Emotionalmosquito

@Danioover9000 8 more hours to go. Although I have practically passed the challenge, I don’t feel as accomplished as I should; and I blame it on the fact that I cheated by gooning half the time. I would like to be able to put in a full year without a single wank as a New Years resolution but unless I make some serious improvements in December there isn’t even a chance. But before that, one things for sure, I’m having a helluva party once the clock strikes midnight tonight.

It happened a lot more in the past. Now days it only happens when someone who doesn’t know what they’re getting themselves into advances too much too quickly. Here’s a download free pdf that does an excellent job outlining the fine distinctions between psychosis and intense spirituality. Lengthy but it’s worth a read. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/6246808_Psychosis_and_Spirituality_Consolidating_the_New_Paradigm_Second_Edition Also here’s Connor making a good point on the matter.

As far as online communities go, I would say yeah

This is called erythrophobia and I know firsthand how horrendously god awful it is to be cursed with. I used to have it pretty bad in high school. Can’t even remember how exactly I cured it but only now that it’s gone do I find out that girls find it super cute when guys blush. Of course.

But then instead of boyfriend and girlfriend we would have to start saying manfriend and womanfriend

@hyruga The opinions seem to be about 50/50 so far. I’m gonna pass this time around, especially since Because while my city isn’t exactly small, it’s certainly not big either. Barley enough to get my feet in the water.

Fixed it for you.

Gosh, what a fabulous idea! Why didn’t I think of that? Sex is the highest form of acceptance and the primary driving force of all physical life. You can’t mature or grow properly without it. There will always be that unfulfilled craving festering in the depths of your psyche. And everyone will call you creepy for it as though it’s your fault. So it’s a pretty massive issue to not get laid to say the least.

@something_else @Bando Good point. Do they not also tell you what you’re doing wrong and right in real time so you can adjust accordingly? If not, I agree, that would be a rip off. Is that essentially all it’s good for though? I already know how off the hook wild it can get by the stories I’ve heard and the old footage that used to be on his yt channel. Is there some kind of special information only found in HotSeat that will help me out better than anything else?

I just came really close to failing last night. I held myself on the edge too long and felt it coming with the force of a fire hydrant. Luckily my pc muscle was strong enough to reverse the process by shutting off the valve. Did you coom by accident or did you commit to giving in beforehand knowing you would? Because accidents can often be avoided. Go to your local vitamin shop and get yourself some good zinc and tonkat ali to replenish your gas tanks faster to get you back where you were. Also do what @Carl-Richard said.

@something_else the thing is these programs are so crazy expensive Leo’s LP course and his book list together still cost less than the cheapest thing on Owen’s sight at half price.? So I don’t think they would be losing that much money from this especially since they’re only doing it this weekend, supposedly. And rsd is know to be the best pickup company.

Why do people keep saying you have to be well groomed? Owen has a beard and a balding hairstyle that looks like shit yet he still pulls tons of chicks.

TLDR at the bottom I got invited over to watch some films from her vhs collection and play vidya via a phone call she made to reschedule a bonfire. This wouldn’t be the first time I’ve been over there but it would be my first time over to chill at this level, at least in a long time. We’ve also been planning a day where we get coffee then go to the park so I can teach her a one on one self defense lesson (I have no combat training, just doing it for fun) then wrap things up with movies at her place. But this last invitation I received placed all the emphasis solely on the last part. Almost as if we hadn’t been planning the other things. Some details: She was my brother’s friend’s girlfriend many years back and I used to buy weed from her and we started smoking together which was detrimental to me because she was able to smoke heavily while I struggled to form coherent sentences after a couple hits. Weed always exacerbates my autism twenty fold so I’m effectively crippled socially when I indulge. We’ve talked about sex before and she wasn’t totally turned off by the idea but she kept saying it’s not something you can logically plan. (If that’s true then how do married couples schedule it into their busy lives?) I once texted her and said “I only need one thing from you and it starts with an S and ends with an X. After she responded, I said “Subscribe to Felix.” You know, from the subscribe to pewdiepie meme era. After that punch line I don’t remember exactly but she said something like, “I thought you were about to be brave.” Then I said back “I was just kidding I know you would deny me because we’re just friends.” She responded, “I’m not sure I would deny you, I’ve always really liked you.” So that happened. We have bonded over activities such as nature walks, bonfires, movie nights, that sorta stuff. And we have tripped together. Another cool thing is she knows the people who run the bar I was unjustly banned from (look through my post history if you care enough to know more on that) so she said she would try and pull some strings for me. If this date ends up happening, I need to know how to not sperg out and screw everything up. Do’s and don’ts from wise and experienced players are greatly appreciated. In short, I’ve been invited over for a chill night with a long time gal pal and I really need to make sure I don’t spill my spaghetti when it happens. I need to know how to escalate and what to do if my advances are not well received. Thx

