Billy Shears

This isn't meant to sound arrogant but I have had problems with my so called friends for a long time. I was never really popular or had a lot of friends, but there were always three or four people with whom I have contact. Right now I'm having contact with four people which I also meet sometimes. For a long time now, however, I have had the feeling that they are pulling me down rather than doing me any good. I'm closing my best friend out there. I'm happy to have him, we rarely see each other, but for that we have a very trusting and honest relationship. I see the other three regularly, but to be honest I only meet them when I'm bored and lonely. Am I kidding myself? And also the supposed friends? The bigger problem, however, is that when we meet, there is actually no in-depth conversation and we only meet to be either drunk or stoned, most of the time anyway. Sometimes we ride a bike or go for a walk, but that's not the real thing I imagine among friends. So the question is rather rhetorical, since I probably already know the answer intuitively. But has anyone else gone through this situation and found a solution or even more suitable friends? I always feel so drained after meeting up with them and this can't go on, otherwise I get more and more depressed and lonely... I need to work on myself and quit the stimulants in order to get shit done, I don't wanna waste anymore time. So any advice from you guys? Thanks for taking the time to read through all this.

Speaking from the heart is a very relieving feeling. But opening up is not easy. We are fearful of what others will think about us. It’s easier to posture and pretend than speak openly from the heart. So it's exhausting when I'm not able to speak from my heart and instead need to wear a mask. You know what I mean?

Do not make spiritual development dependent on these factors. It makes a difference whether someone does not want to speak from his heart or whether he wants to, but is not able to do so due to other circumstances which is even very exhausting, as in my case. You can wear a suit and achieve enlightenment, but at the same time you can be naked and be far away from this state of mind. Besides I am already vegan and walking barefoot most of the time. If there is no pineapple on the pizza and he shares something, I'm definitely in. No matter how spiritually evolved you are, nobody should refuse a pizza.

Being lonely isn't a problem for me because most of the time I prefer to be alone, I just don't have the mental energy to always be around with people. Still, you're right, maybe once a week I wanna meet up with someone and share my thoughts and feelings. But it would be nicer, if it wouldn't end up in drinking alcohol, even if it's just one beer. It's always involved, they don't seem to care about their consumption or health, although I already asked them to think about it...

Yeah, that's right. It's difficult to find deeper, more meaningful relationships but to be honest I also still need to learn how to speak from my heart without the fear of being judged.

I know it sounds very harsh. Maybe I need to see it from a different angle and appreciate these experiences as useful life lessons which make me a better and more understanding person. In the end it's all part of the journey.

Tinder is full of fake people.

Yeah, I already told one of them that it doesn't make anymore to meet each other because of his arrogant, selfish behavior. You know those people who only talk about themselves and suck your life energy out of you? He's one of those people ...

Exactly, that's what the society seems to expect from you in order to function or be a normal person. If you're introspective and rather like to spend some time alone, you're a weirdo, antisocial or a loser. It takes a strong mind to go your own way and not to care about other people's opinion. I hope you're not on Tinder ?

Thanks for your answers, it was nice to hear your point of views ✌? It's so hard to quit the contact if they are constantly trying to reach me... Anyway, I need to find a way to get out of this situation and spend some time alone to create a better lifestyle, even if it won't be easy. Ironically this might be the best time to be alone because of the coronavirus. ?

Yes, that's a very good advice. I nearly do it all the time when I research about some controversial topics. If you compare the results with Google, it gets very clear that Google first shows you what they want you to see or even hide relevant search results.

@electroBeam lol Say that in Germany and you'll immediately go to jail.

You need to love Hitler to truly love yourself! ❤️ That's real ONENESS.

You don't necessarily need to watch some TV. Even if many consider themselves to be very clever and wise, the same behavior and characteristics can sometimes be seen here in the forum.

Synchronicity is definitely a real phenomena. The more you try to surrender the need to control the outcome of an event, the more you will experience synchronicity. Just go with the flow!

@electroBeam Well, I guess it's time to eat some bread, my friend! ✌?

I would not describe myself as a conspiracy theorist, but I do sit down with them and try to form my own picture from different perspectives from different sides. I think that's very important, not just to insist on one opinion. You have to find the right mix. Many conspiracy theories are bullshit, but unfortunately many are true. It is just as wrong to believe any conspiracy theory as to accept any public media opinion. Both sides tend to be stubborn, to insist on their opinion and worldview and to describe the other side as crazy or asleep. Ultimately, we're all in the same boat, so it's best to have a constructive discussion and admit yourself when you're wrong. It is more important to get information correctly than just to exercise your ego and to consistently reject all theories. That would be strength.

@VeganAwake Thanks, I will check it out ❤ I take vitamin B12 supplements and, as I said, have had everything tested by the doctor, everything was fine. Right now I am taking a sunbath!

@fridjonk Why do you think it's a fact? Even before I went vegan I was nearly a complete vegetarian, maybe once in a week I ate some chicken. But nutrition is like religion, it's difficult to discuss, especially when it comes to vegan nutrition lol

@Thought Art Do you like its taste? I prefer hemp powder, tastes much better in my opinion. @fridjonk I already did, everything was fine. But I've had low blood pressure all my life which might be the main problem.

@VeganAwake Actually I've been vegan since 2015 but I often wonder if something would change if I got back to eating animal products. The reason I became vegan was because I couldn't stand eating animal products anymore, I just found it disgusting. I don't miss anything, I would even feel sick if I had to eat something non-vegan today. Still, I wonder whether I am missing something. before and after going vegan I never had huge amount of energy or motivation, only the first vegan month gave me an energy boost, although I really spent a long time thinking about it and paying attention to all nutrients and vitamins. Well, probably it has other causes.

@VeganAwake Do you feel better mentally and physically since you have become vegan?

@Leo Gura Then what's the purpose of quantum mechanics if it's imaginary? Why would God bother to create something so complicated? Don't you think it might be God's essence?

As above so below, as within so without. This principle of correspondence speaks to the mirror-image relationship between all cosmos which simply says that the greater and the lesser are alike. The universe and Earth are of the same pattern, ature and man reflect each other. By observing one relation you gain knowledge of the reflected whole. To put it another way, the meaning of ‘as above so below’ is that everything is a microcosm of the macrocosm. We see the same patterns reproduced in all levels of the cosmos; from the largest scale all the way down to the smallest sub-atomic substance including the metaphysical. Contemplate the macrocosm as the universe and the microcosm being you. Deeper inquiry into this idea can bring some pretty potent revelation. Edit: I just wanted to share it with you guys after daydreaming and observing the trees and taking a deep breath. I hope you're having a nice day