JustThinkingAloud

How advanced the new information is? Our knowledge builds up from basics to more advanced. If you don’t fully understand the basics, the advanced knowledge can be quite confusing. Maybe step back and review you basic knowledge to see whether you’ve missed on some information or understanding and then build up from that.

We still need skilled people in the renewable energy field and at this moment it’s something that you can actually do. You might not see the results now but you surely have my appreciation for doing it. It’s great that you want to help people too but as any other profession, it needs a new set of skills that you need to learn before you can do it. Maybe just try to do it first and see how it goes before you make a permanent decision.

Have you fixed the reasons why you were rejected? If yes, then it’s great, you should be proud of that as you have become a better person, a new you that is much different to the person you used to be. If not, it might be easier to fix the cause. Trying to ignore the fact that you get rejected and hoping that it won’t happen again will not work. There needs to be some change. Once you fix the cause, you’ll become a better person for it and will have more confidence that it won’t happen again and can start enjoying your life.

@Harikrishnan Here's pdf and html versions of the book, that might make it easier to read. The questionnaire is an exe file so no, you can't run it on a mobile.

This book and related material helped me a lot when I was going through very tough times. It's really very generous of him that he gives it all away for free. You Can Choose To Be Happy: "Rise Above" Anxiety, Anger, and Depression by Tom G. Stevens PhD "You Can Choose To Be Happy" Self-Development Plan The Success and Happiness Attributes Questionnaire (SHAQ)

Maybe start with what’s real to you. Our thoughts, emotions and actions are real to us.

This is what I do: Have a dream – it has to be the ultimate wish, no compromises, it has to feel awesome every time you imagine it. This is not a goal, goals are more realistic, when you have a dream you shoot for the stars! This gives you motivation and drive to keep going and get through tough times. Don’t worry about details too much, it just has to feel awesome, you’ll work on details as you go. Have next couple of steps towards it – this is what you work on, think about, analyse, learn, research etc Celebrate every progress – your motivation is your biggest energy source, you need to keep feeding it

All up to you!

It really depends how big you want to go. A charity is a huge administration task and it’s usually very heavily regulated by governments. Another option is a foundation or a not-for-profit organisation that is much easier to set up but the donations you give to a foundation aren’t usually tax deductible. Another option is to just give the money directly to the cause but again it’s not tax deductible. I’d still check the laws in your country.

How do you know that? You could actually be the one who creates a huge difference in the world, you’ll never know till you try and while trying there’s nothing wrong with feeling happy and making other people feel happy. You got this life that you can do great things with, why to waste it?

I think this might be your problem. This “drama director” is you, you’ve created this believe and making it happen to make yourself right (our mind loves being right). Shut him up, prove him wrong, send him somewhere, tell him to …. off! Once that's done, you can be who you want to be. I know that it's easy said but it can be done, we all constantly creating ourselves. We don't mysteriously become someone, we create ourselves, sometimes without realising that we do. Life can be very rewarding once you know what to do with it.

That's great!

To me resistance exists to prevent quick spontaneous changes. Imagine if there wasn’t resistance and you could change everything whenever you feel like it. Things would constantly change and it would create chaos. Resistance ensures that only good changes happen, the ones that are created by persistence and work.

Can you just take a break from the band to do what you need to do? You’re young, I’d try many different things, it’s easier to do it now when you don’t have kids, mortgage etc. I wouldn’t make any permanent decisions yet, things can change.

Which one sounds more enjoyable to you? Enjoyment will make it much easier to progress and to do the work.

Also, you shouldn’t have kids just for the sake of it. Kids need lots of love, a good guidance and it costs a lot of money and time. Once you know that you can give all that, it’s great time to have kids!

A lot of parents think they know everything better than you because they’re older and have more experience. They also want to prevent you from getting hurt by getting attached to a girl that doesn’t love you back. Maybe don’t share everything with them when you want to do it on your own and don’t want their advice. You can predict their reaction and if you want them to be happy with what you’re doing, share only the things that will make them happy.

It's much easier to keep doing something when you actually enjoy doing it. I'd also analyse what thoughts make you stop. There might be a hidden fear or some kind of a limiting belief that stops you.

I like this one. Also be honest and specific, it has to be a genuine compliment that doesn't involve her physical appearance. It's great to turn her negatives into positives. Maybe try "I love spending time with you doing so and so or talking about so and so."

Maybe try to replace it with something else. It might take a while to find a suitable thing but it’s easier to replace it than to remove it.

Maybe try to get the first one out of the way and then do the more exciting things on the second or third go. Also when you're young and it's a new relationship it's quite normal. I think it's actually a compliment, it shows that you find her irresistible.

I’d have a look at what she specifically did to make you feel like that. And also, what did you expect her to do so you can compare and find out whether there’s a problem. You can ask her directly whether you’ve done something wrong. Also, you can ask other people that you trust whether they agree with you or whether they know something.

Welcome! Just the fact that you made this post shows that you have a loving side. Nobody’s perfect, we all keep learning how to do things better way and this post shows that you want to learn and that’s great! It’s a bit hard in your situation to get it right straight away, keep fine tuning so you’re the way you want to be. All it needs is practice and patience I used to have a big problem with being brutally honest and probably still do, I’m slowly learning how to “sugar coat” things and I also realised that not everything has to be said.

We are all different and different things work for us. We are all valuable human beings and deserve respect because every single one of us can become great at something! Just because people aren’t like you or doing things different way or you don’t like them doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them. Let them do their thing and focus on your thing and everyone should be happy