krockerman

I want you all to look at these areas and try to find how that stage tend view that area and what the healthy and unhealhty aspects each stage tend to have. Try to compare them -Happiness, fullfillment and meaning -Sex -Love and relationships -Life purpose -Family and children -Spirituality -Morality Example: Yellow tends finds meaning in solving problems in the world but fail to realize that happiness is not find within the mind. The way Blue tends to view sex has both good and bad aspects. It’s good for X reason but can be bad in some situations for Y reason Orange Tend to use rationality and logic as the base for the morality, while blue tends to lean towards authority in order to determine the moral code, orange way is better for X and Y but lacking regards to Z while blue is problematic for X and Y but is great regarding to Z

I want to start this off by saying that we will be looking I will be looking at this from both sides First of all, rape is probably one of the most disgusting acts of evil a man can ever commit, with that said: there is a deeper issue around the court system. I see many females posting an image on Instagram of how many rapists in society we have, how many get reported, how many go to court, and how many are put in jail. where are the men in jail are a huge minority compared to all the other rapist. It also states that falsely accused men are less than 1% The problem is you can never actually know that, It could be true but if you don't actually can prove it you can't post it as a fact. There has become a trend that makes it seem that so many men get away with rape. And that if you bring up the problem of false accusation you are branded as a rape apologist We have a court system for a reason. If you can't prove it then there is not much that can't be done Someone I know got falsely accused and even considered suicide a couple of years ago. They were sober, She never said no and they hung out after I have heard stories of a man that got accused of rape when he was in another country on the date the reported case happened. Ofc there is another side of rapist men who get away with rape due to the lack of evidence. My question will the issue of rape ever be solved because it's so hard to disprove. 9/10 women would probably never do this. But if we are gonna treat every man who rapes as a rapist then the number of false accusations will skyrocket and so many men's lives will be ruined. Then rape will start to be something that people are gonna take less seriously And what should we defy as rape? if a girl consent before and under sex but then regrets it should that be called rape? Where does the line go? I have had female friends of men who were pushy with sex and did psychological damage. But Leo has said that men should have a determined mindset and it's natural for women to have objections until sex Is it right to put 1 real rapist in jail and an innocent man? or let them both go where the rapist would harm two other women? What is the right thing? I hope we can have a constructive conversation about this issue

Leo has talked about that it is important to be a hard closer in dating. But How do you do that and at the same time while being repsectful And making sure she genuinely wants it? And when you are on the street/in the club it’s normal to have a bit of resistance at first. For many reasons, How do you keep persisting and at the same time being respectful to the woman?

@Leo Gura def needs to clarify this

I started this post on the Issue of How We can prevent false rape accusations Then you started blaming me and started to compare false accusation with real rape. And now you have said that you can’t compare them. You Don’t bring anything constructive to this post. I wanted to find a solution of How to solve the issue of false accusation. I never wanted any blame game. How Do you know? What is worse is relative. Stop being so absolutist

First of all that totally depends on the context. If a woman have sex beacuse of a pushy man that can be seen as rape. You are right that she got psycologial damage from that. I don't deny it. But a man who gets falsely accused may commit suicide like my friend. In this context who got the most damage? I don't understand. We talk about that all the time. If you talk about rape being a problem in our society is it fair for me to say "well murder, theft and violence are also a problem. Why do you talk about rape? how is rape any different?" Do you see the problem with that sort of rhetoric? I would instead talk with you about how to solve it rather than blaming you. I am not here to talk about if we should talk about but how to solve it. Talking about an issue doesn't solve it unless you present solutions.

That sounds like a great solution

ofc that almost happend to my friend. But on a big scale, more women are raped than men are falsely accused. But it still a problem that some men are falsely accused. However. What is worse depends on the context as you said. Both can be devastating. Relativity

I have to say with all my respect that I agree with you

Did we ever say that false rape is a bigger problem?

Yes. But there are some correlations. We are not here to discuss what is worse. Both are horrible

You are maybe right. But I did not called it the false rape culture. Because it is not. it's about a small number of women we are talking about. But even then a small group can cause alot of harm. I am not here to blame anyone but to find a systemic solution

It's not a zero sum game. Just because you care about men who got falsely accused does not mean that you don't care about rape victims. Rape can ruin the life of a women but so can false rape If we don't see both sides we will never find balance. And balance is one of fundemtal things about reality

I am not even saying that it's more or less. It could very well be the case.

The problem is that how can we know? what did those statistics base their data on? Do I think that most rape accusations are real? Yes. The problem is that it's impossible to know.

I did if you read my post. I have spoken to females that have gotten damaged from men who pushed them into sex. I will never downplay their suffering. Ofc it's good that rape is highlighted so we can solve it. The metoo moment had alot of positive effects of highlighting abuse. But everyting ins reality has both good and positive effects. The reason why I am talking about this is to bring up the other side. The suffering of the men who get's falsely accused like my friend who almost committed suicde. why is it triggering to bring up his suffering. I am not here to blame anyone I want constructive solotions. If you have than I am more than happy to hear it

It's a hard topic I know. But we need to talk about it otherwise we will never solve it

Unlike someone like john lenon he is way more edgy, rebellious, does what he wants, his music is also way more polarising John Lennon is much more sweet and soft. Much more of the nice guy kind. Who is in general more attractive to stage green girls and in what context?

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Covid is not just a dream. Nothing, in Reality is 100% real or 100% illusion/dream. Covid is real to some extent

happiness = fufill desires that brings you happiness. simple as that whatever it is desires for enlightenment, relationships, hobbies, friends, nature etc

Desire, desire is the fundemental root of all suffering and joy. @Leo Gura and everyone else here are right that if you want to get rid of your suffering you should get rid of your desire because the fundamental definition of suffering is desires that is unfurfilled, But anyone here that don’t think getting rid of your desires is necessary is also right because getting rid of your desires means getting rid of your joy. Because the definition of joy is a fulfilled desire.

I want to be more sensitive to life. This means more passion, desire, love, authenticity but ofc more anger etc But I want to do it anyway. Any tips on how to do this?

Let’s say you desire Ice cream do you suffer before you are given it? Well let’s look at this you might get excited before you are given it. Maybe a little impatient but if you ask most people they will tell you that they enjoy that craveing Then you are given it and it fills you with pleasure. So buddah is wrong that desire = suffering unfulfilled desire = suffering you suffer if you crave ice cream but are not given it. If you remove your desire to eat ice cream you will remove the suffering of not getting it when you would usually crave it and the negative health consequences that come from it. But it is not desire in itself that causes suffering