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Yeah, I like your short story because some months ago, I approached a very gorgeous girl in a minimarket in a different city. I just looked at her and felt confused about what I could do to reach out to her. Months later, I keep remembering that moment, and it has become a life regret and mistake for me, as I don't know if I can meet her again, even though I've gone to the same place multiple times after that event. However, this experience has inspired me to do better in relationships and study intimate connections. There is beauty out there that can make me feel inspired and happy just by looking, and I might gain more experiences if I get a chance to know her!

@Ramanujan Maybe around 8 years to start reading, and then I started practicing recently. The failure led me to success. You can also read Stephen Covey's interview related to the morning routine and Getting Things Done book here: https://zenhabits.net/exclusive-interview-stephen-covey-on-his-morning-routine-blogs-technology-gtd-and-the-secret/"

ZTD is a combination method from GTD and 7 habits. Some concepts in ZTD, like capture, process, organize, review, and do, are inspired by GTD. ZTD focuses on one habit at a time. Which method is better depends on the individual. Regarding productivity systems, when comparing GTD methodology to the Eisenhower Matrix, I prefer GTD because it works better and is more practical for my daily life. GTD is more organized than the 4 quadrants for my tasks. However, the 7 habits are amazing. If you read that book, understand, underline some concepts, take notes, and practice them, the key is to practice 1 habit per month from the 7 habits for highly effective people. In seven months, your life will be far better.

I am currently using Evernote for GTD (Getting Things Done). However, I find ZTD (Zen to Done) to be simpler and more focused on habits. With ZTD, the approach is to focus on one habit at a time for a month. Perhaps, in the future, I might transition to ZTD. The reason I am currently using GTD and not ZTD is that ZTD requires time to build habits. Nonetheless, ZTD is more straightforward, emphasizing the essential and practical aspects rather than complicated systems. Additionally, I am using the Pomodoro technique. I believe that personal development and time management depend on an individual's preferences. It's essential to choose what works best for you. If you discover something great and can take action on it, even better. Some people prefer simple actions, doing things only when they need or want to, or adopting a flexible approach. However, for now, I am a GTD practitioner.

Interested. I will read that someday. Good book after "Can't hurt me".

Why did you keep asking Leo multiple times?

Tips: Create a habit. Know your trigger: time/activity/location. Put a reminder. Start by responding to threads. Writing, and doing the best. This forum is a good place to connect, learn, and inspiration. Do it consistently if you think is good.

Here is my two list: Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina Zen To Done by Leo Babauta I also bought Leo Reviews Top 200 Self-Help Books, which was a good list. And I buy a lot of books tbh.

It is possible to master skills autodidactically. You can also take online courses, buy books, research multiple websites, join forums, etc. There are many opportunities for freelancing, and earning thousands of dollars per month is possible. I understand that going to college to acquire skills is beneficial. Still, every skill depends on how much time you invest and your dedication to continuous learning from various sources and past experiences. Regarding freelancing, I have been providing writing services in my local language since high school as a side job. I also assisted my friend in starting a business on Fiverr, focusing on graphic design until he earned thousands per month. One of my assistants for this freelance work also continued writing independently and published books with a local publisher. I have been running an online business from home for around 10 years since I graduated from high school, and I continued my studies at the university when I was 27 years old. Now, my focus is on personal development. The best tip I can give you for working from home as a freelancer to earn thousands of dollars is to manage your time wisely. From my experience, the most significant challenge does not come from the business methods or marketing, but internally, from ourselves. That is one of the reasons why I switched to personal development. Everybody is different, but that's how I share my thoughts.

