JohnnyBravo

Yes, going unconscious and following all the trains of thought is good. And if you catch yourself identifying and getting caught up in a thought, thats fine. If this happens, be gentle with yourself and release it if possible. But if you cant, go ahead and entertain it. Its part of the process and its only a temporary phase. You may think abnormally sick thoughts, but its just a phase. Its purging. Its a good sign. I had this happen for a week or so. I would have these violent visions; with eyes open, it was like a movie right in front of my eyes. The vision was me being aggressive and confronting my family and yelling at all of them in a hyper aggressive way. It scared me. Because "I" wasnt having these thoughts, the thoughts were just being downloaded out of nowhere. Within a few meditation sessions these visions past. They have yet to return alongside any type of mental violence. The Do Nothing approach is as simple as it is. You just sit down and let your brain do whatever. Watch the thoughts, or get lost in them, or chase them, or daydream; its all the same. Hence why there is so much confusion with this technique, because the assumption is, "Yeah but how do I really do this properly? How do i not screw it up?" And this is the thing. The meditation can be described as a "non meditation." But thats the description! It is meditation. If someone asserts, oh its too easy too good to be true. The method is nonsense, why bother? Its just daydreaming sort of, I will try a harder meditation for results because this one is too weird and childish.... And if they follow that thought, they wont ever meditate or toy with the technique. Its all self deception/ The Devil. All you have to do is sit in a chair, do your best to not move, set the timer and thats it! It is powerful technique. The thing is its so poweful and simple that you may think you are cheating the system. You develop all this insight, psychic ability and memory recollection just by sitting in a chair every day. Few people will ever sit in a chair and do nothing deliberately. Their minds are so worked up, they arent even allowed to stop or be open minded enough to enter a simple way of being. **Note. I do this do nothing with a mix of Wim Hof breathing variants. I have found my style.

@flowboy Yes! It took me a while to grasp women desire sex as much as men do. I actually learned this not to my advantage- but to my sad discovery. This was after my pickup days weirdly enough.... I would date women, and want to spend time with them non sexually. After all, is that not what a 'real woman' is like?....these women would actually get very angry with me, passive aggressive and forceful, because (in their words and no I am not making this up), "when are you going to fuck me?" After this happened, again and again and again and again and again and again and again......I realised to my sad tragedy that this was the norm. It upset me. I projected women were more enlightened than men in this arena or had a more sophisticated understanding with sex. Nope. Not saying all women are like this. But I am saying and agreeing, generally speaking, this willingness for sex is more massive than I thought. It became a turn off to me when I dated this women that they got angry I didnt have sex with them. And this was only after 2 or 3 dates, sometimes even the first one. I hated that pressure! The insistency! I totally vibe that its not just a guy that uses a woman for sex, the woman uses the guy for it as well. Its a mutual pleasure fest for each other. A sincere question: when or how did you come to this conclusion as well?

Oh yes!! Great timing for your question. I got the juices for this one. 1 minute read from Osho, and the title gives you a taste. *The Fallacy of Togetherness.* If people do not allow to go on your path, go alone. Do not remain in the company of fools. http://www.awakin.org/read/view.php?tid=648

The only purpose of attaining such ambitions, is to open the door enough to (maybe) see that they are non-fullfilling; they are a myth to happiness and not the path. Culture has said it is the path. It is not. Example like doing a Robert Kiyosaki workshop, and making money, to realise at the end how silly it was and how much effort it was for a futile achievement. You are blessed. You are intelligent for knowing this early on; took me years to 'see' this especially with sex. You have passed. You have done nothing wrong. Onto the next stage. And if you feel you want to hang around this stage for a few months or years to really solidify these quick pleasures dont really work, dont be upset with yourself. Go to the next stage when you are really ready. Do not advance with a naive belief or faith in authority elsewhere. But sounds like youre ready to go. Well done

@Wisebaxter Yes. Respect for this. I shall contemplate. I still harbour anger and resentment towards sources that make humour or jokes around sexuality or relationships. I was in a group dynamic one time, and a man was discussing "My wife did this, and blah blah blah." Everyone in the group laughed. I did not. Their laughter was the Hyena laughter- a devilish, crude stabbing. Jokes and humour are not in the same category as playfulness and genuine laughter. I shall contemplate what you have said, because you are spot on in many regards on seeing this in me. Thankyou for this, and yes, I could have said what I wanted in a more proper way. Your intuitive is accurate.

Adderall does give me a consciousness boost...…..at a price on my body. When I come down from Adderall or ADHD items, I feel depressed. I feel non-healthy. Modafinal is efficient, yet gentle. There is no 'come down.' Just a comforting, slow fading away once you have gotten what you needed. The substance finishes, yet the peace remains.

