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I may use this on tournaments lol

Healthy attidute after break up, lyrics says it all ?

Leo has some good books from him on his booklist as well

Today I've done 3 approaches. I've had so much anxiety in my body. Jesus. But I'm happy I've done it. I really like the idea of 5 stages by Todd: 1. Open 2. Premise 3. Evaluate 4. Narrative 5. Close Today I've done just open and close. It was clear that premise was missing. I've used two openers: 1. Hey, I have one question. Who do you think lies more, men or women? 2. Hey, tell me a something you've been doing and liked when you were a child. Clearly, those are just sentences. But I need to start somewhere. Step by step. Tortoise wins the race. Even though I just had to say those sentences, I was so anxious. I don't find that as a bad thing though. I find it as a signal from my body that I'm doing a thing I'm not used to be doing. I don't find talking to strangers difficult. I find talking to girls at street 'difficult' (although it just feels that way, because I'm not used to it). My first approach was very uncalibrated. I jumped in front of them and I scared them LOL. They were like 'huh??'???(they were 2) and I asked them a simple question number 1. I was speaking so fast and I was so nervous. But it was a success. I was feeling so anxious. I left the conversation. They were very pretty. I felt the awkwardness at the end. But whatever. I'm happy I've done it. My second one was a quicker one. I used question number 2. I left first again. My third one was quick as well. I used question number 1. They were like 'why are you asking *us* this question?'. I answered because I'm learning to talk to strangers. And they left. I feel like I could approach like 10 more girls... but whatever. For the first time it's more than enough. Things to improve next time: • Learn to speak calmly, clearly, and talking the way they understand you. • Don't be afraid to do that. I love you and you can do this. It's like going to the gym for the first time? • Really. I know how you felt. That's alright though. Don't be afraid. TALK TO MORE WOMEN❤ • I really felt that after couple of seconds that premise was missing in a conversation. But I'd like to focus more on that open more. Master the open so I can move towards mastering a premise. • I have no problem creating conversations with women I'm sexually interested in my head. In real life it's just more emotionally difficult(different?)? • PRACTISE PRACTISE PRACTISE❤

I'm 17 years old high school INTP student and I've come to a point in my life where most of my thoughts and desires are about women and socializing. I descoved Leo a year ago and I've learned a lot from him since then. I've been doing personal development before him but he's made me to be doing it like going to church . I've already done a lot of self-help work because I was very shy and unconfident in my past. I come from Blue/Orange Christian background (I love my parents, they've been supporting me a lot, we've learned a lot together). In last year I've encountered a lot of emotional obstacles and they've made me to love and accept myself like never before... So, in this journal I'll write about my progress with pickup. I've known about pickup for a long time, but now I commit to it 100%. I've already done a couple approaches and I came down to conclusion that this is a thing I'm focusing on in next years. My favourite pickup, dating and realtionship coach is Corey Wayne, I've read his book "How to be a 3% man" already five times (atleast 10 times left ). Another channel about attraction stuff is YT channel "Develop attraction", I've bought their book and read it just once. And many others (RSD, Todd, Don Bacon, James Marshall, Dynamic Education [this one is in Czech language], etc...) . Other channels that I follow are Teal Swan and Ralph Smart (emotional mastery, spiritual development, self-awareness...), and of course Leo (I love his philosophy and his teachings, made me cry couple of times ), Joseph Rodrigues and a lot of other channels. I've had few crushes at my school but I came down to conclusion that they're not worth my time (wasted too much already ). I feel like school is such a distraction for me right now. I feel like I'm a smart intelligent guy (relative to others ofc ) with straight A's and I get a lot of approval from it and I do not like it, since I'm thinking about how much approval I get almost all the time during school days. I'm fed up with it like addicted rat on sugar. Of course, when someone diminishes me it affects me the opposite way. That's the thing I'm changing. I've studied Nathaniel Branded's work about self-esteem and it's been helping me a lot. Ye, I'm mostly extrinsically confident, not intrinsically right now, so I'm changing it (I've done a lot of progress already). I'm really into chemistry and biology, that's something what my life purpuse will be about (I've got Life Purpose Course, but I haven't started it yet since I have more fundamental (lower) desires right now, like sex and socializing). I have a close friend who is with me in this so I can set myself accountable and have emotional support in the beggining. I already have no problem approaching random people and asking them stuff, but I'm uncomfortable with approching girls about trying to know them (that's the sign I need to do it ) . I can practise pickup and socializing in 2 cities (with 90k and 240k people, I live near the 90k one, they're the largest I can afford to go to, they are 40 minutes away from each other with train transport, in my country I have free train tickets for slow trains as a student which is perfect for me). I don't find clubs and bars attractive, altough I may try them in a future. In this journal I'll write about my insights and my progress. Goals to accomplish: make atleast 10 approaches a week (funny thing is that I'm in a city almost every day, this number is possible to accomplish in one day) consciously setting time for approaching women atleast 3/4 times a week (WED, FRI, SAT/SUN) , otherwise I'll just approach when I'm coming home from school or just when hanging around make this approaching part of my daily basis meeting my social, sexual needs, self-esteem needs(with this one I'm currently codependent) becoming more emotionally independent (interdependent?) daily "do nothing meditation" (20 mins minimum) mindfulness meditation during a day integrating lower spiral stages (from red to green) integrating my shadows I project onto others slowly eliminating distractions and unnecessary addictions becoming my own best friend and therapist practising Self-Love reprogramming my subconscious mind rising my vibration towards unconditional Love becoming more authentic, expressive person becoming aware of my emotions and thoughts, observing them (disidentifying from them) aligning with my truest desires General Tactics: no fap (once a week fap ) trying to be as much authentic as I can in social interactions when I see a stranger on a street I'd like to approach I'll count 321 down to zero and start a conversation, I'll try to know her and if I like her I ask for her number or FB or IG or I just make her day , if it's a male I'll just make his day or ask something, no need to make dates there learning from my mistakes I'll try to find women who have high interests in me personally and vice versa and set up dates with them displaying masculine energy (with integrated feminine) changing my beliefs about realationships, women, socializing connecting with people and self-actualising, improving my social, emotional awareness using "negative" emotions to fuel my actions focusing both on results and progress adjusting my tactics towards goals I want to accomplish