1. I once asked this question to search on Wikipedia and made a note on my Evernote to gain a basic understanding of the definition. However, based on my experience, a serious romantic relationship is a connection between two individuals who love each other and are committed to shared purposes and values in life. This entails supporting one another and being companions. It means having someone to talk to, sharing events together, engaging in sexual intimacy, and gaining experiences of connection. Additionally, it involves both teaching and learning about each other, as well as receiving feedback from someone who knows you on a more level. 2. Express your feelings, but don't enter a relationship solely out of loneliness or neediness. Prioritize self-love and personal growth. Strive for independence rather than excessive dependence. Choosing the right partner can make life easier. Having friends and a sexual partner are important aspects. Continuing your reproduction by having children is another significant reason. 3. Pros: Experiencing love Expressing love to someone (although love can be expressed towards anything) Having a partner to talk to and engage in various activities Fulfilling family purposes Learning important lessons about life Cons: It is possible to experience destruction or negative impacts in your life if you choose the wrong person or are unable to handle the relationship Relationships can be time-consuming, particularly if you are young and should focus on what truly matters. If you don't allocate the right proportion of time and fail to prioritize your life, you may become too caught up in the relationship, unless having an intimate relationship is your highest value, which is acceptable.

Don't forget about different types of water, such as mineral water and pure water, and how to obtain water, whether it's through buying and selecting, boiling, distillation, etc. It's not just about how much water you consume, but also what kind of water you should consider learning about. There is a lot of scientific advice out there, and some of it is subject to debate. However, based on my own experience, I believe that everyone is different. I find it easy to stay hydrated and drink at least 1.5 liters of water each day, excluding the water I get from consuming fruits or vegetables. I used to drink from a bottle but now I prefer drinking from a glass. Drinking too much water can lead to vomiting, while not having enough water can make me feel dehydrated. This is just my personal experience and knowledge. As for credible information, I'm unsure because different sources provide varying answers. It's best to do what works for you. If you need assistance, consider speaking to a nutritionist, doctor, or any other professional who understands your needs and can provide specific advice.

Knowing the value and strength is important. Ikigai, but sometimes it doesn't work. The book I recommend is "The Big Leap" by Gay Hendricks. Follow your passion, remember the struggles in your life, and answer the $100 million question; it can be a big clue. I personally agree that Leo's LP course is the best way to find a life purpose. I have struggled to find my life purpose for 10 years. Then I took the Actualized Life Purpose course twice before gaining some clarity. The key important point for me is answering the most important question. Remember, you might find imperfect things while finding your life purpose. If you feel stuck, go with what is most important, and let go of perfection or what is less important. That's the thing that helped me find my life purpose, and I'm still working on realizing it in practice!

First, I have read your thread. So I can somewhat understand your situation and empathize with your feelings. Although I don't have much experience or extensive knowledge about relationships, I can see that you perceive her as a wonderful person and you love her, which means there are many positive qualities and values in her. Currently, I have a girlfriend, and we have been in a relationship for 2 years. In the past, I have also attempted to form relationships with other girls. I have found it challenging to apply the theories and knowledge about relationships that I have learned because there are always unique challenges and situations that arise. Sometimes I know what I should do but find it difficult actually to do it. Understanding intimate relationships, in particular, takes time. Regarding money, I also had difficult experiences during my childhood and young age, until I took the initiative to start an online business and address many of my financial problems. I am still working on improving my financial situation. Saving is important, as well as investing, especially in terms of time. I also used to have a habit of spending too much, but I never spent more than I earned because, in the past, I couldn't buy whatever I needed or wanted, and now I can. I don't agree with your girlfriend spending too much. I believe the best approach is not just telling her to save or spend less, but rather teaching her about a lifestyle that is better than her current one, such as simplicity or minimalism, etc. However, I understand that changing beliefs and habits that have been ingrained for years, especially someone else's habits, can be difficult. Change should happen one step at a time, with small but continuous progress. In my case, even my girlfriend has asked me to live with her parents after we get married because she is the only daughter. I understand that we have different perspectives, but sometimes is normal for your girlfriend to desire an independent house, children, and marriage, especially considering the cultural norms in the country I live in, where most people expect those things. I just want to emphasize that not every partner is perfect. However, we need a partner whom we can accept if we choose to commit to a relationship with them. For example, if there is a value of hers that I can no longer tolerate, it would be better for me to leave my girlfriend. So, it really depends on you. If you can help her change, then do so using a different approach. If you can accept her habits, then get them and take responsibility for them. Some problems are subjective. If you can't handle it anymore, you should consider other options. You see her as a wonderful person, but one of her habits, particularly regarding money, is causing difficulty for you. Therefore, I suggest you reflect and introspect, write down possible solutions, and make the decision that you believe is best for your life. Remember that we have faced many challenges to come this far, and we are responsible for making our future life and relationship better. So, based on my limited experience, I hope you can consider this from your perspective, and I hope it helps!

