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You do know what to do start believing in yourself and your decisions, if your in a toxic relationship you need to address it asap, if you really love the person and feel it can be worked through stay with her but if its just turned petty and dysfunctional and your clearly holding each other back you both need to go your septate ways, simple. Don't over complicate this and don't let fear hold you back.

Do you live in a big city? and are you taking about in the daytime? I would suggest visiting a big city near you with a friend on the same journey and spend a few hours approaching directly all the girls you find attractive, it will be very scary at first but once you do this enough times you realise its not really much of a big deal at all. You will also be shocked at how easy it can be to strike up a convo with a complete stranger. Note you want to do this in a city where no one knows who you are, a big city like London or New York. In terms of daily challenges where you live this can be quite tricky if its a small place as you don't want to get a rep. However if it is a small place just go out at night and you can get away with approaching girls you find attractive a lot easier, again find a friend who will help you approach. However if you live in a big city you have to just go out there and get use to hitting on girls you like, don't beat around the bush be clear with your intention in what you want to get out of this. Also note this is all an internal battle, you need to start doing inner work on why you get nervous around attractive girls, it will probably revolve around things like self esteem and not believing you are enough. Start working on changing your internal dialogue.

Yes I have been very very lucky in life compared to how things could be

So to round this thread up, stay well clear of anything related to MGTOW, red pill and Incel. Unless you want to add some extra suffering to your life. I use to be a dating coach back in the day and have a lot of real world experience regarding dating ect, MGTOW dose not really represent real life very well and I'm yet to meet an emotionally healthy loving person into MGTOW. Just save yourself the hassle, you have been warned.

Its just not a fight worth fighting, MGTOW will not add happiness to your life. Its not even worth debating, if peace, freedom, happiness and love is what you want wouldn't it be wiser to just pursue a spiritual path and find peace within and just ignore petty traps like MGTOW and feminism. There are millions of amazing women out there to you can have relationships with if you want that, of course there are some that will try and shame you ect but there are just as many that won't. The problem is the media dose not represent real life and most people will not shame you to your face if you act masculine they will like you for it. MGTOW and feminism are on the same level of conciousness. A thing to try out if your interested for some reason in MGTOW is basically go do a 60 day solo meditation retreat and see if you give a flip about MGTOW when you come out.

Great points, very beneficial to a lot of people

Another example of this is Brain Rose form the podcast show London real, watch some of his early postdates to now

Mike Tyson and Rashard Evans are now entering the path, both are working with 5meo dmt and hopefully have started some kind of practice. Check out hotboxing podcast with Tyson and Rashard Evans.

No benefits whatsoever stay clear of anything to do with MOGTOW, redpill ect. The problem is MOGTOW can look like it has value with the idea of not having a partner and focusing on your own self growth but its deeply embedded with toxic ideology's regarding women and relationships. Avoid at all costs ahah, maybe go find some very emotionally healthy people who are living fulfilled lives and show them MOGTOW and see there reaction. Could email Sadguru and get his opinion on it

Think back to when you first met your current girlfriend, did you have a strong connection and attraction for her then? Because lets say you do leave her and go with the other girl it will be good at first but the same problems may arise with the new girl also when your 4 years in. If you want a strong relationship you have to look past the physical as that can never last. The most important thing to look for in a partner is that you are both on the same journey together of creating a more fulfilled life.

No problem at all, I actually have a few more experiences like this I can share with you if you like?

I know it was crazy. At the time I just put it down to being a random part of the trip. basically I kept imagining that he was going to completely loose his mind and become fully disabled when he gets older. I started crying for him for ages to the point I eventually had to be away from him on the trip, I could see he had a huge inner demons that would destroy him. I was actually going to tell his parents at the time but when the trip ended I just forgot about it. Basically fast forward 8 years this actually happened to him, he ended up mixing with the wrong people and became a bottomless drug addict, he completely lost his mind and needs 24/7 care. He is in and out of mental hospitals and has many different health problems. I lost touch with him not long after the music festival. Could of been a very spooky coincidence

