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I think this works like affirmations . I yawn a lot as I do these exercises. I found this guy, Brad Yates, a few years ago, forgot about him, and refound him again now, Back then I did some exercises, expecting miracles over night . Now I know it takes commitment and consistency to get results, so I'm seeing it with another eyes. I think is good, at least for the stage that I'm at right now. What's your opinnion on EFT ( Emotional freedom technique) ? I

@Spacious practicing vulnerabillity, I like this

Hey. In Leo's video about jealousy, he says to study " the ego" to dissolve your self esteem issues. My question is, what are the books for this? Are the books from Leo's list "Consciousness, Enlightenment & Spirituality"?

Please someone answer.... I've been looking for a while books on ego, haven't got a response

So, what I've discovered is that at the core of people-pleasing is low low self-esteem. Low awareness, monkey mind, my thoughts are all over the place. I find myself, wondering what the fuck am I doing in this city? What the fuck am I doing at this work place? What the fuck am I doing in this relationship? Where the fuck do I want to get in life? I really don't want to face reality, so I just distract myself. I remember Leo said " the ego is all about looking away". That's what I'm doing. I want to escape reality. Really passive, an observant of life, not a participant. Since I was a child, my goal was to learn and have a good job, and find a boy who really loves me, and then be happily ever after. I realize now it was major form of procastinating.Procastinating being happy and being myself, procastinating living the moment. So, I got to this point where I have a pretty good job, but not fulfilled inside, I don't really know what am I doing there. I also had great boy, who really loved me, and was all that I wanted in life, and still not fulfilled, not pleased with myself. Not much inside of me to give. I sabotaged my relationship, I sabotage my work, and sabotage my relationships with coworkers, and really sabotage my own fulfillment. What I want to say is that, I got to those points where I wanted to get, and now, I don't have any direction. I just survive. I close my eyes, and go pointesslly throughout my day, and life. Things that I noticed and help: Focus. After watching Leo's video, about focus, I did this thing. At the beginning of day, I ask myself what do I want from this day at job. I see what I have to do and want to do. At work I establish that I'm going to focus on one activity activity at a time, not doing anything else, not phone , not anything. As I do that activity, I notice some thoughts coming into my mind. So, I say like this " I'm gonna handle this activity, and after that I'll take 30 minutes or one hour to think about my ex boyfriend, or what that person thought about me, or what they think of me" whatever thoughts I notice. This, gives me a sense of control and power. After I finish the activity, and say " Ok , let's think about that", I will notice that I don't see the point of thinking about 75 % of those things, once this thinking becomes conscient and my level of awareness about what I think raises. Also, I started to use this tactic with the routines that I set for one month. I found myself, doing lot's of stuff, but not being pleased by what I do, and worrying that I'm not doing as much as I should and as good as I should. So, I try to do this. If I want to read a book, I will say " for the next hour I'm reading this book, not search for videos online not do anything else" For one hour I sit here and read. And after that I can spend 30 minutes or one hour looking at videos. In this way I feel in control, and I don't feel guilty for whatching videos or surveing the internet. I did this with meditation. I do 20 minutes a day, and I will notice a really unconfortable sensation in my left leg. It's so annoying I just want to shake my leg, and get up, not meditate any more. I interpret that as resistence. I just stand there, and take that really annoying and unconfortable sensation, rather than quit meditation, and escaping it. So I stay there, and that sensation will take over my whole body, and then it will dissappear, and then come back again and so on. When it takes over my body, it's not pleasing, but in a way it's relaxing my body deeper than before. sometimes, i notice how I get caught up in stories, and my mind goes into fairytale world. When I see that I replace those thoughts with " thinking, thinking" and those stories lose value and disolve away That's it for now

I've read the book No more Mr Nice Guy... so so good, and so so me. I gainned awareness. So helpful. thanks

I would like a video about this. I've came to the conclussion that Love is respect.

I'm definetely gonna purchase it in a few months.

I want to learn about healthy relationships and attraction. What are the best books?

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@Nomad I play psychiatrist ? weren't you trying to do just that with me? ha ha. I'll leave it here. have a great life!

@Nomad That's the idea. You're pointing out My behaviour. Ask yourself, where in your life do you see what you see at me in yourself. You know what I'm talking about if you're watching Leo's videos. It's easier to see the dysfunctionallities in other s than to look inside, isn't it?

@Nomad It appears you've put yourself on a pedestal, and look at us petty mortals how we are so lame and struggle. Give me a break.

Were not on the same page. And how can I find the "idiot" in me if I'm not reading? Do I get to dream the information at night? No I don't. I read. I only know what I know, and from my experience, what I know does not work. So I need reading. We all need it. We are not born with knowing attraction and relationships .

@Nomad How do you work on yourself? one way is through reading. Reading also helps you, recognize when you're dealling with an idiot and move on

I would say "No more mr nice guy". It gives insight about relationships too. I remember this thing " When sex starts the learning stops" The learning about your partner. And from my own experience, this statement is true.He also says that if you are "fucked up" ( not this expression) you will definitely be attracted by the same type of person. If one person in the relationship is fucked up, then you have 2 "fucked up" people. How to Get Over a Guy! : The Truth about Why Guys Lie, Cheat and Are Disrespecting Women to the Extreme! Keith Crawford - this is tough, but it gets to the root of it

@Neuroticon It's very good.

@Anlib Well, size does matter

@JTSH Hey. thanks. I do like the author. I thirst to get to understand relationships and attraction. I thought I knew everything about relationships and how to keep a guy, and after my last break up, I realized I knew nothing, I am so bad at this.

We like masculine guys with attitude, and who are confortable with being sexual, and make us girls feel confortable with being sexual and crazy. The attitude is very important, not focusing on doing things right, nor doing certain things. We will see when you're doing certain things just to please us. It has to be authentic, it has to be with passion.

Yeah, you're right. I'll watch the video you posted about proteins.

@Thomas No, I got it wrong , it was 1 g of protein per 1 pound body weight. Well, I'm working out for one year, don't know that much about this.

@Tim W I 'm reading " No more mr nice guy" and the author encourages to spend weekends alone in a place that no one knows you. It's for "nice" people like me, but I think it's good for everyone.

I want to go to Barcelona this summer, all by myself. And I'd love to visit ASIA at one point.