Let me share my story. I have been very passionate and excited about personal development for around 2 years. However, after managing my OCD and discontinuing CBT therapy with psychologist and medication with psychiatrist, i do ERP with my own then I lost interest in my life. I am still working on overcoming this, though. I believe the solution to anhedonia is to experience things that no longer bring pleasure or interest. For instance, I used to thoroughly enjoy reading and writing for about 8 years, but I lost interest in those activities. The solution is to allow myself to experience the emotions, even if it means feeling bored or unable to experience pleasure. If you know of any methods out there that share a similar concept, such as CBT or mindfulness, they would be helpful. The key here is to not let anhedonia hinder our pursuit of our purpose. Personally, I am currently focusing on building habits one at a time to engage in activities that I don't find enjoyable. After consulting a psychologist, she mentioned that I might be experiencing burnout, which could also be the case if you're not feeling depressed. Anhedonia is often considered a sign of depression, but in my case, I don't believe I am depressed. I just feel burned out and eager to try something new. Achieving great results with something new would be fantastic as well.

Hey, after long time, i decide to post this thread on actualized forum . Quick background, i'm 24 yo from Southeast Asia, following Leo's videos for years and became silent reader on this forum. I never going to seek psychiatrist or any professional help, living on small village make not easy to reach, and after broke also depression i didn't have money to pay for it. Currently, i get little better and start my new business also doing personal development. Although i understand this forum are not for medical advice, but this is what i can do right now. I think it will help if share about my problem or get important advice here! I am not native English. It's like self-diagnose, but i have exactly symptoms of pure o ocd, i have obsessive sexual thought about family, not sexual basically but like a porn, such as nude images, words, or urges. And it's feel the thought contaminating anything what i do. Worst of all, my mind keep moralizing that something is bad/dislike/disturb or create something like "if this then this" etc irrationally. And i think this is the root of the problem who caused any obsession, fear, and compulsion. I have Muslim background, but when write this post, i already let go and begin the journey of understanding reality. My compulsion are like change with positive thought, doing the work repeatedly until feel uncontaminated, stop activity or avoid the intrusive thought or washing. Even when i try to get ideas or solve my ocd, then unwanted obsession come, it's said that the ideas are contaminated and feel wrong too. Some compulsion even happen automatically. I know this is stupid and i know what should be right, but when i try to force it can feel anxious 16 hours per day, unless i sleep. This is also the time how obsession can come, attack and uncontrollable. Some triggers are like externals when i saw people or when i doing something important. My mind usually try to analyze and prove battling itself that i'm not wrong and find a way how to get unstuck. I've even been stuck for 4 hours doing nothing and cannot move my body, because when i move feel wrong. This ocd make so much negative effect on my life and my happiness. And when something is little better, my mind is like try keep searching a way to make me feel wrong. Sometime i doing the obsession or thought intentionally for analyzing or accidentally or while i mad why it can't be stop. Since 9 yo, i remember have first pure o ocd, my mind say words to insult God. I doing compulsion then obsession may disappear, weirdly it became auto compulsion that cannot be stop. In that moment, i don't care so much and didn't know that was ocd, until i'm 21 years old. Particularly i didn't care if my mind say something which almost never be stopped for years. It is crazy, but i tried not to disturbed by those thought. It seems like palilalia and now can be so distracting. When i grow up, also i care so much about halal wealth, purity, contamination of bad things even from people, or something weird like i must walking on that path or something must be like this. And any other form of pure o ocd thought, such as harm, or how if something happen; irrationally, etc. I