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Leo has talked about that it is important to be a hard closer in dating. But How do you do that and at the same time while being repsectful And making sure she genuinely wants it? And when you are on the street/in the club it’s normal to have a bit of resistance at first. For many reasons, How do you keep persisting and at the same time being respectful to the woman?

@Leo Gura def needs to clarify this

I started this post on the Issue of How We can prevent false rape accusations Then you started blaming me and started to compare false accusation with real rape. And now you have said that you can’t compare them. You Don’t bring anything constructive to this post. I wanted to find a solution of How to solve the issue of false accusation. I never wanted any blame game. How Do you know? What is worse is relative. Stop being so absolutist

First of all that totally depends on the context. If a woman have sex beacuse of a pushy man that can be seen as rape. You are right that she got psycologial damage from that. I don't deny it. But a man who gets falsely accused may commit suicide like my friend. In this context who got the most damage? I don't understand. We talk about that all the time. If you talk about rape being a problem in our society is it fair for me to say "well murder, theft and violence are also a problem. Why do you talk about rape? how is rape any different?" Do you see the problem with that sort of rhetoric? I would instead talk with you about how to solve it rather than blaming you. I am not here to talk about if we should talk about but how to solve it. Talking about an issue doesn't solve it unless you present solutions.

That sounds like a great solution

ofc that almost happend to my friend. But on a big scale, more women are raped than men are falsely accused. But it still a problem that some men are falsely accused. However. What is worse depends on the context as you said. Both can be devastating. Relativity

I have to say with all my respect that I agree with you

Did we ever say that false rape is a bigger problem?

Yes. But there are some correlations. We are not here to discuss what is worse. Both are horrible

You are maybe right. But I did not called it the false rape culture. Because it is not. it's about a small number of women we are talking about. But even then a small group can cause alot of harm. I am not here to blame anyone but to find a systemic solution

It's not a zero sum game. Just because you care about men who got falsely accused does not mean that you don't care about rape victims. Rape can ruin the life of a women but so can false rape If we don't see both sides we will never find balance. And balance is one of fundemtal things about reality

I am not even saying that it's more or less. It could very well be the case.

The problem is that how can we know? what did those statistics base their data on? Do I think that most rape accusations are real? Yes. The problem is that it's impossible to know.

I did if you read my post. I have spoken to females that have gotten damaged from men who pushed them into sex. I will never downplay their suffering. Ofc it's good that rape is highlighted so we can solve it. The metoo moment had alot of positive effects of highlighting abuse. But everyting ins reality has both good and positive effects. The reason why I am talking about this is to bring up the other side. The suffering of the men who get's falsely accused like my friend who almost committed suicde. why is it triggering to bring up his suffering. I am not here to blame anyone I want constructive solotions. If you have than I am more than happy to hear it

It's a hard topic I know. But we need to talk about it otherwise we will never solve it

Unlike someone like john lenon he is way more edgy, rebellious, does what he wants, his music is also way more polarising John Lennon is much more sweet and soft. Much more of the nice guy kind. Who is in general more attractive to stage green girls and in what context?

May our lord and saviour elon musk invest to help us to Pluto with a Tesla rocket

Covid is not just a dream. Nothing, in Reality is 100% real or 100% illusion/dream. Covid is real to some extent

happiness = fufill desires that brings you happiness. simple as that whatever it is desires for enlightenment, relationships, hobbies, friends, nature etc

Desire, desire is the fundemental root of all suffering and joy. @Leo Gura and everyone else here are right that if you want to get rid of your suffering you should get rid of your desire because the fundamental definition of suffering is desires that is unfurfilled, But anyone here that don’t think getting rid of your desires is necessary is also right because getting rid of your desires means getting rid of your joy. Because the definition of joy is a fulfilled desire.

I want to be more sensitive to life. This means more passion, desire, love, authenticity but ofc more anger etc But I want to do it anyway. Any tips on how to do this?

Let’s say you desire Ice cream do you suffer before you are given it? Well let’s look at this you might get excited before you are given it. Maybe a little impatient but if you ask most people they will tell you that they enjoy that craveing Then you are given it and it fills you with pleasure. So buddah is wrong that desire = suffering unfulfilled desire = suffering you suffer if you crave ice cream but are not given it. If you remove your desire to eat ice cream you will remove the suffering of not getting it when you would usually crave it and the negative health consequences that come from it. But it is not desire in itself that causes suffering

They are gonna fall back as long as they follow the fundamental laws of reality. Nothing is permanent even enligtment. Even @Leo Gura has stated that even if you attain Non-duality you are gonna come back to duality at some point. That does not mean that it will happen in their life time or many many life times. But it will happen

Well you cannot that peace of mind unless you desire to have it. Otherwise you would not acually enjoy that peace. If you have no desire you can neither feel the pain of hell or the beauty of heaven. you desire that peace of mind. Once you get it you desire to keep that peace of mind. Otherwise you would have to problem to get back your desires

Well no even the most enlightend beings in reality will fall back to sleep sooner or later