Yeah go for it can be magical, but be carefully and do it responsibility, I have an insane trip report when I was 17 doing San Pedro and lsd at a music festival that had some bumpy rides due to me being immature. I went into a very heavy drum and bass tent and things got very dark, everyone turned into demons and my soul started to float up to the celling of the tent. I could even see into the future of the guy I was with and could see something terrible would happen to him in his later life which turned out to be true ten years later. I was grieving for his future pain and contemplated if I should tell his parents. I went to leave the tent as thing got to much then the DJ dropped could you be loved by Bob Marley and everyone turned into angles and I felt a very profound sense of love. I would say make sure your around someone who can look after you if things get little hairy and understand you might merge with the vibe of the music. Music festivals are a hellva lot of fun but most people don't go there to do spiritual work.

What about practising Shambhavi along with an intense meditation practice? would an hour of meditation then Shambhavi be a sweet spot or can there be dangers of mixing

@Chi_ great thank you, I will send them an email

@Chi_ Looks great, is there another one after February ? I would love to do it but not sure if I could be there by the 12th of July.

I'm planning on doing this also, leo's idea is good if you can afford it. I have done some research and there are a few places that you can literally just turn up to and meditate all day, I will go try and find the links. My friend is one a retreat now where you wake up at 3:30am and mediate all day until 10pm, I think its in Burma. Also there are Vipassana centres you could work at and take a course every 3 months. I think Sadgurus ashram would be a good shout. When are you planning on doing this? Note: Long retreats can be very challenging so make sure you have some smaller retreats under your belt first.

I remember hearing sadguru say if you have kids you have to let them grown naturally without you trying to interfere. He said we can never own children you have to let them be the way they are and let nature decide what is best for them. Rupert Spira said the same thing, he said he has never once told his son about none duality simply because his son never asked him. I think it should be taught in schools tho

Yeah it is true, I always go back and forth on the idea of just going celibate to progress my spiritual growth. I don't think you have to give up relationships to become enlightened but they can really be a massive distraction. Sadguru had a wife but she passed away, I wonder if he would of been as successful if she was still alive.

I found if you learn how to access very deep blissful states such as jhanas and shamadi they really make you loose interest in sex and women as its so much more blissful. Just out of interest what's your opinion on having a committed intimate relationship with someone who is also on the same path as you?

I actually went through this when I was your age and I had also just gotten into spirituality. However I set some time aside to really focus on becoming more confident socially and having intimate relationships ect but would still keep up a meditation practice.They go hand in hand which is good. Once I got it sorted it was a huge weight off my shoulders. You want to be careful your not trying to bypass the problem, it would be much more valuable to learn how to connect with people and have intimate relationships then look at transcending it before you have even had any experience with it. You need to find out when you try and isolate people and work on fixing it. To completely transcend your sexual desires is very advanced and may well take years or life times so don't beat yourself up, do some self love practices and get yourself out there.

Yes definitely, it should be enough to motivate you to realise the self. I never fell into the solipsism trap I was more stuck on the belief of there being hard matter, that was my driving force to realise the truth as living in a materialistic world seemed to just be full of suffering. Good luck brother on your journey, I have a feeling you are going to do very well

Even if that is true, why would you worry about it now.

ah man that's amazing, sounds like you are naturally very aware. Something inside you has obviously draw you to this. The thing is its all our conditioning that keeps us away from the truth, we have to unlearn everything and start using our own experience as the test for truth. If you use your direct experience as the measurement of truth everything Leo is saying is actually completely obvious, its all our own ideas and beliefs that get in the way. As yourself do you wake up to a world each morning or dose a world wake up within you each morning? Have you every experienced anything outside of yourself? and can you ever? Ah dude yeah defo thats it, we have been asleep our whole lifes until we wake up. Keep going your doing great

Exactly, your everything. Its funny because its always been this way its staring us right in the face. Everything in experience is you and experienced by you. I always find analysing dreams a way to understand this, imagine the last dream you had, everything in the dream was all you, why do you think its any different now.