live with a lot of doubt and so neurotic. Afterward something start to go wrong, 2 years ago when i unconsciously make everything clean or uncontaminated from certain people. For many form of ocd before, i think is not a big deal. But around 6 month ago, the hell come. When idk, have the pure o ocd about sexual obsessive thought. Until now, i really didn't get any peace of mind and everything seems so horrible. Before, i have thought to kill myself or want to die multiple times a day because this problem. Then i try to find solution and help. I don't assume sex or porn is bad or something like that, i think is normal and good, i love see beautiful girl and i love my girl friend. But can feel so disturbing when related with some people who you respect or you didn't want to or impossible to even think about that. I also have some bad moment in the past from people who judge or angry with me, or belief like i must respect and don't ever doing mistakes or shameful in front of those people since was kid. I do what i possibly can, i do a very lot of research, from many perspective and different sources, and a lot of contemplating or journaling. I also watch almost all Leo's video. I talk with my friends, and try many method. I try focusing to overcome this specific mental problem for last 6 month. Technique like acceptance, exposure, stop victim mentality and taking responsibility, mindfulness / awareness, try stop care, even start learning and doing enlightenment work. Nothing really help yet. I know from my place and my recent condition, another alternative method like psychedelic, healing, or something like that really not available here or so much alternative that maybe i can't reach. Doing positive activity like meditating, yoga, exercise, healthy food, or stuff like that maybe just little help and not so effective for me too. From my experience, the technique that found more help now is the Letting Go technique. I already try understanding and practicing for about 6 month. And because i am not so good at it and too difficult to let stuff go, and feel so complicated, so this is cannot 100% cure or managed yet but make little help. I still try reacting instead of respond. Especially when my emotion are low or i'm confused. Motivation cannot help, only make little better. I cannot life like this so more I know i said horrible things before or how not understand am i. Actually i am really passionate man. I have purpose, want to change and work. Also i make commitment to keep doing this self actualization work. Surely, it is hard to start the journey like this when my environment are different and has been conditioned so much. I have been experiencing difficult moment in my life in the past like grief, fail multiple times on business, doing the job that i don't like, money problem, being single and so on. Or internal problem like porn addiction and laziness. When i was school i am student with good grade, successfully run online business 6 years ago, building new habits. Even only few people can speak English here, and very rare to know about self actualization work. I already overcome so much stuff in my life also build strong attitude. I also have girl that always support me. But i can say this is my most difficult problem in my entire life. Yep, i know maybe it will make me stronger, but it so difficult. Like i said before, there are part of my mind that is so judgmental, and i have other part that saying what is true from my direct experience and try understand that what Leo said is true. But i didn't know why this judgmental mind is win and seems conquering all my life. While something happen, i try to interpret with different meaning, it's still cannot change. BUT sometime my mind can agree when reason are soo good. And when i try like, don't believe your mind, it also not work because i keep using my mind and feel anxious all the time. So, maybe you guys can help me give the very good reason, about what i doing or happened is absolutely not wrong or bad or dislike. I hope you spend time to responds this thread with something that really helpful and i possible to do. Right now i'm trying to have strong letting go attitude to end this ocd. I will really appreciate a lot! Or glad if get reply direct from @Leo Gura I just want to live a normal life with purpose, work, and peace of mind. Sorry, if i still not understand so many things that i said because i also just beginning of learning something that never teach for me before. Thank you

