JustThinkingAloud

Do something about it! It’s not right what they’re doing! That’s bullying. Keep trying to fix it or leave. You might not be able to fix it right away but you’ll get better at it with experience. Try asking questions like: What is your problem? What’s wrong with what I’m doing? What have I done to you? Or even stating: I’ve heard that. That’s wrong what you’re doing. Mind your own business. Get over it. That’s not your problem what I’m doing. Every little bit counts, you'll eventually get there. Environment like this is not good for you. Not that you should care what they think, it’s all wrong what they are saying but it’s hard to constantly ignore this negativity, you have better things to do with your energy. Just make sure you don’t ever step down to their level but you still have to do something. People like that shouldn’t get away with it, that’s wrong! I wouldn’t really care why they’re doing it, it’s hard to understand mean people.

I’d give Biology a go, just make sure that it’s really what you want. You won’t lose the years you studied English, the knowledge will stay with you and you still have your Masters. You can still use that in case things won’t work out with Biology.

If you expect the “reality” to give you life purpose, you need to dream “realistic” goals or at least “realistic” steps towards that goal so you get some satisfaction. I believe that doing what makes you and other people happy is our life purpose. You get motivation to become great at it and other people get what makes them happy and even pay you for it. You make the world happier place. I’ll never stop trying, if I get there great, if I don’t at least I know I’ve done my best and probably helped someone else to be great or continue from where I finished. Once you give up, that’s it, you remove your chances of getting what you want.

Pushing myself doesn’t work for me. I find a way that makes me want to do things. I focus on the final result that I really want that makes me want to do even what I don’t like doing. It’s also a good double check that what I’m doing is productive and leads to getting what I want. I also create a daily/weekly etc routine, that way I don’t have to think what to do next or whether I have done enough. It keeps it more balanced and less emotional.

Deal with your thoughts and emotions beforehand. Imagine any situation you could be facing and find a solution how to deal with it before it actually happens. This way you’ll be prepared and will know what to do when it actually does happen. It takes practice as everything but it can help quite a lot.

I don’t think truth and happiness are mutually exclusive. You can have both if you want to. You’re the one in control of your happiness. We can be quite resilient when we want to. In any situation, we can always find some happiness or hope. Of course, it’s much easier to be happy when we actually get what we want. So if it’s the truth you want, the natural reaction is to get happy when you find it or get closer because you got or are closer to what you wanted. With fulfilment, it depends how high your goal is. If you just want to find the ultimate truth, you might not ever get fulfilment. But there’s still a way around it, appreciate progress, every step closer to the ultimate truth is a sign that you’re getting there and a proof that you’re on the right track and you can make that fulfilling too. Progress is great because it makes you closer to your goal. Personally, if I had to choose, I choose truth because I can’t be genuinely happy without it. Things get quite confusing and unpredictable without knowing the truth.

There’s another possibility. Actions speak much louder than words. He still wants to be with you. He could be just scared of the attachment while he still wants to stay. Why else he’s still with you? He did say he doesn’t like the attachment, he didn’t say he doesn’t like you. As you said, he has an issue which might be related from his upbringing. I think it’ll be very hard to get a commitment out of him but is it really that important. There’s no guarantees when it comes to the future, so many men “commit” and don’t deliver. Is it really that bad to not “commit” but deliver. But of course, be careful and make sure that his actions do show love.

Missing someone that you love when they’re not around is completely fine. Would you really love them if you were happy that they’re not around? Being completely hopeless when they’re not around might be a sign of a problem.

Me and my partner half retired when we were 33. Half retired because we still “work” but only on what we love doing. It gives us enough money to keep going but it’s not a luxurious life, we have to watch all our expenditures and be very good with money. We only spend on what we really love and necessities. We still prefer it to the hectic, stressful jobs. So if you really want this, I’d make and save as much money as possible in a shortest time possible. If you’re not sure, pick a more sustainable option that could give you at least some of the life you want and see what you can do with it.

Yeah, do we really need many things? The less we have, the better for the planet!

Why don’t you take charge of one song and let him do another song. Listen to each other’s feedback but only one person can make the final call that relates to their song. You can’t really boss someone unless you have some kind of power over them (eg. can fire them, don’t give pay rise etc) and even then it’s hard to make people do what you want them to do when they don’t really want to do it.

I love that!

Try to go for a smaller purpose. I’ve settled for happiness for me and people around me so I try to do whatever leads to that. Start small and grow it as big as you want.

Maybe try to do something that matters now. Do you really need to care whether it will matter 12417291827 years, probably not many things will matter then. You don’t have to do it just for yourself, do it for others too. Maybe try to do something that you like doing and others benefit from it and even pay for it, that way you might feel that it’s worth it.

When I studied, I found the theory to be very boring. You study to do what you want to do after that, it’s not the study that you need to be passionate about, it’s the resulting job. If you really want to be a psychologist, you do need to study to become one but once you get there it’ll be all worth it!

I don’t think that the environment is that important that I would spend that much money on it. The environment only influences you as much as you let it. I also can’t see why universities in the US would be that bad. If you’re so worried about the environment, you can study online where the only influence will be the environment you create. University studies are only few years, I don’t think it’s long enough to influence you in a major way. Maybe you’re worried that you might lose interest or won’t be able to pass the subjects if the environment is not right but it’s up to you how well you do and to keep yourself interested. If you need help with that you can pay for a good life coach or a therapist or a tutor, it still will be cheaper.

You can be who you want to be if you put the effort into it. If it’s really important to you to be like Tony Robins, you can. And yes, it takes work, time, energy that you take away from other projects that you might have. It really depends on how much you want it and whether you are prepared to put a lot of effort into it. Another thing is whether you personally have a problem with your solitude. Sometimes, the society can put a pressure on us to be certain way, I don’t agree with that. It’s up to you and you should be the one that decides who you want to be or accept who you have become. Have you also tried to see the benefits of being the way you are? Introverts are great listeners, they have a calming effect, they are big thinkers, they are reliable and consistent etc

The younger we are, the less information is stored in our brains. That’s why we don’t have a problem believing in Santa when we are kids. We don’t know any better. The older we get and collect more information about the world around us, the harder it is to believe in something that contradicts our stored information.

Very funny, thank you haha I'm trying not to picture that! haha I feel naked!

I’ve always been different, I got high IQ, I love to be honest. All these keep getting me into trouble so I try not to show it. Now you have it! Most of the people find it scary, annoying, intimidating etc Wow, I can’t believe I said it, now I might be in trouble again, all your fault! Haha (weird ?!?!)

Great! Out expectations can sometimes fail us but you still had some great time. Awesome

It’s you subconscious, it’s still you. Keep persevering with changing your mind and it will happen. It does need some time to get persuaded.

You didn’t get the love you wanted/needed. I’m really sorry about that as every child should get lots of love. Luckily, you still have whole your life ahead of you and plenty of time to get the love you want. Be open to love, make it easy for people to love you, appreciate the love you get and reward it with loving back so they keep loving you. It might take some time to find the love you want and be open to it but it can be done. All the best!

You don’t have to choose one thing if it all works for you. The only thing to watch out for is that you don’t do too many things. Not only that it can be exhausting, you might not become as good at something as you could if you put all your focus into one thing.

I don’t fully understand what is your problem with your mother. What are/were the reasons for your arguments? Me and my partner grew up in dysfunctional families, it really helps knowing what the real source of the problem is. Now, when you’re older, it’s easier to look back and analyse what actually happened. Also, it’s easier to remove a problem when you understand the cause.