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Zoom out, there is a life cycle to a relationship. Acknowledge the impermanence of what a relationship is, fully accept that. Appreciate the time you have together.

I didn't need to breath, I only did so out of pure stupidity and ego!

This. Most important component. Befriend them, step one.

I was wrong. Shortly after this thread was started i met a 13 year old at the park where i train. We instantly hit it off and bonded, at some point the conversation went to SD he immediately latched onto the idea and began exploring it. We started by making simple distinction in the population, classifying people, behavior and ideas into stages. After he got a grasp of this he began exploring things on his own, constantly asking question for months. We explored perspective switching, moral relativism, systems thinking, 3rd/4rth person perspectives, ego awareness, personality types, life is a dream philosophy, self-development, body building, emotional mastery, communication intelligence. He was/is very quick and enthusiastic about all of it. Rapidly absorbing and applying everything i introduce him to. Not sure how this 13 year old found me, but he hit the developmental lottery lol. Typed as a INFJ. In the matter of a month or so, his behavior and self awareness significantly changed that the parents commented on it. It all started with conversation on SD, that strongly peaked his interest and unlocked his higher self. It seems SD has a magic to it. The unavoidable things that happened along this journey: - He placed himself at yellow, i let it be that way, as a way to help him identify with his higher self, i didn't see a need to correct this. He eventually self corrected this belief a few weeks later, but still strongly idealizes yellow and turquois. - He struggled abit to understand how hitlers actions came from a place of love from hitlers perspective. A conflict of what he things is right and how what is right is relative. It eventually clicked on its own. He is still confused on how rape and murder is self love and perfectly right from the perspective of the rape and murderer. Needs constant re-explanation. A relativism issue, that i need to play with more. - He will default and flip flop between a 13 year old thought process and higher self. Depending on mood, emotions at this age completely send him into a regression. Forgets to zoom out, likely a issue caused by not enough practice, no life experience and brain not finished developing. - His attention span is more focused on what hes interested in exploring at any moment and not what i want to teach him. So i go with the flow of his interests and drive the conversation to the most relevant insights. This might be a effective teaching strategy. Class exploration, general chats, teach them what most peaks there interest. - He will just reject things if hes not emotionally interested in. If i try to force a subject on him to explore, its fully ignored. When hes emotionally interested, the fireworks go off, creative exploration.

@Preety_India yes it feels like a rush of optimism. "What have i been doing up until now? It was all so simple all along."

Oh no the desire is no longer there, freedom. Its like a child is not thinking about sex.

A random guy with no knowledge of the experiment is sat in a room, maybe having a casual chat with another guy in the room, who asks him how he feels at key moments. In another room there are a group of people 10+ who can see him vai a 1 directional window. They are told that guy is terrible, shown crimes he committed (fake), negative thoughts about that guy are put into them and they are incentivized to feel negative or positive way about him. The guy in the window is tested to see if he feels anything or if his experience changes. Has this experiment been done before? Will the sudden change in feelings of a group of people directed towards another person have a measurable impact? Or is it to systemically subtle to measure in this experiment format? Would be cool if we could prove energy transfer for interpersonal systems that is direct. Has no science been conducted on this? Is it still to advanced for the current altitude?

It depends, everyone is different. If i don't ejaculate for a week, ill loss all interest in sex and ejaculation, i wont notice attractive women around me. The switch is completely turned off. It does the opposite of anxiety and stress, it gives mental clarity and high focus/motivation, deeper sleep, colors are brighter. Sex is just another object in awareness, give it less attention and its forgotten. For other men it spikes their sexual desire to an unlivable tortuous degree. Its really an issue of not being able to just let it go. They are stuck in a mind loop of sex or it could be a build up of zinc in the body, the body is trying to get rid of it.

At around the 6-7 time ill be shooting blanks. No fluids, just pulsing. Did you experience this?

INTJ and INFJ are often misdiagnosed with autism. They are also most likely type to have child hood mystical experiences. Ni dominant.

Jesus buy me a private jet. A large portion of Low Orange is religious, Bro culture is a good example, fast cars and gold crosses.

High intensity Exercise. 3-6 hours a day. Will flush out toxins in the brain that build up during waking hours + increased blood flow.

In my early 20s i dated someone that i really connected with, it was a very strong romance, a beautiful experience. She was a foreign exchange student and had to leave the country, so the relationship ended during the strong romance phase with out any chance of seeing her again. The issue is there was no closure and the connection was very strong. So 10 years later i still think about her and having occasional imaginary conversations with her. Its not major just a casual thought on occasion. The feelings for her are still there, unresolved. It doesn't matter if im in another relationships, ill just love multiple people at the same time. Its the same with every relationship ive been in, ill keep loving all of them, but in this one unresolved case its stronger then the others. Speaking of relative love, not absolute. How do i resolve this? What is the need for closure, what is it a reflection of and how do we get over it?

Found these videos very helpful, thank you. It re-contextualize things, see it with better clarity now. Yes, definitely happened. Thanks, loved it. How to connect with love itself? Any tips?

Use sex toys like sleeves or strap-ons, this will numb or remove all sensation so you can last forever. Also it will spice the sex life back up.

Start with introducing her to the concept of self-development.

Most spiritual gurus don't age much, might want to look into that magic formula. If it makes you feel any better, im 31 and slept with much older women past 65. It made no difference.

She would listen and apply everything that i would say, like a mentor, student role. She was attracted to me for being a mentor to her, never had this with any other partner, so its what made the relationship more valuable to me. She fully could receive my love language. teaching, while other partners and most people cannot. Never had a partner after this that wanted the love i wanted to give them. I always have to adapt my love expression to a partners needs, blocking deeper connection. What does this reveal about myself? Why is being valued as a teacher by others so important?

Looking for insight into why i reacted in a specific way in this scenario and what it is a reflection of (shadow). Someone asked me "what company do you work for?" i responded, "why ask someone what company they work for?", my thought process was that they wouldn't know the company anyways, its a redundant question, i also dont care about the details of my characters story. A argument continued from here where they pushed to get me to just answer the question and couldn't understand why i was being "difficult" about it. In the end i never gave them an answer because I just don't care and id like to talk about the deeper meaning behind the question. They took offense that i "attacked" them, that's how they experienced it. Of course this was a communication error on my part but what im asking is why did i refuse to just answer the question? What kind of survival agenda is this? Why did i stand my ground and refuse to have small talk?

Why is green so serious? lol

What's the issue in role playing? Its a game?

Yes the motivation. A "i don't care" boredom attack. At the same time, its not useful information to them. Its hard giving people information that will be deleted from there memory, that will have no impact, that carries no journey. I want to plant a seed. That's motivating, ill get all enthusiastic about it. But again, this path trampled on someone's emotions. Im trying to find a deeper shadow here that I'm missing. Is boredom induced conflict a shadow? lmao Ive yelled "i don't care" while laughing, in front of people multiple times now. Got to be something here im doing wrong? lol What model is your car? What foods do you like to eat? When is your birth day?: I don't know, I don't remember and i don't care.

@realized That seems accurate. but is this all shadow? What did i not integrate?

@Blackhawk As a "what if" thought experiment. Hold a belief like "what if pigs could fly", explore that kind of world in your mind, there would be pigs chilling on roofs and a major pig shitting problem, new jobs would open up to manage them, also pigs are pretty smart with that increase in mobility alot of new behavior would open up, pig coordinated crime, pig stalking... We just explored an imaginary world, maybe we learned something from it.

Why must there be evidence for something to explore it? Imagine if Columbus refused to sail with out evidence that there was land on the other side of the ocean, he never would of left.