Dear Leo (and all) God bless you recommended Modafinal. I have used it for my meditation and day to day workings. Modafinil has been a gateway into a joy and overwhelming sense of love, sincerity and beauty. I watched Passion of The Christ whilst on it and post-meditation. The sense of depth and comprehension behind these religions of Christianity, Yoga, Buddhism, Hindu, it all adds up and makes so much sense. It is ridiculously educational. I know now that religion is not a superficial waste of time but a highly purposeful agenda for people. I cannot stop crying at times with these meditations. The amount of joy is PAINFUL. The amount of respect for life is overwhelming. Now, I thought this was purely me on a drug-high. When the modafinil ran out. When my supply ran out...…. The trust and beauty remained. My level of 'stillness' remained. Thankyou Leo. I have stigma against drugs still, and yet because of you releasing your nootropics episodes, I have gone to the next stage. You Leo are playing your part in life well. You have helped. Do not be host this and think I am kissing your ass- this is insulting. I cannot see you in person so I must use words to show my gratitude. You have guided me well. Modafinal, unlike other things such as Amphetamine or Adderall......Modafinal is more gentle. It has a grace to it. One must respect this substance. I have abused this substance two or three times, and learned my lesson very quickly. I have never taken psychedelics yet, but I have gotten a taste for what a scary bad trip feels like. It is scary. One must totally surrender and allow whatever to happen, happen.

@Tony 845 Credit Leo to saying this somewhere else. The idea is this: its never what method, its about what attitude. Years ago in the martial art community, debates were had which martial art was 'the best.' First it was BJJ, then it wasnt, then it was Muay Thai, then it wasnt. Then it was a mixture. Then it wasnt. Then taekwondo was effective, but also it wasnt. Then wrestling, but also boxing. (Im making this story up in terms of the styles. But the debate was real.) In the context of fighting sports, many people eventually found out which martial art was the best after so many trials of this style VS that style. Which one was it? No one. The intensity of the practitioner, the gel with tbe individual and their chosen discipline, the style and essence of the fighter......this was the Truth. An old school Karate practitioner who specializes in that will beat any young guy who has only done a year or two of boxing. Worse, if they spent years dibbling and dabbling between arts, they will be especially easy to beat. The man that has done boxing for 30 years is far more dangerous than the new UFC kid who has just won 2 fights. The kung fu monk, or Aikido yogi, is superior to the fit dude who has done some serious backyard wrestling with his friends. Style doesnt matter. Intent and preference to the Individual matter. So once you have discovered your favourite go-to-technique for meditation, STOP SEARCHING. Go deep with that thing you have found, and with faith and intensity and practise and God, you will get enlightened in your own way. For me, its a blend of Wim Hof breathwork or Pranayama with the sit perfectly still method. Feeks Feels good. Easy for me. Works well. Mistake is to try other techniques at this stage. I have found my thing. If searching, sample many dishes. Once you taste something you enjoy, stay with that single food until satisfied. Go deep on the method that finds you. After this, ignore most of this forum and do your thing.

@Fanis You will try psychadelics. But now is not your time. Wait. You will attain what you require with trust. A man who can trust life has infinite supplies of patience. Dont strive for patience but strive for the moment the majority of your being falls into trust.

You see it as something negative, and there is the blockage. Let it be and travel in your body. What are you fearing? Let it into yourself. You can try the 6th Tibetan rite. A breathing exercise taking about 2 minutes to do. You are unconsciously scared of who you will become if you let the energy into your being. You will be powerful and you are afraid of this for some reason. Powerful as in loving, not as in better than others.

@Actualizer777 Yes, this sensation of exerting effort but not gaining any speed....this is a sign to go inwards. The external world has its tricks. Youve tried them all on, and see they dont work. They arent even fun, they are stale. And you still feel in the same place. Go ever deeper. The crowd is going left. Should you go right? Are you missing something? Dont go right or left, just remain and settle into solitude. If you go left, you are swept eventually into a river of decay. Going right, your ego will feel as the righteous rebel. And that will be addictive. If you have the courage to settle into solitude, you will emerge as an Individual. Now I am against ambitions. I am against an ambitious nature. One ambition is an exception, and that is to know who you are. Loneliness is a calling for this. It is time. Emerge afterwards, you shall feel sane again. @Wyze Yes. You can trust your intuitions for what this loneliness is. You know it already. A person will avoid isolation if he is afraid he may discover something in him he doesnt like. Of course, that is the Devil talking. We only possess inner gold and the eyes to witness it.