Hi, i'm 24 yo, already try to find my life purpose few years ago, also watched all @Leo Gura Life Purpose videos course and doing exercises, still not find clarity yet. Then i try to explore more. I'm start doing personal development 7 years ago, trying to improve areas of my life. But i lack of purpose for others, i still didn't know or figuring out what should i do in my one life. And feel lost. So before i start working on my dream career, i need clarity of purpose first. From my own research, based on ikigai concept, Leo's zone of genius and impact statement concept, or from career coach advice, i concluded there are 4 things that make fulfilling and meaningful work: Passion (Do what you love) Skill (Your talent, what you want to put in 10.000 hours and be world class, become self awareness) Impact (Your contribution to the world, what make satisfaction while help others) Money (And other outcome like followers, etc; not as destination but we know that is important) If those 4 things are overlap, you can find your life purpose. Then i categorize work options, in 6 category: Politic Knowledge (ex: scientist, philosopher, religious teacher etc) Professional (ex: doctor, police, administrator, programmer, etc) Entrepreneur Artist Sport After trying to figure out, i found that Entrepreneur is my life purpose. Those 4 are overlap from my 6 options. First, i inspired to become entrepreneur at 17yo after watched Thailand movie about seaweed snack industry. Then i not go to college, instead i starting my own internet marketing business. Then, after that, i know about personal development and become interested with it, then try to start self-actualization journey. Leo's content help me a lot until now. We know that, mostly we sleep 8 hours a day, doing our daily habits like eat healthy; exercise; relationship; etc on 8 hours, and we work 8 hours day. Yeah time is depend on us. I think is important to have life purpose that really matter and give meaning to us and the world. Especially on big dream. Right now i still working on my internet marketing business from home. But not feel fulfilling. As i said, i interested became entrepreneur, but you know that entrepreneur are broad, there are many field like food, finance, computer, automotive, education, health, construction, transportation, entertainment, electronic, etc. And i love Social Media, this thing overlap from my 4 too. But i still don't find what niche that meaningful to me. I already try explore and contemplating all options for years but still there no result on me. It's like those options are not overlapping. I hope you understand what i mean. I know i love entrepreneur and social media, but not find any field or niche that meaningful to me. Now, i also work with psychologist to help me. From all options i have, i have two things that might possible be my life purpose. And that is: Digital Marketing (i love doing it, have skill, and can produce money, but i lack on impact statement, i don't feel this is meaningful enough to help others, often times i keep asking other impact like what make health important, what make programming meaningful, or video game are wonderful, but not feel anything) Personal Development (i love doing, curious and passionate about it, also i love the impact of changing people life, but i lack of skill, like i can't speak English and not understand personal development enough, i start doing personal development not because of my strength but because i have so much weakness on my life so i try to improve, so its hard to me too for selling stuff here, also i love creating personal development content on social media but i am not prefer on coaching people) And that is. I don't know anymore. I already doing my best. Maybe you can find something there, maybe any mistake. I need your advice to find my life purpose. Please! Thank you so much

Yes, got it!

@NahmThis is what i feel and what i want, any thought?

@SamC Thank you. I think i need go it emotionally. What i feel is. Since years ago, i have burning desire that i want to create blog, youtube channel, instagram, facebook, tiktok, podcast, ebook, etc. I doing internet marketing for money for years, without showing myself, i go it anonymously or using brand name. I started it since 2012. Then i have want and love to show something valuable for others, via which medium i mentioned before using my name, my self, show on it. This is why i so inspired which blogger like http://zenhabits.net, http://stevepavlina.com, and of course http://actualized.org. I am self-help junkie. I contemplate that if i die, i'm glad that i already doing meaningful work in this life. On that L.P course, Leo ask us to answer 3 person who inspired us the most in life, and my answer was Elon Musk, Leo Gura, and Mark Zuckenberg. (I know some of you have some thinking about Elon and Zuck but i inspired with them) I am so passionate about sharing something online and love personal development. What i realize it, i'm not good at English, especially speak, that make me want to create using my local language (Bahasa Indonesia). I also not good at public speaking and not liking work offline. When i look and research on local market, i afraid i will not make enough money because lack of skill, (most my research are accurate, from my experience) so make me considering become entrepreneur or digital marketing niche instead personal development, because it can produce outcome also experience from me. Let say my passion (without going logically, more emotionally) is personal development, i have two logical questions: 1. Is this okay doing it only using more on online/digital medium? Like blog, social media, ebook but not life coaching or seminar (i interested on book btw) 2. If i can't make enough money on this, is this okay also doing internet marketing and other business as entrepreneur to support my income. How i can separate my life purpose (personal development) with also working on other business? It's still like i also doing another thing for making money. For example, Leo or even Elon Musk, put all in from their purpose, they generate income from what they purpose only. But me also doing another things but not my life purpose? I'm sure you get it. I am not so obsessed with money, but i need money for living. Since kid i born poor, that's why i interested became entrepreneur. I have low self-esteem in the past, especially moment when girls reject my love. That make me want to having lot followers on social media, but i not interested about celebrity. In Leo's course there are negative value release, and i did that. Everybody not perfect, and me too. : ) That is. It going so deeply when i write this, seriously Btw thank you : ) I think this post can get reply also perspective for others from this forum too