Yes And thank you

@Waken thank you, helped a lot

Stage green on climate change, criticising stage Orange.

Thank you all?It has grown me.so much since... I'm in tears right now, tears of joy, so much relief, I just let go of control... pain is healing me...thank you❤

I've just turned 17 and I'm in 2nd grade on high school (4 grades total). I'm male, INTP, straight A's. During last 3 months in previous year I was going home with my classmate (girl) for like 20 minutes walk, just us two and we liked each other (as friends though, she even told me she has feelings for me, but I've told her that we're just friends and she was okay with that). One month after she confessed her feelings for me, we were still going home together and I started having feelings towards her. On a school trip she rejected me (last week of a previous school year). The rest of the week I started ignoring her and she started pursuing me, she eventually started liking me. When a summer holiday began, she wrote me that she wanted to go to bookstore with me, on that I wrote her that we won't see each other during holiday, that I've no interest in being friends (I was attracted to her) and she said okay. But then she started pursuing me again, she was writing me that she wants to go outside with me, she wants to see me, she even shared some new insights with me on the stuff we've discussed earlier. We couldn't see each other for a whole month though, because we went to the sea. After 1 month (on august) we finally went outside. There was a lot of shit testing. I've passed litterally none of them. But in my mind I started a fantasy. We went out 2 more times, everything in 2 weeks. When I wasnt with her, I fell in love with her. Literally. I mean, LOVE. I could've stared her in the eyes like enlightened god with my heart bumping 130/minute.. but we didn't see each other till the beginning of the school year. I thought that feelings would disappear, but they just become stronger. I've created an identity with her. In the beginning of a school year, I saw her, I just pretended like nothing and hugged her. I couldn't hold it anymore. I wrote her how I really felt. She wrote me a long compassionate message back, that she adores me for saying that to her and that she's okay with that and she lets me to have space. I had real heartbreak and I 'suffered' like I had real breakup. It's one month since and we're still not talking and I still have feelings fore her... I see her everyday (she's my classmate) and I'm becoming disfunctional. She has a boyfriend now. My class teacher noticed there's something wrong with me and I'm seeing psychologist soon, if that doesn't help I'll see psychiatrist and I'll be on pills, I'm becoming really disfunctional. Recently I've tried to distract myself and focus on myself. I've bought a life purpose course and started doing some work, but I think that I need to fall in love with someone else... This problem may sound silly but I'm in my teenage years and I'm learning all this stuff Thanks for all opinions and advices

Prešov, Slovakia

He has made a similar video on this topic

When you realize that failure makes you successful than you will stop complaining. It just takes a bit of work. Because of my the most devastating failure I started the whole self-actualization thing?

INTP as well, pretty damn accurate

I'm able to watch whole 6 hours about nonduality... if you can appreciate what's he talking about you can find that much more interesting... Without Leo I'd be stuck in stage Blue/Orange for my whole life... He has helped me with integration with both masculine and feminine... he has helped me with finding (no)meaning (aka being) in my life... without Leo I'd be such a different person...

Like solo retreats, huh?

Hello guys (and ladies)! Recently I've been doing a personality test, I think it helps me to understand myself better (in the beggining of the journey). I'm really into abstract models and stuff around that! So, is it possible that proggressing through spiral dynamics stages changes your personality? For example I'm clearly an INTP type. And I've been all my life. I'm slowly moving towards Green (which I'm glad for, because since my teens (lots of time whooo, I'm 16 now ) I've been "stuck" in blue and orange) and I'm starting to feel emotions towards other people. Could it be possible that I'm moving towards the INFP? (F=feeling) Or I'm just an INTP moving towards Green? Those tests are built on a way that a Green guy would almost always fall into F(=feeling) category. Thanks in advance!

He's posted video already about this topic, it's an older one though. It was posted 4 years ago, probably it doesn't answer your questions though.