@Anirban657 I would send the intent out to meet some masculine energy oriented women. When you meet one, they will help you See through these fears of yours. You will tune into their masculinity naturally, and be turned on by it. They in turn will be attracted to your feminine nature. Relax about needing to change. Meet a masculine women, and in process with her, she will move more into her femimine. You will move gently towards your masculine. You will both benefit massivly. A feminine man is truely rare. You will be in pursuit of by her. She will find you. Don't try look for her, she will hunt you. This is part of her task. Your role is to surrender into her prey. She will also get you to see past all these fears for what they are; dirty, disempowering cultural conditioning. Arise from this relationship/date/encounter, a balanced man. I believe this will be your path to adulthood and maturity. Enjoy. Will be inspiring to hear from you in 6 months. By this point, you will be on your Heros Journey.

@Alex14 Congratulations! You did perfect. Everything is perfect as it is. I am proud for you.

Yes.

@Fanis You cant wilfully do this. Only God can. You will be going about your routine, and one moment, something so unusual and peculiar will occur that will make you suspicious that something is just 'going on' but you dont know what. It may lead you to consider that life is even MORE mysterious that you first knew. That is God. If he appears, dont doubt him or rationalise him away. Example: movie Schindlers List. The little girl in the red dress. The little girl is God. Once you see God like this, your brain kind of gets shaken or reminded of the Beauty of Existence; many old idiotic beliefs will vanish instantly. You will leave feeling lighter. Until then, meditate, and wait. God will give you a good slap at the right time. A loving slap that will leave you laughing and weeping at how beautiful life is.

Alas, this will fall on deaf ears. For the majority, you are correct. You have authority.

Yes spot on! Thats precisely what I am communicating. You have interpreted me correctly. It is 100% the person I choose to spend time with; the activity is an excuse. Sorry to hear you dont believe 'this works.' If a friend of mine said that to me, I would probably be given a higher faith and conviction in the beauty of mankind. I would probably cry if I heard that; if the words were genuine (and from a friend why wouldnt they be?) i would be deeply touched. I dont believe in "dating" or adjusting myself to a set of temporary behaviours just because I am in a dating paradigm. There is only one thing I believe in and that is interactions between people, seeing the other person as a human deserving of trust. Should there be a fear arising in you about looking 'needy', and trepedation based on a distrust in what you feel is sincere, then these fears must be shattered at some stage. The games need to stop. The next 5-20 years there is going to be a massive dismantling of the false dating games men and women play. These games are cultural and based around power, or intense fear. The pickup community has been transparent on some power games men and women play when they are stuck in such thinking. You look needy? Who cares. Is it of a higher virtue to be insincere, for the compromise of trying to promote a cool image to a woman so she will like you? The further you go into avoiding being needy, the needier you are exposed at being. It is far more effective to speak truthfully in the moment (yes even over sending a text) than to calculate and shorten yourself based on the procedures of a dating code book, written by men with a severe lack of respect for the feminine and distrust of them. The games need to stop. Intimacy is too deprived. A harmonious blending of man and woman is needed; such fears like this will have to be cast astray like a pair of old shoes.

Neediness is not a set of words or behaviour. Neediness is a vibe. You are pressuring the other to like you back. Its very uncomfortable. As to where have I articulated to pressure the other into liking you back?

Yes it is. Structure/consistency. Not the same as persistence. Different item different meaning. Consistancy with time. 3 months mimimum usually. Hardest thing for people is starting small. Egos want to do too much too soon, because small efforts seem "pointless.' 15 minutes of meditation for 3 months is better than one week of a one hour meditations.

@Ampresus This is the "do nothing " method advocated by Brian Tracy. It is a gentler version or interpretation on how to meditate. This is what I have used for one year. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.briantracy.com/blog/personal-success/the-magic-of-solitude/amp/

