the-philogynist

First I just want to start off with, I am an 36 yo virgin and I'm not anti porn nor am I pro porn. Sometimes I wonder what is really the point of porn? I mean all you're doing is watching adults have sex but that'll cause frustration because you're not having sex yourself. Sometimes we just have to ask ourselves what's the point of watching somebody else have sex when when the viewer is not having sex themselves?

Hey cultivateLove. I thought you said you didn't have any patience? So why are you still on this topic if you so much think that I'm a troll? You have no idea.

What's so funny?

You said that: "One skill of sexual intercourse with her in cowgirl would be how to position the pelvis to increase penile contact to the upper portion of the vaginal, while also maintaining intermittent contact with the clitoris. Yet this requires an extra stiff erection and a particular motion. One needs to know how much angle of leverage and distance is possible without popping out. As well, one needs to know how to position her pelvis. And the right amount of clitoral pressure via pelvis and how to supplement with fingers". Serotoninluv, you have to understand all of those are not 'skills', those are 'creative moves' that yes, can make the sex more exciting. I don't need anyone to tell me to do those minute movements, me and my female can, by being confident and creative 'learn' those move together. Cowgirl is the usual name of the position. But guess what, what if I personally want to call it something else? What if I want to call it say: jump ride or twerk ride or booty bounce?What about reverse cowgirl were the woman is facing away from you, what about 'side cowgirl' were she's on the side riding you? My point in saying all of these is that it is not 'skills' that's going on here. These are creative moves / movements that the couple by being confident and creative will know how to do on their own. Let me hear you're reply.

Ok, let me do this: describe the so called 'skills' that can be done in natural sexual intercourse?

If you call yourself not having any patience and don't have any to offer besides resorting to name calling than do me a favor, stay out off this conversation. This is for people that is trying to know. Please don't comment anymore.

Ok, if you don't mind me asking. how long did you last? Did you two actually do multiple positions? Where you actually confident and dominant? As far as women being sexually objectified, some actually objectify themselves in society. So what do they expect some men would do?

Thanks, I appreciate the comment. Just for the record and to make things clear: I don't have a porn or sex addiction. I could care less about pornography. Porn doesn't care about our sexuality. I don't care if the whole industry goes out of business tomorrow, because I can get an actual woman. Porn doesn't care about our sexuality. But at the same time I'm not anti porn either. Don't have a sex addiction because I'm not having sex right now ha ha. I'm having trouble perceiving some of the questions. Could you list those questions again but in a different way?

If you don't mind me asking: For your first time having sex, what did you thought was a 'good time'?

Can I ask you something? Is it not true that everything that we do, start in the mind and as a thought first? We never do any type of action unless we thought about it in our minds first.

I can't technically miss something that I haven't actually done yet. I'm "looking forward to it".

I'm listening. Keep asking questions I have no problem answering. I'm going to just say it: It is not 'skill' thats the wrong word. The right word is 'creativity'. Yes, some people just don't know how to be creative. That probably do need some help in that area. That's why it would be good if one partner is more creative that can tell the other partner who is not that creative WHAT TO DO. You know, technically I can't miss something that I haven't actually done yet. I'm "looking forward to it"

First I just what to say to you all, please just stop with the 'skill' analogies. They're totally off the mark, and I just can't stand to hear them... anymore. Having said that: Yes, sex is a copulatory mechanism among the animals and it's just that a simple mechanism. But what with humans sex is more unique because of the simple and default fact that we are human beings and we have the ability to be creative. Please believe me I'm not thinking in a limited why. I just really see what's going on now and I refuse to buy into the nonsensical ways of society.

Are you talking to me? If you are, than you have to explain what exactly do I have wrong.

By you saying the words: "you’re trying to assert that a form of physical activity doesn’t have any room for skill improvement when it clearly does while also appealing to no authority other than “because you’re wrong” while ALSO acknowledging you’ve never experienced sex," your being intellectually deceptive. You just don't get it do you? This is not about all the negative things that you think I am. Matter of fact I'm one of the most positive and open minded person that you could ever know, so you have no idea. My God, why are you people all are trying to make sex this so complicated. Like I said I see what's really going on now and it is totally ridiculous. Why just why are you all keep saying that natural copulating sexual intercourse takes skill? A skill is something that you have to go to a training school to know. We know sex by default, we ALREADY ARE a sex. My goodness, are you telling me, because I haven't had actual intercourse yet, that I don't know what to sexually do with my penile phallus? Are you serious? A man already know what to sexually do with his penile phallus just as a woman already know what to sexually do with her vaginal hole and the rest of her "vaginal area". Get this, they can TELL EACH OTHER WHAT TO DO during sexual intercourse. You know what, maybe 'skill' is just the wrong word. Maybe the accurate and correct word is 'creativity'. And if creativity is what you're really saying to have the best sexual intercourse then I do agree with you, along with sexual confidence.

I would honestly say that society as a whole has a paradigm lock.

And that's the problem. People use each other like objects and nothing more which is really bad. If a human human being calls themselves liking bestiality, then they need some serious help.

Oh believe me, I know exactly what you all are talking about and you're just flat out wrong. It's something that society is trying to push and I'm not buying it. How in the world can you say what my sexual relationship is going to be? I going to have a fantastic sexual relationship with my wife, so you can save the cliches for someone that buys your nonsense.

Of course porn is real sex. They are performing intercourse just on camera. I just depends of what kind of porn.

Here's a solution. Why don't they just get women of their own and just do like they seen in the porn film?

There you go. Still trying to sell that sex is a 'skill'. Why don't society understand? Sex copulation is not a skill. If anything what you just described is creativity. Like I've said before, how much do you ever want to bet that when I get married and have sex that it won't be as complex as you all are trying to sell it to be. And I would confirm on that day that you guys was living in world of make believe and cliches.

Like what?

Than most of the times it is about confidence and creativity.

Are they human sexual connections? Because that's what we're talking about.

Well guess what, it's a natural 'skill' that we have when we're confident.