@Nahm That's what i need, i mean want . New perspective and deep understanding. That's what you said are true Thank you. What you suggest on me? I came from low-consciousness understanding. Take some time for reading your words. Such this is concept of Law of attraction. Should i do more meditate? I doing basic personal development / self-help for years, but still not focus enough on spirituality. I think will be amazing, if i get advice from high-consciousness / awareness understanding for person like me considering life purpose. I'm newbie. This is what i do so far, and now i'm working on finding life purpose What work should i do and what things should i understand based on your experience or what words you can bring to me? I'm type of person who wanna learn & do the work. Thank you ^ _ ^

Yes, Leo's suggest using OneNote for commonplace book, but i using EverNote. I doing the course 2 times for 10 days straight, and get same answer: Personal Development This is my latest me sheet + top 5 questions: Life Purpose: Use creative marketing to giving insight, grow people life Zone of Genius: Creative marketing Domain of Mastery: Personal development Ideal Medium: Blog, Youtube, other Social Media Top 10 Values: Contribution/impact Creativity/Inguenity Personal Growth/Self-Actualization/Self-Help/Personal Development/Self-Improvement Love/Romance/Intimacy Purpose Optimism/Positivity/Hope Knowledge/Learning/Understanding Excellence Spirituality Uniqueness Top 5 Strengths: Creativity, ingenuity, and originality Hope, optimism, and future-mindedness Perspective wisdom Industry, diligence, and perseverance Spirituality, sense of purpose, and faith The top 5 questions that fascinate me the most about life are… What the meaning of life? How to change life? How to change fast? What the best profession in the world who suit me the most? How important of personal development? But @SamC if i take the course again, the answer might be entrepreneur or digital marketing or others, this is why i'm not sure. I do personal development all the time, i think, i talk about it, i became self-help junkie, but feel not so skilled about this topic if i share with others. I also spend most my time online and doing Internet Marketing for 7+ years and earn money, after interested became entrepreneur and didn't go to college. But the problem is if i asked using this questions (method), those answer not overlap I don't know what's wrong: Is this concept have wrong question because this is my version? or because i not understanding about impact statement about my work like internet marketing? or other things? For example, this is my another exercise, if i using ikigai concept (see the difference) i can found my life purpose but not sure about it because i feel not meaningful enough. Personal Development Are you love? YES Are you good? NO Are the world need? YES Are you get paid? YES (But no, if i not good enough) Entrepreneur Are you love? YES (Sometime no in some field) Are you good? NO (Entrepreneur are so broad, sometime i'm not good on some field or industry) Are the world need? YES Are you get paid? YES Internet marketing Are you love? YES Are you good? YES Are the world need? YES Are you get paid? YES This is my life purpose based ikigai concept: Digital Marketing, but i not feel having meaningful impact. And i try apply this questions on hundred of profession/occupations on my commonplace book. I damn serious about it. I'm looking this for years, still didn't get answer. But deeply serious about finding this life purpose, and doing it every single day in last month. This is real work In FAQ video, Leo's said if we have not found life purpose or for my case, not sure. We need explore to find clarity. That was i am doing. Correct me if have any wrongs on my thinking or some advice or you have any clue from what i write. Thank you! It interesting, right?