With a strong pc muscle, I’m sure that won’t be an issue. Love it. But before any of that is possible I first need to confirm it’s on. btw, congratulations on being post number 77,777 on this sub forum. Nice get. Meme magic is on my side. @museumoftrees That sounds easy enough in theory but in practice not so much. My main worry is not knowing how to recover if my advances aren’t taken well And in order to just do it, you first need to figure out when you’ll both be home, if the the kids are gone or in bed, if your moods are synchronized etc. And that’s the way I tried to book a session with her. It failed because she said it has to happen spontaneously, among other reasons. The foundations have to be laid out before anything can happen successfully. Much in the same way you need set and setting to be in place before a trip.

So it would seem. However it’s very likely if I try anything she’ll be like “We don’t vibe that way” or gently push me away. If that happens there will be a very awkward elephant in the room for the rest of the time because anything else we talk about will be an obvious attempt at distracting ourselves from what just happened. And I may not be invited back. Actually she has never outright told me she would. She’s only open to the possibility of it. This is the kind of girl who would tell me no as a shit test. Very hard to read, as most girls are.

Better than knocking yourself out with benzos every night. Try a turmeric, L-theanine, melatonin or 5htp+ b6 and magnesium. You can go to the health fitness nutrition board to help find a system that works for u. Uhhhhhh yes daddy! I’ve been a naughty boy.

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I would say only go out Friday and Saturday or whatever two days in a row work for you. And get good at falling asleep fast. It’s tricky I know. But there are techniques you can find and supplements you can take to help

You really think it would hurt her feelings that much if some rando called her mean names? I thought hot thots had massive egos based on their beauty and could easily laugh off such insults by knowing how wrong they are.

Yes they do. Seems like every time I start warming up to my fellow humans and coming out of my shell, just when I’m about to think it’s safe, boom! The iron fist of bullshit strikes again. Not sure if it’s like this everywhere but where I’m from it’s almost more acceptable to get into literal drunken brawls than to have a “weird” vibe that people can’t understand or relate to.

Right on the bullseye, buddy. Clubs will not hesitate to kick your ass out if enough complaints come in. And if you don’t know how to play the social game at a decently high level, eventually they will. This of course leaves very little room for authentic self expression because anything you think might be a good or funny idea to make yourself stand out in a positive way is a massive gamble. I like your shark smelling blood analogy, it’s perfect. These people have zero tolerance for social outcasts like us. Half the time they won’t even tell you you’re fucking up, they’ll just wait for you to leave then complain to management behind your back. As far as getting bullied or threatened while you’re out, I too have this fear. Get yourself a small can of mace if it’s legal in your area. That should help you feel more secure, especially if you know how to draw it quickly and use it. But for now, you should probably just stick to what Leo said and practice on mall clerks.

@Enlightenment Lol! Cassady Campbell is one of my biggest inspirations.

A gothic hippie who doesn’t take herself too seriously and has the perfect mix of sweet and gentle and don’t fuck with me.

@Bando I can see how a bartender or club promoter could get away with it. But what about retail shit? How could one go about chatting up stacies in a flirty man to woman way without it being creepy and or grounds for termination?