@jerrypua I think its a good idea to ditch this wing man of yours. Your paths are different. And you know what, if people/guys/girls ever bring that question up of, "Where are your friends?" or, "so you are here all by yourself?" You can respond to them, yes I am, and why? Because all of my guy friends are using Tinder and Bumbler, and I don't believe in that stuff, and I am here to meet a REAL woman in REAL LIFE and this is my truth and I feel integrity in doing this and I feel silly being on the internet trying to meet a girlfriend. Boom. Notice how in doing this, in knowing this, your social anxiety in the club or bar dramatically goes down? You know WHY you are there. Don't go to the bar to "practise pickup." Go to the bar with the potential hope of meeting a real woman you connect with. As an aside, don't be shy about talking to other guys or groups of guys. You can make many genuine guy friends doing this particular path. Many guy friends I have met were people I was lining up at the bar with, and there were no girls around at the time so I just talked to the guys friendly. People that go to the bar are going for the SAME REASON as you. They want to connect. Sadly, the alcohol and the music cover this fact up, but deep down inside, this is why people are going. if you KNOW this, then you wont feel like you are 'robbing energy' from people when you speak to them, you will feel you are helping them and aiding them or creating connections with them. Don't label or think of yourself as a pickup guy. Label yourself as "I am the facilitator of human connections." You are just the permission slip for people to connect. You are the middle bridge. You GO FIRST and open, and the people will follow. Including girls. @jerrypua Wish to deeply say well done to you, for making the decision to commit to this particular path. It is going to be RARE for people to do what you are doing 5 years from now. And yes, you are right. Only a small number of men are willing to go down this road, and the treasures gained from it are astronomical. So keep trusting yourself, and let us/me know how you're doing

@Spiral Without over-thinking these things, sometimes this is just an 'excuse' to see what you prefer in life. If YOU really want to see it at 8pm, say so. If YOU don't mind, tell her you don't mind. But don't make the mistake of trying to do XYZ to get her to like you, or to show her you are a guy with boundaries, or put on a façade of being a decisive person or whatever. Childish. This is the behaviour of a slimy used-car salesman or Catholic priest that secretly desires an aggressive rape. Do not do something or act a certain way because you calculate a response from the other that is favourable. Act from your centre, throw out all these theories, and you will be right enough. The way to be honest is to, well, practise being honest. If it were me, I would text her back, "I don't mind what time. Actually I am not bothered about the movie, I just want an excuse to see you, so whatever we do or whatever time tomorrow doesn't bother me." I am not even in this situation, and me writing that feels honest. Do not, please, DO NOT play the pickup game or trying-to-get-her-to-like-you-and-respect-you game. This is manipulation. This is not relationship building, and it is not honesty. The moment YOU begin acting in an impure way, that will begin to trickle into your 'container' or relationship, and don't be surprised if she begins to act in impure ways. Impure by this I mean something not fully in alignment with yourself.

Talking properly is not a thinking gambit. Dont use your mind to talk. Dont be analytical. Let the words 'come out' and dont be aware of what you say too much. Be unstifled and unblocked and let it pour out. Drop self consciousness. And if no words come out, cool. Say nothing. Communication is never about words. It is about feelings and intent. Also, drop this idea of "I need to say the right thing."

@Manjushri There is already so much information out there about discipline or leading a virtuous life. Some of Leos older videos can help, or otherwise you can read some Tony Robbins or Jordan Petersons book 12 rules for life. Anything will do. I actually get the sense you want direction and want to be able to trust yourself to feel the direction out. If you are feeling really eager to "build a life" but dont know where to start, then there is only one book to read. You only need read first 100 pages or so to get the jist of it. This book took over a decade to write, and it was banned in several countries due to its ground breaking ideas. It is a dangerous book....It will change your life and test out or strengthen your relationship with God/chance. **THE DICEMAN**

@Wisebaxter Yes I definitly have my agenda to get my own ideas confirmed. Absolutly im biased. The documentary i helped was actually on Social media. Core idea is social media is dangerous. Online dating I find it messes with the courtship process somehow. It cheapens the magic of meeting someone. It also reduces people to objects very quick (at least this is a mindset that is easy to go into). Yes im glad its helped people meet. Nothing bad with that, good for them and all their fortune. For a single guy or girl, i would beckon them to avoid online dating at costs for their mental health. Sorry i cant give reasons. Its just an intuitive and experienced based opinion of mine. I find it unnatural and an opiate or poison with a slow drip effect. Imagine a person who has been on a variety of platforms, swiped/messaged 1000s of people, been ignored or ghosted 100s of times, paid money for premium memberships, been on dates that were not fun, or been on a good date but never heard back from their other because dating online has this dynamic sometimes. Online scammers robots, fake identities, underage people....If a person has been 3 years of doing this, try and convince them their self esteem doesnt get crippled somehow. 3 years, no online dating, big deal. Its just 3 years single. Time and money and effort involved is better spent going to bars, meetup groups, social events for a solid 6 months. Plus its so much more fun. There is a richness of life to enjoy doing this. Online dating, where is the magic? Where is the richness? Where is the chemistry? People are reduced to calculating the other. Dont be put off by online dating because of me. This is my opinion. I have watched friends get very blue due to online dating. they get resentful at women.