Joshuas

Should you pursue the urge to become a mystic, while not having a job, career or company build up that is aligned with your deeper values? A complementary question — Should you prioritise building and running a career that is aligned with your deeper values over your spiritual inclinations? Or am I fooling myself altogether here with these two questions, and is the only way to get it right finding a way to bring them together? And if this is the case, what would be your advice on working on that constructively over a long period?

What is the relationship between weird phases in life and Personal Growth? By personal growth I mean something specific, explained in the model in the image. By weird phases I don't mean phases of destructive behaviour, but where your mood and motivation are out of whack in a way that feels strange and empty as opposed to lazy. Thanks a lot, Have a good day

Could anyone give some examples of mystics? be it from history or fictional stories. Thanks for the replies guys! there is some good stuff in there. I think the most essential thing for me is to get more and more acquainted with the vision of becoming a mystics so that it can soak in and take proper roots.

@SourceCodo So you're saying anyone who is inclined towards truth seeking, spiritual growth, goodness can be called a mystic? And those who became better than others at this to a highly significant degree can be considered masters? There is definitely truth to that, but it doesn't seem to be the answer I'm looking for. Also, what is the difference between 'walking through the field of consciousness' and a regular person going through life, they're conscious as well, going through/being consciousness, but you wouldn't call regular people mystics by far. I'm really looking for a comprehensive answer to the question 'what is a mystic?'.

I could use some clarification. What does a mystic do? How does a mystic live? How does someone become mystic like? I have hunches, but I mostly have been feeling strangely drawn to the word mystic for years now, even slightly before I found this place which is about 6 years ago now. So I just came up with the idea, why not just ask here. What is a mystic? And how does one become one? Is wisdom the defining feature? Or mastery of consciousness work? an adept spiritual seeker? Someone who yearns to know nature deeply, beyond conventional knowledge out of a deep intuition for more? Someone who helps the people he meets in his life in meaningful and impactful ways in a seemingly effortless approach? Or none of those? I realise giving a hard explicit answer to my questions doesn't actually answer the actual question, but I would still like to know. So it would be very dear to me if you could give an answer, especially if you have a worthwhile one to give. That would be appreciated.

There is more to it than that. I really hope they'll win somewhere between one and 5 out 150 seats in the Dutch government. Which would actually quite a lot since they have only been around since 2018 — the Dutch Volt party, the original party got created in 2017. But yeah, it's a small start, but still exciting news.

Volt is a political movement that wants to work towards a healthy, modern, united Europe. They're a great party and I'll be voting for them today in the Dutch elections. I think you guys would lik this: They're very conscious. They even talk about not left or right, we want to create solutions that work. Which is in line with Leo's view on politics, so that's rather sweet. Would love to hear Wether you heard of them before and what you hink, but mainly I just wanted to share them. Have a good day.

@BartekD Thanks for the thoughtful reply. The war of art is definitely on my reading list. I also agree that it really comes down to just sitting down and doing it. I do tend to struggle with distraction. I'm curious about the inspiration and lessons the war of art will give me on that. @Snader Yes, that's really the really engine to the machine of learning anything. Daily practice and study. Practice x study = learning. @Thought Art Thanks for the recommendations man! I want to set up my life around self-education so I'll look into these and put them on my reading list.

Hey guys, Just wondering, what is your approach/routine for learning new skills? And do you have any tips on learning skill in general?

Look up healthy gamer gg, and perhaps go into coaching with them. They're great! Look it up. I'm surprised it was never mentioned here before. It's is a mental health platform created by a guy who wanted to become a monk when he was young, eventually choose to become a psychiatrists and now helps people on the internet. Their coaching is pretty affordable compared to most life coaching.

@dflores321 I've tried to practice mindfulness around it. Several times I came to the point of overwhelming desire and than just said 'alright, but first lets do at least 10 minutes of meditation'. It was very strange to do it after that, I suppose I should build that habit. A lot of people give the answer of 'just cut it out' which I agree with, but in practice I'm not succeeding. It is clear to me that will power is not gonna cut it, nor will it for any addiction. I've tried tens and tens of things, but the habit is very tricky. Let me know how it goes for you. I can come to a good place with it every now and then, but I want to make it consistent.

