JustThinkingAloud

I'm happily my partner's "doormat" and he's happily my "doormat". We just love each other enough not to abuse it.

I freaked out because it came out of blue but afterwards I realised that it was just my imagination and there's nothing to worry about. Now, I just keep letting it go a bit a time and everything is fine. We used to have when we were kids all the time.

@Raptorsin7 I would slowly let it go/release. If you keep holding on to it, it might let go on its own and you'll get surprised and could freak out. It's nothing scary, just slowly let the energy go, a bit at a time. Trust the nature, it's got it all figured out.

The only competition I believe in is competition with my old self and even then I prefer enjoyment as we usually get better on our own just through repetition. Enjoyment makes the improvement faster.

You'll eventually start doing it subconsciously. That means you'll be doing it without even knowing you're doing it, it will become automatic.

Every progress counts, no matter how small or big. Progress is a proof that your life is getting better and that you're doing the right thing. The more you appreciate/celebrate your progress, the more you'll get "addicted" to it and be motivated to progress more and more.

And men are very precious and beautiful too. Thank you for your post

I think that every idea or belief should be tested through practice to avoid being manipulated.

I did have a project in mind before I started learning. I wanted to do an app for my partner and his business. He needed to have his customers information organised. He does motorcycle suspension, so for every customer, every type of bike, he needed technical information available on his mobile. He had over 10,000 different setups in an old fashioned CardFile so it needed some serious update. I didn't have any coding background but the textbooks cover it from beginners level to an advanced level.

From a textbook. Wrox has some really good ones. A lot of activities in them too. Also, stackexchange is really good when you get stuck. I did try to do it formally but it would've take too long and I'd have to do a lot of unnecessary subjects.

Time to have some fun, there's no need to take everything seriously. Enjoy the little pleasures, they are as important as big achievements because they keep you going and motivated. A little step at a time, that's all it needs.

I notice a lot of suffering too. I at least try to cheer them up a little bit but ultimately it's their choice to be there. It's not our responsibility to do things for other people, their life is their responsibility. Of course, I like to help as much as I can but I can't do the actions for them. We can't help everyone we meet, we all need our lessons to wake us up and start creating better lives.

At this moment, yes.

@Justine Our ego needs persuasion and constant reminders for it to fully change. You'll learn how to notice that it's coming back and "nip it in the bud". It will eventually fully go but it just needs some more work. You've learnt your lesson, it'll be much easier next time.

Thank you for a very detailed information. And yes, when we go right to the source there are difference due to different "roles" of male and female. It does really help to go the source to understand what is really going. Social conditioning can make things very confusing.

This one deserves double Don't let it hurt you too much, we've all been there, it's a part of being human.

I grew up without the internet. Every time I wanted to know something or do something new, I had to ask people around me or go to the library. That of course was never enough for me so in the end, I had to figure things out on my own by trying millions of different things till I hit it right. So I’m just wondering about the new generation. There’s nearly unlimited information on the internet so how do they decide when they know enough to go and actually do things?

Nothing personal, no need to make it personal but if you would like me to ignore you, that's fine with me.

Wow, I haven't notice that you are a moderator. ????

Oh well, if you don't want to hear that we're not that different and want to keep confusing it for yourself, that's up to you.