Emotionalmosquito

Also that guy “1st person approacher” wasn’t the least bit threatening. All he did was approach like anyone else, only difference was he was on a bike. He was also very polite, respectful of boundaries and left as soon as they rejected him.

How do you find escorts? I want one but I’m worried about it being a sting op. And I just don’t know how to find one at all

What? It blows my mind that people have to be so stuck up and bitchy about such basic life functions, it gives me the ick. It would be different if I was saying stuff like “Heyy girl lemme guzzle down that red goo through a beer bong”, but I’m not. I don’t see how simply talking about periods normally or about how science has now discovered menstrual fluid to be the next leap forward in modern medicine is on the same level of repulsive as saying how much you like to finger your asshole. Well shit dude, if it was that easy pua wouldn’t even be a thing. Kids are the easiest in the world to vibe with, you barely even have to think and they actually laugh at your humor. Girls on the other hand, they might as well be an extraterrestrial life form. Yes they absolutely do. And NEVER ask if she’s on hers when she’s clearly frustrated about something unless you’re prepared for a fight. LOL It matters because they spread around their negative perception of you like a plague which then hurts your chances with other girls How is whispering in someone’s ear or making a dirty uncalibrated joke on the same level as something someone planning to do something seriously harmful would do? It’s not that at all. My problems are so serious and painful I’m on the verge of signing out for good. It’s not about an unwillingness to spend money. It’s an inability to get money at all or fast enough. I have no skills, live with parents who’re running out of energy, I’m 27, have tons of addictions each one far too strong to break, so full of bitterness and resentment it oozes out everywhere I go. Literally how the hell do i even begin to make any progress from here? Forget about making enough money to travel and do programs/workshops and such. Should I get a minimum wage cuck job with a dick head boss and rotten pieces of human fucking garbage coworkers that shit on me for not knowing how to do the job perfectly and making lots of mistakes because I’m a slow learner? And do this on top of my mountain of addictions and already zero patience for human bullshit? Can’t we just admit that the astronomical demands of life are simply far too challenging for some people to ever hope to conquer? Some people just aren’t cut out to handle this much strain. Its also not a self respect problem, I have plenty of it. In fact that might just be exactly the problem. Only a self hating masochist could put themselves through the hell of grinding their way out of a position like mine. Doing self actualizing work is the emotional equivalent of stabbing a long serrated knife up my cock and twisting it while everyone watches and tells me to just lighten up and be myself.

Always gotta be the men’s fault, right?You can do all the “stepping up” in the world but if the women are neglectful, the women are neglectful. Men are the ones being subjected to brutal rejections and countless humiliations from hundreds and hundreds of approaches before they finally start getting better results with women. That’s stepping up if you ask me. You can’t blame them for getting bitter and resentful and checking out of the game because of all the bs. Would women be willing to endure that much hell if the roles were reversed? They get emotionally wrecked when they get turned down by the guy they liked, not realizing that rejection is ninety nine percent of the game for us unless we have exceptional LMS or charm. Can we at least compromise by saying the problem is some combination of both genders being at fault?

Exactly, it shouldn’t matter if I talk about that if I’m socially calibrated but that’s just it. I need to learn how to calibrate but it’s hard. There lies the problem. I do need massive experience and over a thousand approaches to learn how to get girls but there literally isn’t enough people to practice on. It would help tremendously if I could just do reruns on the same girls but they will not take kindly to that, neither will their boyfriends, dads, brothers, other women, the cops and so forth. Once rejected you must look elsewhere, which sucks because I’m so bad at this I WILL run out of targets long before ever improving sufficiently, then what? This is a serious problem that I still have no solution to. I’m sure it all balances out ultimately but the gender dynamics of modern times would suggest women have lots of unfair societal advantages against men, but that’s its own thread. This is very hard to accept. All I see is evidence of the contrary. If that’s true, why would they shit talk you with their friends behind your back AFTER you’ve left and the interaction is over? Why point you out to the bouncer to get you kicked out for making harmless little mistakes if they aren’t worried about your goof ups? Something else made a thread about this happening to him. Heck, sometimes they’ll even film you so they can have creep shaming circle jerks and laugh maliciously with thousands of other women and simps on social media. Does any of that sound like they aren’t concerned about your cringy episodes? It’s like they deliberately go out of their way to ruin you and rip your spirit to pieces on as many levels as possible for the crime of not having flawless social skills. These are exactly the women who would have had you beheaded or tortured in a dungeon if they were queens in the medieval era. I know they aren’t all that evil, but like they say, one bad apple spoils the bunch. They tend to be easily influenced by bad opinions of you. Sometimes yes, it’s only my mind making a chicken out of a feather, but often it’s the opposite. My mind trying to cope by reducing the chicken down to a feather. Like “surely people can’t be THIS profoundly shitty! Surely I’m just imagining things” Next thing you know, authority figure taps on your shoulder and says “we’re gonna have to ask you to leave.” They’re literally more turned on by getting abused than being with a guy who’s willing to take abuse. They literally embody the very trait they’re repulsed by. You can’t make this up. I’ll put it like this: To be yourself, you at least need to feel free to talk about your passions, right? If your passions happen to be things that others are appalled by, that makes being yourself counterproductive in this regard. I don’t want to sound stubborn or like every time you guys give me some suggestions or food for thought that I’m just trying to rebuke it to stay stuck in my hole. Truth is y’all are giving me massively helpful info, I just need to somehow find the energy to apply it. My replies might sound nit picky or argumentative but that’s only because those are the things I have issue with the most. Everything else I’m hearing is brilliant.

