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If you can handle BPD men, then you're operating at one of the highest levels of relationship maturity and emotional maturity. Did you have mature parents? Reading your reply, made me realize that my father had BPD, "huge burst of anger over spilled milk, followed by shame, regret and apologies, daily". Having him as a father taught me at a every young age that it was my responsibility to manage his emotions for him. That i was brainwashed into thinking the point of social interaction is to manage other people's emotions for them, tiptoeing on egg shells with everyone. Much of your reply directly reflects how I operate in relationships and there's overlap. The only difference would be that safety doesn't really play a role. Which is probably because I have a physically strong body so I never feel unsafe, there's also cultural role-play happening, where males just don't feel unsafe around women. The thing that would kill my sexual interest in a partner is them not seeing any value in me. If they don't see the work and value, I put into their lives then I am so repulsed that I don't want to touch them. I guess this could be framed as being looked down upon? And the opposite is also true the more you value everything I do for you, the more I want to do for you. The more that a woman expresses how they value their man's actions, choice or behaviour the more the man falls in love with them. Both use rationality to justify there emotions. I dont see the difference, from my experience with woman BPD, its a solid line of "rational" thinking leading there tantrums. The overlap with what you wroth is so strong that i see very few differences between the way we opperate. So there doesnt seem to be differences between the sexes in relationships when operating at a high level of maturity. There still seems to be differences with attraction and needs, like primary things closer rooted to biology. But secondary things at higher brain regions seems to overlap alot between sexes. I think a lot of the issues people have with sexism comes down to not making any of these distinctions and lumping any claim of difference in big soup of misogyny. --- There were alot of interesting differences doe. This is SO funny! I have to do the opposite, i enter into a feminine frame of play and love to counter the tantrum, then i go back to holding space in a default masculine mode. I know this is unpolitical but with BPD i see a child having a tantrum and empathy for it is important but not to much that you have your boundaries crossed. Especially when there tantrums are everyday. Obviously theres nothing to judge, there mentally ill. And even if there not mentally ill, there mentally ill, such is a living thing lol This is a good insight, Do you recover from emotions super fast? like a few minutes? and do you have healthy strategies to manage them? I agree men and woman will hold onto there emotions and try to validate a point with it, but emotions seem to linger much longer in woman.

It was a metaphor, for the gratification of winning, taking pleasure in winning. It wasn't about sex. But that was a mistake on my part, should've used proper vocabulary.

Everything I wrote was for the only purpose of clarifying my position, which is something you should already have done on your own. This is stonewalling (the childhood defence mechanism) and not caring at all to steal man someone's position. You win by distorting other people's perspectives, then wall off all clarity attempts. This is aligned with debate focussed people. When you distort their perspective, they seek clarity and then they engaged back with you and then you will deny them clarity. A person who is focussing since childhood to win, has distorted models of reality. The stoicism creates the feeling of rightness because after all if someone is stoic, the person who is not stoic is likely wrong. That's the vibe, and it's self reinforcing. I don't feel anything. But a misogynist would. If I belong to a pattern, I don't feel superior that I'm in a pattern. But you stated you enjoy crushing people, which is this superiority game that I'm not playing at all. Thinking that I say things for the purpose of stating superiority is because you are projecting how you operate onto me.

So we had similar experiences, I dated two BPD women, the main focus was the mature person as to compensate for the lack of maturity in the other. It looks like we had a role reversal. Did you feel a loss of sexual desire towards them the more emotional they became? I'm asking this because the typical pattern is women will lose sexual attraction the more childish they think he is. They don't want to babysit a toddler. I'm asking because you're atypical, and I want to know how many "norms" don't apply to you.

What is your experience?

Giving her what she wants, which is love, is precisely understanding her. The content of what she's saying has to be agreed with or if you disagree, you have to do it in a super playful way with the right affection techniques. It's not some easy thing to do, especially when they're not in the right mood all day, then it becomes a marathon a partner cant tolerate, people have limits. Most issues people have in relationships is that,. You're partner is in proximity and someone doesn't feel good. The fact that you being in proximity makes more opportunities to associate negative feelings towards you. To solve this, you just have to use playful techniques.

??? This is a super effective, loving technique! She wants to be kissed, hugged and told she's right!

I forgot to be balanced! And as a woman to get a man to be happy with your demands you say "Honey you have suck a big dick can you wash the dishes?". This solves his core problems with the demand and he will immediately obey all orders. lmfao You guys think I'm being foolish, but this works.

This is true. I FEEL SO SOOTHED 😂 lmFAOOO My default writing style is hyper "this is truth" autism. When I use words like "attacked" I do not personally feel attacked. I'm stating what people are doing. I found the right strategy is to just be playful (IRL), and that disarms all emotionally charged events. Say things like "oh nNnnooOo my sweet sweet sweeeeeet pumPkin (petting her head with 1000x kissis), your always right" This is a guaranteed technique. lmao

For the love of carl, ok you got me ill only generalize men for now on.

I do not feel negativity towards anyone. I'm pointing out everything that's happening, it's interpreted as defensiveness. Actually from your perspective i am a sexist, there is no other way to define it in that paradigm. I'm sorry people experienced sexism today. lmaooo

Its typical of ALL men to avoid wrong doing, thats what most men do. 😎 Make it a forum rule not to talk about the differences between the sexes. My instict when reading this topic was "oh thats one way woman become masculine". If that was my insight there is nothing i can do about it. I get the issues on this forum with male dominance, at this point just stop the discussions from happening with rules. Guys.. i thougth about this topic for a decade now, ive read and heard everything, im not misrepresenting anything in a pilled form... Being called sexist is the same as commiting a social crime, it also interpret the context at a super low level meaning what was said was misrepresented. This is like accusing someone of a crime then telling them they're not allowed to defend themselves? And if they defend themselves you tell them they lack confidence and self-assurance? And we call it "defence" and not seeking clarity, why? Yes i could of just ignored everything, would that of been better then seeking clarity and proven to the world im a "real man"? LMAO So you guys are not playing social games right now? Its one of does games were the more you try to seek clarity the more they think your childish.

