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@Leo GuraHow do you balance having a relationship with doing this kind of work ? I find it really hard. I feel like I have to commit to one of them, to the exclussion of the other one.

I m reading Radical Honesty. @Leo Gura did you had to come clean to your parents as the book suggests? We all have little or big secrets. Can we self actualize by skipping this step?

@Leo Gura you said you still go to nightclubs. for what purpose?

I have observed at me, that I have very little tolerance to pain or discomfort. I go through the escape door all the time when I sense discomfort and pain, and this is a problem when it cames to self actualization. One thing that I think will help me, is Cold Showers challenge. I cannot stand cold water. In this way maybe I get used to discomfort and learn to tolerate it and manage. Do you have any other ideas?

I also use EFT - david childerly Acceptance 30 days challenge and it works kinda amazing. I've been using lots of EFT lately, I find it really helpful

@Fer Lazo he said he lived in Boston, if I remember well

@Leo Gura do actualizers recognise you on street? Do they aproach you?

At my workplace, there are lots of dogs. We are about 300 people or more, but very few seem to notice or care about this dogs. I feed the dogs, but they are many and there is only that much that I can do. Today I saw a little dog, that broke my heart. He has one of his legs without hair, he has raw meat there it seems he was accidented, his tummy is huge because of the parasytes,he was full of parasytes on it's fur, but he was so friendly and even though he couldn't use one of his legs he followed me, and just looking into his eyes broke my heart. After I left work, I went back gave him food, water, a pill and solution for parasytes. Still, I thought all day about him. I fear that he may have his leg infeted and I don't know what I should do. I feel really torn apart,and feel like I m losing hope on humanity and life. Why does the universe allow this? I get that the universe is though with people, but with helpless animals too? And the others at work are so unconscient about this, it amazes me...it sadeness me. We can do so much with so little, but yet we don't do nothing to help them. At least help them to stop reproducing. I'm torn apart..............and sad, and hopeless in humanity and I feel powerless.

@cirkussmile I think it's a hard life, because dogs are supposed to be taken care of, they are domestic animals, they are not supposed to go in the wild and make a living , and hunt and feed. But I live in Romania, and we have a lot to go. This and so many more things just show me the level of unconsciousness by which we live. And I'm becoming more and more aware of this, at my workplace expecially where I spend a lot of time. I have to find a life purpose and head towards it, cause otherwise my soul is dying day by day here. And in the institution were I work I see so many broken dreams and people who have abandoned themselves.

and today I feel better, because the little guy is doing better, as I've helped him get rid of parasytes, fed him he looks in shape, he can even step on that broken foot, he is recovering fast and I feel so happy for him. He is a sweetheart, melts my heart.

@cirkussmile I also find this inspiring, and sometimes I look at them, observe them...even though they have this hard life, they seem at peace and somehow content with life

@Daniel Stratone I don't eat meat Thanks for your answer. I guess acceptance of reality would be good. Accepting the poor fate of these dogs, but more than that accepting all the people at work who don't seem to care about these poor souls and just go on with their lives like nothing is happening around them. Meanwhile, I find some peace, by doing what I can for them. And I would love to gather the power inside me to just expose these people to " the elephant in the room" and then do something for them .Cause if we gather forces we can definetely do them a good.

i love teal swan..i would love to have the opportunity to go...you're so lucky

i did it for a month, and I got a gastro intestinal reflux from it. Drink the shakes after you eat.

In this moment I value clarity the most and striving to live in a state of clarity

@ChimpBrain i do find her like second best after Leo. She goes to the root problem, and deals with a lot of emotional struggles. She also gives practical exercices. Her work helps me a lot.

Teal Swan. It s great .

So it’s been ester holiday, and I spended it with my family. I don’t like spending time around my family, because around them I feel very vulnerable, I lose the sense of self, I’m feel like it s not okay to have boundaries around them. They can really get to me. My mother is a people pleaser, and my father is the unpleasable parent. Actually both my parents are unpleasable. My father is also kind of rude I would say. I mean, he would criticize me if I don’t do things perfecty ( how he thinks) and even if I do things like he wants, he will still find fault so he would not approve 100 % with me. I’m 24 and my mother still tells me, „ Go and say Hello to those people” like Go and do what’s socialy expected from you „be that perfect girl that we want you to be” „ Do good in the world” „Be selfless” . Ihh. And I was like „No. I’m not gonna do that”. „ If they see me as rude, that’s fine with me. If I don’t feel that’s why I should do, I won’t do it. End of story”. And I could see the dissapproval in her eyes and attidude. That’s why now I’m such a doormat, I feel like a child, powerless, and really handicaped as an adult , an approval seeking, boundary less person and really miserable. Because I never was allowed to just enjoy myself, be myself, put my needs first, have a personallity, because that would be selfish out of me. I was never allowed to have boundaries around them, God forbit. That’s why I don’t rock the boat, I have no sense of self, no joy inside of me, I feel dead inside, and I hate it. And no matter how I try to forgive them, the truth is that in my heart I resent them a lot, and cannot stand them around me. I know they had good intentions, I know that they love me, I know they did theire’s best to raise me into becoming a good person, they educated me, but they also made a miserable miserable adult. And on top of that I feel bad that I resent them. All the people around me are like „ I miss my family so much, can’t wait to go home” this type of things. And I’m like inside „ Ohh...I don’t want to be around my family”, and I feel inadequate and guilty for thinking and feeling how I do when it comes to my relatives. Please, help. How should I handle this family situation? I feel bad around them, I feel bad that I feel bad around them. The first part of my life was dictaded by them. I’m their’s product. I feel like now it’s time for me to create myself as I desire. To create myself from scrach. To do something with all these handycapes that I have. Please give pe your opinnions on this. It’s really nagging my soul. I don’t know how I should handle this.

i want to be authentic and freeee, I want to feel free to be myself, my authentic self. They wouldn't like that.

Will there ever be schools that teach you to create a life not a living?? uhhh. This whole system is so fucked up.

@Steven That's true. That's even more fucked up. I mean, I've invested my energy into school and learning for like...my whole life?? I finished university, I have a good job, I'm 24. But I'm completely unprepared for life. Real life. They don't teach you in school things like self respect, self esteem, abuse and so much more. Uhhh. this makes me sick. Cannot even express all my feelings and thoughts about this subject.

It's really tragic. Looking back, I think the school just keeps distracting you from yourself and life. It's awfull. When you finish highschool you're completely unprepared for life.

Please share with me material and information that works for codependency, cause I'm such a codependent. It sucks, I'm drainned of energy every day. I'm in such a misery and suffering because of this and not only that, but I attract all sorts of other wounded people, like narcisissts.

@Epiphany_Inspired I'm not even thinking in getting in a relationship. That s what I set for me. At least 2 years of working on myself. I wouldn't have energy and time for another person. I'm scarred of the loneliness ahead. And I'm scarred that I won't want to date even after that, cause I don't want to be in a future relationship the way I was before

@Flower thanks i ll read it. i ll do anything