@Twentyfirst according to this https://www.insider.com/japanese-men-20s-never-gone-on-date-4-in-10-2022-6 Japan is almost the same as the US

I thought we weren’t supposed to post the content of our trip in this thread, we have to post a link to a different thread? I don’t know how this works

I feel strongly that it will indeed help at least somewhat. I’ll just have to be super careful about not accidentally saying wrong things or behaving in wrong ways because that will greatly increase the likelihood of getting kicked out of places which will be a devastating blow to my hope of improving. You can’t really get any better if you aren’t allowed in many places and the people don’t like you because you’re a bit different. The threat of this also makes it incredibly nerve racking to approach because you have very little room for error, and it gets even worse the more places you get banned from because the more bridges you burn, the more lightly you have to tread in the places you have left. Which then makes it even harder because nobody likes interacting with someone who’s on edge. It’s a vicious cycle with seemingly no guaranteed solution. It’s so aggravating that women have absolutely no understanding of this struggle men face nor do they give a single fuck. They’re too obsessed with themselves and whether or not they’re getting “the ick” to consider the suffering of the less fortunate gender. Nevertheless I shall get back on the horse and ride into battle against all odds. This brutality of this war has almost completely destroyed me despite not even completing 5% of it. It will take nothing short of a mega miracle to succeed. I will rewatch the how to get laid series, I’ve seen it in the past but I’m overdue for a revisit. I’m not even looking for a relationship. I just wanna be that guy who has to keep all his girls from finding out about each other like on the movie John Tucker Must Die or The Other Girls. That would be so exciting! Understatement of the century LOL! It’s funny how girls will be like “Why are guys so scared, just come up and talk to us. We won’t bite, tehehe” Having no idea what we’re actually going through. This meme says it perfectly

@Schizophonia because that’s when I’m doing all the proven methods to increase testosterone lvls

It wouldn’t be right to not include this groundbreaking scientific period related discovery again. I’ve posted it before but it’s even more relevant now. They can shame me for it, rejected it, get the ick from it and ignore it when it’s just me talking about my fascination, but good luck with that when it turns out to be the future of modern medicine and possibly the most important discovery of our time! That beet red vajayjay juice happens to contain the highest quality, most adaptable and fastest replicating stem cells ever discovered.

Good luck not being thirsty when you’re a high libido man and totally deprived of female physical contact for years upon years upon years, really destroys a guy inside. There’s no hiding the thirst because the moment you open a qt she already knows what you want. Needy and desperate on the other hand, those are concealable. I sure haven’t. I’ve found that girls will usually be as unhelpful as humanly possible in pickup If anything I’ve made more progress with the polite robot than anything else. In no way do I relate to your typical stacies and beckies; they are alien to me, and malevolent ones at that. What do I have to relate to them about? Nobody cares if you both like kombucha or you’re both wearing jeans. We are as different as night and day on everything from music to philosophy to what makes us angry to social media usage to sexual experience and most of all humor, effectively everything that matters. I know there are different types of girls out there but I mean it when I say there isn’t enough. Not enough to find one that isn’t already taken or claims to be taken anyway. So there goes the hope of being relatable unless I either become a chameleon or fundamentally change who I am. Or am I missing something? But wouldn’t that also run the risk of tempting you to emulate their behavior, there goes your authenticity if that happens? Here’s the problem with that, and this is a very important thing I’m about to say: I can watch the interaction like an NSA agent. But it won’t help one bit if the feedback I get doesn’t accurately reflect what they’re really feeling. I’m not going to learn jack shit if all they do is give me that blank faced fluoride stare the whole time and give me one worded responses. Girls also for some reason like to deliberately disguise their true feelings as something else. They’ll pretend to be interested in the conversation only to later complain to their friends/bfs/authority figures about that super weird dude (me) that thought he was good enough to talk to them for some reason and how deeply uncomfortable they were the whole time. I wish I was making this up. It’s virtually impossible to calibrate if I’m going to be misled and back stabbed like that.

