Ayla

Allright, no problem.

@Ida Would you please use the button "quote" to cite whom you're responding to ? It will be more clear for the broader subject. Thank you

It is ultimately ALL part of consciousness, just another facet of it. But seriously, YOU sit with it in silence. See for yourself where are they coming from.. as it need to be your own experience and not someone else's words

I just saw that Leo launched his new video, and I thought that it would be nice to have a permanent HOT COMMENTS topic on this forum ! YAY !

Please sit and truly inquire into this. DO YOU create your own thoughts? ************************** In my observation, thoughts come from emptiness and sink back into emptiness (if not engaged with)

I think that the underlying issue of all this is self esteem. I was "the weirdo" too in my teens... and I wish someone told me this: " you only need ONE date " What I mean is, maybe start by getting off the pressure of being liked by everyone. You only need one girl to like you, right? If it's not the one in front of you, OK - NEXT ! I am absolutely positive that if you embrace all of what you currently see as problematic, the Universe will send your way a girl that is fascinated by exactly that quirkiness

In my own experience, true inner awareness doesn't think forward in time, so for me personally, that is a first clue that my ego is playing games unattended On the contrary, if you're in the midst of such situation, if it feels right for you no matter how you (ego) try to turn it, just because it is happening, it is the right thing I'd also like to add that I see your attitude as a real openness from the illusion of " this should be like that" which is always a step forward!! As always, this is just how I see things...........

Yes, I know. What helped me at one point, was intense and merciless questioning when in one of this frames of mind: "I always did [fill in the blank]" "I strongly believe [fill in the blank]" Every time that comes up (now less and less), I KNOW for sure I'm delusional This has so many ramifications tho... people take for granted so many things: especially from leaders or people they trust/admire, deep inner contradictions... which are so easy to point out from outside, but they refuse these pointings because they are more comfortable being right, attached to what they always did (and never worked for them LOL). Anyway, I just thought this would be yet another cool subject for a video which Leo can help people with..

Sarah, I am in no way wiser than you ! What I realized after similar experiences, was that it wasn't ME who stopped, but those things just left me. Slipped off. You could call this a shift/upgrade of vibration where you're no longer a match to that particular experience that was there to point something to you. You have identified the teaching somehow (subconsciously or not), so the "teacher" left This is also how instant healing happens btw.. AND, this is the reason why so many people struggle forever to drop some addiction and they're unsuccessful. The underlying lesson is still present, and will still be manifested in their experience (under same addiction or a different one) That's how I see it anyway .. <3

Actually, I think it is impossible to control it. That would be like trying to maintain alive a flower in a vase. BUT, once you've had the actual experience of your consciousness, it is and always remains the soil, the foundation of your own experience. All push and pull will only be "events", "happenings" on that ground. The urge to identify with them will disappear. It won't feel like "work" or like "striving" any longer. You will only live in the realization of who you REALLY are

In my own case, I was not sexually active with both partners, as one of them was/is "asexual" (hence the reason I allowed myself to be swayed into another relationship). But that's just my own particular case. I see the validity in other scenarios as well. Actually, I can see validity in all scenarios, but that's for another topic I suppose

I cannot answer this unfortunately I would have to "ask" in that moment - meaning, to check in with myself and to wait for Grace to guide me. .... I seriously do not know what to answer you

That IS me too... I just do not exclude either any longer Another layer of "stuckness" has been stripped off me I suppose.

I actually USED TO plan, have routines, etc. Not any longer. I do have the privilege of being my own boss, which helps. That can change, or not... What I've noticed is that when we have no plans, the flow of Grace how i like to call it, comes with something even better, even more inline with my personal evolution. It is not always comfortable for the Ego still lurking, but it brings the light of consciousness upon the exact spot I still need to work on in order to remove the said Ego I also must add that everything that is "good" for me comes in naturally, through the same flow: meditation, eating, sleeping, go into nature, etc... No forcing and no planning is there. It just arrives and I just follow.

