will adapt.

Maintenance tasks around the house, random questions or talking points or trouble shooting life, she is confused and needs attention and hugs, she is stressed about something and wants to talk, drink this or try this or ... It sounds like nothing but this is every 10-20 minutes as well as i wake up in the morning and something was planned for the day that takes up 4 hours like driving around.

@Devin @Tyler Robinson I did tell her, i even have a schedule displayed on the home TV explaining/separating when during the day its time to work and when its time to do maintenance tasks, gym or together activities. But some how its constant destraction, its hard to explain until you experience it, the distraction can be random questions.

People dont end it before they cheat because other areas of the relationship are great like the husbands financial commitments. If a woman is not feeling loved she will cheat but shame her self because "he does so much for me and cares". If one person in the relationship grows up and the other doesn't they will drift apart and cheating can happen because one party is feeling stuck financially and not satisfied. So they are in a way forced to cheat and find another partner first then break up to secure financial safety.

Daily loving hugs, telling her how much you love her, joking around during hugs or during the day, appreciate the things she does. Focus on how she feels the experience your giving her, getting her excited and intimate during the day before sex. My current gf is 38 never had an orgasm before me. Now she has multiple and predictably when ever I decide to "do the thing" that triggers it for her. The process of making this happen was to help her self-discover, encourage her to masturbate and to teach her lovingly what to focus on during intimacy, having lots of conversations about intimacy. Making her have orgasm happens on its own by just having sex until she is comfortable having sex. Its not something you can force or "DO" directly. Socialize after sex in a positive way about her experience and what she liked and didnt like and explore new things every time. New ways to use your mouth, different angles with the penis, better eye contact or body language, positions. Eventually she will become more comfortable and you will learn her body and figure out here "spots" or the way she enjoys it best. Then comfort, trust and orgasm will happen for her on its own, its a building process of her learning gradually over time. Make the intimacy funny as well, make jokes, tickle have fun, its ok to make her burst out laughing, that's how you build comfort, sex and intimacy is not serious!

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@Tyler Robinson Exercise is more effective then any form of therapy.

@Leo Gura have you tried caprylic acid supplements for Sibo?

The addiction you get when you look onto her body, girlfriend or wtv, that amazing figure and features are all strong attachment mechanisms to trick your mind into over valuing her and to make you attached to a neurotic degree. The prettier the girl, the more neurotic your attachment to her will be. Its a lot easier to have healthy relationships with women who are not as physically attractive because your going to be more secure, less competitive with the world around you and less bombarded by the mesmerizing effects a woman's figure and face has on your primitive animal brain.

I don't believe therapy helps people really, you need to become your own internal psychologist, therapist, guru. But if it works for some people thats great the problem is they are likely going to be less conscious then you so its a pain in the ass talking to someone who is not at your level.

Conservative therapist, avoid. Its not your fault try again next week with a different one, make sure to carefully read reviews. Maybe we can figure out what is the best approach to engage with a therapist to get the most out of it. Is talking about our problems and feelings therapy? Not sure ?

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Do you have any experience doing this? ?