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Yes. I find that I'm frequently bored or annoyed by other people, even people I really like and love. But it's not their fault. They don't see what I'm starting to see. I'm not better than them because I see the pointlessness of, say, gossip or talking politics. I like to utilize the time I'm in those positions to dig around my own mind, find crappy beliefs and kick them out. Some people notice (and some don't like) that I don't talk as much, or have great advice for them anymore. I've got better advice than I've ever had for people before, but they don't like it! Haha! In my most important relationships, I am very careful to be compassionate. I realize that they are still so stuck in illusion. I can't allow them to pull me into it with them, but if I really love these people, I won't abandon them either. I'm careful about judging. I do still judge a lot, but at least I'm becoming aware of those thoughts so I can try to find out the whys. Perhaps you are like me, and working on patience should be a top priority! It makes it easier to handle those situations, because frankly, moving into a cave and becoming a hermit is rarely a viable option. P. S. There are plenty of people here who like to think they are figuring out how this all actually works, but are clearly talking out of their asses. Don't lose your discrimination just because it's a forum for hopeful "enlightened people".

Lucid dreaming is something I've been able to do since I was a child. However, it's always been unintentional. When I've tried to do it on purpose, I always fall asleep normally. I have accidentally fallen into a lucid dream while meditating, but can't do it intentionally (so far, anyways). That said, I am off the opinion that dreams are fun and interesting and can give you insight into unconscious fears and emotions. You can use that information while you are awake to dig into core beliefs and solve problems. I don't believe that you can fix anything by lucid dreaming. You take the information the dream gives you and put it to use awake or you won't see any change.

In my experience, people who have a truly weak work ethic (versus people who are just lazy or lack motivation for the particular task at hand) are people who feel entitled or better than others. So, to figure it out for yourself, you need to watch your patterns and figure out your attitude about getting work done. It might just be that you truly hate what you are doing - and there's nothing wrong with that. But if you discover that deep down you feel that you just shouldn't 'have to' do it, you gotta get rid of whatever beliefs you have that make you too important for it. ... It's harder to explain than I thought when I first decided to respond to this topic, ha! But in my experience as a boss especially, there was a big difference in the amount and kind of problems I had with lazy workers vs the ones who thought they were too good for the job.

@jms0717 That is funny!

I agree that following your feelings in the moment is the best technique of all. It takes so much practice, but it's amazing the thoughts you realize you're having and how they impact every moment.

It is hard! And I've had things that I thought I had dealt with come back up again feeling bad as ever. So I do it again. And some of the big things I do think I finally let go. Time will tell, of course, but life is better. I feel better. That's enough for right now.

I think when it crosses the line from being for 'fun' to feeling like you need to have it for any reason, you gotta figure that out so it doesn't become a problem. And I feel that's true for any sort of altering substance. There's no good or bad about it in itself. Neutral. It's how an individual uses that matters.

In my always humble opinion, she's got some things right. Other things, not so much. I think most people would benefit from some of the things she's trying to teach. Some of it is the same as Leo speaks about, she just has a different delivery!

You have to forgive and let go of the past. It's the only way to heal completely. It takes practice and work. You have to be willing to swim through your old pain, but it is so sweet to come out the other side. I would suggest perhaps finding some books or websites on codependency. It might be a place to start understanding why you do what you without realizing it. Best wishes!

You just need to learn how to use your emotional triggers to figure out what the belief you hold is that is causing your distress. 'What is the worst case scenario of this thing I'm 'overthinking' about? Why am I so concerned?'. Let's say you get to "Things always go badly for me.". Okay, is it true? If not, tell yourself it's a lie and move on. If it seems true, question why. Is it maybe only true because you've told yourself to believe that?

@Pallero Those are things that you will understand once you experience it. You really have to stop and ask yourself why you feel defensive? What did the person say that upset me, and why does it make me feel upset?". But you have to be totally self honest. Why hide the truth from yourself? But we do. And it can be so hard to admit, even to yourself, that you are totally responsible for what your life is. And that is stuff that goes so deep, but it will really change your life and how you see your world.

I share many of the same problems. I'm working on it! I'm finding it best to work on just one big thing or a couple little things at a time. Humans are such liars about being good multi-taskers. I enjoyed your video! I think you must have a great sense of humor! Grow it, it's going to be your best friend forever!!

When I came into enough awareness of my mind I realized there was a voice chirping up in the background that was telling me the people I was with thought I was awkward/ugly/stupid/something ridiculous and untrue. Holy cow, what a powerful discovery! Now I'm aware of those thoughts. And I notice them when I get into a social situation, especially with new people. Lo and behold, I feel more confident and comfortable. I can push through that anxiety and put myself out there. The more you do it, the better you feel! (Did anyone else just think 'so eat some beans with every meal'? No? Just me?) Start questioning yourself "Why do I feel anxious?", "Why am I so damned awkward? ". The answers you get are amazing. Keep getting rid of every belief that is holding you back!

I think the video would need to be clear on what respect MEANS and IS. I feel like most people don't understand anymore what respect is. They just want to be put on a pedestal and treated as if they are special.

You can dismiss the thought, but until you deal with whatever problem the thought is trying to get you to deal with, it will come back. Eventually you need to face the thought, ask what it is about the thought that is upsetting and follow it to the core belief that you need to get rid of. Then you will be free of those thoughts truly and permanently.

If it doesn't make you miserable, then why should you care what other people think? You are letting others make you think there's something wrong with you. You gotta let that stuff roll right off your back! Now, if they are pointing out a problem you aren't aware of yet, it might do you some good to consider why someone would say that. I have had a tendency to overthink and create problems that didn't exist. I would get mad when I was told I was thinking about it too much... That feeling of being mad about the comment was an alert being sent to me by my own self to realize that I was indeed causing myself trouble. So, I try very hard to not do it so much. If someone says I am overthinking but I don't feel upset by their comment, then I know their comment is false.

I seriously just get up. Lucky for me, I realized as a teenager how dumb it was to set my alarm hours early just so I could hit snooze three more times! If I allow myself even a moment to think about anything before I get out of bed, it's hard to get up. So, when the alarm goes off, I sit up, turn it off, get up and start the day.

Realize that we all want the same thing in life - to be happy! We all do the best we can with what we know to do. You are not better than anyone else. Ever. No matter the justification your ego conjures up. Remind yourself of that every time you try to judge. And then refocus on observing without judgment. It takes practice, awareness. Getting stuck feeling like you are better than others isn't a place you want to be, so you may have to keep reminding yourself until the phase passes. Personally, I like to consider the other person's side. Why do they behave that way? Don't inject my own 'well, I think it should be this way'. I also avoid expressing my opinion unless it's necessary, or I've been asked. It helps develop your own ability to be compassionate and patient. I've done so many things without realizing what I was doing. I'm learning better now, it makes me a better me, not better than them.