Waken

Just saw this message of Matt Kahn on Facebook, reminded me of this topic so thought I would share: Your inner child knows the difference between you offering authentic loving support and applying modalities as a way of fast-tracking your healing journey. Each time healing comes more from agenda than empathy, it infuriates your inner child. It often thinks, “You think you are having a hard time? I’m the very struggle you feel while housed in a body whose consciousness wants nothing to do with me. You think you are alone? You are merely empathing my aloneness within you.” 

Once the healing journey is less about manipulating the circumstances of life and more rooted in building authentic relationships with all parts of self; the more peace you make with your innocence, the more the inner child forgives the self-abandonment it has felt within you, the easier it is to the heal the wounds causing patterns of self-abandonment, and further your own evolution from a space of heart-centered authenticity. In the digital age, you cannot approach your healing journey like a computer with secret short cuts to learn. Each step of this journey must be done with honesty, humility, and earnestness. If not, you will remain at the exact step you are on, unable to proceed until a more authentic version of self arrives to advance your journey forward. This is why everyone deserves more love, not less. All For Love,

Things I've done that I think are worthy of mention: - Something I've really liked, although not doing it now, is Judy Satori's light language audio's/audio programs: https://www.ascensionlibrary.org/ - I also really enjoyed using some invocations from the Sacred School of Omna, example: https://omna.org/message-goddess-diana/ - 5 elements and other mantra processes from Sri Kaleshwar I've done quite a bit too https://learn.divinelineage.org/p/fivelementsmeditation - The work of Byron Katie - Contemplation - "Being with yourself", is something I sometimes do with closed eyes. Especially when emotions rise, just giving yourself your own presence - Breathwork such as holographic breathwork & holotrophic breathwork - Meditation & yoga can of course be good - Psychedelics - More stuff What I already shared is to find better feeling thoughts, the way Abraham Hicks suggests this I like, but of course there are other ways.

I'm happy I discovered Abraham Hicks' method, where you can just use your thought. The book 'astonishin power of emotions' by Abraham, written by Esther Hicks gives a lot of examples of how to use this method. Of course, there are many many more approaches, and I've tried quite a bunch myself

Here another definition of success Success= being yourself/being aligned with yourself

Ha interesting, thanks

In situations where insecurity or such comes up, I may think thoughts such as 'other peoples opinion doesn't really matter' (which I know is true and not make belief), or I wonder 'what would it be like to not care at all what anyone thinks?'

I once heard that if you force yourself to stop an addiction, the addiction just changes shape. The solution offered there was to understand the cause of the addiction IIRC.

Maybe not too much thinking and worrying and a little more relaxing and letting go?

Hmm, not sure how you mean that. But if imagining that feels good for you to do, then that seems good to me. For example, imagine you're angry and you have this intention of healing yourself and you heard that you should do self-love and say things like 'I love you so much' to yourself to heal when you feel bad. So you feel anger and go and say, or perhaps rather force, saying 'I love you so much' to yourself and maybe that just increases the anger even gives a strong feeling of intrusion or having your boundaries not respected. I say that because I know when I feel anger I often don't want someone coming up to me, trying to hold me, trying to talk to me or trying to get me to talk to them or such, that can create a big fury in me. I often want to be just left alone. Thus, I wouldn't give myself 'I love you so much' words there, or trying to overflow myself with a love feeling there, because that might not feel very loving but very intrusive. I did this for a while, trying to "self-love" while I actually might have wanted to have a moment of solitude. Giving myself solitude may thus be much more self-love than anything else. Sometimes you might feel sad, and perhaps you would just like some reassurance. You can feel that, what you want/long. So perhaps when you feel sad, have a feeling of wanting something reassuring or selflove like and so you can give yourself some reassuring words 'I don't have to know how to fix this now', 'I know that it's more important how I treat myself, then how others treat me', or And maybe you feel like having a bath, or something. For me, I often found that certain words like 'I don't know how to fix this' -which feels like a surrendering-, match well with a certain energy/feeling/longing I feel when and helps me release. In general, it might be good, and it can feel like self-love, to first acknowledge how you feel abou it, or just say something you feel is true about it. Sometimes you might release a bit and then it feels like you've done enough even if there is potentially more to release. Years before I may have tried to push it and continue anyway lol, now I tend to stop for that moment when there is a feeling of it being enough. Uhh, lol, have you been using the child example for all emotions that came? Well like I said in the example above, if I would do that when I felt anger, that might have felt REALLY rude to the 'angry self' in me. But I do use the 'I don't know how to fix this'-line for multiple situations. But I dig the idea of surrender so that line may just be in alignment with me a good bit in general. I meant that if you feel for example a bit worried and long for a sense of calm, you can just do or say something with a reassuring feel, even if you may even use words such as 'water' or 'waves' lol. I hope it helps somewhat and doesn't make it appear more complicated than it is. I don't think I've mastered this whole process quite yet, but am learning more and more and like to think I listen better and better. Perhaps it's good to ditch whatever we think how it all works in the moment, and just do what feels best to do right now. Sometimes though, if you have a strong negative thought pattern/momentum, you may just need to ride it out a bit at that moment without being able to really calm yourself in a way you would like. And an expectation that you can heal something in one swoop, might be unrealistic.