I don't agree. I only went "on" and "on" because I was attacked. I went on and on because what i said was taken out of context and set on fire. Do you know how many times someone has told me I was sexist in my life, zero. The whole idea that I've made one basic statement and then I'm being attacked for being sexist, overgeneralizing and people are telling me I need to self reflect. Guys... stop the games.

@Elliott I know from the many debates I've had with her that she will never fully represent a person's position, truthfully (steel manning). By doing so this fuels conversations to go on forever until the person gives up. Because of this need to win distorting everything the people she engages with feels wronged so they continuing engaging, when you misrepresent someone they want clarity they want closure and she will never give that to them. --- If I have any emotions towards this, is this dominatrix kind of mindset is the exact opposite of how I think about everything. The feeling of winning makes me feel bad and the idea that i will intellectually outperformed someone and win over them makes me feel bad. I have no interest in any of this. I want to raise people up to the highest level and nothing else matters. I have no interest in winning to gratify myself. I get absolutely no gratification socializing. So when she debates with me and pulls this stonewall games waisting my time, and now she confesses of how much she enjoys winning. It screams female empowerment games.

If you're going to misrepresent my position without steel Manning, that's your problem, I can't bend over backwards playing these games. What I said has nothing to do with anything black pill or red pill or any garbage like that. Apply yourselves next time. Does anyone realize how little you all care about truth? Social games you're playing? She just made an entire confession about all she cares about is winning. Please spare me the psychoanalysis. What insight do you think I'm gonna have reading this topic?, "a woman explains how she became obsessed with winning socially to protect herself" Please write a book about it.

You need to care about truth. That's all that it. When your top value is emotions and how things make you feel then you're gonna engage in all of this survival behavior and you're gonna have to set rules for yourself not to commit these acts.

Emerald is showing what masculine adaptation looks like in woman, the unhealthy distortion it takes to survive in a achievers world with feminine biology. Women are under more pressure then men in this world because its less suited for there nature. They have to fight the grain more.

The motivation is not the same. Everyone on the surface is trying to "win". The intention is different.

Yes and when they come into contact with people who dont do this, theres a clash. Why outsource emotional regulation to the sick and corrupt people around you? Its naive consumerism.

Believing in equality in biology that creates the mind is sexism. Equality is sexist! 😆 Men compete physically, woman compete socially. Men do not want to win in a conversation the way woman do, you guys are projecting and that creates sexism! Of course I need to buffer this by explaining I don't mean 100% of the population. I don't mean we are all 100% UN-EQUAL, I do not mean there isn't diversity. I do not mean genders don't exist or masculine and feminine polarity doesn't exist. I don't mean any of this. Thank you lol. I'm pointing to biological expression of how a mind is created through the female biology and through the male biology and the divergent trend.

You're definitely on the right track good job, overcoming self sabotage (drug abuse) is the first step to healing. Most of this is people unintentionally harming themselves through living a lifestyle the body was never meant to live. This is because our culture is sick and corrupt and has taught us nothing but sickness and corruption. Depending on how bad your genetics and environment are, it can be very challenging or very easy to heal the body and dig yourself out of this hole.

😂😂😂 oooooh k Accusing me of sexism is the lack of EQ here... If you felt what i felt you would see im not coming from a sexist point of view. It's like if someone only wants to win then they will represent a position from the most advantage starting point. A sexist fool is easy to defeat, so lets start there? The reason im responding this way is not because i lack empathy for your lifes journey, its because you misrepresented what i wrote... This constant distortion of other peoples perspective is the reason people keep engaging with you. Not everyone on the forum wants to win, most are just responding what they think is the wrong thinking of the person you're engaging with. And when someone else misrepresents everything you say, they're compelled to engage and keep engaging. Your emotionally stimulating people into arguing with you because if a person cares about winning, then they're constantly distorting everything to win. --- On the topic of EQ, people on the form have higher EQ than average. It's because they're not acting from that place when writing because they're not emotionally in that state of mind. In order to write that way you have to be in a Play state. @Natasha Tori Maru is always writing in play mode so is @Carl-Richard. It has nothing to do with having more EQ. Leo switches between play and focus modes. It's more important what state someone is in when they're engaging. If someone was on heroin they would have no need to win, or if your body is sick, you'll come off more hard and unpleasant. The unwritten rule right now is "someone shared something personal" so tread lightly and address what they said consciously with understanding. But people are not always in the right state for this and the general flow of the forum is very few posts are like this so we're not always ready to produce high EQ writing. It's easy to be deceived by social skills. Some of the worst people on earth speak so pleasantly and so enjoyable to listen to... It has nothing to do with EQ. If I spoke like Trump, I would have more EQ reputation to my name. But I would be a devil.

I cured my own schizophrenia, so if you have enough intelligence and motivation you could overcome these genetic problems. It's mostly cultural group think and can't see the cause of schizophrenia.

Most women have the problem where they engage in a conversation to win, and most men have the problem of not realizing that their partner just wants to win, and the whole conversation is about how the conversation makes her feel and nothing to do with solving problems or truth.