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How can we judge whether our actions and responses will be/are in alignment with our values?

I’m struggling to comprehend the balance between the I, our true nature and the ego which seems to me is the individual human life guide? But identifying with an ego creates false imagery around the self but without thought or a well conditioned sub conscious mind there’ll be struggles in the myriad situations we inevitably face in the game. I’ve realised the I in me to an extent and had beautiful glimpses but still identify with a sub par mind often, previous bad conditioning which I’m battling to overcome. Don’t know where I’m going with this exactly, but isn’t the mind a crucial aspect that needs moulding through practice and experience? Is this necessary for deeper and deeper awakening? Do the mind and I have to work in sync?

@ajasatya thank will do! @TheAvatarState Someone said it is??‍♂️the body breathes and I feel it. Feeling gives meaning?? Or must mean something. Although that is still just something I am aware of?if it’s not air what is it?

Appreciate the advice mate cheers

Thanks guys @DrewNows powerful vid mate cheers! @Nahm how do I practice understanding emotions and sensations and staying true to them? I’m out of touch, lot of monkey mind etc think I deny what I’m actually feeling a lot of the time whilst being dragged along with the mind.

Do you use funnels?

Just bare ISness?photos look amazing Charlotte, some of them views are unreal!

That’s what I’m thinking cheers mate

@Shin Cheers??nonut4life then eh, but still, fap a bad thing? To practice the circulation of energy but no ejaculation? @bejapuskas ah I meant so we can bypass ejacultion during sex easier, would require consciously circulating our sexual energy right? But would be much harder with no practice tugging prior

Yoo what’s the deal with wank but no cum mate?? You said in OP it’s a bad idea but deida and a video posted here a few weeks ago suggest daily practice circulating the energy is healthy and necessary. Plus how is the energy wasted if it’s not shot out? I’ve been trying a little over a month and longest streak is 11 days?best to leave my dick alone yea?

What’s wrong with being authentic and adding value to the girls you approach? Mechanical pick up might be a bit sketchy but if nobody is harmed, what’s the big deal? I’m definitely not talking from experience btw, the last few weeks I’ve only been out three times with 6 miserable approaches, but finally found some local wings. Great to see some live action instead of the YouTube videos and be motivated by these guys, however I couldn’t help feel it was all wrong when I was walking home. Is it because I’ve failed and the fear is still high? Or is it the day game vibe in general? I dunno, bit of both, it’s definitely not normal and I suck atm? I’ll be trying night soon too, sober! And it’s all learning anyway, right? I’m sure the 600th will be better than the 6th! The initial goals are to build confidence, overcome approach anxiety and express better communication whilst being authentic. Overall, I don’t think it’s a bad idea, but the rewards are massive growth from what I gather which transfers to many aspects of your life not just with girls.

@Charlotte Thanks will do one thing I have noticed is I’ll look to past and future like “ah this is what triggers it” or “this what I’m like when this happens” so when a similar occurrence is approaching I’ll freeze up or something, like anticipating it which definitely makes it worse, but am definitely catching it better. Not this, not this

Thanks for sharing Charlotte “checking and reassurance” I’ve noticed myself in these patterns way too often and mental commentary about how it’s all good or labelling a certain event as a trigger and this is just that bla bla. Guess it’s about being present enough to notice then changing the thought process? Easier said than done in a lot of cases tho

Cheers mate

Not sure if it’s a serious emotional problem but it definitely feels like it in the moment. I’ve recently been struggling with strong feelings/sensations of social anxiety, putting it like this so I’m not fully identifying with it which keeps me in the loop. Once I’m in it’s really hard to come out and has become a heavy burden especially in situations where I’ll be for long periods. I realise it’s all mind made and am trying to fix it daily but somethings clearly not working or maybe I’m doing something that’s keeping me in these mind patterns. I’ve always been too caring of what others think throughout my life which I think is still conditioned within me now despite how much I tell myself and even believe I don’t care. How can I break these thought processes and rewire for good? Booked in to see a doctor which can only help me in the right direction but always good to hear other perspectives. Have any of you experienced similar phases, if so how did you overcome them or what are you currently doing in and out the moment of its occurrence? I’ve always been inspired by success stories so would love to hear some cheers

@DrewNows cheers what helps you remain aware? Is there anything you do to recentre yourself in the moment when it starts to arise? Feel like I’m getting better with that but can spiral out of control pretty quick.

@Gabriel Antonio cheers mate will watch

Great documentary! ? tickled me, need to stay off that whizz you Charlotte. Might be necessary to keep up with Dickens tho?

@Gabriel Antonio cheers! Need to try yoga and become more active with sport etc. I get what @Deepconcepts is saying, being identified with it can only strengthen it but I’m trying to separate as if it’s just something that’s happening to me rather than being me, super hard to remain conscious when the situations arise though. Guess I just gotta keep putting myself in uncomfortable situations until one day it hopefully eases. Hope you both find your way

Thanks for sharing, good to hear you’re much better these days will likely try cbt, nlp etc soon

Be excited about what you do, unless you can’t choose to atm and you feel it’s mandatory for your current circumstance, then I suggest setting rewards and punishments around your priorities. You’ll look forward to something good, whilst making sure you don’t inflict any unwanted damage and most importantly finishing what’s important. Adhere to it if you fail and go again until you get it right

@Markus cheers will check it out! @EnlightenmentBlog that’s exactly how it is with me, some deep conditioning I have to overcome from an early age. Will try apply what you said, thanks

@Markus @RawJudah thanks! Definitely helps and will try it all.. realise I do need to just let loose and start talking to people. For the first time ever this year I forced myself to classes and other social events which was a pretty big step for me, wouldn’t have dreamed doing so even a year or 2 ago, but not sure if this made it worse recently because a lot of times I just froze up and felt isolated from group conversations because I didn’t speak up, maybe I’m giving myself too much a hard time etc I dunno. Hoping now that the fear of just turning up to places is lessening, I’ll grow some fuckin balls and start talking more. Cheers guys @Moreira what experiment is it? 4/5 days a week is pretty clean; meats, brown rice, fruit, nuts etc and recently started intermittent fasting but still have ALOT of room to improve I think. I eat shit probably 2 days on avg which can get really out of hand?

I went through a degen phase about 5/6 years ago going to raves every weekend and after, me and my mates would come down with balloons and shit got deep man, definitely experienced eternity or pure euphoria, that was what kept us coming back then I started seeing the devil or some shit, maybe something in my sub-conscious mind telling me I need to stop, I eventually did after what I thought was a near death experience?if it wasn’t for these though I don’t think I would’ve explored into the psychedelic realms, it was that experience which triggered me studying and experimenting but very little nos since. I actually used to brush off the idea of ever trying or even thinking about LSD/shrooms until this point so kinda thankful and have completely changed since. Don’t think I’ve ever experienced a more beautiful experience than a balloon on mdma tho, but hear it’s pretty dangerous and gets out of hand after a while. Wasn’t the same when I tired again months later either so stopped completely

Yea can relate to that, everything just seems heightened when high, makes everything feel better but I dunno if that’s all in my head and maybe I’m unconsciously blocking something when sober. A mentor told me that’s definitely the case with creativity, just a case of being intensely present but dunno, intense presence high and sober are significantly different to me, maybe my mind has such a big grip on me and the weed let’s loose fuck knows. Yea will let you know how it goes, glad I came across this thread so thanks for sharing, best of luck