Update: After 6 month i looking back on this thread, i just try to give solution who have diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder. So quick story, after i diagnosed with ocd, long story, i work with psychiatrist for medication and psychologist for CBT, but what work on me the most is ERP (Exposure and Response Prevention) therapy, this is work. Search app called NOCD on Play Store or Apple Store You can also search channel: Mark Freeman, OCD and Anxiety by Nathan Peterson, Ali Greymond Finally, after long journey, i can manage my ocd. If i look my suffering in the past, even want to suicide, it really glad i'm here and finally overcame it. Every problem has a solution, don't lose hope! Btw, right now i focus on finding my life purpose after taking Leo's Life Purpose Course: Help me if you can by reply on that thread. I hope this information really help you all who suffer with ocd, anxiety, or other neurotic symptoms. For me is effective, rather waste a lot time for other solutions that didn't work. The key here: Is let the thought, and don't do any compulsions or try to control them. Let thought be thought, and have no meaning. Keep practicing and see the difference until you healed. The obsession will lose their power. Hope it helps! Thank you Glad to share experience here, i made it with ERP and you can too : )

@Matt23 I think what excited and motivate me is creating content about personal development and share to the world, but i lack of skill on this domain, so make me hard to get income. I also not so passionate about coaching or speaking, i loving doing it online. Sometime i confused, what make the work meaningful, impactful and we became influence on it? I just think personal development meaningful because it is connected with life and reality, and we talk about it, try to understand and try make the best life as possible. But i didn't know how other field are meaningful enough too, for example automotive, aerospace, music, video game, health, overcoming poverty are meaningful too. I keep thinking if someday i will die, so what worth pursuing and doing for hours for it in life? For example, i'm good at internet marketing, i'm passionate about it, and i can make money or get followers. But what meaningful about helping people or company to market their business digitally? It is worth for my one life just because i'm good and gifted at it? I didn't have impact statement on this. I need understand to make world better place and what influence can i give from my potential. I interested on inspiration and the feeling of meaningful, or connect with reality/life. When i look on @Leo Gura for example, he have very inspiring purpose. Or when i watch this channel: People say we must become self aware, so we need understanding who we actually are versus who we need/want to be. Yes i overthinking about it, maybe because i think, thinking and finding about life purpose is worth for the only one life we have. I do exploring, contemplating, research, journaling about it, even work with psychologist. Maybe i need time to understanding and get perspective. Although i know i already even explore many type of profession or occupations available, i do by read book, watching how they work, try their work in practice, do journal about their work, but still don't get it. And from my 4 things above on my thread (passion, skill, impact, money), entrepreneur is my life purpose, but i didn't sure what field i will work on. I love the hustle, i have skill on few field so i can earn profits, but what meaningful impact/influence is what make me keep thinking. I hope you understand what i mean. I will find my way : ) @SamC What i do when i don't have to do anything? I think it's learning, spend time with someone i love and love me back, connecting with God with meditation. And for others, i think i entertain them with singing or talk with speaking. I don't think my answer can give me clue what my purpose is But yeah, i keep asking question to myself, friend. On Leo's Life Purpose course, there are exercise about 100 most questions we ask about life, we also need answer what our zone genius, impact statement etc. It helps me but feel still need more to find clarity what works on me. @ItsNick Yes that's true. It's when we too much thinking but didn't get anywhere. But for me, i will find it if i put in the work for finding solutions even takes time. I'm actually already doing something different in last 7 years, sometime it works, sometime is no. I fail, and try again. Of course i will keep going, thank you I just beginning finding deeply about my life purpose last month btw, i hope i will find it sooner. I just want to wake up in the morning, and being motivated about what i will do this day, and when i wanna sleep at night, at the end of the day, i just thinking that i already doing something good today. Feels good, but need work to find it. I keep asking: What i passionate about? What my skill, talent, and gift? What impact and influence i wanna give? Is this will get outcome? And i answer this question: Entrepreneur Social media Those two answers are overlap from my 4 questions, but i still didn't know what field or niche i will work on. When i answer with Internet marketing, i feel didn't have fulfilling influence When i answer with work on personal development, i lack on skill When i answer with another field/niche is still can't overlap. I hope you guys help me find clarity. Sorry if feel complicated, but i love to make it simple. Thank you : D