@Dhana Choko I completely agree with you. The one difference is that in my particular situation, I did not chose that experience, or searched for it or wanted it or even accept it in the beginning, in fact, at that time, it didn't even have a name or a concept associated with it. It just happened naturally. It profoundly disturbed a stale status quo that my life had become and catapulted me into a whole new life. It was not a flirt, a fling, an adventure or a mental wanting - on the contrary. Looking back at it now, it cracked my Ego sufficiently as to bring me into this new path.

Ehhhh, that was 20 years ago....

Could I risk a feminine perspective on this? Begin a regular meditation practice. If you're not used to it, just start with 5 minutes a day. What's important is the consistency not the time. What you will see, is that in a small timeframe, you will be guided as to what you need to concentrate on first. Something in you will simply know. Another point I wanted to make was that you don't need to see the entire venue. Just the first step. And the next step, is INSIDE! Good luck. We are here for you.

For me, beer and fries worked wonders at some point

@mike_herald please don't beat yourself up !!!! Let US do that

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I did have that type of conversation with my parents last summer. They both threatened to kill me lol What helped me was the understanding that indeed, I have access to forgiveness if I direct it towards myself. What I noticed in the end is that it's basically a question of motivation: do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy? paradigm comes to mind. What also helps is focusing on the end result. All of it brought me here.. so it has its value. Still remains a tricky subject...

I also think that this is why most enlightened people on the planet right now have become THAT after intense suffering and pain. They have been stripped off all illusion and reached a point where they had nothing left to lose. Right there, in that present moment, they realized their own freedom. They realized that they cannot die because everything they saw as death before, didn't manage to kill them. Now this realization can come with deep searching also, from an inner calling that every human being has. It's just that some have it deeper at one point in their life, others are not yet ready. In my own case, within one year, I have been systematically stripped off every little thing that used to bring me comfort and/or distract me. I can tell you that it didn't feel good.... first lost my partner. then my job. then all my friends. then all my savings. then my parents.... at one point, I came to think that someone or something wanted me dead lol - pain was simply excruciating ! I actually ended up on my 5th floor window ready to jump. That was exactly the first glimpse into enlightenment: I saw my body crushed, the ambulances, the funeral, the pain... and then the peace. THE realization was that - that peace was already there without me jumping I had access to it right that moment. Do I regret any of it? NO! It brought me into a space that is forever joy and trust. There are no more problems, there is no more striving, no more fear.. no more doing, no more stories, no more drama... I can see them as happenings but they have no impact on me. Maybe a heavy rain is not what you'd prefer, but .. you watch it pass, and you adjust to it and you continue your life Nobody needs to arrive at chaos. It can be had with introspection, as Leo says, with profound self honesty, and a thirst for TRUTH that nothing can keep you away from

Actually the realization is that YOU ARE the existence as it is. There's no you AND the existence. You simply are it. All of it. Brain will associate the "movie" image with something that is quite shallow and passive whereas enlightenment is quite the opposite: it feels alive, dynamic and yes, perfect no matter what. When talking about "no self" people do not mean that you become a veggie. You just are. no preferred perspective, no individual "solid" point of view...and that is the beauty of it. The fluidity and acceptance.

Love this post. What I can tell you is that you do not become a monk. You do not sit crossed legged like a yogi all day meditating. You do not lose the you that you are right now. It is just being reprogrammed by TRUTH ! What that means is that you feel a deeper, broader, more spacious, calm, benevolent, still force that is flowing through you. You lose the grip you have on whatever your desire happens to flow in the present moment. Everything you continue to wish for, you will go for it in a detached manner, as you have the CERTAINTY that if it does not happen, something else, equally magnificent will come to inspire you. Imagine you are walking on a beach. You wouldn't care that your footprints don't remain in the sand, would you? It's exactly like that. You only live the joy of being alive, admiring every single spec of it... It is true however that you lose people, jobs, circumstances that once made you happy, simply because they do not fit into your new you any longer. They will simply fall off, with no resistance (pain, frustration) on your part whatsoever! The main words I would use to describe this new state are: Trust! Awe! Peace! Admiration! Wonder! Acceptance! LOVE <3