I’ve got some

For me it’s different. When my t spikes I get so horny I have to do a handstand just to take a piss in the morning and balls feel like watermelons. But my mood/motivation/energy/confidence remains unaffected Not really true if you have a very strong fetish. In this case just the fantasy alone gives massive amounts of pleasure that if performed would be light years better than basic intercourse. The beauty of my thing is it doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with sex, yet if a baddie were to do me the honors just once I’d be stuck in a bliss coma for months. Others who have my thing say they’ve had girlfriends that were great partners in other areas but since they weren’t willing to indulge the kink they had to look for someone else. That should tell you something.

My cousin spends over a year at a time in SEA (Southeast Asia) Vietnam particularly. He comes home for about half a year, saves up, rinse and repeat. He says the girls are incredibly easy and a lot more tolerable there. I’d’ve joined him a long time ago if I wasn’t such an incurable hermit. Things are also more affordable there and lots of fun to be had

Wow, fantastic replies so far guys. Huge thanks! The dots are connecting, slowly but surely

Definitely not a troll post but I can see how it would look like it. If I understand social calibration correctly it’s basically the practice of only talking about what’s relevant to the person you’re talking to and the context of the scenario you’re in? Like don’t go off on a rant about some random thing out of nowhere? I don’t wanna be like other people, I just wanna sleep with their women. I agree it seems like a huge waste of time the whole thing, but unfortunately our bodies are screaming at us to get laid every second of every day, so we go through mountains of hard ass work just to hopefully MAYBE increase our chance of being successful. Surely you didn’t mean ME wasting YOUR time? Because that’d be easy just stop replying. Don’t get me wrong I really do appreciate all the help I can get! That makes sense. It’s just if the PUAs are saying being totally filterless makes you seem more attractive you have to expect some weird things to get said, no? And isn’t wit mostly attached to your intelligence? Cuz that’s not something you can easily upgrade if so.

Even if I don’t have enough people to practice on? No idea how that’s supposed to work

I mean who really goes out of their way to explain why they’re talking about what they’re talking about with each new thing they talk about, that would get tiresome. From what I’ve noticed people just let conversational topics flow out naturally as they come to mind without needing to specify a reason for everything brought up. Wouldn’t that disrupt the natural flow? But if that be the case, what’s wrong with just telling them you’re talking about it because you find it intriguing? Or u could just be like “mind if I start talking about something random lol” @itsadistraction That makes sense. Though I find it to be absolute horse shit how people have to be so non chill about everything for no reason. I wouldn’t be the least bit put off by a random chick approaching me to start talking about how my equipment works. In fact I’d find the violation of social conformity refreshing as long as she didn’t start getting all handsy and belligerent, which I would never do. So where’s the “treat others the way you want to be treated” golden rule? In short, I’m just glad you said it like is instead of more of this be yourself bs.

