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@jbram2002 I agree & that's why i want to understand why they do it. (tattoos)

@Salvijus What should i Practice then to dissolve the compulsions? Buy Crash course of inner engineering? I need something practical.

@Emerald Very interesting!

@universe How can i grow out of that?

@ivory I am not denying/suppresing or avoiding anything. Having sex/masturbating is overrated. It gives you a temporary pleasure & then you want to do it all over again. It never truly satisfies me. I just want to transcend it & be able to control it much better so it doesn't run my life. Also i want to accomplish 1 year of nofap/no sex because i notice tremendous benefits with semen retention. The positive effects are so big that it's not even funny.

@Aeris Should i become a monk? I don't want to yet...

@Leo Gura Lol What can i practice to overcome sex?

@Salvijus Ok so if i practice nofap for years is it safe & in my "biology" / "normal"? I ask because i am serious about doing at least 1 year nofap/no sex. It's a goal of mine. I notice very positive effects when i am on nofap mode. Only side effect is i get very horny after few weeks BUT even when i have sex or fap the lust never goes away.

@Salvijus After many days of nofap i ejaculate in my sleep while dreaming.

@Farnaby How can i work on my self-esteem?

@Shadowraix Well i have been rejected a lot from women in the past whenever i tried to make something happen. Few times i have been succesful but it never worked out in the long run. My childhood was kinda good. But i was never particularly good with women even though some girls wanted me. In highschool i was very shy with women.

@flowboy I disagree. Women decide if they would even sleep with a guy in just a few seconds before they even get to know the other person. If they find you attractive first then they will bother getting to know you afterwards. With just a glimpse they make that decision and that's why i call it rejection. If she doesn't bother to look at me i take it as a rejection even though it's more complicated than that. Maybe i'm wrong but that's my understanding so far..

@Shadowraix This happens when i am outside, walking the streets & come across different women. I don't get annoyed every time. Sometimes i shake it off but other times i get a feeling of deep hurt inside & a lil bit of anger. Then my mind ruminates & obsesses about the incident that caused me the feeling of hurt.

@flowboy I can understand when a girl is interested or not. Some girls don't even bother to look at me & have an arrogant look at their face. This annoys me a LOT. It's not that i don't get attention from girls But for some reason i obsess over those who don't acknowledge my existence. I remember walking to a coffee shop & asked a girl who worked there where is the WC. She replied without even bothering turning her head to look at me. I wanted to kill her. I just don't wanna care anymore... It damages me & nobody else.

After watching Leo's last video i have some questions. What does working on your sexuality is supposed to mean & why should i even bother working on it? What if i decide to remain celibate for the rest of my life? Do monks who have renounced sex & intimate relationships work on their sexuality? I don't think so. Also personally i am not a big fan of intimate relationships because they are more like business transactions. That's why i am pursuing celibacy & nofap. If one, longing for sensual pleasure, achieves it, yes, he's enraptured at heart. The mortal gets what he wants. But if for that person — longing, desiring — the pleasures diminish, he's shattered, as if shot with an arrow. — Kama Sutta, Sutta Nipata The Buddha then goes on to say: So one, always mindful, should avoid sensual desires. Letting them go, he will cross over the flood like one who, having bailed out the boat, has reached the far shore.

@Shin LOL

@Nahm Yes exactly! I ask this question because Leo said in his last video about the importance of having the basic survival game dialed in & he also mentioned "working on your sexuality". I don't know what needs to be worked though.

@Nahm Is it necessary to work on your sexuality if you don't care about having sex?

@Shin Nope. I don't even know what working on your sexuality is supposed to mean. That's why i posted this thread. I wanna know so i can make changes if necessary.

@Rilles Yes. I am talking generally about monks who abstain from sex for life.

@Jkris Maybe you are right man. I still think though that these monks have sexual urges/desires but they somehow transcend them. It is an ongoing battle.

@Jkris I disagree. I think no matter how enlightned these monks get , they still have a penis & desire for sex.

@Gabriel Antonio Fair enough .

@Gabriel Antonio This is a terrible advice. So you are telling him to stop meditating & choose to take drugs. Well if he needs to take medications for the rest of his life from the pharmaceutical cartel then Yes but that should be his last option. I agree that he should see a psychologist though. That MIGHT help him!

I am quite an obsessional guy who tends to ruminate over things that most people don't even think twice. I consider myself to be of average intelligence. Nothing extraordinary but i am quite capable of learning new things, acquiring skills & etc. I remember 1 year ago watching a video from Jordan Peterson talking about IQ. He gave me the impression that if you don't have a high enough IQ then you are fucked in life and can't do certain jobs etc. I still regret watching that video because after that i find myself constantly doubting myself.I have not taken an official IQ test, nor will i do because i don't believe it measures intelligence as a whole. Also i am afraid of the result. If it is low then i will probably use that as an excuse to destroy my life. After watching that IQ video my obsession got worse & worse. Now when i am working towards my goals/projects i find myself feeling very anxious & uncertain about my IQ. I doubt myself if am capable of achieving my goals and i feel a deep uncertainty because i don't really know how much intelligent i am.It is really a torment distracting me from doing deep work. I dont' know why i am so insecure. I think it stems from my childhood. From Jordan Peterson's perspective it seems like you need to take an IQ test before attempting doing certain carreers. @Leo Gura I would love to hear your opinion aswell. How can i cope with this? I just wanna do what i love doing without these distracting thoughts and unpleasant emotions telling me that i may not be smart enough to achieve my goals.