This one makes a lot of sense to me. Some interesting lines in there thank you for the share

Maybe everyone is always avoiding that, trying to distract themselves from the emptiness of life, trying to not feel that by constantly being busy with stuff, creating a future idea of something to achieve, etc. How about not avoiding it?

I would suggest to not try harder, but try less hard. Be gentle and easy with yourself, then perhaps you allow life to do the same to you

Alignment is the name of the game if you ask me. You don't want to follow a path, you want to sink back or realign with you. Because you are a unique energy frequency, anothers path is not keyed for you. If you just let go of trying to make things happen, trying to do what you think you should do, etc. and just start doing/choosing what feels best to you in every moment, you start aligning with what you are.

@Nivsch Yes yes yes!:D Love it, and that's exactly it. What you said is an example of what Abraham Hicks suggests 'find thoughts that feel good, that give you relief'. When I get some worries some thoughts that often work good for me are 'I don't have to think of anything right now', 'I don't have to figure anything out now', 'I don't have to fix anything now' etc. I might repeat such thoughts a bit because they also hold a sort of energetic space. You can FEEL what the right feeling of the thoughts is that you need when you listen to your feelings, that's how it seems to me anyway. I also had all these thoughts that I needed to love myself more or something, and then you have an image of how you should treat yourself, while actually if you feel, you may notice that that is actually not how you want to be treated (also not by yourself) at that moment. It's just a matter of tuning in and seeing what you actually feel like that would feel good, which seems to me is more about the feeling of the thought than it's really about the content of the thought. That's SO much easier! It makes life so much better, because I know that I can say or think the things that I feel I need, and that seems to be ALL that's necessary. Easy, sneasy, peasy. I've had moments with lots of worries and anxiety too not to long ago too, and know it's very nice to have to relief from that lol Yes I agree, it's significant, very much so for me anyway. Love to read what you wrote and that you have a way to work with the anxiety when it's there.

If it's exciting for you to try, or attracts you to do then why not? If however you feel that it's not ethical or whatever to do, then perhaps don't.

Found it interesting, thank you

Well, I think the most obvious answer is to let go of the concern of how others see you. If you don't feel like socializing more, than to me the answer sounds like don't socialize more. You don't want to be 'normal', you want to be you

Well, you might like to consider giving up the search or hope to find something, someone, anything that you can rely on. That is a big thing I would say pretty much all people are trying to find in some way. Trying to control life.. How about letting it all go instead

I would say you have or are a unique signature vibration, and that therefore you resonate with certain things and not others. Added to that comes the body and mind with its own tendencies and all that. That's my current thought on it, could not be fully accurate.

Ahh, isn't this 40 second message of Bashar so sweet to hear? https://fb.watch/7jm58l1xQ_/ "If you follow the flow, your needs will always manifest if they are relevant for who you truly are. There is nothing you need to do beyond that, the current of creation, your current, already knows where you need to go. You don't need to make things happen" Now.. maybe you can allow yourself to relax more, and be gentler with yourself? Wishing you well

@ted73104 Thank you. I can relate to what you say. In the books Conversations with God, something was mentioned such as 'the fastest way to help yourself it to help another', which I've found quite true. It's like when you're afraid of something, and you notice someone else being afraid of that, if you can help him, you're helped yourself with that topic. What you give you become or something. Yes, being to stubborn to let go of trying to fix it all, I think many of us can relate, I know I can. Good to read that you're feeling much better now:)