@something_else Jesus Fucking Christ man how about a trigger warning before making me read a post like that, I almost smashed my phone on the ground. They kicked you out because you whispered something in a girl’s ear. If a guy complained to a bouncer about a girl doing that (or really anything for that matter) he’d laugh in their face and say get lost. Women bothering men is treated like a joke not just in clubs but just about everywhere else in life as well. But the gynocentrism is better exemplified in night clubs than pretty much anywhere else. Check out this segment from an article I read and tell me if u think it’s real. Knowing how our egregiously sexist society is I’d say it’s one hundred percent true. “Literally the last time I went to a club I saw a normal, perfectly reasonable looking average guy, get bumped from behind at the bar and he 100% accidentally spilled some of his beer on a young lady’s suede high heeled shoes. Her mouth dropped open and her eyes were suddenly furious with rage. He was mid sentence, I couldn’t hear what he said, but I am guessing it was something like, “I’m so sorry let me buy you a-“ But he couldn’t finish his sentence as her bony knee shot like lightning straight up into his nuts. As her other high heel acted as the fulcrum for her weight and she leaned back a bit and her arms went flailing out to keep her balance. She got some really great momentum into the move, all of her violent force going bye-bye straight into his drink-spilling crotch. I’ve seen some knees, and this was top-notch. He fell instantly to the ground and, ironically, dropped the entire rest of his pint all over her other shoe. In my opinion, serves her right. It was an accident! She stormed off in a huff and complained to the staff as he laid there dry heaving, probably wondering what his new life of ball-lessness was going to be like. The bouncer showed up and Mr. Average was removed from the club while everyone stared and laughed, it was pretty hilarious.” Anyhow, Leo was your first replier to that thread and he said even he’s been kicked out of clubs, this was surprising to me because when I posted complaining about my experience he said something along the lines of “you have to act like the biggest jackass in the world to get kicked out of a bar.” I know it’s not a club but the social dynamics are still quite similar. So was he acting like a massive jackass to get told to leave? In my experience that’s not true at all. And reading your thread confirms it. The next reply is a girl (Preety) chiming in to let us know she finds it “hot” that he’s been given the boot a time or two. So you get kicked out for an incomprehensibly retarded reason despite people saying you have to act like a total lunatic for that to happen, Leo tells you to toughen up about it and that it’s even happened to him before, then a girl comes along to tell us she finds it hot when you would think girls should find it a turnoff considering girls getting the ick is the entire problem here. This world is literally not fucking real. Yes, calibrate as in you better walk on eggshells around the all mighty woman because you’re constantly on very thin ice and one small slip up away from being figuratively burned at the stake. Awesome to know. That makes me feel just terrific about my possibility of ever getting better at attracting these humanoid alien creatures. Seriously, if an alien came to earth to study our current human mating rituals when they saw the vast amounts of bullshit the males have to go through just to get a chance at achieving one of the most basic functions of life they’d be absolutely dumbfounded like “by golly, it’s actually like you’re trying to learn how to slay a dragon” LOL I mean if there’s an unspoken list containing the most basic and harmless little things that somehow give girls the ick of which you can’t possibly know all of them until it’s too late, how are you supposed to not just play it safe and constantly be on guard lest you burn your bridges before you even have any idea wtf you did wrong? I’m sure there is some way to do that but goddamn bro, things sure don’t look good

While it sucks tremendously that this is something we have to go through, I’m glad to hear you say that because it validates my own struggle. Even on this forum I’ve been told that I must be doing something terribly wrong to get kicked out of night life places because no one else is. Knowing how women and prick bouncers/bartenders are, I know it’s happening to a lot more of us than people realize. Think about how unjust that is: we aren’t making threats, we aren’t being violent, we aren’t touching without permission (at least I’m not) literally our only crime is making people uneasy just by not knowing how to act like a carbon copy of everyone else. Somehow that’s a bannable offense. Has anyone ever heard of a woman getting kicked out of a club for being insufficiently socially calibrated? Of course not! Nothing is ever a woman’s fault. In fact if a woman is acting a little weird in her interactions, first thing the staff is gonna do is start searching for which man’s fault it is that she’s acting differently than what’s expected. If you don’t know EXACTLY how to do it, what to say, when to say, how to say, then it is very much prohibited. Men are afforded very very little room for error when flirting with the ladies before being ruthlessly hit with asinine and disproportionate consequences. Indeed you would think a club is a very well lubricated place, somewhere you can feel free to let loose and start expressing yourself in a free and open manner. But the reality is far more depressing than that usually. The only rule or law I violate is an unspoken one of being completely authentic instead of characteristically castrating myself to behave exactly like everyone else. In my experience girls are deeply disturbed of giving a genuinely unique guy a chance because they’re terrified of being judged by their friends and they’re taught to think men who act even a little different from what’s arbitrarily deemed socially acceptable are psychotic mad men who’re going to rape and kill them. As far as “harassment”, that word has all but lost its original meaning. It’s become a type of “burn the witch” term that girls use against guys who they find ugly or otherwise irksome in whatever way. When a woman tells people you’re “harassing” her, doesn’t matter what you were actually doing, it will shut off people’s logical mind and automatically pit them against you. Sometimes they might be reasonable to give you a chance to explain your side, but you will still be heavily suspected of wrongdoing. That’s the thing. There is nothing clear about it. Half the time they don’t even tell you you’re bothering them, they just look at you with a blank stare. What’s even more bewildering is they’ll often pretend to be interested in what you’re saying and be very active in the interaction when under the surface they’re wishing you’d get the hell away. Only to later talk behind your back and get the staff or security up your ass. Hopefully I explained some of it. I’m just above and beyond completely sick to fucking death of all of it. The women, the white knights, the bouncers, the bars, the unreasonable and small minded attitudes, the alcohol, the gaslighting, the double standards. I’m so infuriated and disgusted by this game it makes me want punch holes in the wall and rip my fucking skin off. Why even put up with a system packed full of people who’re this shitty and inconsiderate to guys who just want to get better at pulling girls?

