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thank you all , pretty helpfull

Hello everyone It feels wierd when trying to meditate in class or in the bus, places where there is a lot of people. I become to self conscious ... , anyone experience the same thing? any advices please ? Thank you

Hello everyone , I have big problem trusting people and I always assume dark side of people . Any practical advices? Thank you

visualize yourself that if you don't face those fears, how you will hit your head against those blocks for the next 20 years of your life. stack up all that 20 years of pain and what you might sacrifice because of those fears and weight that against what it would take to solve it right now " so go ahead and do it"

it is hard , that's why you need to start with baby steps and work your way up , that's why you have to never give up and keep trying

@Iiris just face your fears ... don't run away from them .... the more you run away from them the more they grow ... for example if you fear to talk to your classmates and eating lunch with them, just do it , if you stay quiet and have nothing to say and feel weird , that's okay you search for topics to talk about or something like that , if you encounter another problem google it find the solution practice if it works, good, if it doesn't look for the next one ...

@Nahm thank you

for all the people that have social anxiety ... I had social anxiety for a pretty long time am pretty sure much worst then you have, but now i don't have it anymore after hundreds of hours of research on this topic, if you want to cure your social anxiety you need to know that thoughts are not real " the opinion of others does not affect reality " they have power over you if you react to them ,so don't react and let them think what they want and you need to stop letting thought of someone control your life and become independent of the good or bad of opinion of others, there are a million reasons for why they said what they said and it has nothing to do with you ask yourself can I live a great extraordinary life if am dependent of random circumstances . no one can give you something truly valuable and fulfillment if they say something good about you The thing will fulfill you is to live by your dreams and honor ur life and live your full potential I suggest that you practice : 1- meditation: because it keeps you centered and slow down the monkey mind I need you to reprogramme the subconscious mind by : 2 and 3 " don't miss one day it's important " 2- affirmation: every day say "I am a social butterfly" "I am very social" "I have loads of confidence" for like 5 min each one loud for 40 days (do not miss one day it's important ) and when you say it feel it 3- visualization: visualize yourself in an uncomfortable situation that you are scared from and react to them the way you want to react to them "the future you that you want to become" 10 min every day 4- talk to yourself : if the monkey mind say omg they are saying this about me ... you say in your mind " ok so what I don't care or like oh that funny " do not fight it and be like why do they think this or did i do something that made them think this or these kinds of questions 5- be authentic: no matter whatever change yourself or act on others thoughts for example if you want to do or say something just do it don't be like am not going to do it or say it because they will think ... 6- always be kind and lovely even if people are rude 7- socialize more: go out and talk to more people and read more about social science watch Leo videos about social and read books about this topic 8-what does not kill you make you stronger: in every bad situation in life, in general, be like " just bring it " you make me stronger as Leo says " love your sins to death " and they will melt away but if you keep fighting them every dragon you slay a new one comes 9- keep a journal : write down what work what did not and in what situation do you feel embarrased and analyse and look for alternative .... for example you can try holding eye contact for a long period of time deliberately to increase confidence , if this technique worked you keep practicing it if it did not you move on to the next one but give it time to judge if a techniques work or not 10-practice self acceptance : so please practice all these things that I said and expect backslides and failures but you know what it's worth it because it will benefit you all the years to come, you can always contact me if you need any advice

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when we have a problem we need to search for a solution either by reading a lot of books or watching Leo or from others past experiences, for me I did read some books and watch a lot of Leo videos and practice a lot so I kinda know how the whole thing works , so if I find someone who has the same problem that I had, I would totally give them advice so they can find the solution by practicing and finding what works for them but they need to keep practicing for a long time not in one day, as you can see I told her that it will take time to see results maybe it will take even one year but you know what its worth it because it will benefit her all her life. no one is feeling like an idiot because we search for solutions to our problems and someone give us advice, in fact, its the exact opposite because we are trying to develop our self and become better , and about the ego thing, she should let go of the huge part of her ego which is social anxiety part or what causes social anxiety " because it is the problem and btw the ego is the cause of every single problem you have in life and hate about life and the cause of suffering, in fact, we all need to kill the ego which results in the experience of Nirvana, which is enlightenment, but this is a pretty advanced stuff and take years of practice .

Hello Liris first of all, you look stunning that's for sure I had social anxiety for a pretty long time am pretty sure much worst then you have, but now i don't have it anymore after hundreds of hours of research on this topic, if you want to cure your social anxiety you need to know that thoughts are not real " the opinion of others does not affect reality " they have power over you if you react to them ,so don't react and let them think what they want and you need to stop letting thought of someone control your life and become independent of the good or bad of opinion of others, there are a million reasons for why they said what they said and it has nothing to do with you ask yourself can I live a great extraordinary life if am dependent of random circumstances . no one can give you something truly valuable and fulfillment if they say something good about you The thing will fulfill you is to live by your dreams and honor ur life and live your full potential I suggest that you practice : 1- meditation: because it keeps you centered and slow down the monkey mind I need you to reprogramme the subconscious mind by : 2 and 3 " don't miss one day it's important " 2- affirmation: every day say "I am a social butterfly" "I am very social" "I have loads of confidence" for like 5 min each one loud for 40 days (do not miss one day it's important ) and when you say it feel it 3- visualization: visualize yourself in an uncomfortable situation that you are scared from and react to them the way you want to react to them "the future you that you want to become" 10 min every day 4- talk to yourself : if the monkey mind say omg they are saying this about me ... you say in your mind " ok so what I don't care or like oh that funny " do not fight it and be like why do they think this or did i do something that made them think this or these kinds of questions 5- be authentic: no matter whatever change yourself or act on others thoughts for example if you want to do or say something just do it don't be like am not going to do it or say it because they will think ... 6- always be kind and lovely even if people are rude 7- socialize more: go out and talk to more people and read more about social science watch Leo videos about social and read books about this topic 8-what does not kill you make you stronger: in every bad situation in life, in general, be like " just bring it " you make me stronger as Leo says " love your sins to death " and they will melt away but if you keep fighting them every dragon you slay a new one comes 9-keep a journal : write down what work what did not and in what situation do you feel embarrased and analyse and look for alternative .... for example you can try holding eye contact for a long period of time deliberately to increase confidence , if this technique worked you keep practicing it if it did not you move on to the next one but give it time to judge if a techniques work or not 10-practice self acceptance : so please practice all these things that I said and expect backslides and failures but you know what it's worth it because it will benefit you all the years to come, you can always contact me if you need any advice

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