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It really depends how big you want to go. A charity is a huge administration task and it’s usually very heavily regulated by governments. Another option is a foundation or a not-for-profit organisation that is much easier to set up but the donations you give to a foundation aren’t usually tax deductible. Another option is to just give the money directly to the cause but again it’s not tax deductible. I’d still check the laws in your country.

How do you know that? You could actually be the one who creates a huge difference in the world, you’ll never know till you try and while trying there’s nothing wrong with feeling happy and making other people feel happy. You got this life that you can do great things with, why to waste it?

I think this might be your problem. This “drama director” is you, you’ve created this believe and making it happen to make yourself right (our mind loves being right). Shut him up, prove him wrong, send him somewhere, tell him to …. off! Once that's done, you can be who you want to be. I know that it's easy said but it can be done, we all constantly creating ourselves. We don't mysteriously become someone, we create ourselves, sometimes without realising that we do. Life can be very rewarding once you know what to do with it.

That's great!

To me resistance exists to prevent quick spontaneous changes. Imagine if there wasn’t resistance and you could change everything whenever you feel like it. Things would constantly change and it would create chaos. Resistance ensures that only good changes happen, the ones that are created by persistence and work.

Can you just take a break from the band to do what you need to do? You’re young, I’d try many different things, it’s easier to do it now when you don’t have kids, mortgage etc. I wouldn’t make any permanent decisions yet, things can change.

Which one sounds more enjoyable to you? Enjoyment will make it much easier to progress and to do the work.

Also, you shouldn’t have kids just for the sake of it. Kids need lots of love, a good guidance and it costs a lot of money and time. Once you know that you can give all that, it’s great time to have kids!

A lot of parents think they know everything better than you because they’re older and have more experience. They also want to prevent you from getting hurt by getting attached to a girl that doesn’t love you back. Maybe don’t share everything with them when you want to do it on your own and don’t want their advice. You can predict their reaction and if you want them to be happy with what you’re doing, share only the things that will make them happy.

It's much easier to keep doing something when you actually enjoy doing it. I'd also analyse what thoughts make you stop. There might be a hidden fear or some kind of a limiting belief that stops you.

I like this one. Also be honest and specific, it has to be a genuine compliment that doesn't involve her physical appearance. It's great to turn her negatives into positives. Maybe try "I love spending time with you doing so and so or talking about so and so."

Maybe try to replace it with something else. It might take a while to find a suitable thing but it’s easier to replace it than to remove it.

Maybe try to get the first one out of the way and then do the more exciting things on the second or third go. Also when you're young and it's a new relationship it's quite normal. I think it's actually a compliment, it shows that you find her irresistible.

I’d have a look at what she specifically did to make you feel like that. And also, what did you expect her to do so you can compare and find out whether there’s a problem. You can ask her directly whether you’ve done something wrong. Also, you can ask other people that you trust whether they agree with you or whether they know something.

Welcome! Just the fact that you made this post shows that you have a loving side. Nobody’s perfect, we all keep learning how to do things better way and this post shows that you want to learn and that’s great! It’s a bit hard in your situation to get it right straight away, keep fine tuning so you’re the way you want to be. All it needs is practice and patience I used to have a big problem with being brutally honest and probably still do, I’m slowly learning how to “sugar coat” things and I also realised that not everything has to be said.

We are all different and different things work for us. We are all valuable human beings and deserve respect because every single one of us can become great at something! Just because people aren’t like you or doing things different way or you don’t like them doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them. Let them do their thing and focus on your thing and everyone should be happy

I consider everyone selfish and good relationships are the ones that both parties benefit from. Once someone starts losing, it goes all wrong. If you want to keep good relationships with others, you need to give as much as you get and they need to give as much as they get. At this moment, you’re way too busy to do what they expect you to do and there’s no problem with it if it’s a short term situation. I’d ask others to let me do what I need to do and promise them that once it’s over, I’ll make up for everything and then I’d deliver on the promise. You can also try to come up with different arrangements that would work for both parties. If this is not a short term situation, you might have to do some adjustments. What do you want more? Do you really need to do that much to get what you want? If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll probably lose these relationships but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I’d prefer few quality relationships than a lot of superficial ones. Also, think of your physical and mental health, can you keep living life like this and keep yourself healthy? Stress can be a very dangerous thing.

Maybe it’s an opportunity to fix the problems with the industry. You could prove how keeping animals happy is beneficial for the industry. Just an idea I’d still look for ways how to get out of it and once you find a way then I’d leave this project.

It’s your fantasy so you’re in charge what happens. It might be very hard to implement in practice though. But hey, anything can happen when you really want it. Just that the more you want, the harder you have to work on it. And as long as everyone involved knows what’s going on and are happy with it, I don’t see a problem. Where there’s one, there’s many?

I’d ask myself “Why is that?” or “What makes you think/feel like that?” If you want to get rid of that feeling, you need to find the source. It’s much easier to fix it when you exactly know what’s going on in you mind. And it’s great that you still decided to heal, the earlier you start, the earlier you can get on with your life and enjoy it.

I agree that you need to find a balance as you seem to get quite exhausted with the overconfident side of you. I think you’re on the right track, keep fine tuning and you will eventually find the balance that works for you. Your confidence is real at that moment because you feel it and you act like it. You can control it once you learn what exactly it is that triggers it. Have a look what actually happens or what thoughts you had when you became confident, that will help you to understand it.

It does take some time to change strong habits especially smoking. Are you progressing towards what you want? If you do, that’s great because you’re doing the right things, if not, try to find a different way of doing it.

I’d try to do the tricky work first while I still have my focus and then do the easy work when I’m more tired.

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