Recently my psychiatrist and family have been strongly recommending I start taking Abilify. Abilify is a second generation, supposedly safer antipsychotic med which I would be taking for lack of motivation and anxiety. It turns out antipsychotics are one of the main causes of akathisia, other causes include SSRIs, anti nausea meds and benzodiazepine withdrawal. It’s characterized by the following symptoms: Intense and unrelenting restlessness, complete inability to stop moving Severe, agonizing and bone deep discomfort throughout the body Feeling of being electrocuted, burned and or having thousands of tiny bugs crawling all throughout every nerve in the body Severe dysphoria: unimaginable levels of fear, panic, stress, terror and helplessness. Ineffable mental, physical and spiritual torment far far beyond what any sentient creature should ever have to endure Suicidal and or homicidal tendencies I’ve also heard it described as having a nonstop exorcism or having your nervous system hooked up to a turbo jet engine and revving it up pedal to the metal. One woman said she would rather give birth multiple times a day every day for a year than ever go through akathisia again. Some people are lucky enough to never have this side effect or only experience it for a relatively short while (minutes can feel like hours in this state) others, not so much. There are people who have been going on like this for years and it can be permanent. (Skip this next part if you don’t care to read my commentary on the psychiatric industry) One thing I find concerning is none of this was mentioned to me by the “professionals” until I brought it up to them. Then they didn’t even seem to acknowledge it as being anything more than your typical bout of anxiety or restlessness. Right. That’s like saying having your childrens’ heads blown off with a shotgun right in front of you can lead to feelings of sadness. The fact that they’re so dismissive of such a serious and disturbingly common symptom leads me to wonder just how many innocent souls who just wanted to feel better are now stuck in the deepest darkest pits of hell for no telling how long due to sheer negligence. Some people who wind up this way are misdiagnosed as anxious and prescribed benzos which will only exacerbate the issue in the long run and can be ripped away from you quite abruptly. Some people are given even more antipsychotics or antidepressants. Some people are misdiagnosed as manic, psychotic or delusional and placed in psyche wards where they’re subject to being force fed more of the kinds of drugs which caused the issue to begin with. Good luck trying to tell an orderly that actually you were never this bad until after taking psyche meds. They’ll just think it’s more of your delusion talking and pump you full of the devil’s drugs then not give a single fuck about your screams of excruciating agony. I’m getting this from comments I’ve read of people sharing their experience. I know it’s possible that things can be made up, but why lie about this? What would one stand to gain by fabricating such stories? I’m also not saying all psychiatrists are this bad, but people should be aware of the red flags. So there you have it, akathisia. Wanted to talk a little about it to raise awareness because apparently most people have never even heard the word before. And to express how grateful I am for the internet. Without it, I very well might have been another victim.

Remarkably helpful mate. Many thanks for sharing. This may be just what I need to break my life long curse of being stuck in skelly mode. My biggest roadblock to getting desired muscle gains has always been the hassle and expense of buying and preparing the massive amount of food I have to shovel down, and it’s quite physically challenging to consume that much. So this guide should be very useful. Lately I’ve been watching professional eaters like Matt stonier and Eric the electric and galvsfood while eating cuz it makes it somewhat easier to consume my by comparison pathetic amount of calories by watching other people eat preposterously large meals.

@Schizophonia what’s et toc?

I said I WOULD be taking it. That is if I had listened without question. Luckily I had questions. Reading what folks had to say about it and watching some videos scared me away from going anywhere near it or anything like it. Not to say I’d be guaranteed to end up with aka but my god is it really worth the risk?!

Nice man 🤘😝🤘 gives the same energy as this one