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I understand self-actualization is a personal journey, but it's easy to become like the people you surround yourself with. I am struggling to negate the habits of my family and people close to me, so I am looking to find a new community. Does anyone have advice on self- actualizing in a more social way? Spirituality can be accelerated if the right support is there.

@Robert Leavitt Thanks, Robert! That's helpful and seems like the best option- to grow right where I am planted.

How do fear and anger relate? How are they distinct from one another? I know that gratitude overcomes fear and understanding overcomes anger but isn't the reverse true as well? If all fear is gone, then only love is left. If all anger is gone, then only love is left as well?

@Eph75 that is helpful. Thank you! "failing to take action may result in building up anxiety." That makes perfect sense!

@rNOW That makes a lot of sense!! that you so much for this explanation! I suppose sadness would also trace back to fear?

Various religious practices describe children as being more connected with God. Children are more loving than adults for the most part. Does this mean that we were born with nothing but divine love, but then as we grow and mature we take on habits that limit and muddle the waters, making self-love and our connection with God more difficult?

If children are "blind survival machines," then why is it that they seem to have less fear than adults? They seem to care less about survival and focus more on play.

I am currently a college student, and I often question the purpose of my education. I enjoy the socialization aspect, but I can't help but feel that the classes are worthless.

@Curious These are all great questions that I ask as well. The answer will never be given to us straightforwardly. We must tiptoe on the balance beam of life and meet in the middle of these paradoxes. How to balance "following the flow" VS "planning every hour of your day" in living life ? I.e should you force yourself to meditate every day at 9 PM or should you follow your intuition at the time and maybe meditate 1hour one day and nothing the other (if that's how you feel like) ? How to distinguish "truthful intuition" VS "rationalizations/self-deceptive narratives" ? I.e feeling like not meditating today, is it truthful or a rationalization to be lazy / protect your current self-image to be changed by the meditation ? How to balance "outward information" VS "inside personal insight" in understanding life and making decisions ? I.e being to much relying on Leo, people on the forum, books, youtube videos to get the big life transforming insights VS having the insights yourself.

I just watched Leo's episode on fear. I read an essay on suicide recently called "Heaven and Nature." The author said, "I felt utterly exhausted and yet quite fearless of ordinary dangers, vastly afraid of myself, but much less scared of extraneous eventualities." If all fear boils down to is fear of a total loss of self, as Leo says, then how could someone be so afraid of their own mind?

The more time that I spend meditating, the more annoyed I get!! I no longer enjoy eating with others. I want to sit alone in silence when I eat. Loud noises bother me. I feel like everyone talks too much. All I feel like doing is laying around and looking at the sky and doing yoga and walking. I used to be an avid runner and exercise addict, but recently all I feel like doing is walking and lounging around. I listened to Leo's "the dark side of meditation." So I guess this explains it... so why am I even talking asking about it? Well, maybe I am seeking support, guidance, reassurance? My family thinks I'm weird. Please comment with any advice to help me adjust

@brugluiz great quote!!

@SoonHei Thanks for the quote and I followed your Instagram! @pluto That website has been very helpful! @cetus56 That's a good point and great quote! @SunnyNewDay Good to know I'm not alone I am doing MUCH better and I appreciate you all for responding ❤️

Just listened to Spiral dynamics stage green. Leo said that most tribal communities are in stage purple. What about Amazon tribes that consume ayahuasca on a weekly basis, and African tribes using Iboga frequently?

Oh, and when people talk to me I don't even want to listen. I want to get up and walk away, and sometimes I do. Now I am considered "rude." I am trying to not let it affect me and just go with the flow of my mind, but it is hard.

Most people in the community drink a couple times a week. Unless you are a women on your cycle, then you’re not even allowed to be around the medicine.

I think Leo is suggesting that all primitive tribes are low in cognitive development and stage purple. Which means there wouldn’t be some tribes that just happen to be higher on the spiral. Because if they were higher, they wouldn’t be stuck in only their rituals and traditions. This is just me hypothesizing. What are your thoughts? What is an example of a primitive tribe higher than purple? @Leo Gura @hamedsf

You doubt or you know?

Maybe join meetup? There are groups you can meditate with. Yoga classes are great too to meet people. Virtual friends are no fun. Okay maybe a little bit fun But warm hugs always feel good, and you can’t get that online.

That's a valid point. Would you say that the only way for a society of 500 million people to live in total harmony is if everyone is stage yellow and beyond?

What do you think is the likelihood for some tribes to be more advanced than purple?

@Yog Thanks for sending the video. And @Leo Gura Thanks for the response. I'm not sure what this all means, In order to understand this better, I think I would have to live with a variety of tribes. But then again, it would just leave me with more questions. I spent time with members of a Columbian tribe, and my brother stayed with an African tribe for 2 weeks. Both were kind, accepting, and welcoming. Even if we had not been respectful of their culture and traditions, I can't imagine they would have caused us any harm. They value human life the same way they value the earth. I can understand the part about them being more animalistic, but the particular tribes I am thinking of would not "boil your skull." The video that @Yog sent said that they have not fully developed an ego, so they have not had to go through a transcending process. This part makes sense to me because they have a deep understanding of the spiritual world and they don't seem to act with a sense of ego. It is possible that their ego is active for self- preservation, but not dominance. Although, they did indulge in alcohol and could be overly sexual, so that leaves me uncertain. If these tribes are able to live in harmony with one another, wouldn't that mean their political, interpersonal and cognitive lines are developed as well as their spiritual? LOL. Why is this so fun to think about?

I would love to meet Leo and other Actualized.org followers. I would definitely come to at least one of the meetups. @Leo Gura I hope you do the tour soon!

My top 3, in that order! You are the Placebo by Dr. Joe Dispenza the untethered soul by Michael singer the sovereignty of love coming home with ho'oponopono

Boulder and Denver are full of Green. Although it is expensive to live in, I appreciate the surplus of healthy food, outdoor activities, and conscious people.