@eggopm3 yeah I definitely agree with you, there have been some times where I didn't watch it for about two months and it was great, I felt really at ease and sex was a lot better. It always works well to live actively for me, and do different things everyday. That's a bit tricky right now with covid. But I guess I could go for long walks and see the nature in my area a bit more, that would be good. It has been such a thorny addiction for me. I live pretty sober for the most part (healthy diet, working to minimise distractions, spending time alone on a regular basis, working on learning art), but it feels like this bad habit has been with me all the way the past 6 years with all it's ups and downs (although there have been times where I was off it).

@Husseinisdoingfine You're right, I moved it to the sexuality section just now. Will delete this one.

The story I have been struggling with addictive porn behaviour for 6 years now. At times my mind is obsessed with it, but it has caused me a big pile of suffering and it affects my intimate relationship, overall mood and energy. Two years ago I went to counseling for it, and some other issues. The other issues have been solved and although my porn usage is at a better place, it is still causes problems and suffering. There are times when I'm able to stay of it, times where I am able to manage it and times where it gets out of hand. So although at times it goes well, I feel that I'm not getting at the root of the problem. my mind is obsessed with it in a way, which brings me suffering — I haven't been successful in properly solving either side of that equation. I had a meditation where sexual images came up in my mind, which I kept labelling. Eventually the images stoped and I was left with utter confusion, to the point where I was even confused with what I was confused about. It felt penetrating and persistent. Eventually that calmed down and I felt relieved. Porn doesn't feel like a healthy form of entertainment to me, it feels like an unhealthy coping mechanism that I can't stop for coping with feelings that I don't know how to deal with. The tricky thing is that my mind is sometimes hijacked by an impulse to look up sexual things in a matter of seconds (sometimes even so suddenly that I surprise myself with it). How do you integrate deep feelings of confusion and struggle when those feelings so quickly trigger behaviour that numbs you from them? I feel like I can't get a proper hold of the behaviour nor the root of the issue. I'm trying, but I could use some advice. I'm not at the worst place in my life with this, but I just feel that I'm not solving the root of the issue here. Concrete questions How do you develop a healthy relationship with porn? How do you get a hold of behaviour that is very impulsive and hard to control? How to deal with persistent, penetrating feelings of confusion? Any advice on solving this problem? Is porn a problem for you? Or do you enjoy it without any issues (emotionally, sexually and in relationships)?

The story I have been struggling with addictive porn behaviour for 6 years now. At times my mind is obsessed with it, but it has caused me a big pile of suffering and it affects my intimate relationship, overall mood and energy. Two years ago I went to counseling for it, and some other issues. The other issues have been solved and although my porn usage is at a better place, it is still causes problems and suffering. There are times when I'm able to stay of it, times where I am able to manage it and times where it gets out of hand. So although at times it goes well, I feel that I'm not getting at the root of the problem. my mind is obsessed with it in a way, which brings me suffering — I haven't been successful in properly solving either side of that equation. I had a meditation where sexual images came up in my mind, which I kept labelling. Eventually the images stoped and I was left with utter confusion, to the point where I was even confused with what I was confused about. It felt penetrating and persistent. Eventually that calmed down and I felt relieved. Porn doesn't feel like a healthy form of entertainment to me, it feels like an unhealthy coping mechanism that I can't stop for coping with feelings that I don't know how to deal with. The tricky thing is that my mind is sometimes hijacked by an impulse to look up sexual things in a matter of seconds (sometimes even so suddenly that I surprise myself with it). How do you integrate deep feelings of confusion and struggle when those feelings so quickly trigger behaviour that numbs you from them? I feel like I can't get a proper hold of the behaviour nor the root of the issue. I'm trying, but I could use some advice. I'm not at the worst place in my life with this, but I just feel that I'm not solving the root of the issue here. Concrete questions How do you develop a healthy relationship with porn? How do you get a hold of behaviour that is very impulsive and hard to control? How to deal with persistent, penetrating feelings of confusion? Any advice on solving this problem? Is porn a problem for you? Or do you enjoy it without any issues (emotionally, sexually and in relationships)?