Thank you for responses on my thread before https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/50209-advice-to-letting-go-of-pure-o-ocd/, it helps, many insight and i appreciate. And the answers before might works, suits or similar if apply on this thread, but by continuing with start new thread using more specific question, plus new understanding, i think can get better outcome. After contemplating, i ask myself: what the most important question to ask people for dealing with pure o ocd? Then i get that the question is from what the sufferer fear the most. And of course the answer here not as medical advice, but will help others in almost same condition. From a general perspective (self-help), you as friend / forum member. So it's not only for me, but apart from my story, your reply can be read for others too. After i search, there are many suffers with ocd on this forum, also a lot of silent reader / guest who views from different reference until found Actualized personal development forum. On my case (i am courage try not be ashamed to share here), while i doing work or activity, i have sexual obsession; a naked images about people/ friend in the past who i didn't like (some man) because was bullied me for example. Please notice, i'm not traumatic, won't forgiving, or can't love others since i have people as obsession on previous thread like someone i respect. So trauma is not the main cause here, but on the horrible thought that can't stop. Almost 16 hours a day for last 8 month unless i sleep or forgot. Sometimes i am accidentally think naked images while analyzing to found solution (not as intrusive thought) and make me feel wrong. And guilt more sins if happen on cause effect way. Instead of letting go, my thought want destroy myself. So, the key problem is in the work/ life which i think are important is believed or understand as contaminated with naked thought, especially if i remember on future. For example, "Oh i started this 6 years project while i have naked thought person i hate. Damn...!". My problem is described as emotional or mental contamination http://www.psychologyandbehavior.com/ocd-starting-over-compulsions-undoing/ even act way continuously spread, such when one of my activity contaminated by negative thought (for example: going to coffee and having bad thought), so while i doing work then remember going to coffee shop it make my job contaminated too. In the past, i learn concept on my religion; that work can't be blessed by God if we doing bad at the same time. Then this is trigger my thought to think bad, particularly porn about people i know. Now, i'm not care about bless instead become very unpleasant. I even feel good if imagining cute girl LOL. That's case make me anxiety and doing compulsions like repeating small task over and over again until have no negative thought. So my main fear is not on the thought, but on contaminated work or something in life (activity/ idea) that i think is matter. This is why hard to me for doing exposure or acceptance, even just aware. Many said that the neurotic solution is by going meta because ego is the root problem. And this disorder can gave opportunity for true grow. But yeah, based from own personal experience, is difficult to work on newbie like me. When you feel contaminated on your work, what you gonna do on the same situation? Without or to prevent from compulsion. I know it seems irrational. All fear is relative and imaginary. How can thought contaminating activity or my decision. While i try to not give any power on the thought, because are uncontrolled, meaningless, and make stuck on guilt, it's hard, excuse me or sorry if i stubborn. And when something is more important and thought are more worst, it get harder to let go. Seems like i have no choice between reacting a.k.a being stupid or rationalize disgust about my life. If i doing nothing, what attitude i gonna hold. That's why i am asking. It's not mean i ask the same problem again or make overthink. But need different insight from different kind of question. I am aware perhaps there are many advice, but strong or not depend on me, so i must really committed to get healed. If any mistake from everything i said, apologize, i also on the way of learning and practice to love myself : ) nb: after bunch of research, try some method, doing many healthy habits, even just keep on routine and stop trying then hoping can heal or reduce itself, seek help including psychological counseling and alternative medicine, i have plan go to psychiatrist next time. I will keep going, through live on place which rare for mental help options, on social distancing time, also grind with financial problem. I believe there are hope. The reply which posted here will help a lot as tips for my next treatment. And others too. I just realize that if we got certain problem, especially internal, you need seek help as much as you possibly can. We can't do it all alone. Much Love <3 Sandy

@bejapuskas Thanks for such loving words Yeah, i almost losing all hope but still believing there a sun. Although very difficult right now. Yep, it's not too odd for know globally, on my environment mostly focus on materials improvement. I get support from my several relationship, which is little good. I will persue my dream, that i think i capable and deserve. I already doing what most didn't do for years. But this obstacle trying to stop me. I believe i will get healed and continue normal life again and contribute. <3