@Blacksmith He sure knows how to roll out some wise sounding sayings

How I see it: Thoughts create emotions, but your very life energies can feel good too, that's not emotions. If you don't think negative thoughts, your experience will feel more pleasant, that has I would say more to do with your life energy/awareness. You don't need to think positive per se, in order to feel good, you just have to release negative thinking thoughts and you're good. If you feel okay or good, and go thinking good feeling thoughts then your energies raise a bit more, so if you like that you could do that. However, if you feel bad about something it may be easier for you to not think about it at all, than to try to think positive about it. That's why things like meditation can be great. My current understanding: If you feel bad that is because you're not aligned with what you are. Maybe you're doing activities that don't actually feel good to you, or you're thinking thoughts that feel bad/aren't aligned with your nature. Although frankly if it is the first case, you're actually doing activities because you have thoughts that aren't aligned with you, otherwise you'd do what feels good. If you meditate or whatever, you release resistance (resistant thinking) in the moment, and you'll thus feel better. But you didn't necessarily change your thoughts yet about the subject that made you feel bad, hence when by the living of your life you'll be seeing the subject where you have bad thinking about, you'll feel bad again. Therefore, you can again choose to meditate and release the resistance, OR you can take some effort and find thoughts that make you feel better about the subject. In the later case, when by the living of your life the same subject is brought under your attention again, you don't have negative/resistant thinking about it and thus won't feel bad/brought down anymore. Approaches such as being kind and gentle to yourself, may sound different, but are actually pretty much the same method (didn't think this through though lol), because then what you're doing is going through life and being in the state of mind where you think good feeling thoughts to yourself, which replace the negative/resistant thoughts, and do activities that feel good to you. What you say, changing your thoughts and working on your shadows I think might either be exact the same thing, or pretty much the same thing. I think a good approach to life is, doing what feels good to you (then you're aligning with what you are), and if resistant (unaligned) thinking comes up, working to release that resistance/finding relief. I would say a little better than the idea of thinking positive thoughts, is the idea of thinking thoughts that make you feel good/relief. Because for example good luck thinking positive when you feel like shit, and for example I like my calm and so calming thoughts may be more aligned with me than what people might typically associate with positive thoughts. Just some of my present thoughts on the situation, hope it helps a bit

@Nivsch Well something like that yes. I heard Matt Kahn say something of such nature about it, that your inner child knows it when you're trying to love it in order to get rid of the fear. He suggested practicing self-love just for the sake of loving yourself or such. Anyway, these days I don't try to wrestle with the fear anymore, or trying to accept it, or just feeling the emotion or whatever. Tried that for a long time because I thought that was how it needed to be done, but frankly I can't say that really seemed to help much lol. In some cases, maybe that helped but in others it seemed that the emotion just came back. That was a frustrating time. I think that might be because it comes down (mostly) towards the way you think about a subject, and then if you don't change your thoughts about something, the emotion might come back. I've heard more things like that. Sometimes when I feel something I now acknowledge how I feel about the subject, and then just find thoughts that feel better or such. Many teachers say that you have to face your fears, but I don't believe that anymore. Sometimes if you "go to the fear", you just make a bigger mess lol. If the issue doesn't come up much in your life, maybe better to just focus on what feels good, if you do get reminded on regularly in the living on your life, maybe better to work on associating better feeling thoughts with the subject. That's just my present thoughts on the subject.

I heard something channeled about it once, this was sort of the point: 'Depression is a natural reaction when one realizes that the answers can not be found outside. But when it is labeled as depression, it might be experienced more negatively than it would have to be without that definition'. Something that comes up for me to do, if you feel like getting out of that state of mind: State, or affirm, what it is that you don't want/like/prefer regarding whatever your emotion is about, and then write down the opposite of that. Even it the opposite doesn't feel good right now (you can't believe it), that's fine. For example, negative: "Life feels dull and I don't enjoy it anymore", positive: "This life experience is amazing, and full of wonderful opportunities to expand myself", or maybe a little gentler if that seems to big of an aim. Now just write down, next to that written statements things that are related to that that make you feel good or a bit better about the situation that feel true for you. For example, 'I like the weather today", "I've learned a lot the last years", etc. Write a bunch like 12 statements and then look back at your positive statement and feel the difference at how you now relate to that thought. Just a thought, wishing you well buddy